This week on For Mannerless Women, Adelle Onyango sits down with activist, civic creator and political commentator Tatiana Gicheru for a powerful conversation about courage, womanhood, activism and choosing yourself unapologetically.

Tatiana opens up about:

• Standing up to authority from a young age
• Finding her voice through blogging & storytelling
• Pleasure, shame & reclaiming ownership of women’s bodies
• The 2024 Finance Bill protests & documenting injustice
• Fear, surveillance & continuing to speak up anyway
• Internet backlash, misogyny & online bullying
• Intergenerational sisterhood & learning from older women
• Why women need to stop shrinking themselves

This episode is a reminder that speaking up doesn’t mean you’re fearless,
it means you choose your values anyway.

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This week on The Mid Week Tease, Adelle unpacks emotional abuse in romantic relationships what it is, how it manifests, why it’s often difficult to identify, and the long-term impact it can have on your nervous system, self-worth and sense of reality. Many people only recognize abuse when it becomes physical. But emotional abuse can be quieter, subtler and deeply destabilizing. It can look like gaslighting, emotional withdrawal, control disguised as love, walking on eggshells, chronic criticism, emotional unpredictability and constantly second-guessing yourself.

In this episode, Adelle explores:

• What emotional abuse actually is
• The psychology behind gaslighting and trauma bonds
• Why emotionally abusive relationships are difficult to leave
• How emotional abuse impacts your nervous system
• Signs a relationship may be emotionally unsafe
• Rebuilding self-trust after emotional harm

The episode also references insights from therapists and trauma experts including Dr. Ramani Durvasula, Dr. Gabor Maté, Nedra Glover Tawwab and Lundy Bancroft.

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In this episode of the Legally Clueless podcast, media personality, mental health advocate and GBV activist Annitah Rae shares the first part of her deeply personal story. She opens up about growing up feeling deeply loved by her father but struggling through a painful relationship with her mother, becoming rebellious as a teenager, substance use, running away from home, surviving life on the streets at 14, and the traumatic sexual assault that changed her life forever.

This episode is an honest conversation about pain, survival, trauma, mental health, and the ways unresolved childhood wounds can shape a young person’s life.

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This week on For Mannerless Women, Adelle Onyango sits down with lawyer and entrepreneur Bev Munga, founder of Gspot Kenya and popularly known as “The Vibrating Lawyer.” In this bold and honest conversation, Bev opens up about:

• Building one of Kenya’s most talked-about pleasure brands
• The backlash she faced for centering women’s pleasure
• Choosing a child-free life
• Solo travel as self-care
• Fulfillment outside motherhood
• Freedom, autonomy, and redefining womanhood on her own terms

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This week on The Mid Week Tease, Adelle unpacks the emotional discomfort that can come with finally standing up for yourself after years of people pleasing, weak boundaries, over-giving and self-abandonment. From romantic relationships to friendships, this episode explores what happens when you stop shrinking yourself to keep other people comfortable. Why does setting boundaries feel guilty?
Why does speaking up sometimes feel physically uncomfortable?
Why do some relationships become strained when you finally choose yourself?

Adelle reflects on a recent personal trigger and unpacks the realization that changed everything:
“The discomfort wasn’t coming from doing something wrong. The discomfort came from doing something different.”

This episode dives into:

• People pleasing and the “fawn response”
• Why boundaries can trigger anxiety
• Romantic relationships built on self-sacrifice
• Friendship dynamics and emotional labor
• Why healing can make others uncomfortable
• The grief of outgrowing unhealthy dynamics
• Learning to tolerate the discomfort of self-respect

If you’ve ever:

• struggled to say no,
• replayed conversations after asserting yourself,
• felt guilty for having needs,
• feared disappointing people,
• or confused self-sacrifice with love,

this episode is for you.

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In this episode of the Legally Clueless podcast, we continue with Part 2 of Dr. Kui Muraya’s story. After spending years learning to silence her voice, Kui shares what happened when she slowly began reconnecting with herself again.

From moving abroad at a young age, to navigating academia, leadership, activism, workplace politics, burnout, and eventually choosing to step away from the working world altogether, this episode explores the cost of constantly pushing yourself and the healing that can come from finally choosing yourself. Kui also reflects on identity, purpose, spirituality, legacy, and what it has meant to stop seeing herself as a “black sheep” and fully embrace the woman she is becoming. This is a story about reclaiming your voice, redefining success, and creating a life that feels aligned, joyful, and true.

In this episode, Kui speaks about:

• Moving to Australia after high school
• Changing career paths and choosing herself
• Finding her voice again abroad
• Navigating leadership and workplace activism
• Gender justice and speaking up in professional spaces
• Burnout and toxic work environments
• Taking an intentional break from work
• Redefining “joyful work”
• Spirituality, healing, and legacy

Listen to Part 1: If you haven’t yet, listen to Part 1 of Dr. Kui Muraya’s story in Episode 376. 

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In this episode of For Mannerless Women, Adelle sits down with Mama Olive for a deeply honest conversation about motherhood, identity, friendship shifts, community, and choosing yourself.Mama Olive opens up about the realities of single motherhood, navigating postpartum rage, losing herself in relationships, and the emotional exhaustion that comes with raising children, especially without enough support or understanding.They also unpack:

• Why motherhood changes friendships
• The pressure women face to “snap back”
• Mom guilt and learning to give yourself grace
• The importance of apologizing to your kids
• Why community is essential for mothers
• Leaving relationships that force women to shrink themselves

This is a vulnerable, grounding conversation about womanhood, healing, and protecting your peace.

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This week on The Mid Week Tease, Adelle Onyango unpacks self-sabotage, what it really is, where it comes from, and how it quietly shows up in your daily life. If you’ve ever called yourself lazy, inconsistent, or undisciplined, this episode invites you to look deeper. Self-sabotage isn’t random. It’s patterned, protective, and often rooted in early beliefs about who you are and what you deserve.

In this episode, Adelle explores the psychology behind self-sabotage, why chaos can feel more comfortable than peace, and how fear of being seen might be keeping you stuck. Most importantly, she shares practical ways to begin shifting these patterns, without shame, and without becoming someone else. In this episode, we cover:

• What self-sabotage actually is (and why it’s not laziness)
• How childhood experiences shape your patterns (inspired by Alfred Adler)
• Why your nervous system chooses familiar pain over unfamiliar peace
• The subtle ways self-sabotage shows up (procrastination, perfectionism, overthinking)
• The fear of being seen and how it keeps you playing small
• Why it’s so hard to stop self-sabotaging
• Simple, realistic ways to start shifting your patterns

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In this episode of the Legally Clueless podcast, we begin Part 1 of Dr. Kui Muraya’s story. Kui takes us through her childhood growing up between Nairobi and Mombasa, being raised by multiple mother figures, and the powerful lineage of women who shaped her storytelling voice. She shares what it was like to grow up as a “different” child outspoken, curious, and deeply aware of injustice and how those traits both set her apart and got her into trouble.

From being top of her class to being punished for speaking up in school, this episode explores the early experiences that shaped her relationship with her voice. It’s a story about identity, belonging, and the subtle ways the world teaches us to shrink ourselves.

In this episode, Kui speaks about:

• Growing up between two cities and two homes
• Being raised by strong maternal figures
• The lineage of storytelling in her family
• Being labeled “different” as a child
• Speaking up against injustice in school
• Being punished for using her voice
• Learning to silence herself to survive

Part 2 of Kui’s story will be available in the next episode, where she shares her journey into adulthood, career, activism, burnout, and redefining her life on her own terms.

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This week on For Mannerless Women, we sit down with Ciku Cheru, author, journalist, storyteller, and explorer, for a conversation that will challenge everything you’ve been taught about womanhood. From her grandmother who refused marriage and still built a full, thriving life, to her own journey of solo travel across 60+ countries, this episode is a powerful reminder that there is no one way to live.

We talk about:
• Why marriage is often framed as a “must” for women and why it isn’t
• The fear many women carry about being alone and how to unlearn it
• Solo travel, independence, and building a life that feels like yours
• Outgrowing your “pick me” era and embracing your full self
• Why anything that makes you shrink is a red flag

Mannerless Message of the Week:
Lovebomb yourself. Become the source of the life you’re waiting for.

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