Not Too Sensitive - Empowering Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) To Own Their Sensitivity

By Alissa BoyerHealth & Fitness Mental Health Education Self-Improvement

Not Too Sensitive - Empowering Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) To Own Their Sensitivity episodes

November 11, 2025223. What I've learned about people being triggered by me (& how it helped me heal my friendship abandonment wounds)
In this episode, Alissa shares a deeply personal lesson about learning to stay grounded when others are triggered by your authenticity.
From feeling like an outsider as a sensitive child to navigating judgment as an adult and business owner, she opens up about how these moments have shaped her self-trust and confidence.
This is an invitation to stop watering yourself down, to let others have their reactions, and to find freedom in knowing that being true to yourself is not something you need to apologize for.
What you'll learn:
Why highly sensitive people often feel “othered” or misunderstood
How people-pleasing develops as a safety mechanism
What it really means when others are triggered by your authenticity
The deeper lesson behind rejection and judgment
How to reframe triggers as opportunities for empowerment
Steps to expand your tolerance for discomfort and self-trust

Uncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOW
Learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop!
Join the Not Too Sensitive Club 🦋 My group coaching container for highly sensitive women where self-doubt becomes certainty, second-guessing turns into self-trust, and overthinking transforms into rock-solid intuition. CLICK HERE to learn more!
As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)!
All you have to do is:
Leave a written review of this podcast on Apple Podcasts
Email a screenshot of your review to [email protected]

That's it! 😊
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Follow along on Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lifebyalissa⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
23 min
November 04, 2025222. Healing Abandonment Wounds & Feeling SAFE In Relationships w/LMHC, Jessica Baum
In this special guest episode, Alissa sits down with therapist and author Jessica Baum to explore how attachment styles develop, how they relate to sensitivity, and what healing secure attachment actually looks like.
Jessica explains why so many highly sensitive people lean anxious in relationships, what it means to internalize safety, and how to start rewiring our attachment patterns through co-regulation and safe connection.
This conversation offers compassionate insight into the “too much / not enough” wound, emotional neglect, and the cultural obsession with independence that often keeps us disconnected from true intimacy and support.
What you'll learn:
What the four attachment styles are—and how they develop in childhood
Why highly sensitive people often fall into anxious attachment
How attachment patterns show up in adult relationships (and how they can shift)
The role of anchors in healing attachment wounds
How to find emotional safety when your partner isn’t ready for therapy
The anxious–avoidant dance and how to break the cycle
Why emotional neglect is so misunderstood—and how to recognize it
Reframing sensitivity as a strength and path to deeper connection

Uncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOW
Learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop!
The Sensitive & Soulful Self-Worth Course: Go from second-guessing & self-doubt to YOU’VE got YOU. Your journey to unwavering self-trust & radical self-acceptance starts HERE. Use code PODL at checkout for a secret discount!
As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)!
All you have to do is:
Leave a written review of this podcast on Apple Podcasts
Email a screenshot of your review to [email protected]

That's it! 😊
🦋🦋🦋
Follow along on Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lifebyalissa⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
Connect with Jessica: Facebook, Instagram and LinkedIn.
Grab Jessica's free gift: freebie link
50 min
October 28, 2025221. Stop Letting Other People's Perception of You Define You
Do you find yourself replaying conversations, worrying what someone thinks of you, or holding back your truth because you don’t want to be “too much”?
In this episode, Alissa dives into one of the biggest traps for highly sensitive people: overreliance on other people’s approval and perception. She shares how constantly scanning for others’ validation keeps you disconnected from your own self-trust—and how to shift into deeper self-acceptance and grounded confidence.
What You’ll Learn:
Why relying on others’ approval keeps you stuck in self-doubt
How to stop letting people’s opinions define your self-worth
What it means to “have your own back” when you feel misunderstood or judged
How to regulate your nervous system through the discomfort of being disliked
Why true safety as an HSP comes from within—not from being liked by everyone

For presale details about the Not Too Sensitive Club, DM me on Instagram @lifebyalissa⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠!
Uncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOW
Learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop!
The Sensitive & Soulful Self-Worth Course: Go from second-guessing & self-doubt to YOU’VE got YOU. Your journey to unwavering self-trust & radical self-acceptance starts HERE. Use code PODL at checkout for a secret discount!
As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)!
All you have to do is:
Leave a written review of this podcast on Apple Podcasts
Email a screenshot of your review to [email protected]

That's it! 😊
🦋🦋🦋
Follow along on Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lifebyalissa⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
23 min
October 21, 2025220. The Sneaky Reason You Still Don't Feel Self-Confident (My favorite hack for building confidence!)
In this episode, Alissa gets real about one of the biggest reasons highly sensitive people stay stuck—overthinking instead of acting.
She shares why consuming self-help content isn’t enough, why confidence doesn’t come from journaling or affirmations alone, and how taking small, messy action steps is what actually rewires your identity and builds self-trust.
Through client stories, personal reflection, and her own journey from blog posts to a Penguin Random House book deal, Alissa shows how you can stop waiting to feel ready and start becoming the version of yourself who already does the thing.
What You’ll Learn:
Why awareness alone won’t create transformation
The difference between knowing what to do and actually doing it
Why confidence is built through discomfort, not perfection
Simple ways to practice self-trust in low-stakes situations
How small, consistent steps compound into massive growth over time

For presale details about the Not Too Sensitive Club, DM me on Instagram @lifebyalissa⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠!
Uncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOW
Learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop!
The Sensitive & Soulful Self-Worth Course: Go from second-guessing & self-doubt to YOU’VE got YOU. Your journey to unwavering self-trust & radical self-acceptance starts HERE. Use code PODL at checkout for a secret discount!
As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)!
All you have to do is:
Leave a written review of this podcast on Apple Podcasts
Email a screenshot of your review to [email protected]

That's it! 😊
🦋🦋🦋
Follow along on Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lifebyalissa⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
21 min
October 14, 2025219. Why You Feel Like You're "In Trouble" When People Get Upset With You & 3 Tips to Shift OUT of This
Today Alissa is diving into a pattern she sees often in highly sensitive women—and one she's personally navigated herself—the instant sinking feeling that you’re “in trouble” whenever someone disagrees with you, gets upset, or pushes back.
This episode explores the roots of this response—often tied to the fawn response, good girl conditioning, and past experiences with unpredictability or invalidation—and how it can leave you feeling frustrated, insecure, and walked over.
Whether you’re 20 or 70, it’s never too late to start reclaiming your confidence, self-worth, and ability to show up authentically without letting fear or past patterns dictate your actions.
What You’ll Learn:
Why you default to blaming yourself or apologizing even when you’re not in the wrong.
How good girl conditioning and past experiences shape your responses to conflict.
Ways to begin building self-trust and honoring your own boundaries.
How to expand your tolerance for discomfort so conflict doesn’t feel unsafe.
How to hold empathy, kindness, and strong boundaries all at the same time.
Steps to shift your identity from “people pleaser” to confident, empowered you.

For presale details about the Not Too Sensitive Club, DM me on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lifebyalissa⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠!
Uncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOW
Learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop!
The Sensitive & Soulful Self-Worth Course: Go from second-guessing & self-doubt to YOU’VE got YOU. Your journey to unwavering self-trust & radical self-acceptance starts HERE. Use code PODL at checkout for a secret discount!
As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)!
All you have to do is:
Leave a written review of this podcast on Apple Podcasts
Email a screenshot of your review to [email protected]

That's it! 😊
🦋🦋🦋
Follow along on Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lifebyalissa⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
24 min
October 07, 2025218. Growth Gap: The Tension Between Who You've Been & Who You're Becoming
In this episode, Alissa shares a powerful reflection on the connection between personal growth and expanding your tolerance for discomfort.
She explains how the moments that stretch us, challenge us, and make us uncomfortable are actually the in-between spaces where transformation happens.
Using real examples from her postpartum fitness journey and her early days coaching highly sensitive people, Alissa reminds us that confidence and self-trust are built through showing up in the messy middle, not avoiding it.
You’ll learn why avoiding discomfort keeps HSPs stuck in people-pleasing, how to recognize the growth hidden inside your triggers, and why the tension between who you’ve been and who you’re becoming is exactly where your evolution lives.
What You’ll Learn:
Why expanding your tolerance for discomfort is essential for growth
How to reframe tension and discomfort as signs of transformation
Why “the messy middle” is where confidence and self-trust are built
How to move through people-pleasing and fear of judgment
What it really means to take ownership of your life and healing

For presale details about the Not Too Sensitive Club, DM me on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lifebyalissa⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠!
Uncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOW
Learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop!
The Sensitive & Soulful Self-Worth Course: Go from second-guessing & self-doubt to YOU’VE got YOU. Your journey to unwavering self-trust & radical self-acceptance starts HERE. Use code PODL at checkout for a secret discount!
As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)!
All you have to do is:
Leave a written review of this podcast on Apple Podcasts
Email a screenshot of your review to [email protected]

That's it! 😊
🦋🦋🦋
Follow along on Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lifebyalissa⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
29 min
September 30, 2025217. How to Stop Feeling Self-Conscious for Being Different Than Other People
In this episode, Alissa talks about why comparison and imagined judgment keep you from enjoying the things you love—and how owning your values (not everyone else’s) is the shortcut to feeling steady, confident, and truly free.
Inspired by a conversation with a new 1:1 client, Alissa digs into how small decisions become litmus tests for self-worth. She shares honest, everyday examples and offers a simple perspective shift.
When you know what you value and own it without apology, you stop performing for other people and start living from the inside out.
What You’ll Learn
Why your insecurities make you assume everyone is judging you (and how that distorts reality)
A practical perspective flip: own your choices instead of apologizing for them
How clarity about values cuts through comparison and quiets second-guessing
When a mindset shift isn’t enough—and how inner work (healing self-worth) helps you actually stay confident
Where to go next: tools and courses that help HSPs build unshakable self-worth

Take your first step to reclaiming your inner peace and self-worth with the External Validation Cleanse
Uncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOW
Learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop!
The Sensitive & Soulful Self-Worth Course: Go from second-guessing & self-doubt to YOU’VE got YOU. Your journey to unwavering self-trust & radical self-acceptance starts HERE. Use code PODL at checkout for a secret discount!
As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)!
All you have to do is:
Leave a review of this podcast
Email a screenshot of your review to [email protected]

That's it! 😊
🦋🦋🦋
Follow along on Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lifebyalissa⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
17 min
September 23, 2025216. How To Believe Things Are Always Working In Your Favor (even when it feels like they're not)
In this episode, Alissa dives into one of her core beliefs: that life is always working in your favor, especially when it doesn’t feel like it.
Through personal stories, spiritual wisdom, and honest reflections, she explores how setbacks, triggers, and everyday annoyances can be invitations into growth.
From ancient teachings like Buddhism’s lotus flower to her own journey with chronic illness and sleepless nights as a mom, Alissa shares how challenges can become catalysts for resilience, self-trust, and transformation.
This episode is a reminder that your hardest seasons often contain the very gold that will shape your most confident, unshakable self.
What You’ll Learn:
Why highly sensitive people are impacted more deeply—but also benefit more fully—from life experiences
How spiritual traditions across the world view struggle as a path to growth
Why setbacks and “dark nights of the soul” can prepare you for your greatest breakthroughs
A mindset shift that turns daily frustrations into opportunities for empowerment
Real-life examples of how painful seasons can lead to unexpected miracles

Curious about the Not Too Sensitive Club? Send Alissa a DM on Instagram @lifebyalissa to get the presale details and reserve your spot!
Uncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOW
Learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop!
The Sensitive & Soulful Self-Worth Course: Go from second-guessing & self-doubt to YOU’VE got YOU. Your journey to unwavering self-trust & radical self-acceptance starts HERE. Use code PODL at checkout for a secret discount!
As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)!
All you have to do is:
Leave a review of this podcast
Email a screenshot of your review to [email protected]

That's it! 😊
🦋🦋🦋
Follow along on Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lifebyalissa⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
31 min
September 16, 2025215. THIS Is What's Blocking You From Using Your Emotional Intelligence As A Strength
In this episode, Alissa dives into one of the biggest blocks highly sensitive people face: insecurity. She explores how self-doubt and second-guessing can cloud your emotional intelligence—turning what should be a powerful superpower into a source of hypervigilance and overthinking.
Through personal stories and practical examples, Alissa explains how insecurities often cause HSPs to take things personally, spiral into self-blame, and unintentionally block authentic connection. She shares how doing the inner work of healing old wounds allows you to show up with clean energy, hold space for others, and leverage your sensitivity as the gift it truly is.
What You’ll Learn:
How insecurity clouds your emotional intelligence and keeps you stuck
Why taking others’ moods personally blocks authentic connection
The difference between empathy and energy-matching
A grounded way to support loved ones without making it about you
Tools to transcend insecurity and fully access your sensitive strengths

Uncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOW
Learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop!
The Sensitive & Soulful Self-Worth Course: Go from second-guessing & self-doubt to YOU’VE got YOU. Your journey to unwavering self-trust & radical self-acceptance starts HERE. Use code PODL at checkout for a secret discount!
As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)!
All you have to do is:
Leave a review of this podcast
Email a screenshot of your review to [email protected]

That's it! 😊
🦋🦋🦋
Follow along on Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lifebyalissa⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
21 min
September 11, 2025214. Being Highly Sensitive In A Broken World
In this bonus, un-edited episode, I explore the role I believe we're called to play in the world as highly sensitive people and how we can support ourselves through challenging times.
Uncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOW
Learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop!
The Sensitive & Soulful Self-Worth Course: Go from second-guessing & self-doubt to YOU’VE got YOU. Your journey to unwavering self-trust & radical self-acceptance starts HERE. Use code PODL at checkout for a secret discount!
As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)!
All you have to do is:
Leave a review of this podcast
Email a screenshot of your review to [email protected]

That's it! 😊
🦋🦋🦋
Follow along on Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lifebyalissa⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
24 min

About Not Too Sensitive - Empowering Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) To Own Their Sensitivity

From the publisher's feed

Have you been told you're "too sensitive" or "too emotional"? Do you often feel drained by other people? Are you moved to tears easily? If so... you just may be a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP).