What happens when the "perfect boyfriend" suddenly explodes? 😳

A listener writes in about her kind, generous dream man—until he shouted, cursed, and loomed over her at 3 AM after she said she felt left out of his hobby-club mixer. Childhood memories of an angry step-dad came rushing back, and now she wonders: if rage shows up once, will it move in after I do? Glen and Yvette weigh safety, trauma, and how much grace is too much.

We talk:

🚩 He played himself—no one should talk to a partner like that, Glen says, urging her to trust the fear signal.

🛑 Glen’s first instinct: leave if he scares you—therapy can’t fix disrespect you tolerate.

🔄 Yvette on trauma stacking and how tiny slights pile up until the midnight blow-up feels massive.

🎯 Glen explains that if he invites you, he needs you in the hobby—not policing him.

🧭 The hosts’ blueprint for clear expectations, compartmentalized friendships, and mentors before marriage.

Have you ever loved someone who seemed perfect—until the anger flared? 💥 What told you it was time to walk away or stay?

Episode 254 is live—tap in and share your story with #HowMarriedAreYou #HMAY254!