Kristin Cabot — the woman from the Coldplay Kiss Cam — finally told her side of the story on Oprah's podcast. She was already separated. He told her he was too. But only one of them got death threats, drive-bys, and 500 calls a day.

90% of the hate came from other women. Every single in-person confrontation — a woman.

I talk about what Kristin revealed, the double standard between how she and Andy Byron were treated, why we judge affairs so harshly, and why women tearing down other women is the part of this story that should bother all of us.

This one's a call for collective grace — and a promise to do better.

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There's a stat that gets cited everywhere in the infidelity space — that 56% of men and 34% of women who cheat rate their marriages as happy.

It shows up in therapy blogs, Reddit threads, podcasts, and articles, and it's used to push the narrative that cheating is random and unpredictable.

I'm calling BS. Not on the data itself, but on what people are doing with it.

In this episode, I break down why self-reporting is flawed, why "happy" has become a dangerously low bar, and why I firmly believe that nobody wakes up and decides to have an affair.

I also tie in data from my Ashley Madison episode, challenge myself on my own belief that happiness is a choice, and share why I think the people who actually do the work in their relationships are the ones who don't end up with cracks. If you've ever heard "it could happen to anyone" and thought that sounded like a cop-out — this one's for you.

Related episode: The Truth About Affairs: Sexless Marriages, Emotional Validation, and Modern Love

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I actively choose happiness and joy every single day — and the more I share that, the more it seems to confuse people.

In this episode, I'm getting into the mindset behind everything I do on The Scarlet Edit. Why positivity is my baseline, how my upbringing shaped me in ways that defy the stereotypes people project onto women like me, and the specific moments in my life — from my divorce at 38 to ending a five-year affair to a situationship that wrecked me — that brought me to the decision to stop letting anyone else dictate my emotions.

I also talk about the moment in a hotel bathroom in Greece where I said "I value myself" out loud, why controlling only what I can control has been the single biggest contributor to my happiness, and the origin story of how The Scarlet Edit came to be — from a rough talk at a retreat in Austin to the lightbulb moment that changed everything.

Plus, I address shame head-on, share a wild YouTube comment exchange, and explain why the expectation that I should feel ashamed says more about society than it does about me.

If you've been wondering how to get to the other side of shame, grief, or starting over — this is the episode.

Related episode: The Role of Shame in Divorce, Affairs & Betrayal | Dr. Zoe Shaw

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Ashley Madison just rebranded — and 57% of their new users are single. I break down what that means and why dating app fatigue is pushing people toward discretion.

Then I go somewhere I haven’t gone before: the waiting.

What it actually feels like to wait for a married man to leave his wife. The holidays alone, the phone that doesn’t ring, the stories you tell yourself to make it feel normal, and the moment I finally said I’m done.

If you’ve ever Googled “waiting for a married man to leave” and found nothing but shame and judgment, this episode is for you.

I’m sharing my experience — the real version, not the Reddit version. Because you deserve to hear from someone who’s actually been there.

Key Takeaways

1. Waiting for a married man to leave is one of the most Googled phrases in the affair space — and every top result is shame, judgment, or a sales pitch. This episode exists to change that.
2. The loneliness of being the other woman isn’t just about being alone on holidays. It’s about having the biggest thing in your life and not being able to share it with anyone.
3. “Just leave” is the worst advice you can give someone in this situation. Emotional bonds don’t have an off switch. Instead, leave the door open for her to talk without judgment.
4. The stories we tell ourselves — “he’ll choose me eventually,” “it’s only a matter of time” — feel real because the love feels real. That doesn’t make the situation right for you.
5. You deserve to be chosen from the start. Not eventually. Not after the kids are older. Not after the holidays. From the start.

Related episode: My conversation with Ashley Madison’s Chief Strategy Officer, Paul Keable

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A year ago I was struggling with how to share my story with the world — I was the other woman in a five-year relationship with a married man, while I felt no shame, it was the secret I carried for years. And now, a year into The Scarlet Edit, I realized I've unintentionally put myself in a new kind of box.

This episode is me getting honest about that. I talk about what happened after I shared my biggest secret, why I've been struggling with what to post and how to show up, and how a conversation with my business coach helped some things click into place.

I also read the brand new description I wrote for The Scarlet Edit — and honestly, I got emotional reading it. It finally captures who I am, what this show is, and who it's for.

If you've ever felt like you're more than the one chapter of your life people want to define you by — this one's for you.

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Henry VIII had six wives. One wife for 24 years, then five more in the next 11. He was pursuing the next woman while still married to the current one every single time — and he was running an entire country while doing it. So much for "I'm too busy."

In this episode of Affairs Through the Ages, I'm walking through every wife, every affair, and the pattern that never changed. From the annulment that broke England away from the Catholic Church to the teenager who was beheaded at 18, this story is wild. But what really got me is the women — in a world where they had no legal rights, no property, and no ability to say no to a king, they still found a way to play the game. And some of them played it brilliantly.

I also dig into what was actually going on with Henry — the jousting accident that may have caused a traumatic brain injury, the 32-inch waist that became a 52-inch waist, and how unchecked power turned a golden prince into a tyrant.

In This Episode:

1. Who Henry was before the monster and what changed
2. His mistresses before the six wives (and why they matter)
3. All six wives: the affairs, the strategies, and what each one reveals about Henry
4. The annulment that created the Church of England
5. Why "if he wanted to, he would" has been true for 500 years

Research for this episode draws on biographical and historical sources including Britannica, Historic Royal Palaces, History.com, Royal Museums Greenwich, and published works by Tracy Borman, Elizabeth Norton, Suzannah Lipscomb, Lucy Worsley, David Starkey, and Alison Weir. All commentary and analysis is my own.

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Is Love is Blind actually proving that love IS blind — or is it proving the exact opposite?

After nine completed seasons, the data tells a pretty damning story: 55 engagements, only 14 marriages, and a 43% divorce rate.

In this episode, I break down the surprising parallels between what happens in the pods and how emotional affairs actually work — the deep connections with multiple people, comparing partners, fantasy access, keeping the door cracked open, and what happens when reality finally sets in.

I also unpack why physical attraction matters more than the show wants to admit, call out the double standard between how we judge reality TV behavior vs. real life, and share a raw, unplanned personal revelation about exclusivity in my own past relationship.

Whether you're a Love is Blind fan or not, this episode will make you think differently about emotional connection, fantasy, and what it actually takes for love to survive reality.

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On January 9, 2019, the richest man in the world announced his divorce. One day later, a tabloid story detonated across the internet — exposing a months-long affair between Jeff Bezos and Lauren Sanchez, complete with leaked texts, private jet travel, and a global media frenzy.

In this episode of Affairs Through the Ages, I break down one of the most infamous modern affairs — not to condone it, and not to judge it — but to examine how it unfolded, why it didn’t collapse immediately, and how it became one of the rare affairs that actually turned into marriage.

This episode explores:

1. How Jeff Bezos and Lauren Sanchez met through professional aviation work at Amazon Studios
2. The quiet unraveling of both marriages before the affair became public
3. The role of National Enquirer, alleged blackmail, and the unprecedented Medium post that exposed it all
4. The betrayal that came from inside Lauren Sanchez’s own family
5. Why less than 2% of affairs turn into lasting marriages — and what made this one different

I also examine the broader realities behind affairs that survive public exposure: wealth, timing, maturity, shared interests, clean divorces, and the difference between fantasy and real life once secrecy disappears.

Affairs Through the Ages is a historical and cultural examination of affairs that played out in the public eye — not a defense of infidelity, and not a moral verdict — but an honest look at what actually happens when private relationships collide with power, money, and global scrutiny.

If you’re interested in modern relationships, infidelity, divorce, power dynamics, and what happens after the secret comes out, this series is for you.

Research for this episode includes reporting from The Washington Post, CNN, NBC News, NPR, Fox Business, The Hollywood Reporter, Forbes, Vogue, and The Wall Street Journal. Jeff Bezos's Medium post "No Thank You, Mr. Pecker" provided firsthand account of the blackmail attempt. Additional sources include court documents from the Bezos-Scott and Sanchez-Whitesell divorce proceedings, federal prosecutor statements regarding the National Enquirer investigation, and MacKenzie Scott's philanthropic disclosures via her Giving Pledge commitments and Yield Giving website.

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What do you do when you realize—on your wedding day—that you shouldn’t be getting married?

In this episode of The Scarlet Edit, I sit down with Emily Kuch, a content creator and Pilates instructor, to talk about one of the bravest decisions a person can make: calling off a wedding at the last possible moment.

After nearly ten years together and months of wedding planning, Emily found herself standing in full hair and makeup, overlooking the ocean in Hawaii, facing a truth she couldn’t ignore. Instead of walking down the aisle, she chose herself.

We talk about:

1. Knowing something is wrong but feeling trapped by expectations
2. The pressure of destination weddings, vendors, guests, and sunk costs
3. Trusting your gut when everyone else’s opinions are louder than your own
4. What happens after you call everything off
5. Starting over with no home, no job, and no clear plan
6. Rebuilding identity after a long-term relationship
7. Why talk therapy isn’t always the first or best step
8. Using travel, movement, and discomfort as healing tools
9. Letting go of shame and outside judgment
10. Learning how to make decisions on your own again

This is a conversation about courage, self-trust, and redefining what strength actually looks like when your life doesn’t go according to plan.

If you’ve ever questioned a relationship, stayed because it felt too hard to leave, or wondered what would happen if you chose yourself—this episode is for you.

Get in touch with Emily on TikTok & Instagram

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By the time Ava Gardner was 30, she'd been married three times. In 1950s America, that meant you were supposed to disappear in shame. But Ava didn't disappear—she became a legend.

In this episode of Affairs Through the Ages, I'm diving into Ava Gardner's story. From dirt-poor farm girl in North Carolina to Hollywood icon, from three marriages before 30 to never marrying again—Ava wrote her own rules when the world wanted to write her off.

This isn't just Frank Sinatra's affair story. This is about what Ava was searching for, why even "the love of her life" wasn't enough to make her stay, and how she became The Scarlet Edit OG before this podcast even existed.

In This Episode:

1. Ava's journey from Grabtown, North Carolina to MGM at 18
2. Marriage #1: Mickey Rooney and learning fame ≠ faithfulness
3. Marriage #2: Artie Shaw and refusing to be someone's project
4. The Frank Sinatra affair and what it meant to be the other woman
5. Why she left the "love of her life" and never married again
6. Living loudly with insecurity and rewriting the narrative

Key Takeaway: Figuring out what you don't want is just as important as figuring out what you do. Sometimes the most courageous thing you can do is keep leaving until you find yourself.

Research for this episode draws on biographical sources including Ava Gardner's autobiography, published biographies, and archival interviews. All commentary and analysis is my own.

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