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Are you curious about what makes a marriage truly happy? In this video, we dive deep into the key factors that can predict marital happiness and overall life satisfaction. Our expert guest explores extensive research, revealing the surprising elements that contribute to a joyful and fulfilling marriage.

📊 Research Highlights:

 • Various surveys, including Gallup, General Social Survey, and the American Family Survey.
 • How good marriage surpasses education, money, work, and even sexual frequency in predicting happiness.

💡 Key Predictors of Marital Happiness:

 • Regular date nights and emotional engagement.
 • Strong sense of commitment and shared religious activities.
 • The protective nature of a spouse, particularly significant for women.

💔 Marriage Myths Debunked:

 • The “Soulmate Myth” and its impact on marital expectations.
 • Understanding that marriage is about more than just intense romantic or emotional connections.
 • Appreciating the broader goods realized in marriage, such as financial security, family, and support.

📈 Challenges and Realism:

 • Young adults’ high expectations and the fear of not having all their ducks in a row.
 • The importance of maturity and realistic views on marriage and parenthood.
 • The benefits of marrying in your 20s, including higher happiness rates and less emotional baggage.

Join us as we unravel the secrets to a happy marriage and debunk common myths that might be holding you back. Whether you’re married, engaged, or just curious about what makes a lasting and joyful union, this guide will provide valuable insights and practical advice.

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Are you looking to strengthen your marriage or learn more about the current state of marriage in America? Join Kimberly Beam Holmes and sociologist Dr. Brad Wilcox for an insightful discussion on It Starts With Attraction!

In this episode, they debunk common myths about marriage and explore the benefits of strong, stable unions. Dr. Wilcox dives into data on marriage trends, discussing the decline in divorce rates and the correlation between religion and family stability. They also address the challenges couples face today, including unemployment and unrealistic expectations. Kimberly Beam Holmes leaves the episode on a hopeful note, emphasizing that there is hope for a great marriage regardless of religion, social status, or background. She encourages couples to communicate openly and work together through tough times.

Key takeaways you will learn:
• The importance of spending quality time together as a couple
• How shared values and religious beliefs can contribute to marital happiness
• Practical tips for communicating effectively during unemployment
• Why marriage requires sacrifice and working together to meet each other's needs

Feeling discouraged about marriage? Kimberly Beam Holmes offers words of encouragement, reminding listeners that there is always hope, and a pathway to a fulfilling marriage.

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Is that afternoon slump hitting you hard? You might be parched! This episode dives DEEP into hydration, caffeine, and electrolytes. Kimberly Beam Holmes breaks down why water is SO important, from flushing toxins to keeping your brain sharp.

Here's what you'll learn:

• The TRUTH about thirst: Is it the only sign of dehydration? We reveal the sneaky symptoms that hinder peak performance. It might surprise you!
• 2 Types of Dehydration: We unveil the difference between intracellular and extracellular dehydration and how it affects you.
• How much water YOU ACTUALLY need: Ditch the "8 glasses a day" myth! (It depends on your weight, activity level, and even climate!) We'll teach you how to personalize your hydration plan.
• Coffee Blues? We explore how caffeine impacts hydration and debunk some common myths.
• Electrolytes 101: Are they just for athletes? We explain why electrolytes are crucial for EVERYONE and how they impact your exercise performance.

Smash dehydration and unlock your body's peak performance! Hit that play button and get ready to LEVEL UP your health! Learn how to optimize your hydration, ditch the fatigue, and feel your best all day long!

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How Digital Fasting Can Change Your Life

Are you addicted to your smartphone? Do you find yourself constantly checking your phone, even when you know there's nothing new to see? If so, you're not alone. In this episode of It Starts With Attraction, Kimberly Beam Holmes talks to Darren Whitehead, a pastor and author of The Digital Fast, about how to break free from smartphone addiction and live a more fulfilling life.

Darren shares his own personal experience with smartphone addiction and how he led his church through a digital fast. He also discusses the negative effects of smartphone use on relationships, mental health, and even brain development in toddlers.

If you're ready to take back control of your life from your smartphone, this episode is for you. Darren Whitehead will share practical tips on how to do a digital fast and create a healthier relationship with technology.

In this episode, you'll learn:
• How to identify if you have a smartphone addiction
• The negative effects of smartphone use on your life
• How to do a digital fast
• How to create a healthier relationship with technology
• What are the four areas of attraction and how do they relate to your overall well-being?
• How can you apply the principles of digital fasting to your own life?

Don't miss this episode! It could change your life.

Today's Guest: Darren Whitehead

Originally from Australia, Darren has lived in the United States for over 25 years. In 2013, he founded Church of the City, now with several locations across Nashville. He earned his Masters in Ministry from Wesley Seminary and his Doctorate from Capital Seminary and Graduate School, with his dissertation focus on Mil- lennials and the future of the Western church. Darren’s previous books include, Rumors of God (co-authored with Jon Tyson) and Holy Roar (co-authored with Chris Tomlin).

Darren lives with his wife, Brandy, and their three daughters in Franklin, Tennessee.

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Scott Harrison was living a life of desolation and despair? Drowning in a sea of empty pleasures, his soul craved something more. Witness a powerful transformation, a journey from the depths of despair to a life-saving mission. Scott Harrison, once a high-powered nightclub promoter, unveils the dark secrets of his past and the rock bottom that forced him to confront his reality. But from the ashes rose a burning passion to change the world.

Join us as we delve into the story behind Charity Water, an organization dedicated to bringing clean water to millions in need. Discover how Scott Harrison found redemption and ignited a global movement that's transforming lives.

This is a story of hope, of finding purpose in the face of immense pain. It's a testament to the human spirit's ability to rise above and make a difference. Prepare to be inspired!

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Welcome to AMA #2! In this episode, we dive deep into “The Secret to Setting Realistic Goals for Success.” But we don't JUST cover goal setting. We also cover how to increase your emotional attraction, how to say no, and my favorite Bible passages! Whether you’re aiming to improve your health, career, marriage, or personal life, this episode is for you.

What if you could rekindle the emotional spark in your marriage and set your days up for unparalleled success? This episode offers a treasure trove of advice, starting with practical tips on cultivating emotional attraction with your spouse. Through direct communication and intentional actions, you'll learn how to evoke cherished emotions and make your partner feel truly loved. We share personal anecdotes and examples, emphasizing the importance of consistent effort and open dialogue in nurturing a strong emotional bond.

Mornings set the tone for your entire day, and we're here to help you make the most of them. By sharing insights on developing a morning routine tailored to your goals, we underscore the power of intentional habits. Whether it's a brisk walk with your dog, a nutritious breakfast, or a moment of meditation, discover how these routines can significantly boost productivity and well-being. Drawing from Jason's own experiences, we provide a roadmap for crafting a morning that aligns with your personal aspirations.

Explore the essence of spiritual attraction and alignment through the PISE framework—Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual aspects. We delve into the importance of living authentically and in accordance with your core values, sharing personal stories and biblical examples to illustrate how spiritual alignment enhances both personal fulfillment and relationship dynamics. Additionally, we touch on the joys and challenges of parenting, highlighting the invaluable lessons our children teach us and the importance of intentional connections. Join us for a heartfelt discussion that aims to inspire and uplift.

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Ready to stop feeling frustrated and start feeling fulfilled in your relationship? Join Kimberly Beam Holmes and producer, Jason Marcum, for this insightful and empowering episode!

This episode of It Starts With Attraction dives deep into the research on what truly makes relationships tick , and more importantly, what makes them fizzle out.  We'll crack the code on the biggest relationship dissatisfiers, and Kimberly Beam Holmes offers 5 actionable tips you can use TODAY to build stronger, healthier connections with everyone in your life, from your spouse to your parents to your best friend. 

In this episode, you'll learn:

* The key ingredients of a healthy relationship (according to science!) 

* The 4 Horsemen of the Relationship Apocalypse (and how to avoid them!) 

* 5 powerful strategies to boost your relationship satisfaction  ✨

* Why forgiveness is a gift to YOURSELF, not your partner   

* How a strong relationship can actually improve your physical and mental health

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Unlock the Secrets to 95% of Communication with Dr. David Matsumoto
Ever wondered how much of what we say is actually *not* said? Join us as relationship expert Kimberly Beam Holmes dives deep into the fascinating world of nonverbal communication with renowned psychologist Dr. David Matsumoto.

In this eye-opening conversation, they uncover the power of facial expressions, micro-expressions, and body language in building attraction, trust, and deeper connections. Discover how to navigate complex emotions like anger and contempt in your relationships, and learn the surprising truth about empathy across cultures.

Who is this for?
- Anyone curious about the hidden language of emotions and relationships.
- Those seeking to improve their communication skills and understanding of others.
- Individuals interested in the science behind attraction and connection.
- Professionals looking to enhance their ability to read and interpret nonverbal cues.
- Couples wanting to deepen their understanding of each other and resolve conflict effectively.

Don't miss this opportunity to gain valuable insights into the often-overlooked aspects of communication that can transform your personal and professional relationships.

Today’s Speaker - Dr. David Matsumoto

Dr. David Matsumoto, Director of Humintell, is a renowned expert in the field of microexpressions, facial expression, gesture, nonverbal behavior, emotion and culture. He has published over 400+ articles, manuscripts, book chapters and books on these subjects.

Since 1989 Matsumoto has been a Professor of Psychology at San Francisco State University. He is also the founder and director of SFSU’s Culture and Emotion Research Laboratory. The laboratory focuses on studies involving culture, emotion, social interaction and communication.  

In 2009, Matsumoto was one of the select few to receive the prestigious Minerva Grant; a $1.9 million grant from the US Department of Defense to examine the role of emotions in ideologically-based groups. 

Matsumoto first began studying psychology at the University of Michigan at Ann Arbor, where he received his Bachelors Degree. He obtained his Masters and Doctorate Degrees in Psychology from the University of California at Berkeley.

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Join Kimberly Beam Holmes for a heartwarming conversation with her amazing mother, Alice Beam!

Alice is the heart and soul behind Marriage Helper, but her journey to becoming a pillar of support for countless couples wasn't always easy. In this candid interview, Alice opens up about the challenges of raising three very different daughters, but brings a completion to their family dynamic.
But life threw Alice a curveball when her seemingly perfect marriage fell apart with Dr. Joe Beam. We'll hear about the devastating impact it had on her and her daughters, and the immense strength it took to rebuild her life.

This episode explores:
The joys and difficulties of raising daughters with unique personalities
How to navigate divorce and rebuild your life after divorce
The difficult decision to reconcile and the power of forgiveness
The journey of marital restoration within their marriage with Dr. Joe Beam
The importance of family traditions and legacy
Alice's story is one of resilience, faith, and the unwavering love of a mother. 

It's a reminder that even in the face of heartbreak, there's always hope for marital restoration and reconciliation, and that love can endure even the most difficult challenges.

Don't miss this inspiring episode!

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Are you dragging through your days, feeling sluggish, irritable, and unable to focus? You might be one of the millions suffering from chronic sleep deprivation. But don't despair! Kimberly Beam Holmes and Producer, Jason, take you on a fascinating journey from sleep-deprived to energized, sharing  personal sleep struggles and the science-backed solutions that can transform your life.

In this eye-opening episode, learn about:
- The shocking effects of sleep deprivation on your brain, body, and mental health.
- How to track your sleep and uncover the hidden culprits sabotaging your rest.
- Simple strategies to optimize your sleep environment, bedtime routine, and daily habits for deeper, more restorative sleep.
- The powerful connection between sleep, weight management, mood regulation, and even dementia risk.

Who this is for:
Anyone who feels constantly tired and worn down.
People struggling with focus, decision-making, or emotional control.
Those interested in improving their overall health and well-being.
Individuals seeking natural, actionable solutions for better sleep.

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