In this episode, Alissa opens up about her personal journey with external validation and how her identity became tethered to achievements, praise, and being the “star employee.” After experiencing burnout, illness, and a toxic work environment, she shares how it all became a spiritual wake-up call to look within.

Whether you’re a high achiever, people pleaser, or someone who finds worth in how others see you, this episode invites you to explore the deeper spiritual roots of validation. Alissa introduces the idea that repeated triggers are not punishments but divine invitations to heal old wounds, shed false identities, and build true self-worth from within.

She also shares a powerful four-step process to begin detaching from the need for external validation and offers a sneak peek into her new course, The External Validation Cleanse, (with an optional business add-on for sensitive entrepreneurs!)

• How external validation becomes a false source of identity and safety
• The emotional and physical toll of chasing approval
• Why achievements and praise can never truly fill the inner void
• The spiritual significance of being triggered
• Releasing the need to be seen as “impressive”
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As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)!

All you have to do is:

• Leave a review of this podcast
• Email a screenshot of your review to [email protected]

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In this episode, Alissa is joined by her client and friend, Elena Willitts, a home organizing coach who helps women, especially Type B and Type C personalities to ditch the shame, create simple systems, and feel confident in their space. They talk about why traditional organizing advice doesn’t work for everyone, how clutter impacts your mental well-being (especially for highly sensitive people), and the deeper self-worth work behind creating a home you love. Elena’s unique approach blends mindset shifts with practical, low-pressure strategies so you can stop feeling overwhelmed and start partnering with your home in a way that feels good.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

• How to separate your self-worth from the state of your home.
• Why decluttering first makes organizing so much easier.
• How “home validation” pep talks can shift your mindset about daily tasks.
• Simple, sustainable systems for people who aren’t naturally Type A.

About Elena:

Elena Willitts is a home organizing coach, mom of three, and founder of Kind Organizing. She specializes in helping women who have struggled with organization, many of whom are Type B or C, live with ADHD, or just don’t resonate with rigid, perfectionistic systems, find practical, shame-free ways to care for their homes. Her signature approach combines decluttering, realistic systems, and mindset shifts so clients can feel lighter, more confident, and more connected to their space.

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Elena's Links:

Everyday Ease, Four Daily Anchors for a Calmer Home: https://kindorganizing.mykajabi.com/store

Audio course, The Home Validation Toolkit: https://kindorganizing.mykajabi.com/home-management-for-type-b-moms-sales-page-1

All freebies, courses and coaching options: https://kindorganizing.mykajabi.com/store

Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/kind-organizing-podcast/id1693004651

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The Sensitive & Soulful Self-Worth Course: Go from second-guessing & self-doubt to YOU’VE got YOU. Your journey to unwavering self-trust & radical self-acceptance starts HERE. Use code PODL at checkout for a secret discount!

As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)!

All you have to do is:

• Leave a review of this podcast
• Email a screenshot of your review to [email protected]

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Do you shrink yourself around confident or intimidating people? Do you feel the need to “chameleon” into who others want you to be...just to feel accepted or safe?

In this episode, Alissa explores one of the biggest challenges for highly sensitive people (HSPs): shrinking to be liked. Inspired by a client conversation, Alissa shares why discomfort isn’t dangerous, why you don’t need to match someone else’s energy to be enough, and how to shift from people-pleasing to power. This is your reminder that your sensitivity is a gift and it’s needed.

What You’ll Learn:

• How to stop shrinking yourself in intimidating environments
• Why trying to be “likable” often means abandoning your authenticity
• How to reframe judgment and handle the discomfort of being perceived
• The danger of defining success by how others react to you

Listen to Sensitive Soul REWIND

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Learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop!

The Sensitive & Soulful Self-Worth Course: Go from second-guessing & self-doubt to YOU’VE got YOU. Your journey to unwavering self-trust & radical self-acceptance starts HERE. Use code PODL at checkout for a secret discount!

As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)!

All you have to do is:

• Leave a review of this podcast
• Email a screenshot of your review to [email protected]

That's it! 😊

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In this episode, Alissa shares a collective energetic shift she’s been sensing...one that’s deeply impacting how many of us relate to social media, content creation, and digital connection. As a highly sensitive person (HSP) and mentor, Alissa explores the rise of AI, the changing feel of Instagram, and the growing desire for more authentic, slower-paced, and meaningful forms of communication. She opens up about her evolving relationship with technology, her new writing space on Substack, and her vision for deeper, more intentional connection beyond social platforms.

Whether you’re an HSP in business or simply navigating your own sensitivity in today’s fast-moving digital world, this episode offers a gentle invitation to pause, reflect, and stay open to what’s next.

In this episode, you'll hear:

• The collective shift around social media and AI (especially ChatGPT)
• How HSPs tend to feel changes before others
• The disconnection and overwhelm of curated, AI-driven content
• Why depth, originality, and slowness are more important than ever

Mentioned in this episode:

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The Sensitive & Soulful Self-Worth Course: Go from second-guessing & self-doubt to YOU’VE got YOU. Your journey to unwavering self-trust & radical self-acceptance starts HERE. Use code PODL at checkout for a secret discount!

As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)!

All you have to do is:

• Leave a review of this podcast
• Email a screenshot of your review to [email protected]

That's it! 😊

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Welcome to the Not Too Sensitive podcast!! Alissa shares why the podcast name change, and how what began as a journal entry turned into a powerful intuitive shift, marking the next era of her work with highly sensitive people. Alissa shares the personal story behind the rebrand, the deeper meaning behind the phrase “not too sensitive,” and how this isn’t just a title change, but the start of a cultural movement rooted in self-worth, confidence, and HSP empowerment.

What You’ll Learn:

• Why Alissa closed the Sensitive & Soulful Vault after 5+ years
• What sparked the podcast name change to Not Too Sensitive
• The deeper meaning behind the phrase Not Too Sensitive, and how it reflects the HSP experience
• How cultural change begins when HSPs stop apologizing and start owning who they are
• Why sensitivity is NOT a weakness and how to reframe it as a strength

As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)! All you have to do is:

Leave a review of this podcast

Email a screenshot of your review to [email protected]

That's it! 😊

Resources for you:

Listen to Sensitive Soul REWIND

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Learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop!

The Sensitive & Soulful Self-Worth Course: Go from second-guessing & self-doubt to YOU’VE got YOU. Your journey to unwavering self-trust & radical self-acceptance starts HERE. Use code PODL at checkout for a secret discount!

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In this episode, Alissa addresses a pattern many highly sensitive people struggle with...feeling like a burden and constantly putting others on a pedestal. She unpacks how these feelings stem from low self-worth and how they shape the way others respond to us. With compassionate but honest insight, Alissa shares how shifting your energy and healing your self-worth can radically transform your relationships, confidence, and opportunities.

What You’ll Learn:

• How low self-worth leads to feeling like a burden or “too much”
• Why highly sensitive people often shrink themselves in relationships and work
• The subtle ways insecurity shows up in your body language and behavior
• How over-apologizing and people-pleasing backfires
• How group coaching environments can help HSPs practice taking up space
• What happens when you stop assuming you’re less than others
• The importance of healing your “sensitive shadow” archetype
• Real-life examples of how self-worth work impacts confidence and magnetism

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Learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop!

The Sensitive & Soulful Self-Worth Course: Go from second-guessing & self-doubt to YOU’VE got YOU. Your journey to unwavering self-trust & radical self-acceptance starts HERE. Use code PODL at checkout for a secret discount!

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In this episode, Alissa shares her current life season as a mom of two, author, and business owner, and how this pressure has illuminated areas for healing and self-evolution. Through powerful reflections and raw honesty, Alissa invites highly sensitive people (HSPs) to view pressure not as punishment, but as a spiritual opportunity to become the next version of themselves.

What You’ll Learn:

• Why seasons of pressure and overwhelm are actually signs of soul-level growth
• How to surrender to discomfort instead of resisting it
• The connection between spiritual refinement and personal expansion
• How old wounds and triggers resurface as invitations to heal

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Learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop!

The Sensitive & Soulful Self-Worth Course: Go from second-guessing & self-doubt to YOU’VE got YOU. Your journey to unwavering self-trust & radical self-acceptance starts HERE. Use code PODL at checkout for a secret discount!

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In this episode, Alissa shares a personal mindset shift that can be a game-changer for highly sensitive people​ focusing on being proud of how you show up, rather than relying on others to validate you. Through real-life stories​ including awkward happy hours to Instagram posts to toddler mealtime critiques​, she explores how to stop chasing external approval and instead ground yourself in self-trust, self-respect, and authentic expression.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• How to recognize when you’re depending on external validation
• The internal shift that leads to more peace and less overthinking
• Practical examples of showing up in ways you’re proud of—at work, socially, and in relationships
• Why being in integrity with yourself matters more than anyone else’s reaction

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The Sensitive & Soulful Self-Worth Course: Go from second-guessing & self-doubt to YOU’VE got YOU. Your journey to unwavering self-trust & radical self-acceptance starts HERE. Use code PODL at checkout for a secret discount!

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In this episode, Alissa unpacks the hidden reasons why highly sensitive people (HSPs) often struggle with self-trust, and how that lack of trust leads to people-pleasing, being overly tolerant, and losing connection with their own worth. Through personal stories and client breakthroughs, she explores how being overly empathetic can actually lead to self-abandonment, why being “too understanding” hurts more than it helps, and how to finally rebuild your self-trust from the inside out. If you’ve ever felt like you “know” something in your gut but still second-guess yourself, this episode will hit home.

You’ll learn:

• Why self-trust is essential for highly sensitive people and how to rebuild it
• How being “too understanding” can lead to self-abandonment and low self-worth
• The difference between empathy and over-tolerating poor behavior
• How to hold your own standards and teach others how to treat you

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Learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop!

The Sensitive & Soulful Self-Worth Course: Go from second-guessing & self-doubt to YOU’VE got YOU. Your journey to unwavering self-trust & radical self-acceptance starts HERE. Use code PODL at checkout for a secret discount!

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In this episode, Alissa explores what it means to rest, surrender, and find steadiness in the silence. Whether it’s waiting on a job, a text, or clarity in a relationship, these “in-between” moments can stir up anxiety and self-doubt...most especially for highly sensitive people. Alissa opens up about hitting a wall, listening to her energy as a Manifestor, and embracing the sacred invitation of stillness. She also offers practical, compassionate tools to shift how you relate to waiting, rest, and the need for external validation.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• How to handle silence without spiraling into shame or overthinking
• The power of choosing rest and honoring your energy cycles
• Why stillness can be an invitation for deep inner healing and growth
• Mindset shifts and practices to anchor into self-trust and peace

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Learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop!

The Sensitive & Soulful Self-Worth Course: Go from second-guessing & self-doubt to YOU’VE got YOU. Your journey to unwavering self-trust & radical self-acceptance starts HERE. Use code PODL at checkout for a secret discount!

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