A 27-year-old listener in a three-year poly relationship wants simple guardrails—tell me when you’re out with someone else, if you’re spending the night, and shut it down if they try to edge me out. He resists, agrees begrudgingly, then doesn’t follow through. She’s financially stuck, sharing a cramped place he pays for, and wonders when it’s time to plan her exit. 🛡️💔

We talk:

• “You wrote us knowing where we stand. Our counsel is to get out.”
• “He wants more. You want depth. What you desire and what you accept are two different things. One has to change.”
• “You’re asking for safety, transparency, communication, covering, stability. Those are far easier to build with one person.”
• “If you truly want that lifestyle, seek voices who live it. We don’t. Our vision is covenant and wholeness.”
• “The goal in marriage is loving each other into fullness. Fragments won’t make anyone whole.”

Have you ever stayed where your needs weren’t respected because leaving felt impossible? What boundary finally moved you toward safety?

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