Make More Love Not War

I know this is a podcast but I want to do something that has never been done in podcast history. I’m going to ask you a question and I want you to raise your right hand if you agree and left hand if you disagree. I’m wearing my special VR headset right now that will allow me to see which hand you are holding up. Trust me I am a professional podcaster so please don’t try this at home. Ok….let’s try this out.

If you or a family member fell into the dark world of addiction that required going to rehabilitation, would you want your loved ones to be there to support you?

Remember raise your right hand for agree and left hand for disagree. Ok….I see the hands going up. Let me count them really quickly. Remember you can raise your left hand if you disagree. Raise em high! Ok… I’m looking… So NO left hands….huh. That’s interesting. It appears that everyone listening to me right now would rather have support from their friends or family to help them recover from addiction instead of facing this daunting task alone. That is fascinating that you all think that 100% because the way rehabilitation has worked for many years is to isolate people recovering from addiction from their friends and family. As my Dad would say, “That sounds Ass Backwards to me” and based on my very scientific survey I just did you also agree. Of course, it’s great that we all agree and we can create some awesome “Outrage Theater” but that doesn’t get much done. Lucky for us there is a big brained doctor that is fighting the fight to get rehabilitation centers to change with real data from the Gottman Institute (I love them) to support having loved ones play a supportive role in recovering from addiction. I want to introduce you to him right now.

Our guest today, Dr. Robert Navarra is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Master Addiction Counselor, and Certified Gottman Therapist and Master Trainer specializing in a relational approach to addiction recovery. Based on his research of over 15 years he created “Roadmap for the Journey: For Couples in Recovery”, a two-day research-based workshop designed for couples in early and long-term addiction recovery. Roadmap is a featured workshop at Betty Ford Hazelden’s line up of workshops in 2019 and 2020. Act now to attend his next workshop in Center City, Minnesota September 27-29! Roadmap provides tools and strategies for couples to integrate recovery in couple and family life. Private and small group intensive couple recovery workshops are also available. Most recently he has authored “Systemic Addiction Treatment in Couple and Family Therapy” and co-authored three articles with Dr. John Gottman on Gottman Method Therapy (GMT) for the Encyclopedia of Couple and Family Therapy. Additional publications include several book chapters on Gottman Method Therapy (GMT) with Dr. John Gottman and Dr. Julie Gottman. Dr Navarra has also created and a one-day training in addiction assessment and treatment for therapists and counselors, “Couples and Addiction Recovery”. Coming soon, online training for professionals. See- I told you he was a big brained Doctor!

Websites: https://drrobertnavarra.com/ and https://couplerecovery.org/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/CouplesRecovery
Twitter: https://twitter.com/drbobnavarra
Podcast: Relationship Notes (Coming soon) In the meantime visit Soundcloud station

The Shameless Sexual Revolution can only be liberated and spread if we escape the oppressive ideology of the past that has been allowed to corrode the deep passion that lies in all women for the explicit objective to advance a morality that holds NO validity today, yesterday or of anytime in the history of all mankind. We, women of the world, together shall forge a new path –NOT because we are weak alone - but because we are stronger as a single sharp point of power with one mind, one body and one soul channeling a revolutionary vision of our design and our values. Are you willing to wait for a better tomorrow to magically appear without sharing in the struggle we all know is required to generate any change in this world? We, SHAMELESS REBELS, are NOT going to wait one more day.

We are on the frontlines FIGHTING for all women that love sex. JOIN US as we destroy the shame that has infected women all over the world, causing needless suffering and providing NO value to women whatsoever. JOIN US in this FIGHT TODAY! Go to our website www.makemorelovenotwar.com and email us letting us know you want to be a SHAMELESS REBEL. Spread our mission by forwarding a link to our podcast to friends and family! Together, one day, we will celebrate our Victory with all the glory it deserves but for today we FIGHT.

JOIN US NOW!!

www.makemorelovenotwar.com

The Shameless Sexual Revolution can only be liberated and spread if we escape the oppressive ideology of the past that has been allowed to corrode the deep passion that lies in all women for the explicit objective to advance a morality that holds NO validity today, yesterday or of anytime in the history of all mankind. We, women of the world, together shall forge a new path –NOT because we are weak alone - but because we are stronger as a single sharp point of power with one mind, one body and one soul channeling a revolutionary vision of our design and our values. Are you willing to wait for a better tomorrow to magically appear without sharing in the struggle we all know is required to generate any change in this world? We, SHAMELESS REBELS, are NOT going to wait one more day.

We are on the frontlines FIGHTING for all women that love sex. JOIN US as we destroy the shame that has infected women all over the world, causing needless suffering and providing NO value to women whatsoever. JOIN US in this FIGHT TODAY! Go to our website www.makemorelovenotwar.com and email us letting us know you want to be a SHAMELESS REBEL. Spread our mission by forwarding a link to our podcast to friends and family! Together, one day, we will celebrate our Victory with all the glory it deserves but for today we FIGHT.

JOIN US NOW!!

www.makemorelovenotwar.com

The Shameless Sexual Revolution can only be liberated and spread if we escape the oppressive ideology of the past that has been allowed to corrode the deep passion that lies in all women for the explicit objective to advance a morality that holds NO validity today, yesterday or of anytime in the history of all mankind. We, women of the world, together shall forge a new path –NOT because we are weak alone - but because we are stronger as a single sharp point of power with one mind, one body and one soul channeling a revolutionary vision of our design and our values. Are you willing to wait for a better tomorrow to magically appear without sharing in the struggle we all know is required to generate any change in this world? We, SHAMELESS REBELS, are NOT going to wait one more day.

We are on the frontlines FIGHTING for all women that love sex. JOIN US as we destroy the shame that has infected women all over the world, causing needless suffering and providing NO value to women whatsoever. JOIN US in this FIGHT TODAY! Go to our website www.makemorelovenotwar.com and email us letting us know you want to be a SHAMELESS REBEL. Spread our mission by forwarding a link to our podcast to friends and family! Together, one day, we will celebrate our Victory with all the glory it deserves but for today we FIGHT.

JOIN US NOW!!

www.makemorelovenotwar.com

Are you a man that feels like woman are just out to get you? All women are crazy and you are tired of putting your time and energy into an endless pit of heartache and misery. Of course, you do everything right and it’s those darn women in some kind of demon club created to destroy your life. Even though you are the only common denominator in all of your relationships, it’s still those evil witches from the deepest darkest levels of hell that are inflicting this tremendous amount of pain on you with nothing but the most intense pleasure in their eyes as they rip your heart out of your chest and stomp on it over and over again. Yeah…that makes sense! I may be going out on a limb here but maybe it’s you? We found a man that discovered he was the problem, the hard way, did the hard work to change it. Now he helps other men balance masculinity, emotional growth, personal awareness and intimacy to have a more passionate relationship with women and oh yeah…better sex.

Our guest today, Ryan Thomas, is the Founder of The Intimate Lifestyle and host of The Intimate Lifestyle Podcast. Ryan is an 11 year army veteran and certified hypnotherapist that helps men build confidence in their relationships. Coming from a super macho background, and transitioning into the personal growth, healthy sexuality, relationships and intimacy realm gives Ryan a unique perspective that is invaluable to men who are struggling with women. Ryan helps men that keep getting broken up with, date the wrong kind of women, have sexual dysfunction and are consistently disrespected by their partners. He provides these men with the tools and skills needed to have a life with more passionate and better sex. He’s making a positive change for so many men and the women lucky enough to be with a man that Ryan has transformed. Sit back and enjoy this intimate interview with Ryan Thomas.

www.theintimatelifestyle.com

Marcus Aurelius, the Great Stoic Roman Emperor, wrote, “The impediment to action advances action. What stands in the way becomes the way.” I can hear you saying, what exactly does that mean Terah? This quote is all about how an obstacle in the path you are taking can look like a disaster but turn out to be the best thing that ever happened to you because it required you to forge a new path that ended up being your calling. That is exactly what happened with our guest today. She was in a marriage that she thought was going great and then out of the blue she found out that her husband had an affair. This was devastating to her on many different levels. In her search for understanding and what to do next her journey to find the help she needed fell flat. The only message she got from what to do next was leave him, forgive him or stay with him. She felt that this was incomplete and she forged her own path to become an expert on how to help people recover after an affair. She is recognized as the leader in this field and her books have helped millions of people recover from the violation of trust resulting from an affair. She clearly reflects the Marcus Aurelius quote. I bet she never would’ve guessed when she was at her low after her affair that she would help millions of people recover like she did.

Our guest today, Janis Abrahms Springs, Ph.D. is a board certified clinical psychologist and nationally acclaimed expert on issues of trust, intimacy, and forgiveness. Her first book, After the Affair: Healing the Pain and Rebuilding Trust When a Partner Has Been Unfaithful, has sold more than a half million copies. Her second book, How Can I Forgive You? The Courage to Forgive, the Freedom Not To, was a Books for a Better Life Award finalist in the category of Best Psychology Book and has sold more than one hundred thousand copies. Janis is a former clinical supervisor in the Department of Psychology at Yale University. She often serves as a guest expert in national media in places like Good Morning America, NPR, The New York Times, Huffington Post, Sirius XM Radio, and others like this amazing podcast. She presents regularly at venues such as The Smithsonian Institute, Harvard’s Continuing Education Conferences, and Smith College School of Social Work. I think you get the idea that she is a bad ass and you are in for a treat. If you have ever experienced an affair this is a special opportunity for you to learn how to forge your own path from the master. As a couples therapist, it was an absolute honor to talk with such an experienced, talented, and empathetic therapist as Janis.

www.janisaspring.com

What’s more important than good communication? Even if you know what to say you still have to deliver that message in a manner that is understood by the other person. Imagine you are swimming in the beautiful Mediterranean Sea off the Southern coast of France on a perfect summer’s day. Then all the sudden you hear people yelling “Requin, Requin, Requin!!” and pointing your direction. You have no idea what they are saying but you gather that they must be so impressed with your swimming skills that they want everyone to watch you. Just as you’re filled with so much pride for being the world’s greatest swimmer, you feel a shark swim right beside you. At this very moment, you figure out that “Requin” means shark in French you are in trouble. This is why I think some words need to be international words like SHARK….but I digress. Communication is at the heart of human connection which is fundamental to living a life full of solidarity.

Our guest today, Dr. Jose Rodriguez (aka Dr. J) is returning to our podcast for a second time to discuss his awesome Ted Talk titled, “The Power of Solidarity in the Moments of Life”. I love Ted Talks for many reasons and I’m so excited that Dr. J got the opportunity to bring his knowledge to the Tedx audience. We interviewed Dr. J last year in the podcast titled “How to Win Every Argument” and I highly recommend listening to it because Dr. J does a great job explaining how even the smallest of messages matter in the moments of living. For three decades, Dr. J has helped people become better communicators. His work cuts across boundaries in education, business, and contemporary culture. As a Professor of Communication Studies at California State University, Long Beach, Dr. Rodríguez has received awards for the quality of his research from the National Communication Association, International Communication Association, and Association of Teacher Educators. His work has been featured on ABC7 Eyewitness News and KMEX 34 Univision in Los Angeles. He has also found the time to serve as a trainer and consultant for public and private organizations across the nation, working to create communication solutions for strategic change. Dr. J is awesome and you will love this interview with him.

www.joserodriguez.solutions

The Shameless Sexual Revolution can only be liberated and spread if we escape the oppressive ideology of the past that has been allowed to corrode the deep passion that lies in all women for the explicit objective to advance a morality that holds NO validity today, yesterday or of anytime in the history of all mankind. We, women of the world, together shall forge a new path –NOT because we are weak alone - but because we are stronger as a single sharp point of power with one mind, one body and one soul channeling a revolutionary vision of our design and our values. Are you willing to wait for a better tomorrow to magically appear without sharing in the struggle we all know is required to generate any change in this world? We, SHAMELESS REBELS, are NOT going to wait one more day.

We are on the frontlines FIGHTING for all women that love sex. JOIN US as we destroy the shame that has infected women all over the world, causing needless suffering and providing NO value to women whatsoever. JOIN US in this FIGHT TODAY! Go to our website www.makemorelovenotwar.com and email us letting us know you want to be a SHAMELESS REBEL. Spread our mission by forwarding a link to our podcast to friends and family! Together, one day, we will celebrate our Victory with all the glory it deserves but for today we FIGHT.

JOIN US NOW!!

www.makemorelovenotwar.com

Sex workers! Did Terah just say sex workers? Oh dear!....what in the world is she up to in this podcast? Is Terah going to make us all join the sex industry by becoming a stripper, dominatrix, porn star or escort? NO, of course not…..but I bet you would love to hear from someone that has done all of this underworld shenanigans for over two decades. Don’t act like you are not curious to hear firsthand what it is like to be a prostitute and experience this lifestyle. If you are the type of person that will be offended hearing about porn stars, strippers and escorts, please turn this podcast off right now. I’ll even give you a few seconds of silence for you to find the off button. Ok….we cleared out the boring people from the room and it’s only us ne'er-do-wells left to enjoy hearing all about the real life experiences of a woman that spent 25 years in and around the sex industry.

Our guest today, Lola Davina will change your mind on what a sex worker is and can successfully contribute to the world. She did spend 25 years in the sex industry working as a stripper, dominatrix, porn star, and escort. Along this challenging road she earned two Masters Degrees and left the sex industry with six figures in her retirement. She has a passion to share her ups and downs with other sex workers so they don’t waste the high price of selling their sexuality in her amazing book, “Thriving in Sex Work: Heartfelt Advice for Staying Sane in the Sex Industry”. Lola is the change she wanted to see in the world and I know you will love getting to know her as much as I did.

www.loladavina.com

The Shameless Sexual Revolution can only be liberated and spread if we escape the oppressive ideology of the past that has been allowed to corrode the deep passion that lies in all women for the explicit objective to advance a morality that holds NO validity today, yesterday or of anytime in the history of all mankind. We, women of the world, together shall forge a new path –NOT because we are weak alone - but because we are stronger as a single sharp point of power with one mind, one body and one soul channeling a revolutionary vision of our design and our values. Are you willing to wait for a better tomorrow to magically appear without sharing in the struggle we all know is required to generate any change in this world? We, SHAMELESS REBELS, are NOT going to wait one more day.

We are on the frontlines FIGHTING for all women that love sex. JOIN US as we destroy the shame that has infected women all over the world, causing needless suffering and providing NO value to women whatsoever. JOIN US in this FIGHT TODAY! Go to our website www.makemorelovenotwar.com and email us letting us know you want to be a SHAMELESS REBEL. Spread our mission by forwarding a link to our podcast to friends and family! Together, one day, we will celebrate our Victory with all the glory it deserves but for today we FIGHT.

JOIN US NOW!!

www.makemorelovenotwar.com