Intimacy After Infidelity | Cut Contact, Rebuild Trust, Shed Shame, Avoid Divorce, Forgiveness for Adultery

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Intimacy After Infidelity | Cut Contact, Rebuild Trust, Shed Shame, Avoid Divorce, Forgiveness for Adultery episodes

October 01160 | God Is Speaking to You, Are You Listening? What I Learned at the Encounter Retreat
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I'm home, and I promised I'd tell you what happened last weekend.
A group of women walked into a beach house in Florida for the Encounter Retreat and left completely different. Today I'm telling you what God did in that room, what shifted in the women, and the thing He said to me on the beach that I can't stop thinking about.
We cover:
Nervous systems before content, phones down, feet on the floor
How every woman carried a stranger's story all weekend with grace
What actually shifted: women cutting contact, a marriage recommitted to, women intentionally walking into singleness with God, and every one of them using her story to encourage someone else
My own silent question on the beach and the answer God gave me
God is speaking to you. Are you listening? You didn't need to be in that beach house for that to be true.
Email me and tell me what stirred! I read every one.
Let's Connect:
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15 min
September 29159 | Why Doesn't Anything I Try Stick? Safety Comes First
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Why doesn't anything I try stick? I've made the decision a hundred times. I've prayed about it. So why am I still here?
I just got home from the Encounter Retreat, and I'm changing what I planned to record today because every single breakthrough in that beach house happened in the same order, and I want to tell you about it.
Safety in the body and the room IS the work.
We explore:
Presence, regulation, and co-regulation before vulnerability
Be, Do, Have, and why I tried to cut contact for years with a plan when what I needed was an identity
How God does this too. Taking care of your body is part of your design
The order: body → identity → decisions → vision.
Be honest about which level you're on, and do the thing for that level. Not sure what that is? Let's talk!
Let's Connect:
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20 min
September 24158 | On My Way to the Beach House: Will You Pray for Us?
I'm leaving on a jet plane tomorrow. And I have a prayer request.
I’m heading towards a beach house in Florida where a group of women are about to meet God, and I want you in it with us. So today I'm sharing exactly what I'm asking Him for, and praying the same things over you.
What I'm praying:
That every woman there, including me, would have a life-changing encounter with God
That the Holy Spirit would be active, and that we'd recognize and engage with Him
That spiritual chains would break, darkness would be pushed back, and Christ's Kingdom would come a little more on earth as it is in heaven
Ephesians 3:16–21, inner strength through His Spirit, Christ making His home in our hearts, roots growing down into God's love, and the power to experience the love of Christ, not just understand it
And the practical: health, safe travel, and real whole-being rest
Would you pray this weekend? And if you want to send something specific for me to pray for, email me! I'll also be praying for you this weekend.
Let's Connect:
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10 min
September 22157 | The Affair Is Over but My Marriage Feels Empty: Is This as Good as It Gets?
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The affair is over. We did the work. So why does my marriage feel like nothing? Was all of that for nothing?
No. Something is starting, and today I want to show you what it is.
What you're feeling is normal, and almost nobody talks about it. The story we get handed goes: crisis, confession, hard work, restoration. But there's a stretch in between that nobody warned you about, where the emergency lifts and you look up and think I don't know what I'm doing here anymore.
I know this kind of flat because I've lived in it too.
We explore:
Why flatness after affair recovery is the emergency ending, not a verdict on your marriage
The question worth sitting with: are you trying to fit back into a shape you outgrew?
Why you have to grieve the gap between your expectations and your reality before you can build anything new
The identity shift underneath it all: who am I now, and who do I want to show up as?
Be, Do, Have Framework and why most of us live it backwards, waiting on an outcome to tell us who we are
I’d love to hear more about who you want to be in your marriage! Send me an email so I can encourage you along the way!
Let's Connect:
📞 Book your private Breakthrough Call: learn.kristinajoycoaching.com/breakthrough
💌 Email: [email protected]
18 min
September 17156 | What The Wife’s Betrayal Did to Her Husband's Body with GUEST Mike Moulton
⚠️ Content note: Mike shares that in the hours after discovering the affair, he thought about ending his life. He's years past that now, but we want you to know before you press play.
What is my husband actually going through? What does he need that he isn't saying? And what is all of this doing to his body?
Today's guest works on the other side of our story, and I asked him here on purpose.
Mike Moulton coaches men through betrayal and the decisions that follow. In February 2020 he found out his wife was having an affair. Four weeks later the pandemic cost him the job he'd just started. He stayed in his marriage for eighteen months. And seven months after the divorce finalized, he had a near-fatal heart attack.
We explore:
What eighteen months of high cortisol did to him, 25 pounds lost, cigarettes that "became my friends," and a son who said "Dad, I just want you back"
Why sex became about proving his manhood instead of intimacy
How his journey uncovered that his relationship with his father (not the affair) was the core trauma underneath everything
What his heart actually needed during that time- and how it’s the exact answer the women in my community give too
Connect with Mike:
🌐 brilliantlifecollective.com
🎙 The Brilliant Life Podcast on YouTube
Email me and tell me what surprised you. And if you think Mike might be a resource for your husband, reach out! I'm happy to make that connection.
If you're struggling with thoughts of suicide, call or text 988 in the US. Please don't carry that alone.
Let's Connect:
📞 Book your private Breakthrough Call: https://learn.kristinajoycoaching.com/breakthrough
💌 Email: [email protected]
49 min
September 15155 | Am I Too Far Into This or Too Far Past It? Who the Encounter Retreat Is Actually For
🌊 A few seats left. Email me RETREAT and let's chat! (PS- You get 6 months in the Rooted Community for free! 🤭)
Ten days from now, a group of women will walk into a beach house in Florida, and today I'm telling you who's coming, what we're doing there, and the one thing every woman who said yes has in common.
We cover:
Who’s coming: women weeks out from ending an affair and women years removed, women rebuilding their marriages, women separated, women divorced, women hearing from God clearly and women sitting in silence
What we're doing: carving out real time to hear from God, seeking Him with our whole being, and learning to hold grief and joy at the same time
The Encounter Retreat is September 25–27 in Panama City Beach, Florida. A few seats left.
Email me the word RETREAT and let's talk. And even if it's a no, email me and tell me what your next step is in this season! I’d love to cheer you on!
Let's Connect:
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💌 Email: [email protected]
13 min
September 10154 | He Cheated for 15 Years: GUEST Lora Cheadle on What Accountability Looks Like & How She Rebuilt Life And Marriage
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What does real accountability actually look like? What did he do that made staying possible? And how long does rebuilding trust really take?
Twenty-three years into her marriage, Lora Cheadle found out her husband had been unfaithful for fifteen years with five different women. Everything she believed about her life turned out not to be true, and she had to rebuild her identity from the ground up.
She stayed. They did the work. And today she's telling you what actually made that possible, from her side of the story.
Lora is an attorney, TEDx speaker, certified clinical hypnotherapist, and somatic attachment therapist. She's the author of FLAUNT! and It's Not Burnout, It's Betrayal, and she hosts the podcast FLAUNT! Create a Life You Love After Infidelity or Betrayal.
We explore:
"Betrayal uncovers the truth, not just about what somebody else did, but about all the ways you betrayed yourself"
Why vulnerability starts the whole cascade of trust
What he did in the early weeks that mattered most
Trust vs. trustworthy: why "do you trust him?" is the wrong question
An honest conversation about physical intimacy
Revealing yourself vs. being exposed
Connect with Lora:
🎙 Podcast: FLAUNT! Create a Life You Love After Infidelity or Betrayal
🌐 loracheadle.com
📖 Free Betrayal Recovery Guide: betrayalrecoveryguide.com

Email me and tell me what landed! I read every single one and I write back.
Let's Connect:
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💌 Email: [email protected]
30 min
September 08153 | Why Do I Still Feel Guilty After My Affair? Guilt Still Lives in Your Body
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I've confessed. I've repented. I've even forgiven myself. So why do I still feel guilty?
Because guilt keeps sending a bill long after the debt is paid, and it doesn't argue with your theology. It just quietly runs your life.
Today I'm getting specific about what guilt was making me do that I didn't recognize as guilt at the time: believing I was disqualified from serving, making myself small, and saying yes to everything my husband asked because I thought I owed him.
We explore:
Conviction, guilt, and shame- three different things that get tangled, and why guilt is a fork in the road rather than the enemy
The bills I was still paying, and how a life built on debt produces compliance instead of love
Colossians 2:14 and what it means that the record of debt was canceled, not reduced
How to find where guilt is actually living in your body
A practice: locate it, get curious about it, and invite the Holy Spirit to meet that part of you
Why confession is tied to healing, not just forgiveness
Your one step: find where guilt lives in your body. Ask the Holy Spirit what He wants to say to that part of you. Then wait.
And if something comes up that you need to say out loud to another human, email me! Let's get you out of the guilt storm.
Let's Connect:
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💌 Email: [email protected]
22 min
September 03152 | I Sat in Church for Years With No One to Tell: How I Showed Up Differently After My Affair
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Can I go back to church after this? Do I have to tell anyone? What if my church wouldn't handle it well?
There's a specific kind of hard in sitting through a service carrying something nobody in the room knows about. Standing while the music plays, wondering if you have any right to sing the words.
I sat in that for years. Today I'm telling you what finally changed, and the one thing that has to be true before going back actually works.
We explore:
The church where I went through the women by name and couldn't tell a single one
Why "I never doubted God's forgiveness" and "I was terrified of people's opinions" are both true and not the same thing
The one thing that has to be true: not everyone has to know, but someone there does
The four markers that made my pastor and his wife safe, and why "won't rush me" matters as much as "won't condemn me"
An honest word if your church genuinely isn't safe, and the two possibilities worth asking God about
Why you're not a liability in that room
Your one step: name one person at your church who might be safe. You don't have to tell her. Just name her.
Let's Connect:
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19 min
September 01151 | Why Does My Body React Before My Mind Catches Up? What Happens In Your Body When You're Triggered
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Why does my body react before I even know why? Why can't I control this? Shouldn't my faith be enough?
Today I'm telling you about the night I stood in the rain knocking on a door nobody was answering, knowing exactly how irrational it looked and being completely unable to stop.
Here's what was actually happening: sensory information hits your amygdala about half a second before it reaches the thinking part of your brain. Your body makes the call first. Your mind arrives second and builds a story to explain what already happened.
That's not a spiritual failure. That's the equipment God gave you.
We explore:
The half-second gap between your body's decision and your mind's explanation
Why the same system that keeps you alive in real danger fires when his name shows up on a screen
The honest answer to "why isn't Jesus enough?"
Orienting: a somatic body tool you can use the moment you feel the spike
Your one step: next time you're triggered, name what your body did before you judge what you felt. Then look around the room.
Let's Connect:
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💌 Email: [email protected]
20 min

About Intimacy After Infidelity | Cut Contact, Rebuild Trust, Shed Shame, Avoid Divorce, Forgiveness for Adultery

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The go-to podcast for Christian women who are ready to heal their hearts, shed their shame, and come home to freedom in Christ.
Ranked Top 2% Globally

Do you ever wish someone would truly see you, not look past you or through you?
Are you lying awake at night wondering if your marriage can survive infidelity...or if it’s time to let go?
Are you exhausted from Googling answers, trying to fix things, and still feeling unheard, unseen, and stuck in shame

You’re not alone. And you’re in the right place.

This podcast is a sacred, steady space for women navigating betrayal, emotional disconnection, separation, or the aftermath of an affair, who want more than surface-level faith answers. Here, we talk honestly about the heart, the body, the soul, and the brain, and what it actually looks like to let Jesus heal what’s been wounded.

I’m so glad you’re here.

I’m Kristina Joy, forgiven daughter of Jesus, mom, and coach. For years, I tried to break free from my own infidelity through sheer willpower, "doing more," and striving to be better. I read my Bible more. I tried to behave my way into freedom. None of it worked.

Everything changed when I stopped trying to fix myself and allowed Jesus to meet me in the deeper places like my pain, my patterns, my unmet needs. Through prayer, research, embodied healing practices, and new rhythms of truth and grace, I discovered real freedom. Not just from the affair, but from shame, secrecy, and self-abandonment.

On this podcast, you’ll find:

A reminder that your dignity, worth, and identity are not up for debate

Emotional and nervous-system awareness for real transformation

Coaching guidance for clarity, boundaries, communication, and trust

Gentle truth for women deciding what restoration actually means for them

Whether your marriage is being rebuilt or released, you are allowed to heal. You are allowed to choose freedom. You are allowed to become whole.

If you’re ready to:
Stop living in secrecy and self-condemnation
Experience God’s love without fear or striving
Break familiar patterns for good
Live with clarity, strength, dignity, and peace

Then take a breath, find your safe space, and press play.
This is where healing begins and where you come home to yourself, with Jesus.

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Let’s Connect:

📞 Book your private Breakthrough Call: https://learn.kristinajoycoaching.com/breakthrough

💌 Email: [email protected]

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