Make More Love Not War

All we need is Love Love, Love is all we need. At least that is what The Beatles said. However in international relationships you need more than just Love. You need patience, legal understanding, adaptability, knowledge of cultural differences and much more. We all wish all we needed was love to get through all relationship issues but in the real world road blocks can pop up all around us that make us dig deep to find the strength needed to push beyond just love. In today’s show we explore the difficulties of international relationships and you will be amazed with how tangled this web can be.

On today’s show we interview the brilliant and interesting Amy Waterman for the second time. We interviewed Amy last year about her amazing book “The Pleasure Principle” which is all about woman finding their own pleasure instead of simply suffering for others. I highly suggest reading “The Pleasure Principle” and listening to our podcast with her. On today’s show Amy explains the good and bad things about international relationships. She spent two decades living internationally in many different countries. She knows firsthand the difficulties many people face when they get into a serious international relationship. Amy is a lot of fun and you will love listening to her tell her story.

www.yourbrilliance.com

Welcome to the Make More Love Not War Bachelor Nation podcast where we talk about all things Bachelor. Have you ever wanted to get a professional therapist’s point of view on the men and women on Bachelor, Bachelorette and Bachelor in Paradise? Of course you have….lucky for you that’s exactly what I do with my co-host Micah on this podcast. If you are a fan of all things Bachelor Nation like me…honestly who isn’t a huge fan of the best show on TV…., then sit back and enjoy us taking a ridiculous show WAY too serious.

If you already get more sex than you can handle, this podcast is not for you. If you understand everything there is to know about women, please turn this podcast off and go find something else to do. The last thing I want to do is waste your time on helping someone with your vast knowledge get more sex from your female partner or have a better relationship with her. You have this covered 100% so we’ll give you a second to gather your things and leave the room. Hum hum hum Ok everyone else….that person is now gone and we don’t have to worry about them soaking up any of the incredible knowledge that’s in this podcast. We have it all to ourselves and trust me you are in for a treat.

On today’s podcast we have the amazing Dr. Rachel Abrams. She owns an integrative Medicine Clinic in Santa Cruz and has been voted “Best Doctor” in Santa Cruz County every year from 2009-2017. How amazing is that? Beyond that remarkable accomplishment….Rachel has written books that I give to my clients all the time. Just listen to these titles and I dare you to resist wanting to know what’s in them. Let me start with “The Multi-Orgasmic Woman” ah….YES Please! “The Multi-Orgasmic Couple” ….YES Please times two. “Taoist Sexual Secrets” HELL YES I want to know some Taoist sexual secrets….I don’t even know what that means but I need to know right now. “The Man’s Guide to Women” this is a must read for all men. This is required reading for many of my therapy clients in my private practice. So if you are a man, go get “The Man’s Guide to Woman” right now and thank me later. Her latest book “Eight Dates” is hot off the presses and flying off bookstore shelves and wearing out Amazon delivery drivers all over America. This book is all about how to improve your relationship through 8 structured dates to help couples understand each other better and connect emotionally and sexually. In other words, if you men let your women know you on a deeper level, you’ll get more sex. Forget the jewelry, forget the expensive holiday; simply buy this book, follow Dr. Rachel’s 8 date method and again you can thank me later. I could go on and on about how awesome Dr. Rachel Abrams is but I know you want me to get to the Doctor herself.

www.doctorrachel.com

Imagine being a fly on the wall at a winery as a group of women explore their inner thoughts with NO filter. This is exactly what we do in our series Wine With Wine. This is "Girl Talk" that is not for those with delicate ears. Let us transport you to a forbidden wonderland that explores the crazy things that happen in modern relationships. Grab your popcorn and enjoy!

Welcome to the Make More Love Not War Bachelor Nation podcast where we talk about all things Bachelor. Have you ever wanted to get a professional therapist’s point of view on the men and women on Bachelor, Bachelorette and Bachelor in Paradise? Of course you have….lucky for you that’s exactly what I do with my co-host Micah on this podcast. If you are a fan of all things Bachelor Nation like me…honestly who isn’t a huge fan of the best show on TV…., then sit back and enjoy us taking a ridiculous show WAY too serious.

Close your eyes. Now think of your family. Your Mom, Your Dad, Your Aunts and Uncles, Grandparents and Great Grandparents. See them in your mind’s eye all in a room looking at you. They are studying every move and action you make. You feel their judging eyes on you all the time. They say they love the way you are but change. They love your uniqueness but conform. They love how you speak your mind but you’re too loud. They love your ambitious drive but don’t be such a go getter. Then to top it all off this royal court brings you the person of THEIR dreams for you to marry and spend the rest of your life with. I know what you’re thinking; my crazy Aunt and Great Grandpa are not going to pick the person I marry and anyways does this even happen in the 21st Century. Surprisingly, arranged marriages are more common than you may think. So do they work? Is that actually a better way than what we currently do? We have answers to these questions in this podcast.

On today’s show we interview Devina Kaur to explore her journey from her traditional upbringing in rural India to her self-discovery that lead her to start the Sexy Brilliant Global Revolution. Devina explains how she spent thirty years trying to be the person everyone else wanted but it only resulted in loneliness, depression and confusion. She provides us with an insight most people have never heard about an arranged marriage and how it affected her. Devina has a unique point of view on marriage and dating which she shares in her online courses like the one coming out on February 25, 2019 called “The Power of Being Single.” Growing up in an environment that told Devina she was not good enough in a direct or indirect way made it difficult for her to love the most important person in her life….herself. We can all learn from how Devina uncovered her true self, true meaning and true love so we can all be Sexy Brilliant.

www.sexybrilliant.com

Welcome to the Make More Love Not War Bachelor Nation podcast where we talk about all things Bachelor. Have you ever wanted to get a professional therapist’s point of view on the men and women on Bachelor, Bachelorette and Bachelor in Paradise? Of course you have….lucky for you that’s exactly what I do with my co-host Micah on this podcast. If you are a fan of all things Bachelor Nation like me…honestly who isn’t a huge fan of the best show on TV…., then sit back and enjoy us taking a ridiculous show WAY too serious.

Imagine being a fly on the wall at a winery as a group of women explore their inner thoughts with NO filter. This is exactly what we do in our series Wine With Wine. This is "Girl Talk" that is not for those with delicate ears. Let us transport you to a forbidden wonderland that explores the crazy things that happen in modern relationships. Grab your popcorn and enjoy!

Welcome to the Make More Love Not War Bachelor Nation podcast where we talk about all things Bachelor. Have you ever wanted to get a professional therapist’s point of view on the men and women on Bachelor, Bachelorette and Bachelor in Paradise? Of course you have….lucky for you that’s exactly what I do with my co-host Micah on this podcast. If you are a fan of all things Bachelor Nation like me…honestly who isn’t a huge fan of the best show on TV…., then sit back and enjoy us taking a ridiculous show WAY too serious.

Benjamin Franklin famously stated, “In this world nothing can be said to be certain, except death and taxes.” That was true in 1789 when he wrote it and it’s still true today. There may be another absolute certainty that even the horn dog himself Uncle Benny would agree with and that’s that men are always in the mood for sex. We all know that Mr. Franklin was at least a little Randy…..no no no I take that back he was extraordinarily Randy all the time. Does anyone really know what he was up to when he was spending all that time in France? I mean come on now….didn’t France invent the French Kiss and Ménage à trios? For a man like Franklin this must have been heaven on earth especially compared with the puritanical Colonial America of the 1770s. So it’s clear to everyone that old Uncle Benny should’ve said, “The only thing certain in this world is death, taxes and men are always in the mood for sex.” That would’ve been 100% accurate and let’s be honest this would’ve made his quote even more famous. But is that really correct about men always being in the mood? Some say NO!

Our guest today Sarah Hunter Murray, PhD, challenges this notion that men’s unwaveringly high sexual desire is simply a long-held myth that is actually causing relationships needless suffering in her latest book coming out February 12th “Not Always in the Mood: The New Science of Men, Sex, and Relationships”. WHAT….Men are NOT always in the mood for sex? What is she talking about that’s crazy!! Or is it? Sarah has the research and the big PhD brain to back her statement up. For over a decade, she has dedicated her career to examining the nuances of sexuality as they affect modern relationships. Sarah is a regularly sought-after sex and relationship expert for media outlets including Men’s Health, Fashion Magazine,Elle and Today’s Parent. Her research has been featured in LiveScience, Mic.com, Jezebel, and The Globe and Mail. She authors the blog “Myths of Desire: Rethinking Sex Roles and Expectations that Stifle Relationships” for Psychology Today. As a practicing relationship therapist, she specializes in working with individuals and couples around sexual intimacy concerns. Ok Ok….She has the street cred and social proof from credible media outlets to make a bold statement but let’s listen to her in this awesome interview explain exactly what she means.

Men are not always in the mood….what’s she talking about? Let’s find out together!

www.sarahhuntermurray.com