How do you live proudly when the world still carries stigma? In this episode of Don’t Hold Back, Nozibele Qamngana-Mayaba sits down with Phenyo Moletsane - a proud Black, gay man living openly with HIV in 2025 - for a powerful conversation that goes beyond labels, fear, and silence.

From navigating HIV stigma in South Africa to redefining what it means to love and live openly as a Black queer man, Phenyo shares the realities many never see. He talks about the micro-moments where visibility feels like both liberation and risk, the ongoing mental health journey, and the changing nature of relationships.

This episode breaks down misconceptions around HIV, embraces identity with power and pride, and explores the courage it takes to challenge social norms. Phenyo also speaks candidly about the joys and challenges of dating while living openly with HIV, and the vital support LGBTQIA+ youth need beyond the usual “be yourself” message.

Whether you’re living with HIV, part of the queer community, or an ally ready to support without shame or saviourism, this conversation is real, raw, and full of heart.

In this episode:

00:34 Welcome to Don't Hold Back

00:50 Introducing Today's Guest

01:19 Catching Up After Years

02:07 The Snack Tradition - a Teaser

02:43 Living Positively with HIV

03:10 The Impact of Sharing My Story

05:24 Challenges of Public Disclosure

05:53 Personal Relationships and HIV

07:52 The Journey to Healing

10:03 Advocating for the Next Generation

13:04 Navigating Conversations About Safe Sex

15:35 Coming Out to Family

16:18 Navigating Safe Conversations

17:34 Seeking Help and Counseling

19:11 Finding Love and Disclosure

24:49 Rapid Fire Question Section

25:52 Addressing Stigma and Discrimination

30:04 Message to Young People and Parents

33:11 Final Thoughts and Farewell

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