Today’s episode offers families a different conversation about paying children for doing chores.     Janet and Doug offer these BRAVE LOVE ideas:

• “Should,” shame and manipulation may work in the short-term, but they reduce our children’s capacity for maturity in the long run.  Let’s build trust instead.
• The word “chores” implies “hard, and unpleasant.”  Decide on a better word for your family.  We are created to work…and actually enjoy it!
• Aim at building trust, instead of bargaining.  Bargaining is not a healthy strategy in relationships.  Home can be a place of caring…instead of earning.

Listen in on episode 3 to discover the power and practicality of BRAVE LOVE.  There is great hope!

Today’s episode answers the question, “How do our children decide about the time they spend with technology?”

Janet and Doug offer this BRAVE LOVE ideas:

• Most decisions in life are way bigger than good and evil. Our children need relationships - as much or more than they need rules.
• Ask ourselves - “Where is love in the story?” Our children will need to trust love to help them choose good.
• Aim at the target of maturity, instead of day to day perfection. Let’s help our children ask themselves good questions about the choices they’re making in relationship.
• Check out this blog post for more BRAVE LOVE ideas: https://janetnewberry.com/technology-wants-to-date-our-children/

Listen to episode 2 to discover the power and practicality of BRAVE LOVE.

There is great hope.

Today's question is from a listener who asks, "What do we do when our teens - and their cousins! - stare at their phones all evening while we're on vacation?"

Janet and Doug offer these BRAVE LOVE ideas:

• Our children will always need our help; they will always need to grow up. Their need is normal.
• Shame doesn't help. Rules don't even help. Love builds trust - and helps our children grow up.
• Parenting is exhausting; let's be exhausted helping our children grow up. Let's do the thing that builds trust.

Listen to episode 1 to discover the power and practicality of BRAVE LOVE. There is great hope.