Because you've been taught that change happens when the calendar flips. That success requires fixing what didn't work and finally getting it right. But here's what no one's telling you: real change doesn't start with another goal. It starts with an honest look at where you actually are.

Most of us enter the New Year already thinking about what we should be doing differently. What needs to be fixed. What standards need to be higher. But this episode isn't about making you better. It's about walking you into a more honest relationship with yourself so you can actually create change that lasts.

In this solo episode, I'm sharing how I approach the New Year with my clients, and it's the opposite of what you've been taught. We're looking back first, mining for data about what actually worked and what didn't, before we ever look forward. Because clarity creates better choices. And when you know better, you can do better.

I share my own journey through the past few years - 2023 as a year of reckoning that took me to my knees, 2024 as reclamation and navigating grief I'd never experienced before, and 2025 as recalibration. I talk openly about healing old abandonment wounds, rebuilding my business while stepping back to take care of myself, and what it's looked like to get back in the driver's seat.

I also share my pattern of waiting for people to choose me instead of creating my own opportunities, and why my word for 2026 is "ownership." This isn't about perfection. It's about recognizing where I've been overriding my intuition and what needs to shift for me to step fully into the authority I've been building for over two decades.

Here's what most high achievers don't understand about the New Year: nothing changes when the calendar flips. You don't become a different person on January 1st. Real change starts with reflection, not resolution.

If you're already thinking about what you should be doing differently in 2026, pause. Because the truth is, most of you don't need another goal. You need a more honest relationship with yourself. You need to look back at 2025 with curiosity instead of judgment, and mine for the data about what actually worked and what didn't.

This episode walks you through powerful reflection questions designed to create clarity. Clarity creates better choices. When you know what patterns continued despite your best intentions, where your effort didn't equal fulfillment, and what you're done tolerating, you can actually make different decisions moving forward.

The cost of skipping this reflection? Another year of chasing goals that don't align with who you actually are. Another year of achieving things that don't make you feel the way you thought they would. Another year of exhaustion without fulfillment.

If you listened to this episode and recognized yourself in these patterns - the over-functioning, the waiting for permission, the achieving without feeling, the overriding your intuition - it's time for a reset.

The Congruency Audit is where we look at the gap between the success you've built on the outside and what you're actually feeling on the inside. We'll identify the exact patterns keeping you stuck in cycles of exhaustion and achievement without fulfillment, the identity beliefs driving your behavior, and what it's going to take for you to finally create success that feels as good on the inside as it looks on the outside.

This isn't about adding another goal to your list. It's about getting honest about what's true for you and starting to live from that truth. Because when you're congruent, success stops being something you chase and becomes who you are.

Book your free Congruency Audit: lisacarpenter.ca/audit

If you're feeling called to more in-person connection and real transformation, join Lisa and Sara Intonato in Spain for a walking retreat on the Camino de Santiago, September 25 - October 3, 2026.

This isn't a vacation. It's a sacred journey to leave behind what's weighing you down and reconnect with yourself without the noise of the rest of the world. Walk over 100 kilometers, strip away the layers that aren't yours, and step into who you're becoming.

Limited spaces available. Payment plans available now. Learn more: HERE

This isn't about optimizing the version of yourself you built to survive. It's about creating congruence so the life you've built doesn't just look good, it finally feels right.

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