Not Too Sensitive - Empowering Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) To Own Their Sensitivity

In this solo episode, Alissa dives into a core pillar of her work: expanding your tolerance for discomfort as a highly sensitive person.

She shares how she is navigating an intense season of motherhood with little sleep and full emotional capacity, while also watching clients move through their own challenging chapters. She explores what it actually takes for sensitive people to build resilience and thrive through life’s ebbs and flows.

Alissa unpacks how a sensitive nervous system can default to overwhelm, avoidance, and self-doubt, and how those patterns quietly reinforce the belief that “I can’t handle this.” She challenges listeners to see discomfort not as proof of inadequacy, but as evidence of growth.

In this episode, she shares:

1. Why avoiding discomfort keeps you stuck
2. The subtle ways you weaken or build self-trust through your actions
3. The “growth gap” between who you are and who you’re becoming
4. Why empowered action often feels uncomfortable at first
5. How perspective, faith, and intentional thinking transform hard seasons
6. The importance of choosing expansion over staying small

Join us for Sensitive & Steady! My free 3-day workshop for highly sensitive women happening March 2nd, 4th, & 6th. CLICK HERE to register for free.

Follow Alissa on Substack: https://substack.com/@lifebyalissa

Uncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOW

Learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop!

Join the Not Too Sensitive Club 🦋 My group coaching container for highly sensitive women where self-doubt becomes certainty, second-guessing turns into self-trust, and overthinking transforms into rock-solid intuition. CLICK HERE to learn more!

As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)!

All you have to do is:

1. Leave a written review of this podcast on Apple Podcasts
2. Email a screenshot of your review to [email protected]

That's it! 😊

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In this episode, Alissa sits down with her longtime Instagram friend Bailey for a deep and honest conversation about creativity, self-worth, friendship dynamics, and what it really means to be an empowered highly sensitive person.

Bailey shares her journey of feeling like an outsider growing up, watering herself down to fit in, and eventually finding her voice through poetry.

This episode is a powerful reminder that sensitivity is not a life sentence of overthinking and overwhelm. It’s a strength when you take ownership of your inner world and stop outsourcing your worth.

What You’ll Learn:

1. Why creativity is deeply healing for highly sensitive people
2. The difference between healthy validation and victim mentality
3. How victim narratives can quietly keep you stuck
4. Why “hurt people hurt people” isn’t an excuse for poor boundaries
5. How to stop choosing friendships based on potential
6. The empowering shift from “this is who I am” to “this is something I experience”
7. Why waiting to be “fixed” keeps you from living now
8. How taking ownership of your role in relationships creates freedom

Join us for Sensitive & Steady! My free 3-day workshop for highly sensitive women happening March 2nd, 4th, & 6th. CLICK HERE to register for free.

Follow Alissa on Substack: https://substack.com/@lifebyalissa

Uncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOW

Learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop!

Join the Not Too Sensitive Club 🦋 My group coaching container for highly sensitive women where self-doubt becomes certainty, second-guessing turns into self-trust, and overthinking transforms into rock-solid intuition. CLICK HERE to learn more!

As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)!

All you have to do is:

1. Leave a written review of this podcast on Apple Podcasts
2. Email a screenshot of your review to [email protected]

That's it! 😊

🦋🦋🦋

Follow along on Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lifebyalissa⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

In this episode, Alissa sits down with writer and speaker Case Kenny for a conversation about self-expression, confidence, and what it really means to stop shrinking yourself.

They explore why embracing your “cringe,” intensity, and nonconforming traits is actually magnetic, and why the fear of being judged keeps so many Highly Sensitive People playing small.

The conversation expands into relationships. How to know if someone amplifies you, why “low maintenance” is often code for self-abandonment, and why we should aim to “settle up,” not settle down.

This episode is an invitation to raise your standards, trust your essence, and choose relationships that expand you.

In this episode, you'll learn:

1. Why accepting judgment is more empowering than avoiding it
2. How your “cringe” attracts aligned people
3. What confidence really is (a willingness to be uncomfortable)
4. How to use regret as a decision filter
5. The difference between settling down and settling up
6. Why healthy relationships amplify who you already are
7. The truth about being “high maintenance” vs. having high standards

Connect with Case Kenny:

https://www.casekenny.com/

https://www.instagram.com/case.kenny/

Join us for Sensitive & Steady! My free 3-day workshop for highly sensitive women happening March 2nd, 4th, & 6th. CLICK HERE to register for free.

Follow Alissa on Substack: https://substack.com/@lifebyalissa

Uncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOW

Learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop!

Join the Not Too Sensitive Club 🦋 My group coaching container for highly sensitive women where self-doubt becomes certainty, second-guessing turns into self-trust, and overthinking transforms into rock-solid intuition. CLICK HERE to learn more!

As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)!

All you have to do is:

1. Leave a written review of this podcast on Apple Podcasts
2. Email a screenshot of your review to [email protected]

That's it! 😊

🦋🦋🦋

Follow along on Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lifebyalissa⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Season 2.0 of the Not Too Sensitive Podcast is officially here, and Alissa is back after a much-needed break with a renewed vision for the show.

In this episode, Alissa shares what shifted during her time away. Then from there, the conversation turns to one of the most common (and painful) patterns Highly Sensitive People experience in relationships: betraying themselves in order to keep the peace.

Alissa breaks down how people-pleasing, over-giving, and self-silencing often stem from low self-worth and abandonment wounds, and why relationships that require you to abandon yourself were never sustainable to begin with.

This episode is an honest invitation to take ownership of your role in relationship dynamics and to step fully into the version of yourself who no longer self-abandons for approval or safety.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

1. Why Alissa took a break and what inspired Season 2.0 of the podcast
2. How living as your future self changes what you attract and tolerate
3. The subtle ways HSPs betray themselves to avoid conflict or abandonment
4. Why low self-worth fuels people-pleasing and over-giving patterns
5. What it means to “teach people how to treat you” (without self-blame)
6. Why some relationships fall apart when you stop self-abandoning
7. How choosing yourself becomes less painful than staying silent
8. What reciprocal, aligned relationships actually require from you

Follow Alissa on Substack: https://substack.com/@lifebyalissa

Uncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOW

Learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop!

Join the Not Too Sensitive Club 🦋 My group coaching container for highly sensitive women where self-doubt becomes certainty, second-guessing turns into self-trust, and overthinking transforms into rock-solid intuition. CLICK HERE to learn more!

As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)!

All you have to do is:

1. Leave a written review of this podcast on Apple Podcasts
2. Email a screenshot of your review to [email protected]

That's it! 😊

🦋🦋🦋

Follow along on Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lifebyalissa⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

As 2025 comes to a close, Alissa shares a reflective and personal episode about endings, rebirth, and learning how to live in true alignment, especially as a Highly Sensitive Person.

This year held profound milestones and massive shifts: signing a book deal, welcoming a new baby after pregnancy loss, navigating postpartum life while writing a book, and feeling the internal pull to realign how she shows up creatively and professionally.

Alissa also shares what’s been lighting her up lately, from writing long-form essays on Substack to witnessing the depth, courage, and growth happening inside the Not Too Sensitive Club.

At the heart of this conversation is a powerful reminder: alignment isn’t about forcing consistency. It’s about listening closely to what feels true now.

In this episode, you’ll hear:

1. Reflections on the major personal and professional shifts of 2025
2. What it’s been like writing a book while postpartum and raising two young children
3. Why Substack has become a creative home for deeper, slower, more meaningful connection
4. How the Not Too Sensitive Club supports identity, growth, and living as your future self
5. Why Highly Sensitive People are uniquely suited for this next era of depth, authenticity, and connection
6. The intuition-led decision to pause and reimagine the podcast before returning in 2026

Follow Alissa on Substack: https://substack.com/@lifebyalissa

Uncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOW

Learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop!

Join the Not Too Sensitive Club 🦋 My group coaching container for highly sensitive women where self-doubt becomes certainty, second-guessing turns into self-trust, and overthinking transforms into rock-solid intuition. CLICK HERE to learn more!

As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)!

All you have to do is:

1. Leave a written review of this podcast on Apple Podcasts
2. Email a screenshot of your review to [email protected]

That's it! 😊

🦋🦋🦋

Follow along on Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lifebyalissa⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

In this episode, Alissa gets real about one of the biggest struggles Highly Sensitive People face: the constant overthinking, analyzing, and self-editing that comes from worrying what others might be thinking.

She breaks down how this pattern can quietly run your life—influencing your choices, your boundaries, your energy, and even your self-worth— and why learning to unhook from other people’s perceptions is essential for emotional freedom.

Through personal stories and client experiences, Alissa explores why sensitive, empathetic people often end up shapeshifting, people-pleasing, and abandoning themselves in order to feel liked or safe, and what needs to change in order to stop that cycle for good.

In this episode, you’ll hear:

• The difference between healthy empathy and self-erasing empathy
• Why HSPs often feel responsible for how others react
• How obsessing over others’ perception slowly erodes your self-worth
• Why shapeshifting to be liked never creates real connection
• The two core skills that free HSPs from external validation traps
• What it looks like to feel safe being judged, misunderstood, or disliked

Uncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOW

Learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop!

Join the Not Too Sensitive Club 🦋 My group coaching container for highly sensitive women where self-doubt becomes certainty, second-guessing turns into self-trust, and overthinking transforms into rock-solid intuition. CLICK HERE to learn more!

As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)!

All you have to do is:

• Leave a written review of this podcast on Apple Podcasts
• Email a screenshot of your review to [email protected]

That's it! 😊

🦋🦋🦋

Follow along on Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lifebyalissa⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

This week’s episode is a gentle reminder for all of us: you’re doing more than you realize, and it’s okay to acknowledge it. 💛

Alissa dives into a practice that she often share with her 1:1 clients and in the Not Too Sensitive Club. The practice is all about zooming out on yourself to witness all that you’re holding and doing. This is especially helpful during busy seasons (hello, holidays!) when it’s easy to get stuck in the “what’s missing” or “I’m not enough” mindset.

In this episode, you’ll hear:

• How to show yourself compassion in the middle of overwhelm.
• A simple visualization practice to observe yourself from the outside.
• Why self-compassion is so much more effective than self-criticism, especially for highly sensitive people.
• How small acts of noticing, validating, and softening toward yourself can shift your energy and make your day feel lighter.

Uncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOW

Learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop!

Join the Not Too Sensitive Club 🦋 My group coaching container for highly sensitive women where self-doubt becomes certainty, second-guessing turns into self-trust, and overthinking transforms into rock-solid intuition. CLICK HERE to learn more!

As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)!

All you have to do is:

• Leave a written review of this podcast on Apple Podcasts
• Email a screenshot of your review to [email protected]

That's it! 😊

🦋🦋🦋

Follow along on Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lifebyalissa⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

This week’s episode is a little different in the best way!

Alissa is sharing a raw, unfiltered audio drop straight from Lucky Girl Radio, the private chat inside The Not Too Sensitive Club where she opens up about her personal growth, lived experiences, and the inner work she’s navigating in real time.

In this behind-the-scenes glimpse, Alissa explores what it looks like to improve yourself from a place of self-acceptance rather than shame. She shares a recent real-life moment where she noticed a part of herself she wants to strengthen, and how she lovingly coached herself through it without spiraling into “what’s wrong with me?” energy.

What You’ll Learn

• What it looks like to adopt a true growth mindset as a highly sensitive person
• Why self-improvement rooted in shame keeps you stuck
• How to notice growth opportunities without making them mean something negative about you
• A real-life example of Alissa catching an old pattern, and choosing a different response
• The difference between “I have something to work on” and “something is wrong with me”

Uncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOW

Learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop!

Join the Not Too Sensitive Club 🦋 My group coaching container for highly sensitive women where self-doubt becomes certainty, second-guessing turns into self-trust, and overthinking transforms into rock-solid intuition. CLICK HERE to learn more!

As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)!

All you have to do is:

• Leave a written review of this podcast on Apple Podcasts
• Email a screenshot of your review to [email protected]

That's it! 😊

🦋🦋🦋

Follow along on Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lifebyalissa⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

In this episode, Alissa offers a refreshing, grounded reframe for navigating holiday gatherings, especially when you’re a highly sensitive person anticipating old triggers, complicated family dynamics, or emotionally draining interactions.

Instead of bracing yourself or rehearsing every response, she invites you to see these moments as a kind of “spiritual assignment” or gentle experiment: an opportunity to practice confidence, curiosity, boundaries, and self-regulation in real time.

This perspective doesn’t dismiss the pain, history, or lived experience behind these moments. Instead, it provides a lighter, more empowered way to move through them so you can show up as the version of yourself you’re becoming.

What You’ll Learn:

• Why holidays and family dynamics often feel overwhelming for highly sensitive people
• How to bring a sense of levity and curiosity into emotionally charged situations
• A powerful reframe for viewing triggering moments as opportunities instead of threats
• Why confidence and self-trust grow through discomfort, not in perfect environments
• Ways to reward and support yourself after challenging interactions

Uncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOW

Learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop!

Join the Not Too Sensitive Club 🦋 My group coaching container for highly sensitive women where self-doubt becomes certainty, second-guessing turns into self-trust, and overthinking transforms into rock-solid intuition. CLICK HERE to learn more!

As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)!

All you have to do is:

• Leave a written review of this podcast on Apple Podcasts
• Email a screenshot of your review to [email protected]

That's it! 😊

🦋🦋🦋

Follow along on Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lifebyalissa⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

In this episode, Alissa shares a powerful behind-the-scenes moment from the very first Not Too Sensitive Club call, where the group explored how to use triggers as opportunities for healing instead of evidence that something is “wrong” with you.

Through a real client example, she breaks down exactly how to move from blaming, spiraling, or shutting down to curiosity, self-validation, and empowered action.

This conversation offers a grounded, compassionate reminder that being highly sensitive doesn’t mean you’re fragile. It means you have a deeper invitation to grow, self-advocate, and trust your own worth.

What You’ll Learn:

• How to shift from “Why is this happening to me?” to “What is this showing me?”
• The essential first step in working with any trigger
• The difference between self-validation and relying on others to feel worthy
• Why confidence can feel like “arrogance” for HSPs — and how to reframe it
• A guiding question to help you choose the most empowered response

Uncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOW

Learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop!

Join the Not Too Sensitive Club 🦋 My group coaching container for highly sensitive women where self-doubt becomes certainty, second-guessing turns into self-trust, and overthinking transforms into rock-solid intuition. CLICK HERE to learn more!

As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)!

All you have to do is:

• Leave a written review of this podcast on Apple Podcasts
• Email a screenshot of your review to [email protected]

That's it! 😊

🦋🦋🦋

Follow along on Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lifebyalissa⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠