Kate Hastings Show

Why do we destroy the very things we want in life ? Why do we want love yet take all the wrong actions towards fulfilling that desire ?

What if the things you struggle to acknowledge in others you lack within yourself?

What if every failed relationship is just a reflection of the relationship with yourself?

@coachkate1

Just like our physical health, everyone has mental health. Mental health and physical health go hand in hand, I believe that having one without the other and the meaning we assign to it is where I see the disconnect.

Physical health is the state and functioning of your entire body, and mental health is the state of your emotions, mind and over all daily feelings.

'Mental health' and 'mental illnesses are being used as if they mean the same thing, but they are not. Mental illness can be classified as things like depression, anxiety, bi-polar, eating disorders etc.

Our mental health boils down to our ability to solve problems, overcome difficulties, make meaningful connections, regulate/understand our emotions, thoughts and feelings.

"Great" mental health isn't about feeling pumped every day and super confident 100% of the time, it's a daily watering of your highest self. It's about learning how to be compassionate and understanding yourself while developing the habits, systems and copping skills that work towards maintaining your mental health/illness at an optimal level.

Mental health looks like …..

Getting outside

Doing what you love

Speaking to friends/family

Challenging yourself/growing

Being vulnerable

Work towards your goals/ purpose

Developing healthy coping skills

Understanding your subconscious programing

Healing trauma

Being in a healthy relationship with yourself and others

Exercise

Treating yourself with respect and honor

Being in empowering environments

Support

Sticking up for yourself and others

Developing a belief and value system that works for you

Sex/sleep

Community

Blood work

Helping others

Your food

Creativity

Travel

Therapy

Reading educated yourself

Alternative therapy

Setting boundaries

Healthy Communication skills

The list can go on and on …

This is mental health.

There is nothing wrong with mental health or illness. Mental health is a lifestyle

To see a therapist or to get help is like having a coach for your mind!

Tune into this episode!!!!

IG: coachkate1

We live in a world full of beauty standards defined by external factors like the media and society. Have you ever stopped to think what beauty standards you are personally following and why?

Realizing there is a subconscious programing, that we were either born into or inherited by our external environments that shaped our thinking. Why are we following a standards that have nothing to do with our personal beliefs, values and level of standards? How can you truly be happy by living and viewing beauty through a collective standard? Think about it....

I believe when you begin to question, de-program and re-program yourself to your own definition of what beauty is, you can reduce the amount of suffering and the limited views we've constructed towards this false sense of reality.

The beauty industry is a multi-billion dollar industry that counts on our weak minds, insecurities and drives us to distort ourselves to fit into some image of 'perfection' that will never be attainable.

Tune in!

@coachkate1

I love speaking in metaphors and this episode is all about when you choose to pave your own path in life. We are all on this journey called life, right? Every day we are working towards something and there is a path to that goal.

The path others expect of us, or the path you know that's driven from your internal GPS.

When you see roadblocks do you see a STOP signs or opportunities?

When you have to make a detour do you use it to your advantage or keep going in the wrong direction?

Have you ignored your check engine light that's been on for the last 100 mile?

You can't fill your tank up half way and expect to go the distance.

Most motivation crumples under any test of hardship or adversity.

Motivation is unreliable due the fact it relies mostly on emotions and external forces generating it. Motivation makes you feel like you can do something for the time being. While being driven keeps you in the game for the long run.

Being driven is different. It's an obsession that consumes you to act regardless of your circumstances or feelings. It's a pull not a push. It's choosing something outside of how you feel due to the fact you see the larger picture. Drive can't be bought or sold.

It means that even after you've arrived at your destination, you still won't stop….. ever.

By challenging your current beliefs through action, will you begin to conquer your limiting beliefs.

I think how anyone got from point A – to B wasn't by thinking alone, it was by taking action. Or else we would all close our eyes and be millionaires with a 6 pack by now.

How do you build confidence? You do things that require you to be confident.… and eventually you become that.

Of course, the mental aspect is just as important but where most people get stopped is in their minds. So it only goes that far….

The solution to that roadblock is getting beyond the mind and how do you do that? Action...

The way to building lasting habits is focusing on creating a new identity first rather than the goal. Your current behaviors, belief system and mindsets are a reflection of your current identity. What you do now is a mirror image of the type of person you believe that you are, consciously or subconsciously.

To transform your behavior for good, you need to start believing new things about yourself and what's possible for you.

"I want to lose weight"

"I want to lose 20 pounds"

These goals are centered around our performance or our appearance.

Performance and appearance goals are great to strive towards , but they aren't the same as habits.

Here in this podcast I share my life after Ayahuasca. Its been 90 days since I've gotten back from Peru and the trip truly begins when you get home.

Ayahuasca, although miraculous, is not a cure. She does not prevent us from having to face what we have avoided until we sit with her. She can only open the door. We still have to walk through it. Tune in to how I've been walking through the doors that have been opened for me and the ups and downs after Ayahuasca.

My overall experience was life-changing and profound.

It was when returning to "real" life that I was faced with what the plant showed me and for the healing to integrate I must become more conscious and make different choices daily. Creating new patterns of behavior and new ways of being is vital and it's not easy lol Everyone's experience is different I'm here to share my personal experience.

Nothing could be more beautiful & difficult, more terrifying, more mind-blowingly challenging than facing our own demons and shadows; the subconscious traumas and programs that create our limiting beliefs are the core of our suffering.

Once we are more in touch with our needs and values, we can actively align our lives to honor our values and meet our needs, using them to guide our behavior so that we are able to live more fulfilling and meaningful lives.

Simply taking a moment to ask yourself what they are ?

So ask yourself: What are my needs? What are my personal prerequisites for happiness? Not what the commercials or your friends are telling you. What is your soul telling you?

Do you need more creativity, passion, fun? More time in nature? Less stress?

Once you've started discovering what your needs are, check in with yourself often. Are your needs being met right now? If not, how can you make that happen?

How do you handle failure? It is human to fail. It is human to make mistakes. So why do we shame and avoid it? Knowing how you handle failure is just as important as reaching success. Get clear about what you consider to be success first, and make sure that it's your concept, not your what your friends and family think success is. Failing is life's way of showing you that you need to improve, grow and shift your approach. But keep your goal and aim the same. It's not about how big or small the failure is but how you react, respond, and process the result. Trying to minimize your feelings or distract yourself can be counter-productive in the longer term. One reason why some people find failure devastating is that their identity is tied up in succeeding. They view the failure as who they versus an external result.