This week’s episode is hosted by Kayla Lords and shares advice with listeners on how to go about making the switch from a strictly vanilla relationship to D/s. A listener asked for a step-by-step process on what to do once she and her husband had agreed to try D/s. Unfortunately, Kayla doesn’t have a guidebook on exactly what to do, but she does have opinions on what both Dominants and submissives need to keep in mind and discuss as they make the transition.

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In this episode:

* Kayla doesn’t have a 1-2-3 step process for relationships transitioning from vanilla to kinky, but she does have 13 things to think about, talk about, and/or do.

* Number 1: Don’t try to do everything that sounds fun all at once.

* Number 2: Don’t worry about what to call your dynamic.

* Number 3: Read as much as you can. Links to recommended resources below.

* Number 4: Keep up the communication and don’t stop.

* Number 5: Get ready to learn whether either of you can handle the word “no.”

* Number 6: Start with one thing.

* Number 7: Make time each day (or nearly so) to talk about how you both feel about what’s going on.

* Number 8: Expect for real life to get in the way sometimes.

* Number 9: Expect to freak out about some of this as you go through it all.

* Number 10: Discuss your personal limits.

* Number 11: For the submissives out there, if you’re unsure where to begin, when in doubt, ask what you can do for your Dominant.

* Number 12: Discuss consequences.

* Number 13: For those considering a contract, if it makes you both feel better to have something formal and official written up, go for it.

Have a question, topic suggestion, or something you want to add to this list? Contact Kayla or John Brownstone directly!

Links From the Show:

Kinkly

Submissive Guide

A Submissive’s Initiative

DominantGuide.com

The Loving Dominant by John Warren

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