PRE-ORDER FATHER YOURSELF FIRST TODAY

Is wanting vulnerability the same as being ready to hold it? A newlywed (90-something days in!) loves her husband but admits his past trauma makes openness slow. Then the Holy Spirit hits her with two checks: “Can you handle what he gives you?” and “Steward well what he gives you.” We unpack what “safe space” really costs: capacity, patience, and practice. 💛

We talk:

🧩 Capacity ≠ desire: Wanting all the feelings isn’t the same as being able to carry them—growth over pass/fail.

📦 Steward what you have: Treat disclosures like a fragile package—follow “handling instructions,” even if unspoken.

🤫 Sometimes love is quiet: Hold space, resist fixing, let him finish, respond later with care.

🧑🏾‍🤝‍🧑🏾 He needs his people: Spouse ≠ only container—think therapist, mentors, men’s community, real accountability.

🛡️ Protect each other & the mission: Boundaries are holy; honesty and safety can coexist.

How did you build capacity to be a safer place for your partner’s truth? Drop a tip for the wedding party. Episode 260 is live—tap in!