Have you ever wondered when the right time is to start couples therapy? Maybe you’re worried about what might come up, or whether it’s only for when things get really bad. In this episode, I break down the common fears around couples therapy and share why it can be beneficial long before things reach a crisis point. Whether you're curious about how couples therapy works or how to talk to your partner about going, this episode is packed with helpful insights.

I’ll cover what to expect when you walk into a couples therapy session, why it’s not just about airing your "dirty laundry," and how therapy can help you and your partner better understand each other, communicate more effectively, and feel more connected.

Key Takeaways:

• Couples therapy isn’t just for crises: It can be preventative and help you build a stronger relationship, even if things aren’t "bad."
• What to expect in your first session: I explain how I use an in-depth four-session assessment process to understand both individuals and the relationship.
• Common reasons couples seek therapy: From communication issues to navigating parenthood, sex and intimacy, or recovering from an affair—there are many reasons to consider therapy.
• Misunderstandings around couples therapy: We address the fear that one partner will be blamed, and how a therapist’s role is to facilitate understanding, not take sides.
• How to approach your partner about therapy: I share tips on how to start the conversation without making it feel like an attack or an ultimatum.
• Practical tools to improve communication: Learn how shifting from criticism to collaboration can change the dynamic of your relationship for the better.
• Working on your relationship solo: You can still go to therapy alone to work on yourself and your relationship if your partner isn’t ready or willing to join.

Resources:

• The Therapy Hub
• Gottman Institute - Resources on relationships and couples therapy
• Eight Dates book by Drs. John and Julie Gottman: A great read for couples looking to strengthen their relationship.

This episode is perfect for anyone who’s ever thought about couples therapy but wasn’t sure where to start or how to bring it up with their partner. By the end, you’ll have a clearer idea of what couples therapy can offer and why it could be the best step forward for your relationship.

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