Quoting from my book: Recovering and Healing After the Narcissist:

"We re born in complete dependence and vulnerability. Within us are the developmental seeds for individuation--a word that describes the growing edge of a strong solid person who will flourish, expand and deepen as he responds to the imprint that is solely his."

"Separate and individuate from your narcissistic partner or spouse and narcissistic family." 

Practice self care: beautiful music that puts you in the parasympathetic mode. Diaphragmatic breathing activates the parasympathetic, the calming, restorative, transformative part of the body/mind systems.