Merry Christmas and Happy New Year from Tiffany and the Scared Confident team!

Tiffany ends this amazing year with an interesting perspective about the relationship between love and attention. We’ve often heard her say of her own kids that ‘little kids demand attention and older kids wait for it.’ Who and what demands attention in your life? How often are you able to give your full attention to someone you love?

Listen in as she reflects on what she’s learned over the years, and how she challenges you to refine your 2024 intentions to ensure you are giving full attention to the people in your life that you love. Happy New Year!

[00:00] Intro

[00:43] A thank you from Tiffany

[01:49] 'There is no difference between love and attention'

[02:46] Little kids demand your attention

[03:25] Older kids wait for your attention

[05:17] Closing

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Have you ever been in a season of change that feels like it just doesn’t end, leaving you scrambling for some sense of normalcy? It can feel like a perpetual cycle of chaos because all the systems you had in place before are now broken.  And that’s just not sustainable. Sometimes you need a fresh perspective on what you can actually manage.

Tiffany’s guest this week, Stephanie, is a mom of two, a CFO and business owner. She and her husband have endured many changes in the last few years and are still having trouble seeing the light at the end of the tunnel. Together, they come up with some creative solving. And Tiffany even learns a few great tips from her guest. If you’re experiencing an ongoing season of change in your life, tune in for some candid conversation and creative solving!

Download the worksheet from today’s episode here: https://tiffany-sauder.myflodesk.com/conversationguide

Timestamps:

[00:00] Intro

[02:29] Stephanie's background

[06:50] Stephanie's recent changes in life

[09:18] Stephanie's ideal to-do list

[11:30] Tiffany assigns 4 questions

[12:03] Stephanie's answers

[15:54] Tiffany coaches through some solutions

[27:29] Stephanie's advice for her kids at this stage in her life

[28:21] Are there things Stephanie thought she wanted but actually didn't?

[30:41] Glass ball theory

[37:26] Closing

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As Tiffany motors through the hustle and bustle of the holidays, she recently engaged in two conversations that gave her important reminders about having the right mindset.

What’s behind the feeling of making something competitive when it doesn’t have to be? Or undermining someone’s success for your own benefit? Have you ever found yourself feeling jealous or competing for something because you think that success in that area is limited or scarce? Tiffany tackles this interesting concept of contrived scarcity vs actual abundance, and gives tips on how to check yourself.

Or how about pointing the blame when you aren’t feeling success? Are you blaming the thing, the strategy, or maybe even the people around you? In actuality, the problem might just be you! Is that a good thing, or a bad thing? Listen in to find out how to manage your mindset to find success in your Life of And.

Timestamps:

[00:00] Intro

[01:54] Mindset of abundance vs. scarcity

[04:48] Applying it in business

[05:51] Mindset of not blaming the thing

[06:39] Tiffany's example in her own life

[08:30] Closing

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Life is all about choices. And if you and your spouse have chosen to raise your family in a 2 career home, there can be specific challenges that arise. How do you solve for things like who does what chores, and when? Who pays the bills? How do we know what we’re spending month to month? How can I better support my spouse when I barely have time for anything else?

Tiffany has lots of thoughts on this topic, so she welcomes Kyler and Morgan Mason on the podcast to test out some practical solving exercises she’s been working on. In this question and answer format, Tiffany listens in as the Masons share some of the pitfalls that they encounter as they try to get through their busy work weeks and care for their kids. Tiffany helps by giving her tips for creating systems and setting minimums for smoother weeks and a functional  household.

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Kyler Mason is the President of Element Three and his wife Morgan has a full time career as well as a Training Support Specialist for an Indiana-based non-profit. They have a two year old and an infant at home.

[00:00] Intro

[03:05] Intro to Morgan and Kyler-background, childhoods and jobs

[08:48] Reactive vs. Proactive exercise

[11:07] Question 1: What is one thing you dread on your in home to-do list

[14:19] Creating new systems and minimums to help get it done

[18:36] Solving by 'Forcing Function'

[20:23] Question 2: What is one thing that you wish would happen more consistently in your home now that doesn't?

[31:36] What does balance look like for Morgan?

[32:30] Defining minimums

[38:16] Advice for your kids when they're at this stage

[39:17] Words to describe your relationship right now

[40:47] Closing

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Having a dual career household and a busy family schedule can leave very little time to focus on your marriage. What if you discovered the secret to keeping your marriage not only alive, but actually thriving year after year? One secret that will enrich your relationship, spark intentional conversation, benefit your family and even help you to understand one another better?

In this episode, Tiffany shares the one vital tip that she and JR have found to make their marriage last year after year…getting away together. She shares how having one yearly trip to look forward to has had an extremely positive impact on their relationship that continues to enrich their marriage all year long.  Yes, it can be difficult to get away and you can find many reasons not to do it. But setting it as a minimum in your marriage is well worth it. Listen in as she explains why it’s so important, and how to make it happen in your own life. 

Timestamps:

[00:00] Intro

[00:46] Chemical peel thoughts

[01:24] Why getting away with your spouse is important 

[03:54] Advice on how to get away - Consider your  calendar flow and childcare

[04:53] Get away for at least 5 days

[05:41] Plan for what you want to talk about

[07:24] Patrick Lencioni seminar/book: Six types of working genius

[08:12] Tiffany and JR's working genius results

[09:14] Tiffany as inventor; JR as discerner

[12:38] Excuses of not planning a getaway

[17:28] Time away is revealing and exhilarating

[20:40] Closing

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Happy Thanksgiving from Tiffany and the Scared Confident team!

Everyday we are faced with that fork in the road of choosing the easy path or the hard path. We come to it time and time again. The easy path is attractive and it calls out to us by making us believe that it will create more time and space in our lives. But do we really believe that to be true?

Tiffany comes to us this week with a power-packed reminder to never give into the easy path. It’s a temporary one that takes us farther away from who we are supposed to become. Instead, choose your hard…every time. Choose the path that aligns with who you are striving to be. Is it difficult? Yes. Is it worth it? Every single time. Listen in to be inspired to choose your hard and live your Life of And to the fullest.

Timestamps:

[00:00] Intro

[00:42] Choose your hard

[01:57] Great sailors were not made in calm waters

[02:30] Muscle memory

[02:50] Closing

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Juggling a big job, a two career household and raising your kids makes for a full life. And being the designated COO of maintaining your household, relationships and family schedule calls for a bit of creativity at times. Tiffany takes a deeper look into how to do just that.

In this episode, Tiffany is joined by Rachel Downey to expand on last week’s topic, ‘Do it or delegate it: An up close look at my in-home help.’ Rachel asks some candid questions about Tiffany’s take on what she means by ‘big job’, how to find time to maintain relationships, creative ways to show up for your kids and how to be judicious in spending your money on in-home help. If you find yourself wanting more ands in your life without sacrificing time for the things you love, you won’t want to miss this helpful conversation!

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Let’s talk about something very precious…your time.

Your career needs your time. Your relationships need your time. Your family needs your time. And what about you? Self-care is not optional to keep up with this pace. What can you exchange in your life to replenish that precious commodity of time?

If this is striking a nerve, maybe it’s time to consider some in-home help. And yes, Tiffany has some ideas!

Tune into this episode as Tiffany dives into all things covering the topic of in-home help. She explores different options and what has worked for her own family at different phases and stages. Getting creative in how you solve in exchange for more time can help you in your pursuit of a peaceful and sustainable Life of And.

Timestamps:

[00:00] Intro

[00:42] Let’s talk about having help inside the home

[02:14] Tiffany's background and childhood

[05:04] The time, mental and relationship demands in life

[06:29] Tiffany realized that there might be a better way

[08:25] Using your resources to get time back

[10:12] Everything you own takes more time from you because it has to be managed

[11:17] We can't just attend to our tasks and neglect our relationships

[13:34] Tiffany's phases and stages of care: Phase 1 - 1 kid, no money

[16:23] Phase 2 - 2 kids and a little more money

[18:12] Phase 3 - 3 kids, more help

[20:17] Phase 4 - 4 kids all in different stages, a traveling husband, and lots of help!

[22:43] Shared nanny, house manager, drivers, and laundry service

[25:27] Tiffany uses a laundry service called Poplin

[26:55] Summary of what it takes at this stage of Tiffany's family life

[27:31] Getting on the same page as a couple about the financial aspect of hiring help

[31:59] Being accountable to the time-exchange you've created

[34:15] Practical recommendations and resources to get started

[34:49] Task Planner resource reminder

[37:02] Closing

Link to the Task Planner tool: https://tiffany-sauder.myflodesk.com/taskplanner

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Do you find yourself in a two-career household trying to get all the things done?

It can feel like insanity!

Work and kids’ schedules can keep you on the go most weeks (and even weekends), and the simplest of tasks at home can pile up way too quickly. Laundry. Making food. Home repairs. Cleaning. Grocery shopping.

Not only does it clutter your house, but even worse it can clutter your brain.

In this week’s episode, Tiffany introduces the first tool in her Own the Ordinary course that will help you get those tasks out of your head, onto paper and into a system that works for you. By implementing the Task Planner tool into your routine, you will feel confident in knowing that your household tasks are already built into your busy schedule. Tune in to learn about this tool that Tiffany has created to help her family and yours Own the Ordinary things in life.

Timestamps:

[00:00] Intro

[03:01] Introducing the Task Planner tool and the 3 major components of it

[06:53] Task List PDF explanation

[08:40] Overview of the daily Task Planner

[11:10] What's in Tiffany's 'morning roundup'

[11:56] Tiffany's 'evening wind-down' list

[15:41] Overview of the weekly and recurring Task Planner

[21:10] An editable PDF is in process and will be available soon

[23:06] Closing

Link to the Task Planner tool: https://tiffany-sauder.myflodesk.com/taskplanner

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Who has the better deal, the spouse who is traveling for work or the one who stays home to manage the family? Both roles have plenty of positives and negatives. But if you’re the one staying home, this episode is for you.

This week, Tiffany shares 5 practical tips to help navigate family life with a traveling spouse. Drawing from her own experiences, she explains how to take charge, plan ahead, get creative and have FUN. If you find yourself really struggling while your spouse travels, tune into learn some new strategies. This can be a win for your entire family!

Timestamps:

[00:00] Introduction to the episode

[00:24] Tiffany is touched by the most normal moments in life

[01:34] Navigating well a traveling spouse

[02:53] Ways to stay connected to your traveling spouse

[03:19] Send texts and pictures throughout the day

[05:21]  Make sure you talk for at least 10 minutes each night

[06:24] Make the weekends fun

[08:32] Watch how you talk about your spouse to others

[11:08] Prep and plan your 'thing'  before your spouse travels

[13:18] Keep in mind that it's hard to travel and be away

[15:17] There are both positive and negative things about staying home vs. traveling

[16:17] Getting creative and keeping busy

[19:59] Closing

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