In this episode, Alissa gets real about one of the biggest struggles Highly Sensitive People face: the constant overthinking, analyzing, and self-editing that comes from worrying what others might be thinking.

She breaks down how this pattern can quietly run your life—influencing your choices, your boundaries, your energy, and even your self-worth— and why learning to unhook from other people’s perceptions is essential for emotional freedom.

Through personal stories and client experiences, Alissa explores why sensitive, empathetic people often end up shapeshifting, people-pleasing, and abandoning themselves in order to feel liked or safe, and what needs to change in order to stop that cycle for good.

In this episode, you’ll hear:

• The difference between healthy empathy and self-erasing empathy
• Why HSPs often feel responsible for how others react
• How obsessing over others’ perception slowly erodes your self-worth
• Why shapeshifting to be liked never creates real connection
• The two core skills that free HSPs from external validation traps
• What it looks like to feel safe being judged, misunderstood, or disliked

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As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)!

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This week’s episode is a gentle reminder for all of us: you’re doing more than you realize, and it’s okay to acknowledge it. 💛

Alissa dives into a practice that she often share with her 1:1 clients and in the Not Too Sensitive Club. The practice is all about zooming out on yourself to witness all that you’re holding and doing. This is especially helpful during busy seasons (hello, holidays!) when it’s easy to get stuck in the “what’s missing” or “I’m not enough” mindset.

In this episode, you’ll hear:

• How to show yourself compassion in the middle of overwhelm.
• A simple visualization practice to observe yourself from the outside.
• Why self-compassion is so much more effective than self-criticism, especially for highly sensitive people.
• How small acts of noticing, validating, and softening toward yourself can shift your energy and make your day feel lighter.

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As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)!

All you have to do is:

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This week’s episode is a little different in the best way!

Alissa is sharing a raw, unfiltered audio drop straight from Lucky Girl Radio, the private chat inside The Not Too Sensitive Club where she opens up about her personal growth, lived experiences, and the inner work she’s navigating in real time.

In this behind-the-scenes glimpse, Alissa explores what it looks like to improve yourself from a place of self-acceptance rather than shame. She shares a recent real-life moment where she noticed a part of herself she wants to strengthen, and how she lovingly coached herself through it without spiraling into “what’s wrong with me?” energy.

What You’ll Learn

• What it looks like to adopt a true growth mindset as a highly sensitive person
• Why self-improvement rooted in shame keeps you stuck
• How to notice growth opportunities without making them mean something negative about you
• A real-life example of Alissa catching an old pattern, and choosing a different response
• The difference between “I have something to work on” and “something is wrong with me”

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Join the Not Too Sensitive Club 🦋 My group coaching container for highly sensitive women where self-doubt becomes certainty, second-guessing turns into self-trust, and overthinking transforms into rock-solid intuition. CLICK HERE to learn more!

As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)!

All you have to do is:

• Leave a written review of this podcast on Apple Podcasts
• Email a screenshot of your review to [email protected]

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In this episode, Alissa offers a refreshing, grounded reframe for navigating holiday gatherings, especially when you’re a highly sensitive person anticipating old triggers, complicated family dynamics, or emotionally draining interactions.

Instead of bracing yourself or rehearsing every response, she invites you to see these moments as a kind of “spiritual assignment” or gentle experiment: an opportunity to practice confidence, curiosity, boundaries, and self-regulation in real time.

This perspective doesn’t dismiss the pain, history, or lived experience behind these moments. Instead, it provides a lighter, more empowered way to move through them so you can show up as the version of yourself you’re becoming.

What You’ll Learn:

• Why holidays and family dynamics often feel overwhelming for highly sensitive people
• How to bring a sense of levity and curiosity into emotionally charged situations
• A powerful reframe for viewing triggering moments as opportunities instead of threats
• Why confidence and self-trust grow through discomfort, not in perfect environments
• Ways to reward and support yourself after challenging interactions

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Learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop!

Join the Not Too Sensitive Club 🦋 My group coaching container for highly sensitive women where self-doubt becomes certainty, second-guessing turns into self-trust, and overthinking transforms into rock-solid intuition. CLICK HERE to learn more!

As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)!

All you have to do is:

• Leave a written review of this podcast on Apple Podcasts
• Email a screenshot of your review to [email protected]

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In this episode, Alissa shares a powerful behind-the-scenes moment from the very first Not Too Sensitive Club call, where the group explored how to use triggers as opportunities for healing instead of evidence that something is “wrong” with you.

Through a real client example, she breaks down exactly how to move from blaming, spiraling, or shutting down to curiosity, self-validation, and empowered action.

This conversation offers a grounded, compassionate reminder that being highly sensitive doesn’t mean you’re fragile. It means you have a deeper invitation to grow, self-advocate, and trust your own worth.

What You’ll Learn:

• How to shift from “Why is this happening to me?” to “What is this showing me?”
• The essential first step in working with any trigger
• The difference between self-validation and relying on others to feel worthy
• Why confidence can feel like “arrogance” for HSPs — and how to reframe it
• A guiding question to help you choose the most empowered response

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Learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop!

Join the Not Too Sensitive Club 🦋 My group coaching container for highly sensitive women where self-doubt becomes certainty, second-guessing turns into self-trust, and overthinking transforms into rock-solid intuition. CLICK HERE to learn more!

As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)!

All you have to do is:

• Leave a written review of this podcast on Apple Podcasts
• Email a screenshot of your review to [email protected]

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In this episode, Alissa shares a deeply personal lesson about learning to stay grounded when others are triggered by your authenticity.

From feeling like an outsider as a sensitive child to navigating judgment as an adult and business owner, she opens up about how these moments have shaped her self-trust and confidence.

This is an invitation to stop watering yourself down, to let others have their reactions, and to find freedom in knowing that being true to yourself is not something you need to apologize for.

What you'll learn:

• Why highly sensitive people often feel “othered” or misunderstood
• How people-pleasing develops as a safety mechanism
• What it really means when others are triggered by your authenticity
• The deeper lesson behind rejection and judgment
• How to reframe triggers as opportunities for empowerment
• Steps to expand your tolerance for discomfort and self-trust

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Learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop!

Join the Not Too Sensitive Club 🦋 My group coaching container for highly sensitive women where self-doubt becomes certainty, second-guessing turns into self-trust, and overthinking transforms into rock-solid intuition. CLICK HERE to learn more!

As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)!

All you have to do is:

• Leave a written review of this podcast on Apple Podcasts
• Email a screenshot of your review to [email protected]

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In this special guest episode, Alissa sits down with therapist and author Jessica Baum to explore how attachment styles develop, how they relate to sensitivity, and what healing secure attachment actually looks like.

Jessica explains why so many highly sensitive people lean anxious in relationships, what it means to internalize safety, and how to start rewiring our attachment patterns through co-regulation and safe connection.

This conversation offers compassionate insight into the “too much / not enough” wound, emotional neglect, and the cultural obsession with independence that often keeps us disconnected from true intimacy and support.

What you'll learn:

• What the four attachment styles are—and how they develop in childhood
• Why highly sensitive people often fall into anxious attachment
• How attachment patterns show up in adult relationships (and how they can shift)
• The role of anchors in healing attachment wounds
• How to find emotional safety when your partner isn’t ready for therapy
• The anxious–avoidant dance and how to break the cycle
• Why emotional neglect is so misunderstood—and how to recognize it
• Reframing sensitivity as a strength and path to deeper connection

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The Sensitive & Soulful Self-Worth Course: Go from second-guessing & self-doubt to YOU’VE got YOU. Your journey to unwavering self-trust & radical self-acceptance starts HERE. Use code PODL at checkout for a secret discount!

As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)!

All you have to do is:

• Leave a written review of this podcast on Apple Podcasts
• Email a screenshot of your review to [email protected]

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Do you find yourself replaying conversations, worrying what someone thinks of you, or holding back your truth because you don’t want to be “too much”?

In this episode, Alissa dives into one of the biggest traps for highly sensitive people: overreliance on other people’s approval and perception. She shares how constantly scanning for others’ validation keeps you disconnected from your own self-trust—and how to shift into deeper self-acceptance and grounded confidence.

What You’ll Learn:

• Why relying on others’ approval keeps you stuck in self-doubt
• How to stop letting people’s opinions define your self-worth
• What it means to “have your own back” when you feel misunderstood or judged
• How to regulate your nervous system through the discomfort of being disliked
• Why true safety as an HSP comes from within—not from being liked by everyone

For presale details about the Not Too Sensitive Club, DM me on Instagram @lifebyalissa⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠!

Uncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOW

Learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop!

The Sensitive & Soulful Self-Worth Course: Go from second-guessing & self-doubt to YOU’VE got YOU. Your journey to unwavering self-trust & radical self-acceptance starts HERE. Use code PODL at checkout for a secret discount!

As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)!

All you have to do is:

• Leave a written review of this podcast on Apple Podcasts
• Email a screenshot of your review to [email protected]

That's it! 😊

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In this episode, Alissa gets real about one of the biggest reasons highly sensitive people stay stuck—overthinking instead of acting.

She shares why consuming self-help content isn’t enough, why confidence doesn’t come from journaling or affirmations alone, and how taking small, messy action steps is what actually rewires your identity and builds self-trust.

Through client stories, personal reflection, and her own journey from blog posts to a Penguin Random House book deal, Alissa shows how you can stop waiting to feel ready and start becoming the version of yourself who already does the thing.

• Why awareness alone won’t create transformation
• The difference between knowing what to do and actually doing it
• Why confidence is built through discomfort, not perfection
• Simple ways to practice self-trust in low-stakes situations
• How small, consistent steps compound into massive growth over time

For presale details about the Not Too Sensitive Club, DM me on Instagram @lifebyalissa⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠!

Uncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOW

Learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop!

The Sensitive & Soulful Self-Worth Course: Go from second-guessing & self-doubt to YOU’VE got YOU. Your journey to unwavering self-trust & radical self-acceptance starts HERE. Use code PODL at checkout for a secret discount!

As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)!

All you have to do is:

• Leave a written review of this podcast on Apple Podcasts
• Email a screenshot of your review to [email protected]

That's it! 😊

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Today Alissa is diving into a pattern she sees often in highly sensitive women—and one she's personally navigated herself—the instant sinking feeling that you’re “in trouble” whenever someone disagrees with you, gets upset, or pushes back.

This episode explores the roots of this response—often tied to the fawn response, good girl conditioning, and past experiences with unpredictability or invalidation—and how it can leave you feeling frustrated, insecure, and walked over.

Whether you’re 20 or 70, it’s never too late to start reclaiming your confidence, self-worth, and ability to show up authentically without letting fear or past patterns dictate your actions.

What You’ll Learn:

• Why you default to blaming yourself or apologizing even when you’re not in the wrong.
• How good girl conditioning and past experiences shape your responses to conflict.
• Ways to begin building self-trust and honoring your own boundaries.
• How to expand your tolerance for discomfort so conflict doesn’t feel unsafe.
• How to hold empathy, kindness, and strong boundaries all at the same time.
• Steps to shift your identity from “people pleaser” to confident, empowered you.

For presale details about the Not Too Sensitive Club, DM me on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lifebyalissa⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠!

Uncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOW

Learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop!

The Sensitive & Soulful Self-Worth Course: Go from second-guessing & self-doubt to YOU’VE got YOU. Your journey to unwavering self-trust & radical self-acceptance starts HERE. Use code PODL at checkout for a secret discount!

As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)!

All you have to do is:

• Leave a written review of this podcast on Apple Podcasts
• Email a screenshot of your review to [email protected]

That's it! 😊

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Follow along on Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lifebyalissa⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠