In this episode, Libby talks with couples therapist and trauma specialist Akilah Riley-Richardson about relational privilege and how essential it is to create safety in order to find intimacy. (Part 1 of 2)

Akilah's website: https://akilahrileyrichardson.com/ 

Relational Privilege and Sytemic Trauma Course: https://therapywisdom.com/relational-privilege-and-systemic-trauma/ 

Resmaa Menekem: My Grandmother's Hands: https://bookshop.org/p/books/my-grandmother-s-hands-racialized-trauma-and-the-pathway-to-mending-our-hearts-and-bodies-resmaa-menakem/6454227 

Southwest Love Fest (use code "goslow" for 10% off!): https://www.swlovefest.com/

In Part 2 of this episode, Libby shares her journey to getting clear on her values, figuring out how to act within her integrity and how that led her to find her way to true belonging.

Braving the WIlderness by Brene Brown

Southwest Love Fest (Use code "GOSLOW" for a 10% discount)

Libby introduces a new season of Making Polyamory Work with a very personal reflection on belonging, fitting in, values and integrity.

Libby and Catherine of Expansive Connection answer a listener question about coming out to older kids.

https://www.expansiveconnection.com/

https://www.expansiveconnection.com/enm

https://www.instagram.com/expansive.connection.coaching/

Libby reviews some of the biggest challenges that can show up around the holiday season when you're non-monogamous and how to navigate them without exploding an already stressful season.

LIbby talks about how important it is to talk about fears with our partners. How we respond when our partner shares a fear with us can make a tremendous difference in how we tend to them and ourselves.

Libby describes the phenomenon known as New Information Shock and how to handle it when you encounter it in your relationships.

If you want to make a good repair, there's one step that Libby wishes people prioritized more.

Mia Mingus - The Four Parts of Accountability & How To Give A Genuine Apology: https://leavingevidence.wordpress.com/2019/12/18/how-to-give-a-good-apology-part-1-the-four-parts-of-accountability/ 

Repair Episode: https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/slow-down-to-break-up?rq=repair 

Are You Checking Out or Checking In?: https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/are-you-checking-in-or-checking-out?rq=checking 

Taming Your Whoosh: https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/taming-your-whoosh 

Dan Siegel Integrated Brain: https://www.successpodcast.com/show-notes/2019/1/9/the-simple-20-minute-exercise-that-rewires-your-brain-for-happiness-with-dr-dan-siegel

One tool that might help you with rocking-the-boat type conversations.

Libby talks about why she likes agreements, what purpose they serve in relationships, and some things to watch out for when making them with your partners.

Why Predicting Future feelings is So Difficult: https://www.bbc.com/future/article/20200825-why-predicting-our-future-feelings-is-so-difficult