Inner Propaganda with Owen Fitzpatrick

In this episode, I explore the habit we have of using hyperbole and exaggerated language to communicate with others and what this means, how to handle it and why it matters.

WHY WE SPEAK OVER THE TOPNegative Bias (negativity holds our attention) Salience Effect (emotions hold our attention) Drama Bias (dramatic holds our attention)

We need to because:Social Media Competition The Language of the Media Social and Habitual Language

How we speak over the top:Exaggeration and Hyperbole Generalizations Labeling Polarizing Language (outsider vs insider language) Loaded or Emotional Language

HOW TO COMMUNICATE EFFECTIVELY WITHOUT EXAGGERATED LANGUAGEFind a new, meaningful way to say it Find the right time and context to say it Embrace the power of a scarce and deliberately used word Use the power of contrast to emphasize

HOW TO HANDLE THE EXAGGERATED WORLDSeparate fact from emotion Separate fact from hyperbole Rephrase in a non-exaggerated way Get them to deliberately add in exaggeration

In this session, we explore how you can stop being manipulated by others and think for yourself.

Why we believe people The illusion of certainty The illusion of clarity The illusion of the extremes (polar) The Dunning Kruger effect Uncertainty The rule of the asshole (opinions are like)

How people manipulate us

Gaslighting (making you believe you’re overreacting) Victim taking (making themselves out to be a victim) and Guilt tripping Past blaming (bringing up guilt inducements from the past) Labeling (labeling you in a convenient way) The illusion of balance (I like… but) Finding your vulnerabilities and insecurities Narrative weaving (telling the story to serve their agenda) Bad mouthing (speaking badly of others)

How to deal with this

Checking the source (how credible are they) Checking the agenda (and how their narrative serves it) Checking the tactics (how are they manipulating you) Checking others perspectives Reclaiming power Setting boundaries Holding your own council Making up your own mind

In this episode, I explore the notion of boundaries, when we need them and how to create them in the relationships of your life.

The power dynamic in every relationship We respond to what we become used to When boundaries fail.. villains and victims, resentment and disgust The healthiness of boundaries

What relationships need boundaries What boundaries do they need What would those boundaries look like in action How can you communicate boundaries to the other person Challenging when boundaries are breached

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In this episode, I discuss 18 different ways to show love to yourself. Any of them can help you feel better about you!

Be kind to yourself Have your back Compliment yourself Buy yourself stuff Give yourself a break Critique yourself Work on yourself Discipline yourself Enjoy yourself Take care of yourself  Believe in yourself Forgive yourself  Accept yourself Assert yourself Remember how amazing you are Focus on your strengths Give yourself time  Gratitude

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In this episode, I talk about the most important secret in taking charge of your life. Hint: it begins with P!

Purpose based living

Thinking on purpose

Not automated patterns of thinking or feeling 

Create kind of states you want 

Make better decisions

Thoughts that serve you 

Spending money on purpose

Where money going.. not going anywhere. You are spending. 

What do you want? Is this spending taking you towards this? 

Spending time on purpose 

Where do you spend your time?

What do you want your life to be about?

Is this a good use of your time?

Spending attention on purpose 

What do you spend your time thinking about?

Where does your attention go?

What do you want in your life? 

Where do you need your attention to go instead? 

Purpose based relationships

Does this behavior align with what I want in my relationship or who I want to be in it? 

Purpose based health and fitness 

What kind of health and fitness do you want to enjoy?

What kind of who cares do you want to enjoy?

How often will you have a who cares moment?

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In this episode, I discuss why people believe all kinds of things and how to be better at communicating with people who do so!

Reactance Confirmation bias Ego Emotions first justification next Filters Source and in-group bias Consistency and cognitive dissonance

The world doesn’t always make sense The lure of the conspiracy (you know the secret, life is unfair) How language shapes our beliefs (the mass media, conspiracy theories) The value choice

Understand they aren’t a villain in their heads Understand the common values Think in the nuances Separate the views Respect their choice Master the clear argument articulation Know the challenging questions Avoid scrolling online

In this episode, I explore the idea that bad things often just happen to us and the unfairness of life.. And how to change this perception!!

The law of attention  Negative filter  Victim mentality Confirmation bias

Understand the nature of life (is neither good nor bad) Luck and Freewill

See the character you play Pronoia Control Search for the positive Future Learn from others

THREE TYPES OF WOW MOMENTS:

INCREDIBLE EXPERIENCES

Stunning - Beauty, Awe, Greatness

Surprising - Magic, Storytelling, Shocking facts

Savoring the Moment

Sharing with likeminded people

INSPIRING EXAMPLES

Show Stoppers - Simone biles 

Star gazing Visionaries - musk, besos, jobs female

Struggling Underdogs - Tyson fury, greatest underdogs

Sacrificers - Great War example and sacrifice example 

INGENIOUS INSIGHTS

Scientific Discoveries 

Solutions 

Seeing Clearly: understanding why and how 

Spotting Patterns and coincidences 

HOW TO TRANSCEND EXPECTATIONS

1. Alert by Epinephrine & Cortisol

Focus on Problem and Consequences, Uncertainty, Questions, Normal

Marketing & Framing at the beginning

Focus by Acytecholine with Relevance

Excite them scarcity 

2. Set the Expectations

Motivate with Expectations by Dopamine

Mesolimbic Pathway 

Reference Dependence

We value objects and experiences relative to an existing reference point.

A raise of 10 grand a year is great until you learn everyone else at the company got a raise of 20 grand.

So moments are wow are partly constructed by the relationship between what we expect (our reference point) and what we experience

Expectations vs Experience

Social Proof

The reference point and expectations we have for an experience is influenced by what other people think. It will raise and lower the expectation point.

3. Transcend the Expectations

Mesolimbic Pathway & Mesocortisol Pathway

Medio-orbital frontal cortex and Beauty

Remembering vs Experiencing Self

Remembering Self turns experience into a narrative.

Remembers CHANGE, SIGNIFICANT MOMENTS & ENDING

Stories

The stories we tell ourselves about what is supposed to happen (expectations)

The stories we tell ourselves about what is happening (experiences)

The stories we tell ourselves about what happened (memories) change, significant moments, ending

Contrary to what movies and storybooks tell us, our feelings and emotions do not come from the heart. They actually come from the brain.

In this second part of a special outtake of my Clubhouse session, I dig into the neuroscience of love, relationships, and heartbreak. I explain certain terms like synaptic pruning and neurotransmission. I then talk about how specific neurochemicals and hormones work when you meet someone, get into a relationship, or get out of one. I also weigh in on attraction, lust, and ghosting, offering advice so that you can better deal with strong feelings or emotionally-driven situations.

Hope you enjoy!

Key Takeaways:

• Dopamine is the chemical that makes us want something or someone
• Serotonin stabilizes our mood, feelings of well-being, and happiness
• Oxytocin plays a role in social bonding, reproduction, and the period after childbirth
• Phenethylamine acts as a releasing agent for dopamine and other chemicals
• On pheromones, vasopressin, testosterone and estrogen
• On takotsubo cardiomyopathy or "broken heart” syndrome
• Set some rules or guidelines so that you don’t just go with your feelings
• Loving someone and being in a relationship can lead to amazing experiences but it’s not always easy so be kind to yourself

Quotes:

• “Feelings and emotions are largely the produce or the effect of these chemicals going across the brain.”
• “Oxytocin allows you to empathize more easily with people.”
• “Being attracted to someone and actually acting on that are two different things.”
• “As soon as you get heartbroken, you’re also having your future broken.”
• “When you fall in love with someone, your brain is actually blind to the negatives.”

Resources:

• S03E10: Special Outtake on The Neuroscience of Love Part One
• Dr. Andrew Huberman’s podcast
• Helen Fisher’s books
• How Emotions Are Made by Lisa Feldman Barrett
• Love Sick by Frank Tallis

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In this episode, we explore the neuroscience of motivation and, in particular, the chemical dopamine which makes us feel motivated.

Dopamine is the chemical from which adrenaline or epinephrine is made

Here and Now chemicals: Serotonin, Oxytocin, Endocannabboids, Endorphins pain

Dopamine suppresses adrenaline and H&N and visa versa

VTA- Nucleus Accumbens - Dopamine Desire Circuit

Ventral Tegmental Area - PFC - Dopamine control circuit

PFC control release of it Control vs Desire Circuit Desire vs Desire Circuit Desire vs H&N Circuit

Known as pleasure but more to do with desire and craving

Wanting vs Liking Rat Experiment

Pain and Pleasure side to it Anticipate pleasure but pain of craving it as time goes on

CRAVING: One part dopamine and mirror image of dopamine Downward in pleasure EVERY BIT OF PLEASURE SAME AS PAIN The Law of diminishing returns

Towards and Away from

Evolved to lead to action

Progress Praise Power Novelty Status Sex/Love Challenge - Game Achievement

Intrinsic Motivation vs Extrinsic Motivation

Predictable Reward to start Intermittent Reward to continue Maybe… 50/50 is best