In this episode, Ann shares a deeply personal journey that began in the hallways of all-girls schools in Kenya, where curiosity, identity, and faith collided. She speaks openly about being labelled and isolated for exploring her identity, how her family and community reacted, and the painful but powerful road that led her back to self-acceptance and healing.

This story is a reminder of how silence and misunderstanding can wound but also how courage, honesty, and grace can rebuild us.
Listen now to hear Ann’s journey of becoming through shame, silence, and ultimately, self-acceptance.

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In this moving episode of For Mannerless Women, Adelle Onyango sits down with Apondi a life coach and relationship minister for a raw, intergenerational conversation on womanhood, freedom, and authenticity.Apondi opens up about the importance of financial independence as a form of agency, the never-ending work of setting and protecting boundaries, and how authenticity can irritate toxic people who prefer conformity.

She also challenges how we socialize both girls and boys unpacking how neglecting the boy child harms everyone and reminds us that growth never ends.
This is an episode about reclaiming power, choosing dignity, and living unashamedly as your fullest self.Listen, reflect, and share with every woman learning to live on her own terms.

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This week on The Mid Week Tease, Adelle unpacks the part of healing we rarely talk about, the loneliness that comes with growth. When you start choosing yourself, setting boundaries, and evolving, it’s easy to feel like you’ve lost your people. But often, that loneliness is a sign that you’re shedding what no longer aligns with your peace. In this episode, Adelle explores:

💭 The quiet grief of outgrowing people
🌱 The in-between season between who you were and who you’re becoming
❤️ Why choosing yourself can feel like abandonment
🌻 How to find new forms of belonging that match your healed self

If your healing feels isolating right now, this episode will remind you that solitude isn’t punishment, it’s preparation.

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In part two of Steve's story, we journey through one of the most vulnerable seasons of his life, navigating his newborn son Zayn’s medical crisis, multiple surgeries, and the weight of financial strain. Steve opens up about the reality of asking for help, what fatherhood has taught him about presence, and how that season reshaped his view on love, faith, and masculinity.
This is a story about courage in vulnerability, partnership in pain, and the quiet strength it takes to keep going. In this episode, you’ll hear:

• The emotional and financial weight of a child’s medical emergency.
• What it means to ask for help and let go of ego.
• Fatherhood, faith, and learning to be fully present.
• Deep gratitude for community and love that sustains through crisis.
• The transformation that happens when hardship forces reflection.

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This week on For Mannerless Women, Adelle sits down with Veronica, founder of The Ova Circle and a certified menopause workplace coach, to unpack what it really means to thrive through menopause. Veronica opens up about her personal journey, from confusing symptoms and dismissive doctors to discovering perimenopause, finding her voice, and building a thriving community for women going through the same. She breaks down the gaps in healthcare, the power of holistic approaches, and why it’s time for workplaces to become menopause-friendly. Together, Adelle and Veronica explore:

• The difference between menopause and perimenopause.
• How shame and silence isolate women in this phase.
• Building a toolkit that actually supports you, from lifestyle changes to medical options.
• Why African women’s menopause stories must be centered in our data and media.
• Refusing to disappear, aging loudly, proudly, and mannerlessly.

If you’ve ever felt unseen or unprepared for this phase of womanhood, this episode will leave you informed, validated, and inspired.

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This week on The Midweek Tease, Adelle opens up about a phase most women move through quietly: the luteal phase. That stretch of time before your period when energy dips, sensitivity heightens, and the world feels a little heavier. She unpacks what’s happening in your body, the pressure society puts on women to perform consistently, and how we can meet ourselves with grace instead of guilt. You’ll learn:
🌙 What the luteal phase really is and how it affects your emotions
💛 Why “doing less” is not a sign of weakness but of wisdom
🕯️ How to adjust your rhythm, rest intentionally, and respond kindly to your body

🎟️ Wellness Talk Alert:
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💡 Building sustainable income streams
💬 Setting money boundaries
⚖️ Cultivating emotional wellness around money
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In part one of Steve Ataru’s story, we journey through Nairobi childhoods, the pressure of “golden opportunities,” and the courage it takes to start over. The moment that anchors this episode is raw and unforgettable: Steve’s newborn, Zayn, suddenly needs surgery and his wife’s intuition is the compass that saves precious time. This is a story about choosing alignment over approval, and learning to trust the wisdom right beside you. In this episode, you’ll hear:

• Growing up across Eastlands, Juja, and Lang’ata, and how environments shape resilience.
• Leaving a partial scholarship in Russia to return home and begin again.
• Surviving the in-between: hustling, odd jobs, and rebuilding identity through creativity.
• Dating, intention, and choosing partnership on purpose.
• A mother’s intuition: the Sunday morning crisis that led to Zayn’s surgery, and how it changed Steve’s outlook on partnership and parenting.

Upcoming Wellness Talk: Saturday October 25
We’re hosting a special session with Susan Wanjiku (The Legacy Hub, SHE-E-O):
Smart Money Strategies for Entrepreneurs & Freelancers.
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• Building financial systems that support calm (not chaos)
• Mindset shifts to repair your money relationship
• Practical tools for irregular income, paying yourself, and planning rest
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In this powerful episode of For Mannerless Women, Adelle Onyango sits down with Wambui Wanjau, a home-birthing midwife and birth doula, to unpack the truths about pregnancy and birthing that too many women are never told. From being shouted at in delivery rooms to the calm of candlelit births, Wambui shares her journey across Kenya, Finland, and Australia, and what she’s learned about how women can reclaim power in one of life’s most sacred experiences. This episode dives deep into:

• Why so many women feel unseen and unheard during childbirth
• How to listen to and trust your body during pregnancy
• The real importance of calcium, vitamin D, and nutrition
• How partners can truly support new mothers
• The emotional realities of postpartum life
• What it really means to have a doula and create a birth plan that centers you

This is an honest, soulful conversation about pregnancy, pain, power, and the beauty of trusting your body. Listen now and share it with the women in your life who need to be reminded that birth is not something to fear, it’s something to reclaim.

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In this week’s episode of The Mid Week Tease, Adelle continues her conversation with Susan Wanjiku, financial educator and founder of The Legacy Hub KE and She-E-O Africa. In Part 2, they dive into the realities behind entrepreneurship, the pressure to keep up appearances, the misconception that investing is only for people with “big money,” and the importance of structure in keeping your business and sanity intact. Susan shares powerful lessons on:

• Knowing when growth is real and when it’s just for show
• Why your business should grow at its own pace
• How to start investing with as little as Ksh 100
• Building a business emergency fund for the unpredictable
• Preparing for transitions like maternity, illness, or relocation
• Letting go of financial shame and learning discipline with “kidogo” money

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This interactive session will help you move from surviving your finances to strategically managing and growing them.

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Brenda’s finale follows the last mile of her childfree journey: pushing past healthcare gatekeeping to access sterilization, what true informed consent looked like, recovery, the unexpected discovery of a retroverted uterus (and pain relief after it was corrected), and the quiet peace that came with making a choice that fits her life. She also reflects on dignity in maternal spaces, conversations with family, and what autonomy has meant for love, sex, and community. In this episode:

• From “no” after “no” to finally accessing sterilization
• What respectful, consent-centered care looks like
• Recovery, relief, and the feeling of peace
• Retroverted uterus: naming it, fixing it, reducing pain
• Family conversations, community, and building a life by choice

Content note: Medical procedures, menstrual pain, reproductive health. LCA Wellness Talk, 25 Oct (Virtual) Smart Money Strategies for Entrepreneurs & Freelancers with Susan Wanjiku

• Shifting from survival to sustainable success
• Separating business & personal finances
• Budgeting with unpredictable income
• Multiple income streams
• Investing with irregular income
• Retirement planning for entrepreneurs
  When: Sat 25 Oct, 9:00 AM–12:00 NOON (EAT)
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