Make More Love Not War

It’s time to talk about EMDR, Brainspotting, Ego State Hypnosis, Age Regression Hypnosis, Feeling State Addiction Protocol, Gestalt, Forgiveness Hypnosis, DeTur-Eye Movement Desensitization, Informed Soul Hypnosis and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. Of course, everyone knows all about this and frankly, I’m not even sure why we brought in an expert to explain all of these very common therapy methods and I’m pretty sure you were all discussing the benefits of each one of them yesterday at lunch. I can hear the conversation now. Hey Bob, how much do you like DeTur-Eye Movement Desensitization over Cognitive Behavioral Therapy or is Gestalt the way I should go with my therapist? Come on John… everyone knows that for the deep work you need do Age Regression Hypnosis with a splash of Brainspotting. DUH! This kind of buzz is filling lunch tables all over the world. Or is it? Of course, NOT! There are so many new and exciting therapy methods that are becoming mainstream today that it can be challenging for the average person to understand what they do, let alone pick the right one for them to tackle the trauma that has been pulling them into the same dark place over and over again. Instead of addressing the cause of the trauma head on, many people will white knuckle it for years with zero improvement. Sometimes this stubbornness is pride holding people back from getting help but many times it’s simply not understanding what to do. I don’t blame people for having a deer in the headlights reaction to hearing all these different therapy methods. I get that same feeling when my mechanic tells me what is wrong with my car. As far as I know, it’s pixie dust and unicorn smiles under my hood that make the car go….but I digress. That is why I found an expert to shine some light on this issue. After you finish this podcast, you’ll have a new appreciation for all these new therapy methods and hopefully, it will inspire you to find the strength within yourself to be the type of person that is brave enough to face your demons head on and defeat them. Haven’t you suffered enough?

Our guest today, Scott Allen Smith, LPC, is an expert in a variety of approaches. He has worked in the mental health field since 1993 and his work is based on the eclectic principles of cognitive behavioral treatment, EMDR (Certified), Hypnosis, Brainspotting, EFT (Tapping), client-centered therapy, acceptance and commitment therapy, object relations therapy, ego state therapy, and motivational interviewing. He pretty much does it all! Scott helps people that are suffering from anxiety, depression, feeling "stuck", childhood/family issues, couple's issues, adolescent adjustment, grief/bereavement, low self-esteem and confidence, trauma (flashbacks, nightmares, intrusive thoughts), anger management, assertiveness, offending treatment, substance abuse, past victimization (sexual abuse, physical abuse, emotional abuse), past traumatic events (P.T.S.D.), and so much more. Scott is the perfect expert to explain all of these different therapy methods and do it in a way that you’ll find very entertaining. Sit back and enjoy this amazing interview with Scott Allen Smith.

What is the deal with swingers? I’m sure when many of you hear the word swinger you think of a 1970s porn star looking dude with a very hairy chest, obnoxious gold necklaces jingling around his neck and sporting a vulgar mustache being a total creeper around all the ladies. You see him and think GROSS! You wonder why one woman would be with him let alone many. You think if this guy was lucky enough to get one woman to marry his goofy ass, he needs to count his incredible blessings and not even bring up the idea of wife swapping to his poor unfortunate wife. Of course, I’m laying out the stereotype of a swinger that has been created by the media. The reality is very normal couples that you would never suspect are swinging every single day. They are swapping wives, going to play parties, having sex while their partner watches or not, and pretty much engaging is a sexual lifestyle many people can’t even imagine. We wanted to bring you a couple that is actively swinging and letting everyone know what the lifestyle is really like first hand.

On our show today, we have Brenna and Brian also known as Front Porch Swingers. They may be the most open swinging couple in the world because they have blog and podcast that was created to share their experiences. I mean all of their experiences to shed light on the good, the bad, the sexy and the ridiculous in a hope to connect others to this often hidden lifestyle. If you have never talked to a couple that are swingers, this is a unique opportunity for you to get a backstage pass into what it’s like to share your partner sexually with someone else. Before you get all high and mighty about why this is so wrong, hear them out. I assure you they are not on a quest to make everyone swingers. Together let’s peak through the curtains and be voyeurs for a little bit as we all have a conversation with a very normal, loving, committed couple that just so happens to have sex with other people from time to time.

http://frontporchswingers.com/

If you are in a relationship that is in trouble, there are many wonderful workshops to help you learn the skills to turn your situation around. However, if you are single, there are no workshops for you. You have to figure it out all on your own. So basically what will happen is you will end up in a relationship that is struggling and then you can go to workshop to fix it. Awesome….right? Are you thinking what I’m thinking? That seems ass backward….my Dad coming out in me right now. Wouldn’t it be better to learn the skills before you get into a relationship? Seems pretty simple to us….right? Good thing is I found someone that went the extra mile to fill this huge void for singles. This amazing woman thinks outside of the box, has no fear of rolling up her sleeves to work hard and has a real passion to be positive force in many people’s lives.

Our guest today, Stacy Hubbard is a certified Gottman Therapist and Master Trainer with the Gottman Institute and created the first ever workshop for singles to learn the highly successful methods Dr’s John and Julie Gottman created to deepen friendship and intimacy in relationships. Stacy believes in teaching the nuts and bolts of the Gottman approach that leads to a successful relationship for singles before they are in a relationship. I can hear everyone right now saying DUH….of course, we should learn this before we get into a committed relationship. The crazy thing is Stacy Hubbard is forging her own path on this new concept and it’s getting major attention in the therapy community. I’m telling you she is awesome and you’re about to find out why I say that. Sit back and enjoy listening to Stacy Hubbard tell us all more about her Singles Workshop, Intensive Couples Therapy, Art and Science of Love and so much more.

http://stacyhubbard.com

Is it ok to tell your wife that she does look fat in that dress? What exactly is the value in lying to her? What would your life be like if you stopped holding back what you thought or felt with your friends and family and expressed yourself completely? Do we all feel like everyone is weak and will crumble back into stardust if they know the truth? Just as Jack Nicholson brilliantly expressed in the movie “A Few Good Men”, are we all screaming to ourselves “You can’t handle the Truth!” Most of us grew up learning from our parents that a little white lie here and there is just part of polite society. No good reason to tell Grandma that her apple pie is the worst desert you have ever eaten in your life. She slaved over it all day to make it perfect. Instead we tell her, “Grandma this apple pie is even better than I remember. I experience all the pleasures of heaven with each and every bite. Can I please have another piece?” By the way….my Grandma’s apple pie was actually amazing and I wish I could have a piece right now. But you get the point! Is it the right thing to lie to our Grandma or should we tell her that her apple pie was terrible? Some say that radical honesty is the answer.

Our guest today, Brad Blanton, Ph.D spent 35 years in the private practice of clinical psychology in Washington, D. C., where he became an expert on lying. He established Radical Honesty Enterprises. He’s famous for his book, Radical Honesty, which has been a nationwide best seller in the U.S. since 1995 and has been published in 14 languages around the world. He has published 7 other books since Radical Honesty came out in 1994. Dr. Blanton believes that the best way to reduce stress, make life work and heal the past is to tell the truth. Radical Honesty means simply to report out loud what you notice in the world, in your body and in your mind. Radical Honesty teaches you a process to get over anger and create real connection. Radical Honesty is a path that brings love, aliveness and forgiveness into your relationships. I think we all want that but we struggle to achieve it. Maybe it’s time to give Radical Honesty a try? Sit back and enjoy this very entertaining interview with Dr. Brad Blanton as he explains what Radical Honesty is all about.

www.radicalhonesty.com

The Shameless Sexual Revolution can only be liberated and spread if we escape the oppressive ideology of the past that has been allowed to corrode the deep passion that lies in all women for the explicit objective to advance a morality that holds NO validity today, yesterday or of anytime in the history of all mankind. We, women of the world, together shall forge a new path –NOT because we are weak alone - but because we are stronger as a single sharp point of power with one mind, one body and one soul channeling a revolutionary vision of our design and our values. Are you willing to wait for a better tomorrow to magically appear without sharing in the struggle we all know is required to generate any change in this world? We, SHAMELESS REBELS, are NOT going to wait one more day.

We are on the frontlines FIGHTING for all women that love sex. JOIN US as we destroy the shame that has infected women all over the world, causing needless suffering and providing NO value to women whatsoever. JOIN US in this FIGHT TODAY! Go to our website www.makemorelovenotwar.com and email us letting us know you want to be a SHAMELESS REBEL. Spread our mission by forwarding a link to our podcast to friends and family! Together, one day, we will celebrate our Victory with all the glory it deserves but for today we FIGHT.

JOIN US NOW!!

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Are you a woman that finds it difficult to enjoy sex because it is painful physically or emotionally? You may find it challenging to ignite the sexual desire within yourself because of past sexual abuse, trauma, shame, body image issues, physical wounds or fear of intimacy. This can lead many women to living a life that is void of orgasms and frankly zero pleasure in the bedroom. They many even justify this terrible situation as a fact of life for them because they simply have a broken vagina. Some may even go as far as turning this unfortunate lack of pleasure into a positive saying things like “at least I don’t have to sleep in the wet spot very much or since I don’t think about sex my mind is free to think about other things”. I appreciate anyone finding the silver lining in a bad situation but you can live a life full of orgasms. There are tools and advice to help women awaken their sexuality in a healthy way and reclaim their libido. If you are living in a sexless relationship and think sex is just a waste of time because it’s too painful, keep listening because we have the guest for you.

Our guest today, Xanet Pailet, is a recovered New York City health care lawyer who lived in a sexless marriage for over two decades. After experiencing her own sexual healing and awakening in 2011, she transitioned her career into a full time sex and intimacy coach, writer, blogger, and teacher. She works with individuals and couples to empower them around their sexuality and strengthen relationship and intimacy skills. Through her work, and the many tools that she offers, she helps them reclaim their pleasure and transform their relationships and their lives. Xanet is a certified Somatica Sex and Intimacy Coach, Sexological Body Worker, Holistic Pelvic Care Practitioner, and Tantra Educator. She channeled all of this knowledge into the amazing book “Living an Orgasmic Life, Heal Yourself and Awaken Your Pleasure” to help as many people as possible. If you are living a non-orgasmic life and you feel that your broken vagina is beyond all repair, do yourself the biggest favor you could ever do and read this book. Don’t give up on your vagina just yet. This book will change your world! Before you run to Amazon and buy “Living an Orgasmic Life” we have the author herself on our podcast right now for you. So sit back and enjoy learning more about Xanet Pailet and why she is an expert on helping women discover and rediscover the pleasure of sex.

www.powerofpleasure.com

What is it with this monogamy thing? It sure seems to be difficult for many humans to pull off. Is it natural or just some kind of social norm humans dreamed up one night to keep everyone in line? Some people say it is unnatural and goes against everything in nature. However, many people will point to other animals that will be in lifelong monogamous relationships. So what is the deal with this monogamy thing? Right now you’re thinking, it sure would be extraordinary if a professor would study monogamy, non-monogamy and casual sex to give us solid evidence-based science on this matter once and for all. Lucky for all of you, I found this incredible person so you can stop looking and just sit back and listen.

On our show today we interview Dr. Zhana Vrangolova, a New York City based sex researcher, writer and educator. She is currently an adjunct professor at the NYU Psychology department where she teaches the first Human Sexuality course the department has offered in a long long time. She writes about the science of casual sex and non-monogamy on Psychology Today, has a podcast called “The Science of Sex,” and does educational workshops about casual sex and non-monogamy. She provides an awesome daily tweet about fun new sex research which can be found @DrZhana. She wrote an eye opening book called “The Casual Sex Project” that you can go buy on Amazon right now. Dr. Zhana has a very interesting perspective and knowledge on monogamy, non-monogamy and casual sex that will benefit all of us greatly. I can’t wait!

www.drzhana.com

The Shameless Sexual Revolution can only be liberated and spread if we escape the oppressive ideology of the past that has been allowed to corrode the deep passion that lies in all women for the explicit objective to advance a morality that holds NO validity today, yesterday or of anytime in the history of all mankind. We, women of the world, together shall forge a new path –NOT because we are weak alone - but because we are stronger as a single sharp point of power with one mind, one body and one soul channeling a revolutionary vision of our design and our values. Are you willing to wait for a better tomorrow to magically appear without sharing in the struggle we all know is required to generate any change in this world? We, SHAMELESS REBELS, are NOT going to wait one more day.

We are on the frontlines FIGHTING for all women that love sex. JOIN US as we destroy the shame that has infected women all over the world, causing needless suffering and providing NO value to women whatsoever. JOIN US in this FIGHT TODAY! Go to our website www.makemorelovenotwar.com and email us letting us know you want to be a SHAMELESS REBEL. Spread our mission by forwarding a link to our podcast to friends and family! Together, one day, we will celebrate our Victory with all the glory it deserves but for today we FIGHT.

JOIN US NOW!!

www.makemorelovenotwar.com

It’s extraordinarily rare but there are moments in our lives that can only be described as a dream. One from which it seems like you are floating above yourself, looking down at the event happening and you’re in complete disbelief that that is you. This is exactly what happened to me when I interviewed our guests for today’s podcast. I have used their therapy method in my private practice to help many people get through situations that were destroying their relationships for many years. These guests have played such a massive role in who I am professionally that saying it was an honor is too weak - It was magical.

On our show today we have Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt, internationally-respected couple's therapists, educators, speakers, and New York Times bestselling authors. Together, they have written over 10 books with more than 4 million copies sold, including the timeless classic, “Getting the Love You Want” which has been fully revised for 2019 so go order it right now. Actually wait until after this awesome interview with them and then go to their website www.harvilleandhelen.com to buy all their books. Harville has been on the Oprah Winfrey Show 17 times but he’s stepping up his game by coming on our awesome worldwide podcast right now. That’s right I just said our podcast is better than Oprah’s unbelievably successful show….I’m just saying. Harville and Helen co-created one of the therapy methods I use all the time with clients called Imago Relationship Therapy. This is a form of therapy that focuses on relational counseling to transform any conflict between couples into opportunities for healing and growth. Who doesn’t want healing and growth in a relationship? EVERYONE…right? I could go on and on about all the accomplishments Harville and Helen have achieved together in the last 30 years and tell you how awesome I think they are over and over again, but I have the most amazing interview I can’t wait for you to hear. I hope you are ready to learn from legends in the field of therapy and listen to me try to act and stay cool as I’m fanning out like a teenage girl at the height of Beatlemania.

The Shameless Sexual Revolution can only be liberated and spread if we escape the oppressive ideology of the past that has been allowed to corrode the deep passion that lies in all women for the explicit objective to advance a morality that holds NO validity today, yesterday or of anytime in the history of all mankind. We, women of the world, together shall forge a new path –NOT because we are weak alone - but because we are stronger as a single sharp point of power with one mind, one body and one soul channeling a revolutionary vision of our design and our values. Are you willing to wait for a better tomorrow to magically appear without sharing in the struggle we all know is required to generate any change in this world? We, SHAMELESS REBELS, are NOT going to wait one more day.

We are on the frontlines FIGHTING for all women that love sex. JOIN US as we destroy the shame that has infected women all over the world, causing needless suffering and providing NO value to women whatsoever. JOIN US in this FIGHT TODAY! Go to our website www.makemorelovenotwar.com and email us letting us know you want to be a SHAMELESS REBEL. Spread our mission by forwarding a link to our podcast to friends and family! Together, one day, we will celebrate our Victory with all the glory it deserves but for today we FIGHT.

JOIN US NOW!!

www.makemorelovenotwar.com