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The preface to Twelve Movements of a Man’s Life is vital because the movements are not just a list of twelve things to accomplish. They are twelve movements that are about a man’s whole life. They are processes that interlock and “circles” that join and move a man into wholeness and love and legacy. 

The 12 Movements are about a man’s character of heart and having actions that match his character in order that he leaves behind a positive legacy.

Men are created to become someone who practices a lifestyle of:

These three territories integrated create a positive legacy.

It is vital for a man to practice healthy anger as part of the lifestyle that we will be discussing in the following episodes. 

For greater clarity about healthy anger, listen to “Living With Heart” Podcast  episode #19 and episode #20. 

Also, read The Voice of the Heart by Chip Dodd

Healthy anger is a feeling that moves a person to live with passion. Passion is the gift we receive when we live our lives expressing healthy anger. 

Passion is a willingness to be in pain for something that is greater than comfort or pain.

It communicates that a person values the heart and cares about something greater than his own self-protection, and vulnerability.

Healthy anger moves us to care, hunger, thirst, hope, want, and desire. It moves us to deal with and express the truths of the heart. It expresses our willingness to be vulnerable enough to care about something.

 “Above all else, guard your heart, for everything flows from it.” Proverbs 4:23 (NIV)

A man is created to live with passion, even in a world that belittles it and mocks it.

A man who has passion is going to be on mission to accomplish that which he is moved from within to do. 

A man is created to be capable of intimacy, or “into-me-see.” In other words, he is capable of sharing the truths of his heart. 

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This new podcast series, “Twelve Movements of a Man’s Life,” is not going to be exclusively for men. We want women to learn and have confidence in seeing and expecting men to be who they are created to be. 

I created these twelve movements over 15 years ago when I was in my early 50s. I knew that I was not old enough to present them with assurance, because I had not witnessed them as a “lived experience” yet—even though I knew they were true. 

I am now more of a witness to how extraordinarily true and vital they are for our society, for families, for marriages, for mission, for men in community with other men, and for a man with God. 

I learned these truths and concepts from the thousands of men, couples, and families that I have worked with while running my treatment center and in my own  consulting/mentoring practice that I started in 2019. This material is the culmination of work that began in 1988, if not before!

These twelve movements are not a list that a person checks off, completes the next step, and then gets his diploma. These movements are actually real processes, or interlocking circles that expand over a lifetime. They are never completed. They only end when the man’s life ends.

This episode lays the foundation for the twelve movements to follow:

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Welcome back and Happy New Year’s Eve!

We are talking about the real meaning of resolution, what many us set our minds to focus on in the first of every year. We often fail not too long after we commit ourselves to some New Year’s resolution. There is a reason we often give up on our promises and commitments to ourselves. 

We deal with that today:

What sets us up to fail, and how do we actually succeed.

New Year’s Day is often a marker day, one in which we look towards the future and ask significant questions:

Out of the answers to the questions, we set up markers and set our sights on getting to the goal lines of our hopes and dreams. 

We often fail, not because we lack desire or good intentions. We fail because we attempt to achieve certain things with tools that do not work, starting with a mistaken understanding of what a resolution is.

We have been trained to think that a resolution means that I need to become hyper-focused, and that I need to become bound and determined through will power to achieve the goal. The mistaken teaching actually sets us up to fail. 

Failure occurs in the following way:

By going back to the word resolution and grasping its real meaning, we can start down a path of accomplishing what we seek.

Resolution actually means:

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“Living with Heart: From Birth to Death” podcast has been downloaded in 49 states and 68 countries. Thank you to all of our listeners. We are very grateful to you and also grateful that so many of you have shared this podcast with family and friends. We hope for many more listeners in the coming year because we deeply believe in what we are offering and how it can do for people.

I have never tired of or even thought I knew all the depths of The Spiritual Root System, even after all the years that I have been talking and teaching about it. We truly are created as emotional and spiritual creatures, created to find fulfillment in relationship. What seems so basic now, to almost everyone, sounded foreign to many, many people in 1991 when I began to communicate the power of surrendering to how we are created.

About 15 years ago, neuroscience research began to validate the material I have been talking about. The material I talk about is ancient, has always been true from the beginning, and is amazingly Biblical. 

It is a reliable scientific material, and yet even more, it is faith-based proof of the existence and goodness of God.

We are “heart” people who have the addition of intellect that develops over time after birth. 

We are born as “heart” people, and we are all created the same way. 

This fact sets the stage for the actions of a loving and moral people. When I look at you, I am looking at myself, in terms of being a feeling, needing, desiring, longing, and hoping creation. 

This factor allows me to recognize the benefit of practicing the Golden Rule: “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you” (Matthew 7:12). As our sameness allows us to develop conscience, we can bless each other. 

The more we deny our sameness, the more we harm each other. Of course, no matter what, we are going to still need to seek forgiveness; we are going to harm each other. 

We have truly entered a new era, one of the heart. 

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Now Available at Amazon

The Jesse Tree: A Christmas Devotional for Individuals, Couples, & Families is a 24-day devotional that prepares us for the birth of Jesus. It is offered as a free eBook at chipdodd.com, and it can be purchased from Amazon. The Jesse Tree includes daily devotions that start with creation and end with the birth of Jesus.  Each day has a list of ideas for extending the day’s “study” and opportunity for fellowship with your family, friends, and God. Your Jesse Tree will be covered in Bible-themed ornaments that will be a daily reminder of the stories you have read and the promise of the coming Messiah. Order now, the devotional begins December 1st.

There are three books that listeners may wish to go to about gratitude:

One Thousand Gifts by Ann Voskamp which I mentioned in the last episode. This wonderful book deals a lot with gratitude that can come from loss and grief. 

Gratitude Works and Little Book of Gratitude by Robert Emmons. These two very practical books were written by Emmons, a researcher who has studied the benefits of gratitude, how to develop it, and sustain it.

When we experience life as a gift, then we, as the receivers of the gifts in life, naturally have gratitude. Emmons and others have shown that having gratitude benefits our emotional and spiritual lives, as well as our physical well-being and our prosperity. Gratitude multiplies itself with its impact. When we yield to being in need of others and God, and experience the effect of needing, we receive a yield, or a harvest of benefits.

Not only do we have an expectation of good things in our lives, we also are able to recall good things in times of trouble. For example, recalling or remembering times when we received something good can help us persevere in troubled times. We can hang on to hope because of remembering.

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Now Available at Amazon

The Jesse Tree: A Christmas Devotional for Individuals, Couples, & Families is a 24-day devotional that prepares us for the birth of Jesus. It is offered as a free eBook at chipdodd.com, and it can be purchased from Amazon. The Jesse Tree includes daily devotions that start with creation and end with the birth of Jesus.  Each day has a list of ideas for extending the day’s “study” and opportunity with fellowship with your family, friends, and God. Your Jesse Tree will be covered in Bible-themed ornaments that will be a daily reminder of the stories you have read and the promise of the coming Messiah. Order now, the devotional begins December 1st.

This is the first of two episodes on gratitude.

The final episode of the year will drop November 26. In this final episode, we will look back over our first year of “Living with Heart: From Birth to Death.”

We will start the new season December 31 with a new episode that focuses on New Year’s Resolutions.

What is gratitude and how do we experience it?  Three factors play a part in experiencing gratitude.

Gratitude begins with our needs. God created us with an abundance of needs. 

Whether we like it or not, we are “needy” creations of God.

Having our needs addressed and fulfilled is how gratitude occurs.  

Our needs cannot be fulfilled without being in need of God and others.

Gratitude is experienced through relationship.

Needs are covered in great detail in:

• Needs of the Heart by Chip Dodd

The 3 factors that summarize our essential needs are:

• We all desire to belong and matter.

Being in need or being “needy” is not a bad thing or a weakness. It is a human experience over which we are actually powerless.

We are created in ways that we cannot change. We can run from how we are made, but that does not change how we are created. 

Many of us are trained to believe that having needs means you are weak.

Most people see having needs as:

• a weakness.

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The "Living with Heart" Podcast is brought to you by Chip Dodd Resources (www.chipdodd.com) and The Voice of the Heart Center (vothcenter.com). Contact Bryan Barley for coaching at [email protected]. 

Congratulations to the 5 Winners of the Chip Dodd Book Bundles! Thank you to all of you who submitted a review of this podcast.

2 helpful, FREE Resources at chipdodd.com:

14 Symptoms of Codependency: A Personal Inventory

Return to Being Human: 6 Freedoms from Birth

The Boy & The Ogre: Finding Freedom from Codependency by Chip Dodd

Now Available at Amazon

The Jesse Tree: A Christmas Devotional for Individuals, Couples, & Families is a 24-day devotional that prepares us for the birth of Jesus. It is offered as a free eBook at chipdodd.com, and it can be purchased from Amazon. The Jesse Tree includes daily devotions that start with creation and end with the birth of Jesus.  Each day has a list of ideas for extending the day’s “study” and opportunity with fellowship with your family, friends, and God. Your Jesse Tree will be covered in Bible-themed ornaments that will be a daily reminder of the stories you have read and the promise of the coming Messiah. Order now, the devotional begins December 1st.

The reason for this podcast is because for people to have more life, more fulfillment. The things  talked about here, and the materials referred to, are about knowing the language and content of your heart, and what that can do for you. It won’t stop pain, but helps you know what to do about it. It certainly doesn’t promise perfection or even happiness. But knowing the language and content of the heart helps people develop the ability to live life on life’s terms, with all of its heartbreak and heartache that conflicts with our craving for life without tragedy.  

Our goal is for people to experience time in this life as Kairos, which means to experience your life emotionally and spiritually, fully participating in living, rather than Chronos, which means just getting life over with, letting the clock run down.

If we don’t allow ourselves to live emotionally and spiritually connected, then we have to find an escape or addiction. 

Without living in Kairos, we are simply on a race to the grave.

Codependency recovery moves us into Kairos. 

Because there has been so much misunderstanding about the proper use of feelings, there is a rising backlash against the importance of facing, feeling, and dealing with life by being able to be “response-able” with feelings.

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The "Living with Heart" Podcast is brought to you by Chip Dodd Resources (www.chipdodd.com) and The Voice of the Heart Center (vothcenter.com). Contact Bryan Barley for coaching at [email protected]. 

BOOK BUNDLE GIVEAWAY!

We are giving away 5 FREE Chip Dodd Book Bundles!

• Write a review of this podcast.

Reviews and emails must be submitted by October 31st.

5 names will be drawn and winners will be announced in November.

The book bundles include:

1. A Signed Copy of The Voice of the Heart

Dr. Dodd will be leading 1 more seminar this fall:

How to Love a Woman’s Heart

November 8, 2024

9:00-12:00

For more information or to register for these seminars go to chipdodd.com/seminar

2 new FREE Resources at chipdodd.com:

14 Symptoms of Codependency: A Personal Inventory

Return to Being Human: 6 Freedoms from Birth

We offer free resources not to promote, as much as to attract people to come get something that will benefit individuals, couples, families, friendships and society itself.

Now Available at Amazon

The Jesse Tree: A Christmas Devotional for Individuals, Couples, & Families is a 24-day devotional that prepare us for the birth of Jesus. It is offered as a free eBook at chipdodd.com and it also can be purchased from Amazon. The Jesse Tree includes daily devotionals that start with creation and end with the birth of Jesus.  Each day has a list of ideas for extending the day’s “study” and opportunity for fellowship with your family, friends, and God. Order now, the devotional begins December 1st.

The reason I do this podcast is because we want people to have more life, more fulfillment. The things we talk about here and the materials we refer to are about what knowing your heart can do for you. It won’t stop pain, but helps you know what to do about it. It certainly doesn’t promise perfection or even happiness, but helps people develop the ability to live life on life’s terms with all of its heartbreak and heartache that conflicts with our craving for life without tragedy.

Click here to continue reading the episode highlights.

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The "Living with Heart" Podcast is brought to you by Chip Dodd Resources (www.chipdodd.com) and The Voice of the Heart Center (vothcenter.com). Contact Bryan Barley for coaching at [email protected]. 

BOOK BUNDLE GIVEAWAY!

We are giving away 5 FREE Chip Dodd Book Bundles!

• Write a review of this podcast.

Reviews and emails must be submitted by October 31st.

5 names will be drawn and winners will be announced in November.

The book bundles include:

1. A Signed Copy of The Voice of the Heart

Dr. Dodd will be leading 2 seminars this fall:

Leading With Heart: When Intellect, Willpower, and Goals Aren’t Enough

October 24, 2024

9:00 to 12:00

How to Love a Woman’s Heart

November 8, 2024

9:00-12:00

For more information or to register for these seminars go to chipdodd.com/seminar

2 new FREE Resources at chipdodd.com:

14 Symptoms of Codependency: A Personal Inventory

Return to Being Human: 6 Freedoms from Birth

We offer free resources not to promote, as much as to attract people to come get something that will benefit individuals, couples, families, friendships and society itself.

Now Available at Amazon

The Jesse Tree: A Christmas Devotional for Individuals, Couples, & Families is a 24-day devotional that prepare us for the birth of Jesus. It is offered as a free eBook at chipdodd.com and it also can be purchased from Amazon. The Jesse Tree includes daily devotionals that start with creation and end with the birth of Jesus.  Each day has a list of ideas for extending the day’s “study” and opportunity for fellowship with your family, friends, and God. Order now, the devotional begins December 1st.

In today’s episode we are continuing to discuss how to find recovery from codependency.

Last episode we focused on the equation:

H.O.W. + G.O.D. > E.G.O

Honesty, Openness, and Willingness + Good, Orderly Direction allow us to reduce the ego or the Easing God Out experience of our lives. It also allows us to rediscover our true self and how to live out of it. The ego is the mask we wear to cover up our vulnerability and neediness, and our boundaries.

This episode particularly focuses on the path of recovery, returning to how you are created and to the God who created you. 

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The "Living with Heart" Podcast is brought to you by Chip Dodd Resources (www.chipdodd.com) and The Voice of the Heart Center (vothcenter.com). Contact Bryan Barley for coaching at [email protected]. 

BOOK BUNDLE GIVEAWAY!

We are giving away 5 FREE Chip Dodd Book Bundles!

• Write a review of this podcast.

Reviews and emails must be submitted by October 31st.

5 names will be drawn and winners will be announced in November.

The book bundles include:

1. A Signed Copy of The Voice of the Heart

Dr. Dodd will be leading 2 seminars this fall:

Leading With Heart: When Intellect, Willpower, and Goals Aren’t Enough

October 24, 2024

9:00 to 12:00

How to Love a Woman’s Heart

November 8, 2024

9:00-12:00

For more information or to register for these seminars go to chipdodd.com/seminar

2 new FREE Resources at chipdodd.com:

• 14 Symptoms of Codependency: A Personal Inventory

We offer free resources not to promote, as much as to attract people to come get something that will benefit individuals, couples, families, friendships and society itself.

Episode Highlights:

The Boy & The Ogre: Finding Freedom from Codependency by Chip Dodd

Real freedom awaits us in codependency recovery—if we take the risk of hoping and then trusting that a better way of living is on the other side of the risk. We have to admit that we are actually powerless over the symptoms we have talked about. We must admit that we need an emotional and spiritual “makeover.”

We must face that codependency is not a habit, one that we can just change by conscious action only, or mindfulness. It actually fits into the criteria of an illness, a disease.

Medical Definition of Disease: A morbid process (meaning destructive to health), with a characteristic chain of symptoms, of known or unknown origin, that are chronic, progressive, and can be fatal.

The disease of codependency is driven by stress. Many physicians have reported to me that the causes of most of the illnesses that are presented to them are stress-based sicknesses of not knowing how to live. In other words, the patient does not know what to do with or how to process feelings.

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