You're afraid of not feeling good enough. Meanwhile, you wake up every day already feeling that way. So what exactly are you protecting yourself from?

In this live coaching episode, I work with Laurie-Ann Murabito, a successful speaking coach who's built a beautiful business but came to me feeling stuck. Not confident enough. Not getting the engagement she wanted. Not seeing the results she expected. So she stopped promoting her work and held back from the bigger vision she knew she was being called toward.

Within minutes of our session, I exposed the pattern she was living: She was afraid of not feeling good enough, but she was already experiencing that feeling every single day. She was protecting herself from what she was already living.

This is imposter syndrome in its most insidious form. Not the dramatic "I'm a fraud" moments, but the quiet, daily erosion of confidence that keeps accomplished people playing small. Laurie-Ann had all the evidence she needed that she was creating real results. Clients hiring her out of the blue after listening silently for months. People telling her she was their only choice. But she wasn't looking at that data. She was hanging her confidence on likes, comments, and downloads that would never be enough.

Here's where the coaching got interesting: I asked her what she was getting from staying stuck that she wouldn't admit. What was the real payoff for playing small? Her answer shifted everything: "I get to stay right here. I don't have to step into that bigger role."

This is the work I do. I don't coach to what you think the problem is. I coach to the operating system underneath that's producing all those symptoms. While most coaches would focus on confidence-building exercises or mindset mantras, I go after the unconscious pattern that's creating the lack of confidence in the first place.

When Laurie-Ann described the vision she's been holding back from, building a world-class speaking and communication company, tears came. That's when I knew we hit the real issue. This wasn't about confidence. It was about identity. Who would she need to become to step into that vision? And what parts of herself would she need to stop being loyal to?

I guided Laurie-Ann to see that she was choosing evidence that kept her small because looking at evidence of her real impact would require her to step up. And stepping up meant leaving behind the familiar version of herself that feels safe, even when it's exhausting.

In this coaching episode, you'll hear me guide Laurie-Ann through:

This episode is for you if:

This is what it sounds like to work with a Master Coach who sees the operating system underneath your surface symptoms. If you've been holding back from something bigger, tune in.

Ready to explore your own patterns?

Book a free 15-minute Congruency Audit at lisacarpenter.ca/audit. We'll identify what's working, what's out of sync, and the single biggest opportunity to bring your life, work, and self back into congruence.

You tell yourself you're being strategic. That you're building collaborations, finding complementary skill sets, creating win-win partnerships. But what if the real reason you keep looking for someone else to do it with you is because you don't believe you're enough on your own?

Andrea Janzen built a wildly successful leadership development company in one of the most male-dominated industries on the planet: construction. She's coached over 1,000 construction professionals, works with multinational companies, hosts the Ambition Theory Podcast, and is a Forbes contributor. On the outside, she's absolutely killing it.

But for years, Andrea was running a story underneath all that success. A story that said she wasn't legitimate without an HR background. That she needed partners to fill her gaps. That her energy and authentic approach weren't enough to carry her business forward.

The cost? She almost missed massive opportunities. She hid her greatest strengths. She exhausted herself trying to prove her worth. And even when she was achieving goals she'd journaled about years earlier, she couldn't let herself feel successful.

Until a client said five words that changed everything: "We just want to work with you."

Andrea Janzen is a Certified Executive Coach with an MBA, the host of the Ambition Theory Podcast, a Forbes contributor, and a top-rated speaker. She is passionate about coaching construction professionals to develop themselves, set leadership goals, and get results. Since 2018, Andrea has coached and trained over 1,000 construction professionals. Before becoming a coach, Andrea was a marketing leader who worked on some of the world's best-known brands.

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Ready to stop hiding behind partnerships and step into what you're actually capable of?

Here's what Andrea's story reveals: The "not enough" story doesn't go away with more credentials, more partners, or more proof. It goes away when you finally see what's been true all along, that your energy, your authentic approach, your unique way of seeing things, that's not a gap to fill. That's your genius.

But most high achievers can't see this on their own. We need someone to hold up the mirror, to name the pattern we're running, to show us where we're hiding instead of leading.

That's exactly what the Congruency Audit does.

The Congruency Audit is where we look at the gap between the success you've built on the outside and what you're actually feeling on the inside. We'll identify the exact "not enough" story keeping you stuck, the ways you're over-functioning or seeking external validation instead of trusting yourself, and what it's going to take for you to finally create success that feels as good on the inside as it looks on the outside.

If Andrea's story hit you somewhere deep, if you recognized yourself in the pattern of seeking partners from scarcity or achieving goals without feeling successful, this call is for you.

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This isn't about optimizing the version of yourself you built to survive. It's about creating congruence so the life you've built doesn't just look good, it finally feels right.

Tracy Goodwin had a gift she couldn't deny. She could hear things in people's voices that no one else could hear, seven layers of sound that revealed scars, wounds, and the real person buried beneath years of conditioning. But instead of stepping into that power, she played it safe. She taught traditional voice coaching while her radical insights screamed to get out.

Then the hate came. International hate clubs. Requests to appear on national television to be humiliated on purpose. Daily emails telling her she was an "effing piece of" nothing, that she shouldn't exist, that she should be dead. Her life was literally threatened because she wouldn't accommodate someone's request, because she wouldn't conform to what others wanted her to be.

So she went into hiding. She refinished furniture for years, sanding away layers of old paint and varnish while God sanded away her excuses.

Until she heard the voice she'd been running from: "What are you doing? I didn't put you down there to finish furniture. I need you back in the game."

Within 24 hours, the concept of psychology of the voice became crystal clear.

This episode is for you if you've ever:

Tracy Goodwin is a voice decoder, researcher, and voice behavioralist who works with the psychology of the voice. She helps high-performing leaders understand how their voice holds their scars, wounds, and power, ultimately getting them back to who they were put on this earth to be versus who the world told them to be.

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If Tracy's story hit you in the chest, if you recognized yourself in the pattern of knowing your truth but staying paralyzed by fear, it's time to stop hiding behind the version of success that's quietly killing you.

The congruency audit is where we look at the gap between the success you've built on the outside and what you're actually feeling on the inside. We'll identify the exact patterns keeping you stuck in the "never enough" cycle, the wounds driving your over-responsibility, and what it's going to take for you to finally create success that feels as good on the inside as it looks on the outside.

No more self-inflicted torture of knowing there's more but being too afraid to reach for it. No more settling for accomplishments that leave you empty.

Book your Congruency Audit: lisacarpenter.ca/audit

This isn't about optimizing the version of yourself you built to survive. It's about creating congruence so the life you've built doesn't just look good, it finally feels right.

You’ve achieved more than most people, but if you’re honest, it’s come at a cost — to your health, your relationships, your energy, maybe even your sense of peace. And here’s the kicker: no matter how much you do, it never feels like enough.

In this very first episode of Congruent, Lisa Carpenter pulls back the curtain on the truth about success. Why do so many high-achieving men and women deny or downplay their success? Why does “making it” rarely feel the way we imagined it would? And what does it actually take to create success that sustains you instead of drains you?

Lisa shares her own story of chasing achievement while never feeling successful, and how a life-changing season forced her to embody everything she’d been teaching for over a decade. She reveals the hidden costs of “do-er mode,” the patterns that keep ambitious people stuck, and the shifts required to build a life that feels as good on the inside as it looks on the outside.

What you’ll hear in this episode:

If you’ve been chasing achievement but still feel unfulfilled, exhausted, or disconnected, this episode will help you see that you’re not broken — you’ve been conditioned. And there’s a different way forward.

👉 Ready to uncover where you’re out of alignment? Book your free 15-minute Congruency Audit.

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Fresh off an incredible two-day retreat in the beautiful Okanagan, Lisa dives deep into the story that keeps so many driven, ambitious people trapped: "I should know this stuff already."

If you've been drowning in personal development for years, reading all the books, taking the courses, working with coaches, and you're still stuck in the same patterns, this episode is for you.

What You'll Learn:

The Truth About "Should Know Better" Lisa breaks down why believing you should already have it figured out is the exact thing keeping you stuck. She shares how this story kept her trapped for years and why it's actually keeping you from the transformation you're craving.

The Bus vs. Plane Analogy We don't need coaches. We're all capable of finding our way. But working with a one-to-one coach is the difference between taking a bus across the country versus hopping on a plane. Same destination, completely different timeline.

Lisa's Money Story Transformation For years, Lisa thought she had a money problem. The real problem? She was constantly holding her attention on what she didn't have instead of recognizing the abundance that was already there. She shares the specific questions she asked herself that shifted everything.

The Four Phases of Transformation

1. Awareness - Discovering what's really holding you back (spoiler: it's not what you think)

The Real Cost of Playing Small

Lisa challenges you to ask yourself: What is it costing you to get stuck in your stories? How much longer are you going to use "I should know this" as an excuse to not make the investment in yourself that you need to make?

She shares her own journey of learning to stop shrinking, to show up as a leader, and how working with coaches for two decades has allowed her to create the life and business she has today.

The Dragon Unicorn Moment

Lisa shares a powerful story about a friend telling her: "You not standing out is like a dragon unicorn standing in the middle of a field, not standing out." This became a turning point in her journey of accepting that she's here to lead.

Bottom Line

You have information, but information is nothing without action. Nothing. The most successful, emotionally well people Lisa knows have worked with coaches, not because there's anything wrong with them, but because they value personal growth and want to show up as more powerful leaders in their lives.

Take Action

If this episode resonates with you:

• Stop telling yourself you should have it figured out by now

This Week's Challenge: Really ask yourself what you want and what you need for your own personal transformation. Give yourself permission to want what you want, need what you need, and get out of the story that you should be doing it all by yourself.

You can be driven and ambitious and want more in your life, but you don't have to do it at your own personal sacrifice. Make you a priority this week.

Want to work with Lisa? She's looking for driven, ambitious humans who are ready to stop playing small and create their extraordinary lives. Visit lisacarpenter.ca/wwm to learn more.

Lisa dives deep into the confusion around "let it be easy" versus doing hard things. If you've been avoiding uncomfortable actions or pushing through everything with force, this episode reveals the difference between allowing and forcing, and why both approaches can keep you stuck.

Many of Lisa's clients are excellent at doing hard things. They're masters at pushing through, putting their heads down, and forcing things to happen. But there's a crucial difference between forcing and pushing versus allowing. The energy behind the action matters as much as the action itself.

Lisa woke up with sore legs, knowing she had to train glutes that day. Heavy weights, high volume, very mental. She didn't feel like it. But she's committed to her outcome, and she knows that if she starts negotiating with herself based on how she feels, she's already losing.

Instead of wasting energy negotiating or switching to upper body, she went straight to the gym. While warming up, she shifted her energy from "Oh my God, this is going to be so hard and take so long" to reminding herself that she's strong, capable, and her body can do this. She tuned into her body's yes or no signals, which is different than just not feeling like it.

The key insight: she went in knowing it would be hard and asked "How can I allow this to be easier?"

Whether you're trying to transform your body, lose weight, or grow a business, it's going to be hard. Lisa can't tell you how many face-down moments she's had in business, how many hard decisions she's made, how much adversity she's faced. Being an entrepreneur isn't for everyone and it's definitely not a walk in the park.

When you're doing hard things, it's confronting. You have to look at your limiting beliefs, the stories you're telling yourself, your current identity and ways of being. You have to stare all of that down, and it's really uncomfortable.

Most people aren't willing to do uncomfortable things. So Lisa asks: is it that it's hard, or is it that it's uncomfortable and we don't want to do uncomfortable things?

For many high-achievers, the hardest, most uncomfortable thing isn't pushing through more activities. It's learning to slow down, say no, make rest a priority, have more fun, take things off their plate, be in the discomfort of not taking care of everybody else, and actually making themselves a priority.

When Lisa was learning to rest, she had to dismantle all her stories and beliefs: rest was lazy, rest was unproductive, rest was for "those people." She had things to do. It was tied to her identity as an overachiever who wore "busy" as a badge of honor. She could do all the things and take care of everybody else while doing them. No wonder she burned out.

To heal, she had to learn that slowing down was the hard thing for an over-doer. Most people would say slowing down isn't hard, but when you're wired to constantly achieve, slowing down is the most uncomfortable thing you can do.

Lisa had to learn how to make rest feel easier. Resting felt torturous, so she shifted her energy by reminding herself what rest would bring: healing, strength, the ability to do more ultimately. Rest wasn't going to take away from anything. She had to learn to honor and value rest, and that's how she allowed the hard thing to be easier.

Get comfortable being uncomfortable. The more you can get comfortable with being uncomfortable, that's when the magic happens. In that discomfort, you can adjust your energy so that even when it's uncomfortable, you still find a way to win and honor your energy.

The question becomes: what feels hard that you've been avoiding? And what things are you doing that you're telling yourself are hard that, if you shifted your energy around them, you could allow to be easier?

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If you're feeling drained despite all your efforts to manage your time and boundaries, you're probably making these three critical mistakes that are actually robbing you of the very energy you're trying to preserve. This episode reveals why your current strategies are backwards and what to focus on instead.

Mistake #1: Waiting for Others to Change

The biggest energy drain is believing that other people or circumstances changing is the solution to feeling better. You're living in "when then" mode. When your partner changes, when you have more time, when your kids are older, when you get a new job, THEN you'll have energy for yourself.

This is giving away your power entirely.

External circumstances changing doesn't automatically give you more energy or make you prioritize yourself better.

If you believe your husband, kids, or schedule needs to change before you can feel better, you're putting yourself in a powerless position where forces outside of you control your wellbeing. That costs you massive amounts of energy because you're fighting what you can't control.

Mistake #2: Thinking It's a Time Management Problem

This is like slapping lipstick on a pig. You're looking for a solution to the wrong problem.

Time management is easy when you know how you're prioritizing your time and what needs to get done. No system or strategy is going to give you more energy. The people Lisa works with are some of the most productive people she's ever met. They're so productive they don't even realize they're over-functioning way beyond what they need to do in a day.

Here's what's really happening: you create organized systems and free up space, then immediately fill that space back up because you're uncomfortable with calm. You say you want more time and energy, but you're actually more committed to filling that time because you feel calm in the chaos.

It takes serious nervous system regulation to get comfortable being calm in the calm. Most people feel more comfortable in chaos than in peace, so they'll always create things to bring them back to busyness.

Mistake #3: Using Worry as a Problem-Solving Strategy

This is where Lisa gets really honest about her own patterns. Worrying and focusing on the problem as a way to fix the problem. Many of Lisa's clients have unraveled the belief that there's even a problem when often what they find is they've created a problem where none existed.

Consider what worry is giving you. Many of us learned that the more we worry, the more responsible we're being about handling things. But where did you learn that worry was the way to solve problems? You get more of what you focus on.

Lisa shares her personal example with money worry. She didn't have a money problem she had a worry-about-money problem. She spent tremendous energy worrying about debt, asking herself how she'd pay it off, if she'd be okay. Then she developed a strategy to break the worry cycle.

Lisa's Worry-Breaking Strategy

She started asking herself: "Is anything different today from yesterday?" The answer was always no. "Did you spend all day yesterday worrying?" Yes. "Did that change anything?" No. "Is anything different today?" No. "Did anything bad happen yesterday?" No.

Day after day after day, she had evidence that worrying wasn't changing anything and nothing bad was actually happening. No bill collectors showed up. Nobody took her car. Nothing bad was happening. In that moment, she'd tell herself to stop spending energy worrying and put that energy into being responsible for doing things that would support the outcome she wanted.

If something had changed when she asked those questions, it still came back to: what do I need to take responsibility for in this moment? Then she'd do that thing and move on.

Ready to break these energy-draining patterns and create sustainable energy that supports your extraordinary life? Connect with Lisa at LisaCarpenter.ca/wwm to explore what's possible.

In a world bombarded with optimization strategies and endless to-do lists, Lisa challenges the conventional wisdom that more equals better. This episode cuts through the noise to reveal why high-performers often sabotage themselves with impossible standards and how to break free from the "all or nothing" trap that keeps you stuck.

We're drowning in information about how to optimize everything, and it's creating paralysis for high-achievers. When you can't do something perfectly, you opt out entirely. This happens with health, relationships, business, and self-care. The result? Zero action equals zero results, even though some results are infinitely better than none.

Lisa breaks down the core pillars that actually matter for performance: sleep, movement, nutrition, outdoor time, relationships (especially with yourself), and hydration. These basics don't change, but we get distracted by every new optimization strategy instead of mastering what we know works.

Everyone's talking about cold plunging for nervous system benefits, but Lisa reveals why she doesn't do it despite knowing the benefits. She's already doing hard things and chooses different hard things that support her nervous system post-burnout. The lesson? Don't do things just because others say you should. Choose what works for YOUR life and nervous system.

What if you gave yourself permission to go to the gym once a week instead of five times? What if you committed to one healthy breakfast instead of overhauling your entire diet? What if you meditated for five minutes instead of aiming for an hour? The key is finding the minimum you can commit to and actually stick with it.

For years, Lisa used being hard on herself as motivation. This worked until it didn't. When you're using self-criticism to move forward, you're in an abusive relationship with yourself. The shift? You can achieve more through strategic kindness than constant criticism.

Sometimes the answer isn't adding more strategies—it's consciously deciding what to stop doing. Put a pin in optimization techniques that don't fit your current bandwidth. Schedule a reminder to revisit them in three to six months. Give yourself permission to let things go without guilt.

Can you sit with yourself in silence for five minutes? If not, what does that say about your relationship with yourself? What are you running from? What stories are you telling yourself about what you "should" be doing? These questions reveal the deeper patterns keeping you stuck.

This episode is for high-achievers who feel like they're constantly failing despite doing everything "right." If self-care feels like another job on your to-do list, if you opt out of healthy habits because you can't do them perfectly, or if you're ready to challenge the stories keeping you overwhelmed, this episode will shift your perspective.

Choose one foundational area where you want improvement. Ask yourself what's the absolute minimum you can commit to and actually stick with. Notice what stories come up when you consider doing "less." Then give yourself permission to let everything else go for now while you build this one sustainable habit.

Success and fulfillment don't come from doing all the things—they come from doing the right things consistently. When you master the basics and build on a solid foundation, you don't need to constantly add more to feel successful. You'll actually start enjoying your life instead of grinding through it.

Ready to master the art of prioritizing yourself and creating a life filled with joy, fulfillment, ease, and peace? Fill out the application https://lisacarpenter.ca/wwm/ and let's discuss how to get you the results you're after without sacrificing yourself to achieve them.

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Episode Summary: Join Lisa for a powerful live coaching session with client "Sarah" as they tackle one of the most common patterns Lisa sees in high-achievers: internally generating stress and anxiety before anything bad has even happened. In this intimate behind-the-scenes look at coaching in action, you'll witness a complete transformation from catastrophic thinking to anticipating the best.

What You'll Learn:

The Anxiety Trap That's Keeping You Stuck

• Why we catastrophize as a protection mechanism (and why it backfires)

• How anticipating disaster actually robs you of energy and joy

• The difference between trying to control outcomes vs. trusting yourself to handle whatever comes

The Body-Mind Connection

• Why your brain might say "I'm fine" while your body stays in fight-or-flight

• Simple nervous system regulation techniques you can use anywhere

• The power of breath work to signal safety to your body

From Survival to Thriving: A Step-by-Step Approach

• Sarah's personalized action plan for overcoming anxiety patterns

• The HALT check-in: Managing Hungry, Angry/Anxious, Lonely, Tired

• How to shift from "I'll be okay" to "I can anticipate the best"

The Paradox of High-Achievers:

Lisa reveals why her most successful clients often struggle with this pattern: "My clients are all survivors. They've always landed on their feet... Yet they're the same people that fundamentally are afraid they're not going to be okay if something happens."

Practical Tools You Can Use Today:

The Pre-Event Reset:

• Take 2 minutes before challenging situations

• Practice visualization of your ideal outcome

• Use grounding techniques (feet on floor, name 5 things you can see)

Daily Evidence Collection:

• Journal about good things that happened each day

• Notice how many catastrophized scenarios never occurred

• Build a mental database of "everything working out for me"

Breath Work Basics:

• Box breathing patterns

• Slow exhales to activate the parasympathetic nervous system

• Use breath awareness to return to presence

The Worthiness Component:

Sarah's breakthrough moment: "It's okay for me to anticipate the best... because I'm worthy of it as opposed to I need to earn it."

If this episode resonated with you, you might be ready for the kind of deep, transformational work Lisa does with her clients. Many successful people find themselves stuck in patterns of internal stress generation despite having "everything figured out" on the outside.

Ready to explore coaching? Lisa has openings this summer and fall for both individual sessions and her Reclamation program. Links to connect are in the episode description.

Remember: You don't have to earn your worthiness. You were born worthy of anticipating the best.

Are you an overwhelmed parent who's tired of yelling at your kids? Do you find yourself losing it with your children, then feeling guilty about your parenting afterward? If you're a high-achieving mom or dad struggling with parenting anxiety, constant overwhelm, and the exhausting cycle of trying to control everything, this episode is for you.

In today's deeply personal episode, I share the real story of how doing my own healing work completely transformed how I show up as a parent, and how it's breaking generational trauma for my children.

What You'll Learn:

• Why "good parents" still lose it with their kids (and what's really happening beneath the surface)

Perfect for Parents Who:

• Feel like they're always yelling despite wanting to be calm

Featured Story:

I share the raw, real moment when my 14-year-old son Jake dropped his brand-new phone in the river, and how our response became a powerful example of generational healing in action. You'll hear exactly what we did differently (and what we used to do wrong) that's creating emotional safety for our kids.

The Investment Truth:

Why parents will spend thousands on tutoring, sports, and schools but resist investing in the inner work that actually gives their children emotional security, self-compassion, and healthy relationships with themselves.

If you're ready to stop the cycle of overwhelm and create the emotionally safe family environment your children actually need, this episode will show you exactly where to start, and why the work begins with you.