We all want to be seen and heard accurately for who we really, and it’s heartbreaking when we are not seen or heard by the important people in our life. Learning to stay open to learning and lovingly manage this heartbreak, rather than trying to control the other person, is a major challenge in our relationships, as is even being aware of our intent. We often convince ourselves we are being loving when we are really trying to avoid facing our fears. 

Do you want to be in a relationship but have a fear of commitment? Are you afraid to commit to a relationship for fear of losing yourself or losing your partner? Most of us desire the deeply fulfilling experience of intimacy, yet many people have two fears in the way of intimacy. Are you ready to have the wonderful experience of emotional intimacy in your life? 

Do you believe that someone, other than you, has to give you compassion for you to manage your painful feelings? Do you have false beliefs getting in the way of self-compassion? Do you understand the difference between self-pity and self-compassion? Discover how to be compassionate with yourself, and how this choice moves you into your personal power and emotional freedom.

Do you know a healthy way of behaving when you are stuck and unable to communicate with someone? Is a lack of communication one of the complaints you have in your relationship? Many couples claim that their problems stem from a lack of communication. Discover which forms of communication work and lead to conflict resolution.

Are there odd or different things about you that you judge about yourself and try to hide from others? Discover some of the more common quirks and how to start accepting and embracing them.  

Addictive behavior is often an attempt to avoid the deeply painful feeling of loneliness, heartbreak and helplessness concerning others and outcomes. Unmanaged feelings of loneliness can get you off track and into addictive behavior. You can learn to move beyond addictions and stay open hearted and connected with yourself, others and spirit by being open to learning the vital lessons of loneliness. 

What happens when you try to explain yourself to someone who is attacking and blaming you? Do you believe that explaining and defending will convince the other person to see things your way? Has this ever worked out well? Speaking with child-like sweetness is another common form of subtle control, as is blaming statements and turning things around on the other person. Discover some of your subtle forms of control and how else to communicate. 

Discover the vast difference between personal power and power over others. Discover how you can achieve the personal power to manifest your dreams and the power to stay centered in the face of fear. Do you have the common false belief that if you become personally empowered, you will end up alone? Discover that nothing could be further from the truth!

Full-bodied laughter is a wonderful way to relieve the stress of life, and that often underlies illness. When you do not allow yourself to express yourself with both laughter and tears, physical pain, due to stress and a lack of passion for life, may be the result. Are you able to belly laugh with your whole body?

Really listening to someone and caring about their feelings is a great gift, but it is important to understand when listening is appropriate and when it is not. Discover when it’s kind to yourself to listen to someone and when is it kind to yourself to walk away. And what about when you get trapped with an over-talker or you are the over-talker?