Kate Hastings Show

Find an excuse to win, not to loose. The distance between where you are right now and where you really want to go can be measured by the amount of excuses you make or don't make. Our brains are wired to keep us safe, and making excuses sounds rational to keep us out of harms way. Thank goodness we have the instinct to avoid dangerous situations, but it also keep most people from not really going after what they want. A tiger chasing you and you opening a new business, the same alert goes off in our brain. People say things like… I'll stay in my 9-5 job because I have health insurance. Meanwhile your health is deteriorating because you hate what you do. But you convince yourself it's safer to stay, because of the security, and pursuing your purpose then feels unsafe. God didn't created humans to only live for health insurance. Making excuses is a habit. One excuse creates a landslide of more excuses. This is the power of repetition. You don't become unhealthy overnight. Just like you don't become successful overnight either. Skipping the gym one night turns into another and then your long lost second cousins needs a favor and you can't go again. You learn a whole lot about yourself when you dig deeper into your excuses. What's really there? Challenge yourself and keep asking quality questions until you get to the root. Typically it's a negative core belief that's running the show. Making excuses is saying no to yourself and the situation even before you get started. Say yes and find an excuse to win!

Wouldn't you like to stop negative thinking? I know it's unpredictable and hard to control the thoughts that pop into our head. It's easy for people to say, "think positive" don't be a negative Nancy, do your affirmations and all will be well…. No one said ever! Then you feel bad for thinking negatively and the vicious circle continues. I believe it's more than negative thinking, it's a daily story you identify with. When I was little they diagnosed me with multiple learning disabilities 🙄and I created a story about how I was stupid & incapable I was until about 21. I believed and identified so deeply with this story my entire life was a reflection of this one story. It took many years to deconstruct that story through rewriting my own. Not what a test or teacher said about me. And definitely not just sitting in a room thinking thoughts like, "I am smart." When you don't identify as smart person there is a gap, it's as if you are speaking another language. Your brain and body doesn't register it. What's the secret?

Choose your struggles rather than letting them choose you. Everyone's got struggles. We assume we should struggle less, but we actually need to reframe that. We need to struggle better. Life is about choosing which problem, which struggle is worth it, and then going for it. Most people only know what to do when things are going good, not necessarily when shit hits the fan. The people who are most resilient and handle struggle the best actually go further in achieving their goals. When you keep hitting a wall you build upon it to see higher, not as a roadblock. When you choose to struggle for something that's meaningful and hard it becomes a personal gain. There's no easy way to know what struggle to choose you just have to start somewhere. Getting used to struggle has practical benefits, too. In any goal, you are going to run into setbacks, failures and disappointments. And having the skills to be able to deal with that struggle effectively will keep you on the path moving forward.

Wouldn't it be nice if we were just automatically born with our winning formula fully operating and functioning as adults…?

The winning formula for self-love, great relationships, money, mindset, health, career etc.

Doing the right things, experiencing continuous progress, having the characteristic of being driven, disciplined and motivated. Wouldn't that be nice….

Well, that's not reality.😂

We all have this villain voice in our head that tells us daily we are not good enough, not capable, stay comfortable, you belong in toxic environments, you are your past failures, and even the people closest to us may be drilling holes in our boat not realizing we need a new crew.

I get it you've tried everything as far as diet, exercise, new relationships, careers but everywhere you go there you are with the same results, with what I call failing backwards.

There's this battle within you can't seem to conquer and overcome, filled with resistance, defeat, overwhelm, guilt and shame.

I totally get it and I've been there it's taking me years to come to place I am a today, mentally, and physically and it wasn't because I was smart and healthy it was the complete opposite.

I use to love doing the same things repeatedly over and over again expecting a different result. I was a pro at that.🤪

Your new formula won't work with a new boyfriend, new job, new diet, and new work out plan why ….

Because you haven't addressed and destroyed your current losing formula.

The diet and workout plan won't work unless you do, mentally and physically. It's a system not one component.

What is a formula? a list of ingredients just like any recipe.

What's your recipe?

You don't set out to make a pumpkin pie with pineapples expecting it to look and taste correctly.

You not only add sh*t to the recipe that doesn't belong, but you get upset when you see and experience the results…. That's what most people do with their health goals.

Constantly in denial masking pumpkin pie with pineapples ….

Nobody feels like a champ about who they are 100% of the time... "Ill do it when I'm feeling healthy" "I'll start tomorrow" "When I have the money" "I'll start after the weekend" How many times have you heard this? How many times have you said it to yourself? It's easy to forget that we don't have endless "tomorrows". Days become weeks… Weeks become months… Months become years… And there you are... still the same person mentally & physically when you first said the excuse. If you keep putting off the things you need to do for yourself and health… You'll never become that version of yourself you've always dreamed of. The game is to become aware... Understand why you feel that way... And work to improve the areas you aren't satisfied with. Attack, burn, and destroy those parts. Don't just accept your shortcomings as if there is something wrong with you... There are things messed up with all of us... But you need to understand this... Your life/health is an ongoing project.... A marathon... Start taking action NOW instead of putting it off until "tomorrow"... Tomorrow is for the knuckle draggers....

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Understanding your automatic ways of facing the good, happy, sad and bad can be a game changer.

When you face anything with purpose and intention you will have leverage and empowerment. Not falling to the actions and reactions of your unconscious thoughts behaviors and emotions will better help you face yourself and circumstances.

A lot of times we react and face things like they will be forever but in reality, it's just adapting to the tempory environment feelings emotions and circumstance enough to get you by with ease and grace.

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You don't get an award for just showing up for yourself in life, it's what we are created to do. But why is it so hard ? I've come up with this concept and mentality to help shift the mindset to showing up for yourself is just who you are nothing special to "deserve" a reward. Eating healthy and being able to exercise is a privilege not an action to take in order to get.

It can make us vulnerable, expose our weaknesses and set us up for failure. But even more frightening is what happens when we choose to avoid adversity. Without adversity we cannot learn, we cannot grow and we cannot find out what our true limitations are. Choosing to rise to the challenge of adversity is not easy, but it can be done. If you break up the huge challenge that you are taking on into small, manageable chunks, you will find the process less overwhelming. You will gain confidence with each step you take towards your goal. Then, eventually, you may just make your own masterpiece.