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In today's discussion, I want to delve into the concept of losing oneself, particularly in the context of toxic and trauma-bonded relationships. Not everyone experiences toxic relationships, but those who do often have an insecure attachment style, typically anxiously attached. This attachment style stems from childhood experiences where love was inconsistent, conditional, or tied to meeting specific criteria. The desire for acceptance and love becomes conditional upon meeting external standards.

Entering a trauma-bonded relationship involves attracting individuals who mirror our anxieties, reinforcing subconscious beliefs. The brain forms neural pathways that perpetuate a cycle of seeking acceptance by conforming to external expectations. The constant pursuit of an idealized image leads to self-abandonment and a loss of identity.

As one enters a toxic relationship, the initial abundance of love and attention masks the looming criticisms and control that emerge later. Despite recognizing red flags, individuals remain in these relationships, entwining their identity with the relationship itself. The fear of rejection drives a continuous effort to meet perceived conditions for love.

To break this cycle and reclaim oneself, it's crucial to explore and accept the rejected parts of one's identity from childhood. This involves deep subconscious work, rewiring neural pathways, and embracing the concept that your existence is inherently acceptable. Stepping off the hamster wheel of conditional acceptance and focus

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Welcome to Trauma Bonding to Secure Relationships with Dr Sarah — the podcast that helps ambitious individuals and couples heal trauma bonding and toxic relationship cycles to build secure attachments and loving healthy relationships.

Hosted by Dr Sarah, psychologist, relationship strategist, and founder of Heal Trauma Bonding and Relationship Success Lab, this show guides you through practical tools and deep insights on:

✅ Healing from trauma bonding, anxious attachment style, and codependency
✅ Building emotional resilience and secure attachment styles a
✅ Improving communication, empathy, and emotional intimacy
✅ Reclaiming your identity, boundaries, and self-worth
✅ Creating lasting relationship happiness and passion

Whether you're recovering from betrayal, navigating codependency, or simply ready to break free from the past, this podcast gives you the clarity, strength, and strategy to move forward

We hope you got massive value from this episode for your own healing and relationship progress.