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Has your heart ever started pounding out of nowhere, at a stoplight, folding laundry, or lying awake at 3 a.m., while nothing around you is actually wrong? Have you ever wondered whether you're somehow broken for feeling this way?

In this deeply personal episode of Infinite Life, Infinite Wisdom, Susan Grau puts words to the experience so many carry silently: anxiety, anxiety attacks, and panic attacks. She gently breaks down the difference between them, explains what's actually happening in your body, including the often-ignored freeze and fawn responses, and reframes panic not as your body betraying you, but as an ancient protector loving you fiercely with outdated information.

She explores where anxiety really comes from: a nervous system that carried too much for too long, unfelt grief, and the quiet cumulative weight of living past your limit. Susan explains why fighting fear only feeds it, and why turning toward it with compassion is the way through.

She also shares practical tools for the moment, like longer exhales, grounding through the senses, cold water, and self-compassionate self-talk, plus everyday adjustments around caffeine, sleep, and connection. She also takes a close look at alcohol, which can feel calming in the moment but creates a rebound wave of anxiety hours or even days later.

Healing, she reminds us, is a spiral, not a staircase. You are not broken, and you never were.

Tune in to understand what's really happening in your body, learn how to meet fear with compassion instead of resistance, and discover the small daily shifts that can calm your nervous system over time.

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Susan is an internationally celebrated intuitive life coach, a key opinion leader, author, medium and speaker, who discovered her ability to communicate with the spirit world after a near-death experience at age four. Her new book, "Infinite Life, Infinite Lessons," published by Hay House, explores healing from grief and the afterlife. With media coverage in GOOP, Elle, and The Hollywood Reporter, Susan's expertise extends to podcasts, radio shows, and documentaries. She offers private mediumship readings, life path guidance, reiki sessions, and hypnotherapy, aiding individuals in healing and finding spiritual guidance.

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Acceptance does not mean keeping the door open. You can acknowledge what happened, make peace with the past, and still decide that a person, pattern, or wound no longer gets access to your life.

In Part Two of “The Sacred No,” Susan continues the conversation on boundaries by drawing a critical distinction between acceptance and self-abandonment. Through lessons from her near-death experience, she explains why our limits are not failures of love but part of our design, and why true spiritual acceptance does not require us to absorb harm or repeatedly re-enter situations that have already shown us their cost.

Susan also offers practical ways to recognize when you have reached your limit, including the body’s signals, resentment, and repeating patterns. From the release ritual to simple boundary language, she shows how to protect your capacity without hardening your heart, and why guilt can be a normal part of breaking an old pattern rather than proof that you have done something wrong.

In This Episode:

●  [00:54] Part Two begins: why this episode builds directly on “The Sacred No, Part One”

●  [01:21] When acceptance gets confused with tolerance

●  [02:39] The difference between acceptance and abandonment of self

●  [03:40] The “container” Susan says every soul comes here to protect

●  [05:06] Why your limits are not a flaw in your design

●  [05:34] Acceptance is not the same thing as absorption

●  [06:30] Avoidance versus release: how to tell the difference

●  [08:25] Some things are meant to be released, not welcomed back

●  [09:50] Real acceptance releases the need for the past to be different

●  [11:19] An open heart with a clear, well-kept gate

●  [12:27] “I can honor what was true without reentering what was harmful”

●  [12:47] Applying the same release principle to old versions of yourself

●  [14:00] Why moving forward in grief does not betray the person you lost

●  [15:26] Love and access are not the same thing

●  [16:53] The question: Am I accepting what happened or accepting it happening again?

●  [17:24] The release ritual for closing the door on a harmful pattern

●  [20:06] Knowing your limit: the final teaching that ties everything together

●  [22:23] Your limit is the edge of your capacity, not the edge of your love

●  [24:36] The three signals that show you have reached a limit

●  [24:47] Signal one: your body keeps the first receipt

●  [25:27] Signal two: resentment is a boundary you did not set out loud

●  [26:20] Signal three: repetition as a teacher

●  [29:12] Boundary language to use when you do not know what to say

●  [30:44] “My limit is not the place my love ends. It’s the place my honesty begins.”

●  [31:47] Why boundaries should be practiced on low-stakes situations first

●  [33:29] The relationships that change when you finally install a limit

●  [34:40] Why guilt after setting a boundary is not always evidence you were wrong

Notable Quotes

●  [05:06] “Your limits are not the flaw in your design. They are the design.”

●  [05:34] “Acceptance is not the same thing as absorption.”

●  [08:25] “Some things are not meant to be accepted into your life again. They are meant to be released.”

●  [11:19] “An open heart with a very clear, very well-kept gate.”

●  [12:27] “I can honor what was true without reentering what was harmful.”

●  [16:25] “Love is a feeling and a choice. Access is a decision and it’s yours alone to make.”

●  [22:23] “Your limit is not the edge of your love. Your limit is the edge of your capacity.”

●  [25:27] “Resentment is a boundary you didn’t set out loud.”

●  [30:44] “My limit is not the place my love ends. It’s the place my honesty begins.”

●  [34:00] “Nothing that requires your abandonment to survive was ever meant to last in its current form.”

●  [34:59] “It’s simply the sound of an old pattern losing its grip.”

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Susan is an internationally celebrated intuitive life coach, a key opinion leader, author, medium and speaker, who discovered her ability to communicate with the spirit world after a near-death experience at age four. Trained by Dr. Raymond Moody, James Van Praagh, and Lisa Williams, Susan is a Reiki Master, hypnotherapist, and grief therapist. Her new book, "Infinite Life, Infinite Lessons," published by Hay House, explores healing from grief and the afterlife. With media coverage in GOOP, Elle, and The Hollywood Reporter, Susan's expertise extends to podcasts, radio shows, and documentaries. She offers private mediumship readings, life path guidance, reiki sessions, and hypnotherapy, aiding individuals in healing and finding spiritual guidance.

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There comes a point when saying no is no longer rejection. It is self-respect. It is the moment you stop betraying yourself just to keep someone else comfortable.

In this episode of Infinite Life, Infinite Wisdom, Susan explores what she calls “the sacred no”: the boundary that lets you care about other people without losing yourself in the process. Drawing from her near-death experience, her spiritual work, and lessons tested in her own relationships, she unpacks how old survival stories can quietly become identities, why real power is authorship, and how the beliefs you inherited do not have to keep directing your future.

Susan also reframes self-love as something far more demanding than comfort or self-care. For her, self-love is a contract: the standards you enforce for how others speak to you, how you speak to yourself, how much time you give your own life, and what you are no longer willing to tolerate. Through practical exercises, reflection questions, and the “repair clause,” she offers a way to return to yourself without demanding perfection.

In This Episode:

[00:54] Introducing “The Sacred No” and why no can be a complete sentence

[01:14] When saying no becomes self-respect instead of rejection

[02:10] The heartbeat that has stayed with you through everything

[03:17] What Susan says death taught her about boundaries

[05:59] Three truths about power, self-love, and release

[08:39] The stories we tell ourselves about who we are

[09:31] Why so many people introduce themselves through a wound

[12:04] Real power is authorship

[13:35] The ordinary moment Susan realized she had made herself smaller

[14:31] “This is not who you came here to be”

[15:28] What empowerment actually means

[18:49] Three questions for reclaiming your power

[20:35] Would you still tolerate this if it were your last year?

[21:44] When being needed becomes your identity

[23:14] The “Inherited vs. Chosen” belief exercise

[25:13] Why shrinking yourself often began as a survival strategy

[27:56] Self-love beyond candles, rituals, and self-care

[29:00] Susan’s definition of self-love as a contract

[32:06] What Susan’s near-death experience taught her about self-criticism

[34:43] The clauses of the self-love contract

[37:18] Why boundaries are part of self-love

[37:49] The repair clause: return instead of perfection

[38:45] Loving yourself enough to let something be uncomfortable

[40:31] The mirror-minute practice for speaking to yourself differently

Notable Quotes

[01:14] “There comes a moment when your no is no longer rejection. It’s self-respect.”

[06:04] “Your power was never lost, only loaned out, and loans can be called back.”

[06:14] “Self-love is not a mood, it’s a contract.”

[10:11] “A true sentence is not the same thing as a complete sentence.”

[12:04] “Real power is authorship.”

[15:09] “A story that helps you survive your past is not automatically a story that should get to author your future.”

[24:47] “Anything inherited without your consent can be released without your guilt.”

[28:52] “Self love is the set of standards you enforce for how you allow yourself to be treated by others and by your own inner voice.”

[38:09] “Real love, the kind that lasts, was never about perfect adherence. It’s about how quickly you come back to the terms after you’ve drifted.”

[38:39] “Return is the practice, not perfection.”

[38:45] “I love myself enough to let this be uncomfortable for me.”

Susan Grau

Susan is an internationally celebrated intuitive life coach, a key opinion leader, author, medium and speaker, who discovered her ability to communicate with the spirit world after a near-death experience at age four. Trained by Dr. Raymond Moody, James Van Praagh, and Lisa Williams, Susan is a Reiki Master, hypnotherapist, and grief therapist. Her new book, "Infinite Life, Infinite Lessons," published by Hay House, explores healing from grief and the afterlife. With media coverage in GOOP, Elle, and The Hollywood Reporter, Susan's expertise extends to podcasts, radio shows, and documentaries. She offers private mediumship readings, life path guidance, reiki sessions, and hypnotherapy, aiding individuals in healing and finding spiritual guidance.

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This episode and these show notes discuss su*icide, su*icide loss, trauma, grief, guilt, anger, mental illness, addiction, and family impact. No graphic methods or details are included. If you are in immediate danger or may act on thoughts of su*icide, call emergency services now. In the U.S., call or text 988. Outside the U.S., contact your local emergency or crisis service. Pause, breathe, or listen with someone safe if needed.

Some losses leave an empty chair at the table. Others leave a thousand questions sitting in it. When someone dies by suicide, the grief can be tangled with guilt, anger, and the painful need to understand what happened.

In this episode of Infinite Life, Infinite Wisdom, Susan speaks gently and unflinchingly about surviving suicide loss. Drawing on multiple losses in her own family, including her mother, who lived with Parkinson’s disease and died by suicide, and two brothers who struggled with mental illness and addiction and also died by suicide, Susan speaks from the inside of this grief, not from the outside. She reminds listeners that spiritual understanding does not stop the phone call from dividing life into before and after. Belief in the afterlife does not remove the empty chair. Mediumship does not erase trauma. Knowing the soul continues does not mean the human heart does not break.

This episode is companionship, not education alone, and it is not a substitute for medical or mental healthcare. Susan offers grounding, honesty, and a critical reminder: your pain is real, but pain is not prophecy. If you are struggling, tell another human being. Let someone help carry what has become too heavy to carry alone.

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Susan Grau

Susan Grau is an internationally celebrated intuitive life coach, a key opinion leader, author, medium and speaker, who discovered her ability to communicate with the spirit world after a near-death experience at age four. Trained by Dr. Raymond Moody, James Van Praagh, and Lisa Williams, Susan is a Reiki Master, hypnotherapist, and grief therapist. Her new book, "Infinite Life, Infinite Lessons," published by Hay House, explores healing from grief and the afterlife. With media coverage in GOOP, Elle, and The Hollywood Reporter, Susan's expertise extends to podcasts, radio shows, and documentaries. She offers private mediumship readings, life path guidance, reiki sessions, and hypnotherapy, aiding individuals in healing and finding spiritual guidance.

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This episode and these show notes discuss su*icide, su*icide loss, trauma, grief, guilt, anger, mental illness, addiction, and family impact. No graphic methods or details are included. If you are in immediate danger or may act on thoughts of su*icide, call emergency services now. In the U.S., call or text 988. Outside the U.S., contact your local emergency or crisis service. Pause, breathe, or listen with someone safe if needed.

Some losses leave an empty chair at the table. Others leave a thousand questions sitting in it. When someone dies by suicide, the grief can be tangled with guilt, anger, and the painful need to understand what happened.

In this episode of Infinite Life, Infinite Wisdom, Susan speaks gently and unflinchingly about surviving suicide loss. Drawing on multiple losses in her own family, including her mother, who lived with Parkinson’s disease and died by suicide, and two brothers who struggled with mental illness and addiction and also died by suicide, Susan speaks from the inside of this grief, not from the outside. She reminds listeners that spiritual understanding does not stop the phone call from dividing life into before and after. Belief in the afterlife does not remove the empty chair. Mediumship does not erase trauma. Knowing the soul continues does not mean the human heart does not break.

This episode is companionship, not education alone, and it is not a substitute for medical or mental healthcare. Susan offers grounding, honesty, and a critical reminder: your pain is real, but pain is not prophecy. If you are struggling, tell another human being. Let someone help carry what has become too heavy to carry alone.

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Susan Grau

Susan Grau is an internationally celebrated intuitive life coach, a key opinion leader, author, medium and speaker, who discovered her ability to communicate with the spirit world after a near-death experience at age four. Trained by Dr. Raymond Moody, James Van Praagh, and Lisa Williams, Susan is a Reiki Master, hypnotherapist, and grief therapist. Her new book, "Infinite Life, Infinite Lessons," published by Hay House, explores healing from grief and the afterlife. With media coverage in GOOP, Elle, and The Hollywood Reporter, Susan's expertise extends to podcasts, radio shows, and documentaries. She offers private mediumship readings, life path guidance, reiki sessions, and hypnotherapy, aiding individuals in healing and finding spiritual guidance.

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Have you ever felt an inexplicable presence at dusk? Have you woken at 3:00 AM with a knowing that someone was there? What if those moments weren't random but invitations?

In this episode of Infinite Life, Infinite Wisdom, host Susan Grau explores the sacred concept of "thin places," times and locations where the barrier between our world and the next becomes almost see-through. Drawing from Celtic traditions, Indigenous wisdom, Japanese folklore, and cultures worldwide that independently discovered the same truth, Susan reveals that these moments aren't superstition but careful observation of something real.

Susan guides listeners through the predictable categories where thinness clusters: dawn and dusk (the "gloaming"), the 3:00 AM hour, anniversaries and birthdays, doorways and thresholds, water's edge, cemeteries, old homes, and even that favorite chair that still holds a loved one's shape. She explains that thinness doesn't summon loved ones from far away; they're already close. What changes is our capacity to receive when we step out of "logistics consciousness" into receptivity.

With warmth and vulnerability, Susan shares her own thin places, a childhood beach, her mother's doorway, a sudden rainstorm, and offers a practical toolkit for listeners to recognize and utilize these sacred moments. This episode isn't about chasing signs; it's about noticing what's always been there.

Tune in and discover how to recognize the thin places already woven into your everyday life. Your loved ones are only a heartbeat away.

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Susan Grau is an internationally celebrated intuitive life coach, a key opinion leader, author, medium and speaker, who discovered her ability to communicate with the spirit world after a near-death experience at age four. Trained by Dr. Raymond Moody, James Van Praagh, and Lisa Williams, Susan is a Reiki Master, hypnotherapist, and grief therapist. Her new book, "Infinite Life, Infinite Lessons," published by Hay House, explores healing from grief and the afterlife. With media coverage in GOOP, Elle, and The Hollywood Reporter, Susan's expertise extends to podcasts, radio shows, and documentaries. She offers private mediumship readings, life path guidance, reiki sessions, and hypnotherapy, aiding individuals in healing and finding spiritual guidance.

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What if the fear that follows loss isn’t a sign that something is wrong, but a reflection of how deeply you loved? After someone dies, grief often gets all the attention, while fear quietly takes over. 

In this episode of Infinite Life, Infinite Wisdom, Susan Grau turns her attention to a part of grief almost no one names directly: fear. Drawing on her own near-death experience at age four, the loss of both of her parents, and decades of sitting with grieving clients, Susan makes the case that grief gets all the airtime, but fear is often running the show underneath it.

Susan breaks the episode into three parts: why fear shows up so disproportionately loud after loss, the specific fears that surface around where our loved ones actually are, and real, practical tools for loosening fear's grip. She speaks candidly about the fear of forgetting, the fear that grief will never end, the fear that healing is a betrayal, and the deeper, harder-to-admit fear that the whole framework of an afterlife might be a comforting story we tell ourselves.

Through client stories, including a woman terrified by her own laughter and a man who couldn't stop replaying his father's voicemails, Susan shows how these fears can begin to loosen when they're named, spoken out loud, and met with real tools rather than platitudes.

Whether you're in the rawest part of early grief or years into carrying a loss quietly, this episode offers a grounded reminder: your loved one is not lost, not afraid, and not alone. And with the right tools, you don't have to be ruled by the fear that says otherwise either.

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is an internationally celebrated intuitive life coach, a key opinion leader, author, medium and speaker, who discovered her ability to communicate with the spirit world after a near-death experience at age four. Trained by Dr. Raymond Moody, James Van Praagh, and Lisa Williams, Susan is a Reiki Master, hypnotherapist, and grief therapist. Her new book, "Infinite Life, Infinite Lessons," published by Hay House, explores healing from grief and the afterlife. With media coverage in GOOP, Elle, and The Hollywood Reporter, Susan's expertise extends to podcasts, radio shows, and documentaries. She offers private mediumship readings, life path guidance, reiki sessions, and hypnotherapy, aiding individuals in healing and finding spiritual guidance.

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What stories do you tell yourself? When someone treats you poorly, do you immediately assume it's your fault? When a loved one seems distant, do you spiral into a mental replay of everything you might have said or done wrong? When you walk into a room, do you feel the energy shift and immediately wonder, is it me?

In this episode of Infinite Life, Infinite Wisdom, Susan Grau turns inward, exploring the stories we unconsciously tell ourselves and how those stories quietly shape our relationships, our self-worth, and our peace of mind.

Drawing on her own history growing up in a home affected by addiction, along with her decades of work as a medium, grief counselor, and empath, Susan unpacks why so many of us default to self-blame when something feels off, assuming a person's mood, silence, or behavior must be about us. She shares candid, personal stories of trying to earn love by shape-shifting into who she thought others wanted her to be, and how she eventually learned that authenticity, not self-erasure, was the real path to peace.

The conversation moves through the power of silence as a healing tool, the difference between reacting and responding, and what healthy boundaries actually look like when they're built for yourself rather than aimed at someone else. Susan also speaks to honoring other people's beliefs without needing them to validate your own, a lesson she's learned firsthand while navigating skepticism about her work as a medium.

Whether you're working through a difficult relationship, struggling with self-esteem, or simply tired of the mental spiral of "What did I do wrong?", this episode offers a grounded, compassionate reminder. You can't know what you don't know, and your job isn't to manage anyone else's truth, only your own.

In This Episode:

[00:00] Welcome to Infinite Life, Infinite Wisdom

[00:51] Introducing today's topic: the stories we tell ourselves

[04:16] Shape-shifting for love and the cost of losing yourself

[04:45] Unconditional love and what NDEs reveal about it

[08:23] Speaking your truth instead of shifting it

[08:59] The healing power of silence

[09:49] You can't know the truth unless you ask

[12:04] Beauty, gratitude, and how we show up

[13:33] Boundaries: what they are (and aren't)

[14:48] Boundaries with narcissistic behavior

[17:31] Compartmentalizing truth to avoid taking action

[18:45] Building self-esteem: "I am lovable, capable, worthy, enough"

[19:36] Honoring others' beliefs without needing agreement

[25:16] Closing message: shine your light 

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Susan Grau

Susan is an internationally celebrated intuitive life coach, a key opinion leader, author, medium and speaker, who discovered her ability to communicate with the spirit world after a near-death experience at age four. Trained by Dr. Raymond Moody, James Van Praagh, and Lisa Williams, Susan is a Reiki Master, hypnotherapist, and grief therapist. Her new book, "Infinite Life, Infinite Lessons," published by Hay House, explores healing from grief and the afterlife. With media coverage in GOOP, Elle, and The Hollywood Reporter, Susan's expertise extends to podcasts, radio shows, and documentaries. She offers private mediumship readings, life path guidance, reiki sessions, and hypnotherapy, aiding individuals in healing and finding spiritual guidance.

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Have you ever wondered why some children talk to people no one else can see? Why do young children sometimes describe deceased relatives they've never met or speak about life before they were born? And what if the imaginary friends adults dismiss aren't always imaginary?

In this episode of Infinite Life, Infinite Wisdom, Susan Grau explores one of the most fascinating and emotionally charged topics in spirituality: children's natural connection to the unseen world. Drawing from decades of intuitive work, personal experiences, and conversations with families, Susan shares why children often seem more open to spiritual experiences before the world teaches them to doubt their own perceptions.

Susan discusses the difference between imagination and genuine spiritual sensitivity, sharing remarkable stories of children describing loved ones they never knew, recalling memories before birth, and speaking with wisdom far beyond their years. She explains why fear often comes not from the child, but from the adults around them, and why creating a safe space for curiosity may be one of the greatest gifts parents can offer.

The conversation also explores intuition, consciousness, grief, and the importance of listening without judgment. Susan encourages parents to remain grounded while allowing room for mystery, reminding us that not everything meaningful can be measured or explained by science alone.

Whether you're raising young children, grieving a loved one, remembering experiences from your own childhood, or simply curious about the nature of consciousness, this episode offers a compassionate perspective on one of life's greatest mysteries. It invites us to see children not as people who know less than we do, but perhaps as souls who remember more.

In This Episode:

[00:00:01] Children and the afterlife

[00:02:20] The special sensitivity of children

[00:04:14] Imaginary friends vs. spiritual encounters

[00:05:36] How to know if it's a spirit

[00:08:09] Allowing room for mystery

[00:08:36] Memories before birth

[00:11:20] How adults silence children's intuition

[00:13:21] Grief's role in reawakening spirituality

[00:14:32] How adults should respond

[00:16:01] Protecting a child's innocence

[00:17:22] Remembering your own childhood experiences

[00:18:34] The sacredness of wonder

[00:19:52] The most important lesson: just listen

[00:21:20] A mother's story

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Susan Grau is an internationally celebrated intuitive life coach, a key opinion leader, author, medium and speaker, who discovered her ability to communicate with the spirit world after a near-death experience at age four. Trained by Dr. Raymond Moody, James Van Praagh, and Lisa Williams, Susan is a Reiki Master, hypnotherapist, and grief therapist. Her new book, "Infinite Life, Infinite Lessons," published by Hay House, explores healing from grief and the afterlife. With media coverage in GOOP, Elle, and The Hollywood Reporter, Susan's expertise extends to podcasts, radio shows, and documentaries. She offers private mediumship readings, life path guidance, reiki sessions, and hypnotherapy, aiding individuals in healing and finding spiritual guidance.

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