By Dr. Chip Dodd & Bryan Barley
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The "Living with Heart" Podcast is brought to you by Chip Dodd Resources (www.chipdodd.com) and The Voice of the Heart Center (vothcenter.com). Contact Bryan Barley for coaching at [email protected].
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The Jesse Tree: A Christmas Devotional for Individuals, Couples, & Families is a 24-day devotional that prepares us for the birth of Jesus. It is offered as a free eBook at chipdodd.com, and it can be purchased from Amazon. The Jesse Tree includes daily devotions that start with creation and end with the birth of Jesus. Each day has a list of ideas for extending the day’s “study” and opportunity for fellowship with your family, friends, and God. Your Jesse Tree will be covered in Bible-themed ornaments that will be a daily reminder of the stories you have read and the promise of the coming Messiah. Order now, the devotional begins December 1st.
There are three books that listeners may wish to go to about gratitude:
One Thousand Gifts by Ann Voskamp which I mentioned in the last episode. This wonderful book deals a lot with gratitude that can come from loss and grief.
Gratitude Works and Little Book of Gratitude by Robert Emmons. These two very practical books were written by Emmons, a researcher who has studied the benefits of gratitude, how to develop it, and sustain it.
When we experience life as a gift, then we, as the receivers of the gifts in life, naturally have gratitude. Emmons and others have shown that having gratitude benefits our emotional and spiritual lives, as well as our physical well-being and our prosperity. Gratitude multiplies itself with its impact. When we yield to being in need of others and God, and experience the effect of needing, we receive a yield, or a harvest of benefits.
Not only do we have an expectation of good things in our lives, we also are able to recall good things in times of trouble. For example, recalling or remembering times when we received something good can help us persevere in troubled times. We can hang on to hope because of remembering.
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Now Available at Amazon
The Jesse Tree: A Christmas Devotional for Individuals, Couples, & Families is a 24-day devotional that prepares us for the birth of Jesus. It is offered as a free eBook at chipdodd.com, and it can be purchased from Amazon. The Jesse Tree includes daily devotions that start with creation and end with the birth of Jesus. Each day has a list of ideas for extending the day’s “study” and opportunity with fellowship with your family, friends, and God. Your Jesse Tree will be covered in Bible-themed ornaments that will be a daily reminder of the stories you have read and the promise of the coming Messiah. Order now, the devotional begins December 1st.
This is the first of two episodes on gratitude.
The final episode of the year will drop November 26. In this final episode, we will look back over our first year of “Living with Heart: From Birth to Death.”
We will start the new season December 31 with a new episode that focuses on New Year’s Resolutions.
What is gratitude and how do we experience it? Three factors play a part in experiencing gratitude.
Gratitude begins with our needs. God created us with an abundance of needs.
Whether we like it or not, we are “needy” creations of God.
Having our needs addressed and fulfilled is how gratitude occurs.
Our needs cannot be fulfilled without being in need of God and others.
Gratitude is experienced through relationship.
Needs are covered in great detail in:
The 3 factors that summarize our essential needs are:
Being in need or being “needy” is not a bad thing or a weakness. It is a human experience over which we are actually powerless.
We are created in ways that we cannot change. We can run from how we are made, but that does not change how we are created.
Many of us are trained to believe that having needs means you are weak.
Most people see having needs as:
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The "Living with Heart" Podcast is brought to you by Chip Dodd Resources (www.chipdodd.com) and The Voice of the Heart Center (vothcenter.com). Contact Bryan Barley for coaching at [email protected].
Congratulations to the 5 Winners of the Chip Dodd Book Bundles! Thank you to all of you who submitted a review of this podcast.
2 helpful, FREE Resources at chipdodd.com:
14 Symptoms of Codependency: A Personal Inventory
Return to Being Human: 6 Freedoms from Birth
The Boy & The Ogre: Finding Freedom from Codependency by Chip Dodd
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The Jesse Tree: A Christmas Devotional for Individuals, Couples, & Families is a 24-day devotional that prepares us for the birth of Jesus. It is offered as a free eBook at chipdodd.com, and it can be purchased from Amazon. The Jesse Tree includes daily devotions that start with creation and end with the birth of Jesus. Each day has a list of ideas for extending the day’s “study” and opportunity with fellowship with your family, friends, and God. Your Jesse Tree will be covered in Bible-themed ornaments that will be a daily reminder of the stories you have read and the promise of the coming Messiah. Order now, the devotional begins December 1st.
The reason for this podcast is because for people to have more life, more fulfillment. The things talked about here, and the materials referred to, are about knowing the language and content of your heart, and what that can do for you. It won’t stop pain, but helps you know what to do about it. It certainly doesn’t promise perfection or even happiness. But knowing the language and content of the heart helps people develop the ability to live life on life’s terms, with all of its heartbreak and heartache that conflicts with our craving for life without tragedy.
Our goal is for people to experience time in this life as Kairos, which means to experience your life emotionally and spiritually, fully participating in living, rather than Chronos, which means just getting life over with, letting the clock run down.
If we don’t allow ourselves to live emotionally and spiritually connected, then we have to find an escape or addiction.
Without living in Kairos, we are simply on a race to the grave.
Codependency recovery moves us into Kairos.
Because there has been so much misunderstanding about the proper use of feelings, there is a rising backlash against the importance of facing, feeling, and dealing with life by being able to be “response-able” with feelings.
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The "Living with Heart" Podcast is brought to you by Chip Dodd Resources (www.chipdodd.com) and The Voice of the Heart Center (vothcenter.com). Contact Bryan Barley for coaching at [email protected].
BOOK BUNDLE GIVEAWAY!
We are giving away 5 FREE Chip Dodd Book Bundles!
Reviews and emails must be submitted by October 31st.
5 names will be drawn and winners will be announced in November.
The book bundles include:
Dr. Dodd will be leading 1 more seminar this fall:
How to Love a Woman’s Heart
November 8, 2024
9:00-12:00
For more information or to register for these seminars go to chipdodd.com/seminar
2 new FREE Resources at chipdodd.com:
14 Symptoms of Codependency: A Personal Inventory
Return to Being Human: 6 Freedoms from Birth
We offer free resources not to promote, as much as to attract people to come get something that will benefit individuals, couples, families, friendships and society itself.
Now Available at Amazon
The Jesse Tree: A Christmas Devotional for Individuals, Couples, & Families is a 24-day devotional that prepare us for the birth of Jesus. It is offered as a free eBook at chipdodd.com and it also can be purchased from Amazon. The Jesse Tree includes daily devotionals that start with creation and end with the birth of Jesus. Each day has a list of ideas for extending the day’s “study” and opportunity for fellowship with your family, friends, and God. Order now, the devotional begins December 1st.
The reason I do this podcast is because we want people to have more life, more fulfillment. The things we talk about here and the materials we refer to are about what knowing your heart can do for you. It won’t stop pain, but helps you know what to do about it. It certainly doesn’t promise perfection or even happiness, but helps people develop the ability to live life on life’s terms with all of its heartbreak and heartache that conflicts with our craving for life without tragedy.
Click here to continue reading the episode highlights.
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The "Living with Heart" Podcast is brought to you by Chip Dodd Resources (www.chipdodd.com) and The Voice of the Heart Center (vothcenter.com). Contact Bryan Barley for coaching at [email protected].
BOOK BUNDLE GIVEAWAY!
We are giving away 5 FREE Chip Dodd Book Bundles!
Reviews and emails must be submitted by October 31st.
5 names will be drawn and winners will be announced in November.
The book bundles include:
Dr. Dodd will be leading 2 seminars this fall:
Leading With Heart: When Intellect, Willpower, and Goals Aren’t Enough
October 24, 2024
9:00 to 12:00
How to Love a Woman’s Heart
November 8, 2024
9:00-12:00
For more information or to register for these seminars go to chipdodd.com/seminar
2 new FREE Resources at chipdodd.com:
14 Symptoms of Codependency: A Personal Inventory
Return to Being Human: 6 Freedoms from Birth
We offer free resources not to promote, as much as to attract people to come get something that will benefit individuals, couples, families, friendships and society itself.
Now Available at Amazon
The Jesse Tree: A Christmas Devotional for Individuals, Couples, & Families is a 24-day devotional that prepare us for the birth of Jesus. It is offered as a free eBook at chipdodd.com and it also can be purchased from Amazon. The Jesse Tree includes daily devotionals that start with creation and end with the birth of Jesus. Each day has a list of ideas for extending the day’s “study” and opportunity for fellowship with your family, friends, and God. Order now, the devotional begins December 1st.
In today’s episode we are continuing to discuss how to find recovery from codependency.
Last episode we focused on the equation:
H.O.W. + G.O.D. > E.G.O
Honesty, Openness, and Willingness + Good, Orderly Direction allow us to reduce the ego or the Easing God Out experience of our lives. It also allows us to rediscover our true self and how to live out of it. The ego is the mask we wear to cover up our vulnerability and neediness, and our boundaries.
This episode particularly focuses on the path of recovery, returning to how you are created and to the God who created you.
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The "Living with Heart" Podcast is brought to you by Chip Dodd Resources (www.chipdodd.com) and The Voice of the Heart Center (vothcenter.com). Contact Bryan Barley for coaching at [email protected].
BOOK BUNDLE GIVEAWAY!
We are giving away 5 FREE Chip Dodd Book Bundles!
Reviews and emails must be submitted by October 31st.
5 names will be drawn and winners will be announced in November.
The book bundles include:
Dr. Dodd will be leading 2 seminars this fall:
Leading With Heart: When Intellect, Willpower, and Goals Aren’t Enough
October 24, 2024
9:00 to 12:00
How to Love a Woman’s Heart
November 8, 2024
9:00-12:00
For more information or to register for these seminars go to chipdodd.com/seminar
2 new FREE Resources at chipdodd.com:
We offer free resources not to promote, as much as to attract people to come get something that will benefit individuals, couples, families, friendships and society itself.
Episode Highlights:
The Boy & The Ogre: Finding Freedom from Codependency by Chip Dodd
Real freedom awaits us in codependency recovery—if we take the risk of hoping and then trusting that a better way of living is on the other side of the risk. We have to admit that we are actually powerless over the symptoms we have talked about. We must admit that we need an emotional and spiritual “makeover.”
We must face that codependency is not a habit, one that we can just change by conscious action only, or mindfulness. It actually fits into the criteria of an illness, a disease.
Medical Definition of Disease: A morbid process (meaning destructive to health), with a characteristic chain of symptoms, of known or unknown origin, that are chronic, progressive, and can be fatal.
The disease of codependency is driven by stress. Many physicians have reported to me that the causes of most of the illnesses that are presented to them are stress-based sicknesses of not knowing how to live. In other words, the patient does not know what to do with or how to process feelings.
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The "Living with Heart" Podcast is brought to you by Chip Dodd Resources (www.chipdodd.com) and The Voice of the Heart Center (vothcenter.com). Contact Bryan Barley for coaching at [email protected].
BOOK BUNDLE GIVEAWAY!
We are giving away 5 FREE Chip Dodd Book Bundles!
Reviews and emails must be submitted by October 31st.
5 names will be drawn and winners will be announced in November.
The book bundles include:
Dr. Dodd will be leading 2 seminars this fall:
Leading With Heart: When Intellect, Willpower, and Goals Aren’t Enough
October 24, 2024
9:00 to 12:00
How to Love a Woman’s Heart
November 8, 2024
9:00-12:00
For more information or to register for these seminars go to chipdodd.com/seminar
2 new FREE Resources at chipdodd.com:
14 Symptoms of Codependency: A Personal Inventory
Return to Being Human: 6 Freedoms from Birth
We offer free resources not to promote, as much as to attract people to come get something that will benefit individuals, couples, families, friendships and society itself.
Episode Highlights:
Today we’re talking about the last two symptoms of the 14 symptoms of Codependency.
We will close our series on codependency with several episodes about the solutions and treatments for codependency.
Once we see we have a problem with codependency, we need to:
There isn’t a quick, easy “fix” for overcoming codependency. The reality of having to take a path, rather than have a “pill fix,” is sad. The reality is that it takes a lifetime to learn how to live.
Codependency recovery is a great path to move us from surviving to thriving. The question is, “How are we going to live?”
Symptom #13 Restricted Emotional Development
Restricted emotional development is grounded in the fear of being labeled as inferior because of what we do not know or have not learned.
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The "Living with Heart" Podcast is brought to you by Chip Dodd Resources (www.chipdodd.com) and The Voice of the Heart Center (vothcenter.com). Contact Bryan Barley for coaching at [email protected].
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“Confusion about Toxic Shame and Guilt”
Codependency is not your fault, but it is your responsibility to deal with. Even though we have been “taught” to rid ourselves of how God made us, it does not give us permission or the right to stay there. It is a sickness that we have, and we have the responsibility to find the healing.
Codependency is the loss of how God made us, with self-awareness, self-trust, self-care, being sensitive to our own true feelings, loss of learning how to respond to our feelings in a healthy way; it is the loss of self-worth—given over to the needs of significant others who are uncomfortable with themselves, or self-rejecting.
Codependency recovery is not selfishness; it is “Self-fullness.” Self-fullness is having enough of who God created us to be that we have the ability to give our gifts to a world in need.
The need to belong and matter is so powerful that we are going to find a way to get those needs met—through suppression or expression.
Expression has to be grown and matured, so codependency recovery does take time and investment.
Each of the symptoms that we have discussed in this podcast is from the work of Timmen Cermak, in his book Diagnosing and Treating Codependency. The descriptions and following work are from my own experiences.
Codependency is pervasive, a pandemic, and all the relief-seeking addictions we can name have their origin and influence in codependency.
Symptom #12 Confusion About Toxic Shame and Guilt
Toxic shame is grounded in never being able to do anything “right enough,” or be right enough to be loved, or have the “right” to receive mercy.
In toxic shame the confusion between shame and guilt is birthed in the mistaken belief that I should be able to not mess up; not make mistakes; should not have to need mercy; should be able to be perfect. It is the belief that only perfect people can be loved. If I am not perfect, I am “worth-less” and cannot be loved.
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Emotional recovery is about going back to “ground zero,” your childhood.
A disease is a morbid process that is destructive to the being: body, mind, soul, and heart. It reduces our capacity to be productive and prosperous. Disease has a characteristic chain of symptoms with known or unknown origins. A disease is chronic, with acute episodes, progressive and often fatal.
We are as sick as the feelings we will not let ourselves have.
Symptom # 9 Hypervigilance
Hypervigilance is the fear of giving up anxiety that keeps me “on my toes” as a safety mechanism; bad things will happen if I’m not on my toes.
Hypervigilance is being controlled by anxiety. Anxiety is always seeking relief from the hypervigilance. Anxiety becomes the expectation of an external threat doing something to put me in a position of helplessness.
Anxiety is in us to tell us to be ready to take a defensive action, a reaction:
fight…get ready
flee…get ready
freeze…get ready
appease…get ready
Anxiety in its negative form is saying “watch outside right now because something is coming that is going to harm you.” Anxiety is an external locus of anticipation and control.
The anxiety in hypervigilance is about avoiding the confession of being afraid and in need. The anxiety goes in search of the external threat; it looks for danger. This anxiety will not be quelled until it finds the thing that it needs to control in order to find relief.
We are made to live fully in relationship and connection. When we become disconnected from how we are made, because we are made for connection and to live fully in relationship, that has always been there. If I can’t find a way to be connected the way I am created to connect, I will have to find another way to be connected, one way or another.
Toxic shame tells you that if you’re not doing what others expect you to do (and your discomfort will confirm this), then you will be humiliated and rejected. Toxic Shame says:
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The Boy & The Ogre: Finding Freedom from Codependency by Chip Dodd
In codependency, people hide their competence and giftings in order to belong and matter.
People are generally unable to celebrate well with others.
6. Name the symptom
Enmeshed relationships with controlling people
Identify the fear that it’s grounded in
Fear of being alone
Identify the toxic shame that it is birthed in
Unless I please, I will be rejected.
Discuss its impaired expression in our lives (External locus of control)
I wait to see what they want before I can act, and even then, I am uncertain about my feelings and thoughts.
Discuss what it was meant to be (Internal locus of control)
Being in relationship with people who see you as having the same worth, and desire to hear your feelings and thoughts.
“I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.” Psalm 139:14
7. Name the symptom
Constricted emotions
Identify the fear that it’s grounded in
Fear of being known or the fear of being seen as weak/inadequate
Identify the toxic shame that it is birthed in
If I let myself be known, bad consequences will happen. The past will repeat itself. I will be seen as weak/ inadequate again.
Discuss its impaired expression in our lives (External locus of control)
The need to hide or deny feelings, needs, desire, longings, and hope.
Discuss what it was meant to be (Internal locus of control)
Freedom to express yourself wisely with others who can do the same
“Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.” Philippians 4:8
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