Love by Design

If you feel like you're going around in circles in dating, I get it.

It can be extremely frustrating and exhausting to spend so much time, energy and effort in online dating, texting and dating yet see no progress.

You may be trapped in the illusion that if you do MORE, you’ll get better and different results, so you push and force yourself.

You may be taking a break from dating, waiting and staying in the place of inaction. 

And here’s what I want to offer you:

Our thoughts create our results.

So, if you continue to think the same thoughts about dating, you’ll continue getting the same results (or lack of results).

Understanding this is EVERYTHING. That’s exactly why I created a new episode, #75 How to think new thoughts in dating. 

In this week’s episode, you’re about to discover:

✨ How your thoughts create your results

✨ Why taking different actions doesn’t guarantee different results

✨ Real life stories of single women trying to change their results

✨ What’s possible for YOU in love when you shift your thoughts

Here are a few gold nuggets from this episode: 

When you focus on just actions, without changing what you believe, without changing what you think, your results will not change.”

“You might think that the solution is outside of you. It’s not.”

“You carry yourself everywhere you go.”

“This is why it's so important to do this work by investing in yourself and getting coaching.”

“What all of our Love by Design members have in common is that we do work on our minds, we do work on what we think. Because your thoughts are your identity—how you show up—and they are your beliefs and what you carry with you and in you. Your thoughts about men, yourself, dating, and what's possible for you, your beliefs about your city, the dating scene, your age and dating apps are going to determine what's possible for you.“

—Polina

P.S. If you’re ready to find the love of your life, I want to invite you to schedule a free private “Attract Your Man Now” consultation with me: https://calendly.com/polinasolda/attract-your-man-now-call-40mins. You’ll get clarity on where you are and why, the actual reasons why you’re single, where you want to be and exactly how to get there, and then make a decision for moving forward. I’ll see you there!

So many of us WANT to feel love. But . . . so many of us are not doing the things that would ALLOW us to have it.

So many of us have been programmed to think that for us to feel love, there are certain things that need to happen that are outside of our control.

We’ve been programmed to believe that if we just find this special person or soulmate, then we will finally have access to this feeling of love. Then, finally, we'll be happy.

What I want to offer you is this:

Love is created within you. 

Love comes from you.

Love is a choice and a decision that you make. 

And it all starts in your mind.

Understanding this is super POWERFUL. It empowers you and gives you CONFIDENCE in your ability to feel love at ANY moment. 

That’s exactly why I created a new episode, #74 How to Feel Love  

In this week’s episode, you’re about to discover:

✨ How our subconscious programming blocks us from feeling love

✨ How and why we feel love towards one man and not another

✨ How you can feel love here and now (even if you haven’t felt it for a l-o-n-g time) 

✨ Some powerful questions to start asking yourself in order to feel love

Here are a few gold nuggets from this episode: 

“What's so powerful is that you can decide—once you realize that you are the source of love. And you can decide that you're going to feel love here and now.”

“Even though you don't have any man around you, not to mention the right man, you can feel the feeling of love now. It is so powerful. 

It’s so much easier for you to attract love and attract the right person into your life when you come from a place of abundance . . . when you're ready to fall in love . . . when you are filled with love you feel love on a daily basis . . . when you are the source of love, you are the source of love energy. 

If you ever ask yourself the question, “Why can't I find love?” that is a disempowering question. That is a negative, limiting, sabotaging question that comes from a place of lack, from a place of not enough, from a place of something is missing and wrong. And when you ask yourself low quality questions, you're going to get low quality answers. 

There is already a future version of you that exists in the quantum field of all possibilities where you already have that amazing life partner, your dual partner, somebody who loves you, and accepts you unconditionally, exactly as you are. And you feel the same way towards him. And that version already exists. It's already done.

When you date your dual partner type, when you show up as this incredible authentic, magnetic woman, you are the source of love, you’re filled with love. Then it's very, very easy to attract the person. It happens very quickly.

And it happens in an easy and joyful way. It happens in an effortless way, without going on tons of dates, meeting lots of men or putting so much effort into dating. It happens without watching for the red flags, trying to manipulate the man into asking you out or obsessing about him responding to your texts. All of that unnecessary stuff goes away. 

The answer is not changing the circumstances, the answer is not getting on yet another dating app or the newest one or “the best” one. There isn’t “the best.” The best answer is to look within you, go within and create your transformation from the inside out. That is the best way. 

—Polina

P.S. If you’re ready to find the love of your life, I want to invite you to schedule a free private “Attract Your Man Now” consultation with me: https://calendly.com/polinasolda/attract-your-man-now-call-40mins. You’ll get clarity on where you are and why, the actual reasons why you’re single, where you want to be and exactly how to get there, and then make a decision for moving forward. I’ll see you there!

Talking with single women every day, I hear so many stories of women who want to find the love of their life but aren’t dating.

They share that they don’t feel confident about putting themselves out there—especially, after taking a long break from dating.

They are trying to hide, and continue telling themselves why NOW isn’t the “right” time for dating, why they’re “too busy” to date or why it’s going to be a waste of time. 

Have you ever wondered what’s underneath those reasons?

Self-doubt.

When you say, “there are no quality men out there,” it seems that you doubt the outside world, when in fact what you really doubt is yourself and your ability to attract a quality man. 

Here’s the good news:

You can build self-confidence by overcoming self-doubt. 

This exactly what I’m sharing in today’s episode Love by Design podcast #73🎙️ Overcoming Self-Doubt in Dating.

In this week’s episode, you’re about to discover:

✨ Why confident women seem to not doubt themselves 

✨The cost of allowing self-doubt to determine your thoughts, decisions and choices and how to minimize it

✨How your thoughts can breed self-doubt and how to handle that

✨The most powerful shift in perspective you can make every time you face self-doubt

Click here to listen to this podcast now.

Here are a few gold nuggets from this episode: 

“When you make a decision based on the past, which has nothing to do with the future, that's already a recipe for failure, because you won't be able to find a reference for success in your past, and because what you want to create is completely unique.”

“So, when you decide to leave your comfort zone and try something new and different, something that will test you, you will undoubtedly experience self-doubt. It's completely normal; in fact, it's a sign that you're maturing and progressing to the next level.”

“Choose to design your love life from a place that already exists in the realm of possibilities in the future. It's not something you've done before. It is entirely possible and available to you. And the only thing standing in your way is your own doubt. You can develop into this amazing future version of yourself, with your soulmate right by your side, knowing you're completely loving and deserving.”

“Consider your feelings about meeting your person. If you fight, if your thoughts are like, ‘I'm not attracted to anyone, it's a terrible quality of man on online dating sites, a total waste of time.’ If those are your thoughts and you believe it's impossible, all of that is the result of self-doubt. That is absolutely untrue. And as long as you believe that this is how things are, and that this is the truth as your reality, and you're not seeing them as ‘this is just my self-doubt thinking,’ you'll be stuck in the same place, nothing will change, and you won't be able to meet anyone.”

“So what's really going on here is that your self-doubt about your ability to attract high-quality men is hiding behind this belief. It's your doubt that you'll meet the right person.”

—Polina

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P.S. If you are a single professional woman and you want to be done with the struggle, fear and frustration of dating . . . Join us in Love by Design!

We just got back from a 10-day family vacation to the West Coast. I feel so inspired that I started writing a book.

As current members of my flagship program, “Love by Design,” share their wins and results (like start dating their dual partner types within just a couple of weeks of joining), I realize that each of them has one thing in common: they all INVEST in themselves.

Being smart, professional women, many of us invest in our educational and professional growth, in real estate and in the stock market. Chances are, you'll get the ROI on your investments in terms of better career opportunities and lifestyle.

The same universal principle works in relationships. 

When you invest in yourself, you increase your relationship rating, e.g., level of perceived desirability and value as a relationship partner.

When you invest in becoming a better, stronger and more resourceful relationship partner, your relationship rating gets very high. And from that place, you get to attract and choose the highest quality of men in the dating space.

On the other hand, if a woman isn’t willing to invest in herself (and her future relationship), how can she expect a man to be willing to invest, too?

In this week’s podcast episode I explain exactly how it works so you can increase the quality of men you meet and choose your best partner.

In this week’s episode, you’ll learn:

• What investing in yourself has to do with creating a great relationship
• How managing your mind gives you the key to managing your relationship
• The difference between women who invest in themselves vs. those who don’t
• The sneaky reasons why some women don’t invest in themselves
• How to know what’s going to happen in your future without looking into a magic crystal ball

Here are a few gold nuggets from this episode: 

“This is the universal principle, the absolute truth, that if you think about anything to invest in, what is most valuable to invest in is what is going to give you the biggest return on your investment—and that is yourself.”

“When a woman believes in herself and knows she's worthy and deserving, she can create the results that she wants. She will decide and make that choice to invest in herself.”

“Why it's so important to invest in yourself: because we get the return of this investment. When you truly connect to your source of energy and power that is unique to you—authentic to you—everything in your life becomes easier. Attracting the right type of men becomes easier and getting into relationships becomes easier.”

“When it comes to relationships, there isn't anything more valuable than investing in yourself, so that you can be the best version of a relationship partner.”

“The only way for a relationship to work long term is when you know how to manage yourself; then you can manage your relationship. When you know how to manage your relationship, then you can be in an amazing, fulfilling, loving, and happy relationship for the rest of your life.”

—Polina

Are you investing in yourself and in your relationship skills and in your relationship and dating?

If you are, I'm so excited for you! 

And I can't wait to see you in my flagship program, Love by Design, where I give you everything you need to become an incredibly strong, resourceful and powerful relationship partner who knows exactly how to navigate through every stage—starting from dating all the way to getting into a loving, committed lasting marriage. 

The time to invest in yourself is now.

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As we’re hosting our free 3-part live video training, “Attract Your Man,” I'm aware that so many women want to find love but something gets in their way.

Most likely that something is FEAR. 

Fear of putting yourself out there.

Fear of being rejected.

Fear of getting hurt (again).

Am I right? 

And I totally get it. Your mind is trying to protect you. 

It seems to be logical and rational.

But here’s what I want you to consider:

Your fear is not a good reason to not put yourself out there and meet new men. One of them may be your soulmate!

The truth is your fear is not going to go away anytime soon.

So, why not face your fear and then decide to do something differently?

Because there’s only one guaranteed way to fail in love: to stay in a place of fear.

But there are millions of ways to find love: to take new, inspired action.

Open yourself to the possibility of love.

Give yourself (and your soulmate) a chance to meet and create your love story.

That’s exactly what I want for you and why I created this new episode # 🎙️ “Overcoming Fear in Dating.”

Click here to listen to this podcast now.

In this week’s episode, you’re about to discover:

• What fear really is (your brain won’t like hearing it)
• What should a single cavewoman do when there are lions out there?
• The real reason you stay in a place of inaction
• The most important questions to ask yourself 
• The number #1 skill to develop so that you can overcome fear 
• A confidence-building exercise that overcomes fear and creates intimacy
• How to overcome fear so that it no longer runs your life
• How to start dating again—despite feeling the fear
• What it really means when you say, “I’m not ready to date”
• The hidden cost of allowing fear to control you 
• What’s possible on the other side of overcoming fear

Here are a few gold nuggets from this episode: 

“The truth is that whatever you are afraid of is a fear of being rejected, a fear of being hurt, a fear of being judged and so on. The truth is that none of these fears will go away any time soon.”

“The only way you can fail in love is if you don't take action, and don't put yourself out there. And there are millions of different ways to find love, to take a new and inspired action and to open yourself to the possibility of love.”

“Fear is a natural part of the human experience, and it is not going away. Let's just accept that it exists. Let's acknowledge where it is, or rather, let's make space to feel what it's like.”

“When you become unstoppable, you can accomplish anything. As long as you're willing to feel that fear, know that it's going to be there, don't fight it, and just go with it, there's no way you won't be in your dream relationship or meet an incredible guy.”

“This is your ultimate personal freedom: to create anything you want, to create the future, and to create relationships that have never existed before, when you choose consciously to not let fear-based thoughts stop you from moving forward.”

“Fear will always be your worst advisor. And there is only one way to overcome fear: accept it, embrace it, and go for it anyway. Because you are the creator of your own life. This is your love life by design; you are in charge, and you have the power and energy to create whatever you want.”

—Polina

If you’re ready to take the first step to overcome your fear, I invite you to do it right now. 

Join our free 3-part live video training, “Attract Your Man,” where I give you the entire blueprint for how to elevate your energy and your vibration, and how to begin to step into this new and different future.

Click here to register now!

I'll share my entire blueprint for how you can get into an easy relationship and finally attract your ideal type of man.

I can't wait to see you there.

As I’m taking inspired action in my company (hosting a 3-part live video training starting September 22, hosting a virtual summit in January and publishing a book in March), I’m thinking how many of us smart, professional women approach our personal life differently.

When you’re so busy with work and life, it’s hard to find time and energy for dating and searching for the right man. 

When you haven’t been putting yourself out there for a while, it’s really  hard to say to yourself, “Okay, NOW is the time” and start dating again.

Am I right? 

When you find reasons (or excuses) to not take any action now, you aren’t taking any risks.

Sure, it’s easy, safe and comfortable to spend another Friday night (or every night!) alone on your favorite couch watching Netflix, reading a book or meeting with a friend.

But the problem with listening to these thoughts is that you aren’t just staying in the same place.

You’re actually getting into a worse place. 

There’s a huge hidden COST of waiting and staying alone when it comes to your ability to attract the high-quality man you want.

I explain exactly why, how it actually works and what you can do differently RIGHT NOW in this new episode #70 🎙️ “The cost of waiting and staying alone.”

In this week’s episode, you’ll learn:

• The biggest illusion of most women who take long breaks from dating
• The hidden cost of waiting and staying alone
• What being unemployed has to do with not dating
• The reason why women’s energy vibrations go down when they aren’t putting themselves out there
• The truth about why women who haven’t dated for a while attract low-quality men
• The proven way to start attracting high-quality men 
• How to make a decision right now that will create a different future for your love life
• The first step you can take right now towards finding the love of your life

Here are few gold nuggets from this episode: 

“The cold hard truth is that the longer you wait, the longer you stay alone and the harder it's going to be to find love.”

“The moment you decide what to do right now is going to determine what's going to happen in your future, because what you choose to do in this moment is going to determine what future you’ll be living into.”

“Choose to do something different right now—to say yes to yourself and to your future love life. When you choose that, when you declare it, you instantly create the possibility for this new future—and that's absolutely possible for you right now.”

“Be courageous, because there is no courage without fear; it’s already there. Fear is always going to be your worst adviser. So if you want to stay up, find that courage and strength inside of you to step into this new, different future where you have the most incredible loving relationship with your man.“

“The tragedy is that the longer women wait—when they hide—the less visible they are and the lower their energy vibration is, as opposed to when they finally decide to come out of hiding and become visible. It's all about being out there.”

—Polina

Are you DONE with waiting and staying alone? If yes, I invite you to take that step right now. Join our free 3-part live video training, “Attract Your Man,” where I give you the entire blueprint for how to elevate your energy, vibration, how to get started to step into this new and indifferent future.

I'll share my entire blueprint for how you too can get into an easy relationship and finally attract your ideal type of man.

Trust me, it's absolutely possible for you!

Click here to register now! 💕

In this episode today, I want to talk about one quality that I believe is the most important when it comes to creating a healthy and powerful relationship—honesty.

That’s exactly what inspired me to create this new episode,  #69 🎙️  “Being honest with Yourself”.

I truly believe that when you’re being completely honest about how you feel with yourself first and with other people and continue being this way, there is no way that you will not be in your dream relationship.

In this week’s episode, you’ll learn:

• The steps to becoming true to yourself
• The costs of staying in the place of fear and not dealing with it
• Real life examples of relationships that are founded on honesty
• Two simple steps to create your incredible love story
• Real life examples of how women show their  authentic selves
• The secret of my 13 years of marriage

Here are few gold nuggets from this episode: 

“You will not be able to sustain a relationship until you first develop that honesty with yourself. Until you cultivate that being honest with yourself first because you cannot be honest with a man, with a partner or in dating situations when you're not even being honest with yourself.”

“When you love somebody unconditionally, then you allow that feeling to be there, you allow that person to be who they are, and accept them from exactly with everything.”

“When you've been honest with yourself—you completely accept your feelings and allow them to be exactly as they are. Then all of those fears and doubts will still be present too but you’ll learn to accept them.”

“When you open and you lead with being honest about your feelings and your desires to yourself first, and then you take it to the next level, then you clearly express that and communicate it to another person. “

“Your heart was open. It won’t break unless it’s open to love. So even if it got broken, it’s still an open heart who knows how to love. You can heal that heart and open it up with the possibility that it can get broken again. And that is the beauty of life.”

—Polina

Your future is not written yet, it’s your property so you can create anything you want and it starts with being with yourself first and being honest with the man in your life.

If you still have all this fear, doubt and insecurity and still don’t know how to be fully honest with yourself, then I’d love to personally guide you, so make sure you join our free 3-part live video training, “Attract Your Man,” on September 22, 27 and 29 at 6:00 p.m. ET, 3:00 p.m. PT.

I'll share my entire blueprint for how you too can fully express your authentic self and finally attract your ideal type of man.

Trust me, it's absolutely possible for you!

Click here to register now! 💕

I love to say that a secret to any great relationship is that you always have something to look forward to together—I think it applies to life as well.

So what is the secret to a great and long term relationship? 

The secret—of course—anything very easy is easy to maintain.

That’s exactly why I created this new episode,  #68 🎙️  Being in an easy relationship. I'm going to give you the exact formula and give some examples of how it works in this podcast.

Because I think being an easy relationship is possible for each person.  And if you're reading this right now, this is my message for you, “It is absolutely possible for you to have  an easy relationship.”

In this week’s episode, you’ll learn:

✨ The exact formula for having an easy relationship

✨ Real life examples of being in an easy relationship

✨ What happens when you have duality in your relationship

✨ My unique secret knowledge that keeps my relationships so amazing

✨ The cost of not choosing your dual type of man

✨ How do you know that you’re in an easy relationship

Here are few gold nuggets from this episode:

“Life is so short and you only have one life, from what I know so far. So why would you spend that on being alone?”

“If a relationship requires you to change yourself, sacrifice and compromise, chances are it's not going to last. If there are lots of disagreements, conflicts, and arguments. It's not gonna work out long term.”

“That moment when you're not the best version of yourself—showing up the entire spectrum of who you are—good and bad—and that person is still there, the relationship continues. That is what I call an easy relationship.”

“You cannot attract your dual partner if you're not being totally authentic in who you are.”

Have you ever been in an easy relationship? And or any relationship where you consider it was easy but it still didn’t work? if you were, then I’d love to personally guide you, so make sure you join our free 3-part live video training, “Attract Your Man,” on September 22, 27 and 29 at 6:00 p.m. ET, 3:00 p.m. PT.

I'll share my entire blueprint for how you too can get into an easy relationship and finally attract your ideal type of man.

Trust me, it's absolutely possible for you!

Click here to register now! 💕

A couple of weeks ago, we invited a group of friends boating with us. One of them was a single woman who has what I call a “Man Manual.” She attempted to use it with my husband, which inspired me to create this episode.

In this week’s episode, you’ll learn:

✨ What a Man Manual is

✨ How a Man Manual sabotages women

✨ The cost of holding on to a Man Manual

✨ Real life examples of women with Man Manuals

✨ The two words that are cues you have a Man Manual

✨ The secret to having a happy and lasting relationship

✨ What to do with your Man Manual (if you have one)

Here are few gold nuggets from this episode: 

“Men and women have different personality types, which means they have different needs, desires, and strengths and weaknesses. So there is no such thing as a manual designed specifically for a man. However, I believe that the concept of having a Man Manual already sets up women to have a difficult time dating and getting into a relationship.”

“Understanding personality types and incorporating them into your style makes it very easy to discard this imaginary Man Manual for how a man should be—and this idea, this ideal, or simply, this is what I want.”

“You can express yourself clearly and openly without any attachment to him. And if that person actually aligns with you and listens to you, it means they want a better relationship with you and that you are important to them.”

“Because when you're in a relationship with a nice man, the simplest way to get through it all is to let go of any buttons; there's nothing to push.”

“Focus on understanding and accepting this man right in front of you for who he is, and discovering what you like about him, falling in love with his less desirable qualities, and accepting his human flaws. That is the ultimate expression and definition of unconditional love.”

I’d love to personally guide you, so make sure you join our free 3-part live video training, “Attract Your Man,” on September 22, 27 and 29 at 6:00 p.m. Eastern, 3:00 p.m. Pacific.

By the end of this training, you’ll walk away with the entire process of how you, too, can finally attract your ideal type of man.

Click here to register now! 💕

“There are no quality men online.”

“Online dating doesn’t work.”

If you’ve been thinking these thoughts and struggling to attract high-quality men online, you’re going to get the cold, hard facts about what’s really going on—and why—in this episode.

In this week’s episode, you’ll learn:

✨ What I’ve seen on Tinder as both a man and a woman 

✨ The most important thing I learned from my shaman (it’s my mantra)

✨ Why focusing on what happened in the past doesn’t matter

✨ Why women struggle to attract high-quality men online

✨ The biggest mistakes women make in their online profile

✨ The guaranteed way to get men’s attention and responses

✨ Real-life examples of women’s online profiles that will NOT attract quality men

✨ How you get in your own way without even realizing it

Here are few gold nuggets from this episode: 

“Single women who've been dating and searching for a long time genuinely want to meet the right person. And they have these invisible blocks that are getting in the way. Those blocks are not what they often think they are. It's not the lack of quality men, because there are incredible men out there. And that's the good news.”

“The truth is, if you want to change your current reality, it's not going to happen if you keep holding on to the same beliefs that are confirming your current reality. You cannot create different results in your life and in your dating online experiences unless you show up as a different woman with a different identity and different beliefs.”

“You're not going to find in your past what you want in your future. If you want to create a different future, you can choose to believe completely a new belief that has nothing to do with your past—but in your current circumstances—and that is the only way to get there.”

“You are where your attention is.”

“What we have to focus on is what we attract and where we put our attention—where our energy goes and what our energy creates. Because how we feel and what we believe creates our reality.”

—Polina

There’s a simple, fast and proven formula that you can learn in just two hours that will give you an instant positive shift in your communication and the quality of men you attract.

So, if you want to attract your man without wasting your time, energy and resources on messaging the wrong guys, join us now.

This live virtual “Attract Your Man Messaging Workshop” gives you the exact formula for knowing who to message, how to message him, and what your first messages will be . . . OR YOUR MONEY BACK!

Click here to register now! 💕