I'm Not In An Abusive Relationship

Krista DeBoer, Sexual Assault Therapist at DASAS, and Dani Filipek, Sexual Assault Advocate at DASAS join Dan Moyle to revisit sexual assault in sports. On this follow up to our previous episode "Sexual Abuse in Sports," Dani and Krista talk through red flags parents should look for, like the culture of the team which the coaches and other adults set, plus the players and their actions/attitudes, and other warning signs.

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In this episode, former guest Michele (a survivor and the inspiration behind the podcast) shares a project she did in college where four women share their survivor experiences in a narrative story.

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An adverse childhood experience (ACE) describes a traumatic experience in a person’s life occurring before the age of 18 that the person remembers as an adult.

Jennifer Nottingham and Richard Murdock published an article for the Michigan ACE Initiative exploring the effects of the pandemic on children. On this episode she joins Dan to talk about ACEs, children facing the pandemic and the resilience of those kids.

Read the article here

The CDC-Kaiser ACE Study

Stay Well Michigan

MPHI

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In this episode Dan Moyle talks with Deborah Hackworth (Interim Executive Director), McKenna Bowdish (Walk committee Chair) and Ned Haylett (past President and Walk supporter) about the changes coming to this year's Walk a Mile event for DASAS.

Domestic And Sexual Abuse Services will host a 3-week virtual fundraiser in place of its regularly-scheduled in-person “Walk a Mile” event for 2020. Due to the coronavirus and Covid-19 pandemic, DASAS has turned the Three Rivers event into a virtual challenge where participants take part wherever they are.

“While our excitement for our upcoming event is high, we know we have a commitment to our community's health and safety,” Interim Executive Director Deborah Hackworth says. “In an effort to avoid bringing large groups together, we have decided to create this virtual challenge. The goal is to reach a total of 700+ miles together, walking or running, to represent the 700+ survivors who received help from our DASAS Programs in 2019. We know that as supporters walk with our clients on their hearts and minds, the money will come. We have such a generous network.”

Also new this year is the name of the event. For several years DASAS hosted the “Walk a Mile in Her Shoes” event. While the walk has always been successful, DASAS leadership recognized that the event has not been truly inclusive of all individuals, nor called attention to all victims. For example, one out of every seven men is physically abused in intimate partner relationships, and one in six individuals is sexually assaulted as a child. Yet, in the past, our Walk a Mile event has focused solely on women as victims. 

In addition, DASAS was concerned that men wearing heels in such a playful manner may be insensitive to individuals with nontraditional gender identity or sexual orientation. In order to host an event that is inclusive of all gender identities and sexual orientations, DASAS made a few changes to the event for 2020.​

This event is open to everyone— people of all genders and ages— making this a fully inclusive and family event. Rather than meeting in person, DASAS asks you to wear shoes symbolizing a person whom you know who was or is being abused or assaulted, or the shoes of a group of victims about which you particularly want to raise awareness. In this way, we can also honor male victims and child victims (perhaps by tying children’s shoes around your neck for the walk).

Here’s how you can take part. We encourage individuals to challenge their friends and family to take the Walk-A-Mile Challenge. This can be completed at any time between August 1 thru Saturday, August 22 at 11:59 p.m. Participants can complete their walk/run at any time between August 1 and Saturday, August 22 at 11:59 p.m., all you have to do is:

● Register online https://dasasmi.networkforgood.com/events/22075-700-walk-a-mile-challenge

● Take a photo or video of yourself walking or running a mile (or more!)

● Post the photo or video on Facebook- use hashtag #DASASWalkaMile, tag DASAS, or email [email protected] so DASAS can feature you! Include how many miles you walked/run to help DASAS meet their goal of 700+ miles

● If you pledge to walk 3 miles or more, DASAS will mail you a Walk a Mile in Their Shoes t-shirt!

Proceeds will support the Survivors and DASAS Programs. 

Businesses can contact McKenna at 269-273-6977 for sponsorship information.

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Since our launch, WBET in Sturgis, Michigan has been home to our recordings. They have generously donated the studio time, the equipment and the expertise when needed to record I'm Not In An Abusive Relationship for you, our listener.

On this special episode, WBET personality Mike Stiles interviews our producers Deborah Hackworth and Dan Moyle about the progress, where it all started and what's next.

Thank you to Mike for inviting us onto the morning show and for allowing us to use the conversation in our episodes.

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If you need resources or help in any way, call our 24 hour hotline at 800-828-2023 or visit www.DASASMI.org.

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Madison Carter turned her survivor story of emotional, psychological and physical abuse into a novel full of insight and hope. On this episode, Madison joins Dan to talk about the book and her journey from victim to survivor.

"All Grace ever wanted was the normal things in life: a happy marriage, a big house, and a loving family. She never imagined her life would turn out so differently.

The submissive Christian life she was asked to live left her totally dominated, oppressed, and depressed by her aggressive, controlling, and manipulative husband. She and her children were systematically crushed, and their will to thrive was snuffed out at every turn. She had no idea how to handle the insults and abuse from her husband or the isolation from her family. She never thought she’d lose her faith in God or plunge into such depths of despair.

This powerful, heart-wrenching, true story of living every day with an abuser will educate readers on the serious nature of abuse, and it will show how Grace received healing and restoration after going through years of emotional abuse. It was only through God that she was able to find the strength to stand up for herself. Don’t miss out on this gripping narrative which is for anyone who has experienced emotional pain and is familiar with feelings of sadness, and who wants to find peace, joy and freedom."

Buy Stop Making Me Cry here

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Victims in an abusive relationship oftentimes feel hopeless.

They're hopeless that they can get out of the relationship. They're hopeless that they'll ever find love again.

"Can I find love after domestic violence?"

But hope is not lost. Elizabeth Aldreson, therapist at DASAS, explores the hope that comes with healthy relationships after domestic violence.

If you need resources or help in any way, call our 24 hour hotline at 800-828-2023 or visit www.DASASMI.org.

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The inspiration for I'm Not In An Abusive Relationship was incoming board member Dan Moyle's experience at the Walk a Mile event in Three Rivers. He heard a survivor tell her story, which brought unexpected emotions and inspiration. It also brought the phrase "But I told myself 'I'm not in an abusive relationship'" to Dan.

The phrase clearly became out show title. Her inspiration and vulnerability inspired the idea of sharing other survivor stories. And her need to understand abuse when she didn't recognize it inspired our mission to bring experts to listeners around the world.

You will hear that survivor story today from Michele herself.

If you need resources or help in any way, call our 24 hour hotline at 800-828-2023 or visit www.DASASMI.org.

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Marginalized is defined as "a person, group, or concept treated as insignificant or peripheral." This means anyone who is defined outside of the "social norms." Oftentimes marginalized people face greater challenges in everything from income and jobs to health to incidents of abuse.

The groups include the LGBTQ+ community, Black community, LatinX, communities where English is not their primary language and others.

In today's episode, Deborah Hackworth (interim Executive Director) and Elizabeth Alderson (DASAS therapist) tackle the issues facing these groups, and how DASAS works to serve its marginalized communities.

If you need resources or help in any way, call our 24 hour hotline at 800-828-2023 or visit www.DASASMI.org.

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Dr. Sheena Howard recently published a novel, Nina’s Whisper, that untangles the psychology of abuse. However, the book is rare and unique because it tackles same-sex domestic abuse. Even though female-to-female abuse is largely ignored, the Human Rights Campaign estimates that 44% of lesbians experience domestic abuse. In addition, the CDC estimates that domestic abuse in LGBTQ relationships have higher rates than that of heterosexuals couples. Through her platform, Dr. Howard aims to challenge our notion of who can be a victim and challenge the script that abuse is only male to female.

Sheena shared her own personal story as well as the significance of her book, Nina’s Whisper with Dan on this episode. Her hope: To not only bring awareness to listeners but also inspire you to triumph over the trauma of abuse.

Dr. Howard has been featured on/in major media outlets such as BBC World, ABC, PBS, NPR, NBC, L.A. Times, The Washington Post, The Breakfast Club and more.

If you need resources or help in any way, call our 24 hour hotline at 800-828-2023 or visit www.DASASMI.org.

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