Not Too Sensitive - Empowering Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) To Own Their Sensitivity

By Alissa BoyerHealth & Fitness Mental Health Education Self-Improvement

Not Too Sensitive - Empowering Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) To Own Their Sensitivity episodes

October 13266. You Are A Match for Your Mountain: Finding the divine lessons in life's greatest challenges w/ Jeminee Ternus, Author
In this episode, Alissa sits down with Jeminee Ternus, author of You Are a Match for Your Mountain and fellow mom to a daughter with type 1 diabetes, to talk about what it means to meet a hard diagnosis with acceptance instead of a fight.
When life hands you a mountain you never asked for, it can feel like betrayal. This conversation offers a gentler way through, one where grief and gratitude get to sit at the same table.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
Why the number on a glucose monitor is information about a body and not a grade on your mothering
What it feels like when life splits into a clear before and after, and how grief and trust in the bigger plan can live side by side
How shifting from fighting a diagnosis to fighting with it turned chaos into a more peaceful way of living
Why the fun mom and the health mom turned out to be two parts of the same person
How a highly sensitive mom can feel her own grief without letting it land on her child
Why allowing the people you love the dignity of their own experience is its own form of love

Connect with Jeminee:
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jemified_/
Book: https://www.amazon.com/You-Are-Match-Your-Mountain/dp/B0CPPG2MF8?th=1&psc=1
Sign up for Unshakable Interactions during presale for just $17!: https://www.sensitiveandsoulful.com/offers/DfoKpzEo/checkout?coupon_code=UIPRESALE
Uncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOW
Learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop!
Join the Not Too Sensitive Club 🦋 My group coaching container for highly sensitive women where self-doubt becomes certainty, second-guessing turns into self-trust, and overthinking transforms into rock-solid intuition. CLICK HERE to learn more!
Follow Alissa on Substack: https://substack.com/@lifebyalissa
As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)!
All you have to do is:
Leave a written review of this podcast on Apple Podcasts
Email a screenshot of your review to [email protected]

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49 min
October 06264. Big Feelings, Big Joy: Why Your Capacity for Pain Is Also Your Capacity for Joy w/ April Snow, HSP Author & Therapist
In this episode, Alissa welcomes April Snow back to the podcast to celebrate her new book, Big Feelings, Big Joy, and to talk about why having everyday language for being highly sensitive makes it something you can own instead of explain away.
Sensitive people are often told they're fragile. April and Alissa share the research and the lived experience that say otherwise.
Alissa and April trade personal stories, from feeling different as kids to writing books during some of the hardest seasons of their lives, along with the small daily practices that keep them steady. Sensitivity isn't fragility, it's the capacity to feel the hard and the good at full volume and grow stronger from both.
In this episode, you'll learn:
What April's signature acronym, ORCHID, stands for
Why differential susceptibility is an HSPs greatest gift.
How a nervous system that moves in and out of different states is healthy, and why stretching toward what's meaningful expands your capacity
What tiny pockets of transition time and fewer daily decisions can do for your overwhelm
How savoring good moments became a life raft in April's childhood and still carries her through hard seasons
Why joy and grief can be held at the same time, and how connecting to something bigger than yourself makes that possible

Connect with April:
https://www.sensitivestrengths.com
https://www.instagram.com/sensitivestrengths
Big Feelings, Big Joy: https://www.bigfeelingsbigjoy.com/book
Sign up for Unshakable Interactions during presale for just $17!: https://www.sensitiveandsoulful.com/offers/DfoKpzEo/checkout?coupon_code=UIPRESALE
Uncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOW
Learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop!
Join the Not Too Sensitive Club 🦋 My group coaching container for highly sensitive women where self-doubt becomes certainty, second-guessing turns into self-trust, and overthinking transforms into rock-solid intuition. CLICK HERE to learn more!
Follow Alissa on Substack: https://substack.com/@lifebyalissa
As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)!
All you have to do is:
Leave a written review of this podcast on Apple Podcasts
Email a screenshot of your review to [email protected]

That's it! 😊
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Follow along on Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lifebyalissa⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
42 min
September 29263. Carrying Yourself Like An Equal Even When You're Around Intimidating Or Successful People
In this episode, Alissa gets into what happens when a rejection lands from someone you admire and why choosing to see yourself as an equal, instead of putting them on a pedestal, is the first step toward becoming a match for what you desire.
She shares what she's been noticing in her own season of rejection while her publisher sends her book out for endorsements, plus a look back at her early corporate retail days, when intimidating colleagues made her feel small.
When you develop your self-worth, you stop waiting for external permission, and instead start to create the life you want from your own belief in the inevitability of your success.
In this episode, you'll learn:
Why a "no" from someone you admire can feel like proof you're not good enough, and how to catch that story before you agree with it
How putting someone on a pedestal quietly distances you from the very reality you want for yourself
What it looks like to meet a rejection with curiosity and self-belief instead of treating it as a verdict on your worth
Why carrying yourself as an equal is a choice you can make before you have any accolades to stand on
How the deeper work of building self-worth makes that choice easier to access when the moment actually arrives
How highly sensitive people can be deeply attuned and kind while still holding rock solid boundaries in rooms that feel intimidating

Sign up for Unshakable Interactions during presale for just $17!: https://www.sensitiveandsoulful.com/offers/DfoKpzEo/checkout?coupon_code=UIPRESALE
Uncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOW
Learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop!
Join the Not Too Sensitive Club 🦋 My group coaching container for highly sensitive women where self-doubt becomes certainty, second-guessing turns into self-trust, and overthinking transforms into rock-solid intuition. CLICK HERE to learn more!
Follow Alissa on Substack: https://substack.com/@lifebyalissa
As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)!
All you have to do is:
Leave a written review of this podcast on Apple Podcasts
Email a screenshot of your review to [email protected]

That's it! 😊
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Follow along on Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lifebyalissa⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
20 min
September 22262. How my client found a deeper connection with her husband (by making it less about her)
In this episode, Alissa gets into what it really means to get out of your own way. She talks about a habit so many highly sensitive people fall into without realizing it, which is scanning everyone else's moods to feel okay.
So much of the checking and managing is really an attempt to get someone else to respond in a way that settles your own nerves. Alissa names where that pattern comes from and what it takes to stop outsourcing your sense of safety to the people around you.
In this episode, you'll learn:
Why the constant checking is often more about easing your own anxiety
How your natural attunement can tip into hyper-vigilance when you're anxious in a relationship
What cleaning up your side of the street looks like when you're caught in a dynamic you don't love
Why getting out of your own way frees you to focus on the message you came to share instead of how you're coming across
How showing up anyway, even when you might be judged, slowly desensitizes you to the fear of being disliked
Why sourcing your worth from within means an awkward moment costs you about thirty seconds instead of three days

Sign up for Unshakable Interactions during presale for just $17!: https://www.sensitiveandsoulful.com/offers/DfoKpzEo/checkout?coupon_code=UIPRESALE
Uncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOW
Learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop!
Join the Not Too Sensitive Club 🦋 My group coaching container for highly sensitive women where self-doubt becomes certainty, second-guessing turns into self-trust, and overthinking transforms into rock-solid intuition. CLICK HERE to learn more!
Follow Alissa on Substack: https://substack.com/@lifebyalissa
As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)!
All you have to do is:
Leave a written review of this podcast on Apple Podcasts
Email a screenshot of your review to [email protected]

That's it! 😊
🦋🦋🦋
Follow along on Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lifebyalissa⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
20 min
September 15261. "I Can Survive Being Disliked" (And So Can You): The Good Girl Conditioning Episode
In this episode, Alissa revists the topic of good girl conditioning and why so many highly sensitive women build an entire identity around being the responsible one, the kind one, the person who never rocks the boat. She looks at what happens when agreeableness stops being a natural expression of your sensitivity and starts becoming a way of abandoning yourself to keep everyone else comfortable.
The traits themselves are often innate, but the problem is when they are expressed at the cost of self-abandonment. Alissa names the fear sitting underneath it all: the fear of shining too brightly and being disliked for it.
Through her own story of a work friendship that went cold the moment she got promoted, and the clients she has watched give themselves permission to take up space, she walks through what it looks like to expand your tolerance for discomfort and stop managing everyone else's reaction to you.
In this episode, you'll learn:
Why being the responsible, easygoing one can quietly turn into abandoning your own needs
How the fear of shining too brightly keeps so many highly sensitive women playing small
What it means that other people benefit from you never setting a boundary or speaking up
Why stepping out of the good girl identity almost always brings pushback, and how to be okay with that
How to hold the guilt of someone being upset and still trust that you did the right thing
Why giving people the dignity of their own reactions frees you from carrying everyone

Sign up for Unshakable Interactions during presale for just $17!: https://www.sensitiveandsoulful.com/offers/DfoKpzEo/checkout?coupon_code=UIPRESALE
Uncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOW
Learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop!
Join the Not Too Sensitive Club 🦋 My group coaching container for highly sensitive women where self-doubt becomes certainty, second-guessing turns into self-trust, and overthinking transforms into rock-solid intuition. CLICK HERE to learn more!
Follow Alissa on Substack: https://substack.com/@lifebyalissa
As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)!
All you have to do is:
Leave a written review of this podcast on Apple Podcasts
Email a screenshot of your review to [email protected]

That's it! 😊
🦋🦋🦋
Follow along on Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lifebyalissa⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
31 min
September 08260. Am I Overreacting, or Do I Actually Need a Boundary? An HSP Guide to Trusting Your Own Reaction
In this episode, Alissa tackles a question she hears constantly. "How do you know if you're actually allowed to be upset, or if you're just being too sensitive?"
If you've ever replayed a conversation for days, questioned your own reaction, or wondered if you made something out of nothing, this one's for you.
Alissa traces that self-doubt back to where it actually started, and what it takes to fully trust yourself even when someone else insists you're overreacting.
In this episode, you'll learn:
Why the question "am I overreacting or do I have a right to be upset" usually points to a deeper lack of self-trust
Why the people who dismissed your reactions were often responding from their own depletion
What writing out your personal values and boundaries does for you in the middle of a triggering moment
How to recognize when a reaction is bigger than the situation because it's hitting an old wound
Why "cleaning up your side of the street" comes before deciding whether a boundary conversation is necessary

Sign up for Unshakable Interactions during presale for just $17!: https://www.sensitiveandsoulful.com/offers/DfoKpzEo/checkout?coupon_code=UIPRESALE
Uncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOW
Learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop!
Join the Not Too Sensitive Club 🦋 My group coaching container for highly sensitive women where self-doubt becomes certainty, second-guessing turns into self-trust, and overthinking transforms into rock-solid intuition. CLICK HERE to learn more!
Follow Alissa on Substack: https://substack.com/@lifebyalissa
As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)!
All you have to do is:
Leave a written review of this podcast on Apple Podcasts
Email a screenshot of your review to [email protected]

That's it! 😊
🦋🦋🦋
Follow along on Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lifebyalissa⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
26 min
September 01259. How to Stop Feeling Like a Pushover in Conflict and Stand Firm When You Feel Wronged
In this episode, Alissa gets into why the instinct to smooth things over the second someone reacts to your boundary is actually a form of people pleasing, and why building your tolerance for that discomfort is the first step toward feeling unbotherable.
Alissa traces this back to the fear of abandonment underneath it, whether that shows up as a partner flipping the story back on you or a family member waving off a hurtful comment as a joke. She shows how the pattern gets reinforced every time it's smoothed over instead of named, and why noticing what's actually driving the rush to resolution is what starts to shift the pattern.
Alissa shares what it actually looks like to sit in the discomfort of a boundary instead of collapsing it, so you can source your safety and self-respect from within instead of from someone else's reaction.
In this episode, you'll learn:
Why the urge to smooth things over the moment your boundary lands is people pleasing
How to recognize when you're rushing to resolution out of a fear of abandonment rather than genuine repair
Why letting someone avoid the consequences of their own behavior quietly teaches them how to treat you
How trusting what your body is telling you becomes more reliable than the story someone else is offering in the moment
Why pushback from someone who's benefited from your smallness is a sign you're doing this right, not a sign you did something wrong

Uncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOW
Learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop!
Join the Not Too Sensitive Club 🦋 My group coaching container for highly sensitive women where self-doubt becomes certainty, second-guessing turns into self-trust, and overthinking transforms into rock-solid intuition. CLICK HERE to learn more!
Follow Alissa on Substack: https://substack.com/@lifebyalissa
As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)!
All you have to do is:
Leave a written review of this podcast on Apple Podcasts
Email a screenshot of your review to [email protected]

That's it! 😊
🦋🦋🦋
Follow along on Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lifebyalissa⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
21 min
August 25258. Why Am I So Triggered? How to Get to the Root and Feel Unbotherable
In this episode, Alissa gets into why triggers land the way they do and why finding the root cause is the first step toward feeling steady, unshakable, and less at the mercy of what everyone around you is doing.
Most triggers trace back to one of two places, an old wound from the past or an unmet need in the present. Alissa shows how naming that root pulls the charge out of it, so emotional memory stops determining your responses.
Alissa walks through what it actually looks like to clean up your side of the street so you can confidently source your safety from within.
In this episode, you'll learn:
Why a reaction that feels disproportionate to the moment is a clue you've been triggered
The two roots of most triggers, an old wound or an unmet need, and how to tell which one is showing up
How pulling the charge out of a past experience lets a familiar situation lose its grip
What "cleaning up your side of the street" looks like before you decide whether a conversation is even needed
Why working through a trigger once makes it quieter every single time it comes back
How sourcing your safety from within frees you from living at the mercy of other people's choices

Uncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOW
Learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop!
Join the Not Too Sensitive Club 🦋 My group coaching container for highly sensitive women where self-doubt becomes certainty, second-guessing turns into self-trust, and overthinking transforms into rock-solid intuition. CLICK HERE to learn more!
Follow Alissa on Substack: https://substack.com/@lifebyalissa
As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)!
All you have to do is:
Leave a written review of this podcast on Apple Podcasts
Email a screenshot of your review to [email protected]

That's it! 😊
🦋🦋🦋
Follow along on Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lifebyalissa⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
23 min
August 18257. "I'm the type of person who..." Shifting Your Self-Concept By Changing the Way You Talk to Yourself
In this week's episode, Alissa shares a quick hack that quietly rewrites how you see yourself: "I'm the type of person who..."
So often you pin your happiness on the outcome, the finished book, the dream partner, the number of followers. Alissa offers an alternative, letting the process itself become the proof and validation of who you're becoming.
Every time you act like the person you want to be, you teach yourself to expect that version of you to show up (even when you don't feel like it).
In this episode, you'll learn:
How the phrase "I'm the type of person who" shifts your self-concept in real time
Why tying your happiness to the outcome makes the whole journey feel worse
How to turn everyday hard moments into evidence of who you're becoming
What showing up to an almost empty room taught Alissa about building real confidence
How to use this practice with people pleasing, exercise, dating, and creative work
Why falling off track is its own chance to prove the kind of person you are

Uncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOW
Learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop!
Join the Not Too Sensitive Club 🦋 My group coaching container for highly sensitive women where self-doubt becomes certainty, second-guessing turns into self-trust, and overthinking transforms into rock-solid intuition. CLICK HERE to learn more!
Follow Alissa on Substack: https://substack.com/@lifebyalissa
As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)!
All you have to do is:
Leave a written review of this podcast on Apple Podcasts
Email a screenshot of your review to [email protected]

That's it! 😊
🦋🦋🦋
Follow along on Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lifebyalissa⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
20 min
August 11256. You're Not a Burden: Advocating for Yourself with Chronic Illness or High Sensitivity w/ Celiac Coach, Jen Fitzpatrick
For most highly sensitive people, advocating for a physical need feels like being a burden. Jen Fitzpatrick, a celiac advocate and founder of the Confident Celiac Community, joins Alissa to talk about the years she spent staying quiet about her own needs and the shift that finally changed it.
The tension is one a lot of HSPs with a chronic condition know well. Speaking up is what keeps you safe, but every people pleasing instinct says stay quiet instead. Alissa and Jen unpack why that instinct runs so deep and how to move through it anyway.
Pulling from Jen's diagnosis story, a study abroad trip where she watched everyone else eat what she couldn't, and Alissa's own experience navigating her daughter's recent diagnosis, the conversation moves through shame, community and self worth.
In this episode, you'll learn:
Why highly sensitive people are especially likely to stay quiet about a chronic health need
Jen's own story of cross contamination scares and learning to advocate for herself after years of people pleasing
The simple swap that changed everything for Jen, saying thank you instead of sorry
Why choosing ten seconds of social discomfort is almost always worth it over days of physical pain
How finding community turned a hard diagnosis into something less isolating for both Jen and Alissa

Follow Jen:
Website: https://www.thenomadicfitzpatricks.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thenomadicfitz
Self-Love Toolkit: https://the-nomadic-fitzpatricks-gluten-free.teachable.com/p/celiac-self-love-toolkit-1059254
Uncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOW
Learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop!
Join the Not Too Sensitive Club 🦋 My group coaching container for highly sensitive women where self-doubt becomes certainty, second-guessing turns into self-trust, and overthinking transforms into rock-solid intuition. CLICK HERE to learn more!
Follow Alissa on Substack: https://substack.com/@lifebyalissa
As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)!
All you have to do is:
Leave a written review of this podcast on Apple Podcasts
Email a screenshot of your review to [email protected]

That's it! 😊
🦋🦋🦋
Follow along on Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lifebyalissa⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
41 min

About Not Too Sensitive - Empowering Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) To Own Their Sensitivity

From the publisher's feed

Have you been told you're "too sensitive" or "too emotional"? Do you often feel drained by other people? Are you moved to tears easily? If so... you just may be a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP).