Inner Bonding

When you are acting out in ways that are unloving to you and to others, your wounded self is in charge. Learn how do you stop indulging your wounded self. Do you sometimes wonder if what you are hearing is actually from your guidance? Are you afraid that if you surrender to your spiritual guidance, you will be controlled by your guidance, lose your motivation, be taken advantage of or feel even more alone? Discover what really happens when you surrender!

Are you stuck being a slave of your wounded self, or do you trust your intuition? It is easy to trust and have faith when good things are happening, but it's harder when bad things happen, or things don't go our way. Life is much less stressful when we trust that we are always being guided in our highest good by the intelligence of love. 

Mass murders, violent teens, school violence, drugs, greed - why? You might not think you are selling your soul, but is this true?  The greed and violence of the wounded self needs research and healing, and I'm offering some ideas regarding what needs to happen to heal. 

Do you get impatient? Would you like to become a more patient person? When others are behaving in annoying ways, what do you do? If you get impatient, annoyed, irritated, judgmental, or angry, you are reacting from your wounded self. Discover how to become patient rather than react to others when you feel irritated by their behavior.  

Are your adult children disconnected from you? Are you lovingly managing the grief of their disconnection? Are you taking your children's behavior personally and ending up feeling rejected by them? Many parents want to think that they have more control over their children than they do. Rather than feeling a victim of your children’s disconnection from you, discover how to begin finding the heart connections you may want in your life. 

What are your beliefs about what another's love will give to you? Most of us grew up believing that another person should be our dependable source of love, yet this is the very thing that destroys many relationships. Are you using a partner or other people as your dependable source of love? We all need love. Discover the true dependable source of love and learn how to share love rather than always trying to get love from others.

Are you using your spirituality as a "spiritual bypass" to avoid feeling your feelings and taking responsibility for them? Are you being loving to yourself and others, and walking your talk, when you tell your truth or withhold your truth? Would you rather know the truth with a partner, family, and friends, even if it's very painful, rather than continue to avoid knowing what you know?

If you spend all of your time just getting things done and do not allow time for your everyday creativity, you will not feel alive and content within. The old saying, "All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy" applies to all of us. We feel dull inside when we don't allow time for play, for creativity, for kindness to ourselves and others. Creativity is a wonderful form of play.

Are you tired of being overweight and/or food addicted? Do you find yourself unable to stop using food to fill your emptiness or assuage your anxiety and loneliness? Are you addicted to self-medicating with food? Have you tried unsuccessfully to heal a sugar addiction? Food addiction is challenging because you can't just abstain for long. Discover underlying causes of food addiction and how to begin healing.

Are you an emotional victim, pushing others away with your complaints? Are you stuck feeling like a victim of your past, your circumstances, or of other people? Are you in a relationship playing out the dance of victim, perpetrator, and sometimes rescuer? Do you know how to love yourself in the face of someone complaining to you and being a victim?