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In this episode  we discuss the differences between communicating from a place of emotional calm versus approaching conversations with heightened emotional charge.

Examples of Emotionally Charged vs. Emotionally Calm Responses:

• Emotionally charged: "You're avoiding me to punish me."
• Emotional calm: "Hey, I'd love to get together, I miss you."
• Emotionally charged: "You must not like me very much."
• Emotional calm: "Hey, I haven't heard from you as much lately, what's been going on?"
• Emotionally charged: "Our friendship doesn't matter anymore."
• Emotional calm: "I noticed we haven't been spending much time together, is everything okay?"
• Emotionally charged: "I guess I can't count on you."
• Emotional calm: "I'm feeling overwhelmed with work, could use some support, are you available?"

Reasons for Emotionally Charged Responses:

1. Past Experiences: Previous negative experiences or traumas shaping interpretations.
2. Insecurity: Low self-esteem leading to negative interpretations.
3. Lack of Communication Skills: Not having the skills to communicate effectively.
4. Projection: Projecting fears or insecurities onto others.
5. Defense Mechanisms: Becoming defensive to protect ego.
6. Emotional Triggers: Strong reactions based on past experiences.
7. Cognitive Bias: Seeking and interpreting information to confirm existing beliefs.

The episode emphasizes the importance of emotional regulation, pointing out that it ultimately boils down to our ability to manage our emotions in order to communicate effectively. Consider instances in your life where emotional regulation might be a challenge, particularly in relationships. By recognizing these patterns, individuals can strive to approach conversations from a place of emotional calm, leading to more constructive dialogue and healthier relationships.

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Today I share the story of two monks. Both had taken a vow to not touch a woman, yet they found a woman in need of help crossing a river. The older and wiser monk carried her across. The younger younger monk became angry and accusatory towards the senior monk. "We took a vow not to touch a woman!" The older monk replied, "I left her by the river. Why are you still choosing to carry her?"

So often we continue to hold onto things, possibly even ruminating on them, thinking this is productive. Today, I encourage you to leave it behind. Let it be. Leave it by the  side of the river.

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Are you telling the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth in your relationship?

Comment like:
 "I don't like your boyfriend"
"You abandoned me at the party"
& "You are so inconsiderate"

Might feel like you're telling the truth, but these statements are actually partial truths.

This week we explore how to be more truthful and authentic in relationship by increasing our own emotional maturity, identifying ALL that is coming up for us, and communicating in a way that owns your experience without defensiveness.

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Do you struggle to say no?  The desire to help comes from a good place. But sometimes, saying yes can lead to resentment or feeling taken for granted.

Learning to identify the difference between urgency & an emergency can help.

Here are three ways to tell the difference:

Urgency: It is time sensitive, but the consequences of not taking immediate action are mild.
Emergency: It is time sensitive and consequences of not taking immediate action are severe.

Urgency: The consequences of it not being addressed include some inconvenience.
Emergency: The consequences of it not being addressed include death or significant injury to self or others.

Urgency: The problem could have been prevented with proper planning.
Emergency: The problem could not have been prevented or planned for.

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Today's episode focuses on a simple yet powerful way to increase your personal vibration and zest for life. It's about identifying one thing to stop doing and one thing to start doing now.

Main Points:

1. Stop Scrolling & Start Connecting:
   • Scrolling can feel productive, but it often keeps us from important tasks.
   • Start filling the real need that scrolling satisfies, like calling friends or working on neglected projects.
2. Stop Eating Junk & Start Fueling Your Body:
   • Recognize how certain foods affect your body.
   • Consider replacing a meal with a nutritious smoothie.
3. Stop Ruminating & Start Focusing on Control:
   • Ruminating often focuses on things beyond our control.
   • Shift focus to things within your control to regain peace.
4. Stop Sitting Around & Start Moving:
   • Healthy movement is crucial, especially with age.
   • Incorporate daily exercise to maintain physical health.
5. Stop Draining Relationships & Start Investing in Fulfilling Relationships:
   • Spend more time with those who uplift and energize.
   • Recognize when a relationship is one-sided and take breaks when needed.
6. Stop Numbing & Start Processing:
   • Numbing behaviors like excessive TV or scrolling can hinder true rest.
   • Find activities that that help you to process rather than numb your emotions.
7. Stop Placating & Start Stating Boundaries:
   • Avoid agreeing to things just to please others.
   • Practice setting boundaries for more sustainable relationships.
8. Stop People Pleasing & Start Saying Yes to Yourself:
   • Saying yes to everything can lead to burnout and resentment.
   • Learn to say no when necessary to maintain balance and peace.
9. Stop Fake Resting & Start True Resting:
   • Identify fake resting behaviors like staying in pajamas while working.
   • Discover what truly rejuvenates you, whether it's a hobby or socializing.
10. Stop Negative Self-Talk & Start Positive Affirmations:
    • Challenge negative self-talk and replace it with positive affirmations.
    • Practice playful self-interactions, like winking or giving yourself a high five.

Choose one of these areas to focus on and see how it impacts your life. Share your progress on social media and consider seeking coaching for deeper transformation. Here's to a week of intentional living and positive changes!

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Often times when we are triggered and find ourselves emotionally reactive, it's because we are making it mean something about us. 

For example, maybe your friend didn't receive your experience or follow your advice, and you're making it mean your experience doesn't hold value. 

Or maybe your partner doesn't want to do the activity you want to do and you're making it mean that they don't care about you or you are no longer compatible. 

Or maybe someone makes an "ugly face" and you assume it was meant for you and the don't like you. 

But may it's not about you. 

Maybe your friend wants to figure things out on her own. 

Maybe your partner likes different things, and that's ok. 

Maybe they weren't making a face at you, but smelled something stinky. 

Maybe it has nothing to do with you. 

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What helps you to feel heard?  What causes you to feel unheard?  And how can you deepen your level of listening to deepen your relationships? 

This is exactly what I'm talking about with my friend and fellow coach, Kelly Legath. Find her on instagram @daydreamercoaching or at www.daydreamercoaching.com

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What could you do in a minute?  And how could a minute change your life? 

Maybe you're taking one minute to make that phone call you've been putting off. 

Maybe you use your minute to do 100 jumping jacks. 

Maybe you use your minute to just... breathe... but find one minute today and see how impactful you can make that minute. 

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Are you tired of constantly saying yes to others while neglecting your own needs? Do you find yourself feeling overwhelmed and burnt out from always putting others first?

In today's fast-paced world, learning to say no is a vital skill for maintaining your well-being and reclaiming your time. In this episode we explore the challenges of saying no and offer practical strategies for setting boundaries with compassion and confidence.

Discover how saying no can empower you to prioritize self-care, establish healthier relationships, and find greater peace and balance in your life. If you're ready to break free from the cycle of overcommitment and embrace the power of no, this episode is for you.

Listen now and unlock the transformative potential of saying no. And if you're interested in diving deeper into this topic, feel free to reach out—I'd be happy to send you more resources or discuss how my coaching services can support you on your journey.

Here's to honoring your authenticity and reclaiming your power!

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It is easy to assume that because someones experience or proximity is similar, that it is the same. Assuming sameness negatively impacts empathy and connection. 

Work to be curiously compassionate towards others. Ask what their experience is... and the believe them!  You may just be surprised at the insights that can be gained when we allow ourselves to be curious about another's perspective or experience. 86