對於男友睡前喝酒的習慣，大部分的人聽到都認為男友基本上就是有酒癮。但是原 po 這位女生不認同，他認為大家反應過度，而且一下跳太遠。為什麼睡前喝點就就被說成是酒癮呢？First, I’d like to address the comments accusing my boyfriend of being an alcoholic, being abusive, accusing me of lying about how happy I am in the relationship. You are fucking crazy. What a leap. He functions just fine without alcohol and I’ve seen him go weeks without it. He doesn’t need alcohol to fall asleep. He drinks after work because that’s how he likes to unwind.

房間裡真的很冷，所以我想把棉被拿回來，但他把我的手推開。我不想叫醒他，但他比我強壯很多，無論我怎麼努力，我就是無法把毯子拿回來。It was really cold in the room so I tried to take it back, but he grabbed my hand and shoved it away. I didn’t want to have to wake him up but he’s a lot stronger than me and no matter what I tried to do I just couldn’t get the blanket back.

網友提問：我需要擔心我的男朋友嗎？他半夜睡著後很容易會對我發脾氣，還會罵我髒話，但是他醒著的時候是個非常好的男生。I need to preface this by saying that when my boyfriend is awake, he is wonderful and I couldn’t be happier. We laugh and joke all day and spending time with him in general is truly a joy.

建立愛情是需要努力的，就跟英文一樣。所以在今天的內容，我們完整複習整段長久愛情聽力。So, you know, there, what we hope to see if people practice this every day for seven days, is that from before they started it to the end of the week, they'll see a little bit of change, maybe s…, little something feels different.

No, instead, that you're learning how to do something a little different that deepens the friendship, deepens emotional intimacy, which of course opens up to you know what, you know, more sexual intimacy, and helps you when you have to talk about conflict.

你有問過伴侶的夢想嗎？除了表達對彼此的喜好，另一個很重要的事情是詢問伴侶的夢想。對方想要什麼、想感受什麼、想體驗什麼？這些都是可以讓彼此感情更好的技巧。Another one is honoring each other's dreams, so talk about what maybe deeply held dream you have for something you want to do, something you want to experience, something you want to feel, whatever it is.

試著不要對伴侶指責，也不要跟對方說自己不喜歡對方做的事情，而是試著用讚美的方式溝通。讓對方知道如果他收拾會讓你很高興，而不要責罵對方為什麼都不幫忙。Talking about your needs, with one another, what do you need and we emphasize you should bring up your needs as a positive need rather than a negative need. And what that means is that you ask for what you do want, not what you don't like, or you resent. Don't bring that up, because that's going to sound like criticism.

跟伴侶的相處模式可以有三種方式：Turning towards, turning away, turning against，當你另一半跟你講話的時候，你是 turning toward 試著接他的話，還是 turning away 不理會他，或是最差的選項 turning against 請他安靜？So, you know, in our apartment lab where we saw 130 newlywed couples and followed them for six years, we discovered that a lot of times when they're just kind of hanging out in this apartment lab, one person will try to get the other person's attention or share something humorous, or, you know, some interesting story that they've heard or are reading about.

想跟另一半建立良好的關係，其中第一個重要的就是 being nice to each other。除此之外，就是要能夠表達對彼此的喜歡，讓另一半知道你認為他很迷人。So one of the things is being nice to one another. So giving your partner compliments, you know, catching your partner doing something right and, and communicating that, communicating respect and affection in words, letting your partner know how attractive they are to you and how irresistible they seem at times. You know, those that kind of positivity is very, very critical.

很多人以為正確的睡眠習慣就是早睡早起，睡滿八小時。但是越來越多研究發現其實每個人的睡眠習慣都不一樣，有的人六、七小時的睡眠就夠，有的人需要十幾小時。有的人可以早睡早起，有的人偏好晚睡晚起，睡眠其實是很看個人的，所以不需要認為自己一定要根據大家的習慣。可以試著探索，找到最適合自己的規律。