Married After Kids

I talk a lot about mindset (because it’s just that important!). In this episode, I’m unpacking a simple mindset shift that can transform your military life and marriage. And it goes beyond just military life – it's a game-changer for every facet of your life.

Discover how you can break free from the notion that happiness is conditional on specific circumstances. Instead, learn the art of finding joy in the present moment, even amidst challenges. Embracing the journey, with all its twists and turns, is not just a mindset shift but a pathway to getting positive results in your marriage.

We’re diving into:

• Navigating the dynamics of change, such as unlearning, breaking habits, and the amount of time it takes
• The toll of enduring prolonged periods of unhappiness and its impact on you and your marriage
• Real-life examples to anchor and reinforce this transformative mindset
• How to give yourself the option of being happy, even when it doesn’t seem like a possibility 
• Learning to love the journey to your end goal (and what to ask yourself to increase happiness at every opportunity)
• One empowering way to view your circumstance and how you’ll get through it
• Practical strategies to start feeling the way you want to feel right now

BLACK FRIDAY DEAL! In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage Course: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

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Homecoming is often a magical moment, but the days and weeks leading up to it might bring feelings of fear, anxiety, and intense anticipation. This episode offers insights to help you prepare for your long-awaited reunion with your spouse by providing expectations and coping strategies for the most joyful experience possible!

Bottom line: Only do what feels good and what you have the capacity for, and don’t make yourself wrong for ANY of it!

Here’s what we cover:

• Exploring the common feelings of fear, anxiety, and pressure before homecoming

• The key to overcoming anxious thoughts and mental preparation for the big day

• Permission to prioritize self-care and manage overwhelming emotions during this phase

• Handling decision fatigue and readying yourself for unexpected changes

• Aligning expectations and desires with your spouse post-homecoming for a smoother transition

For support during your next or current deployment, check out my course! In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

Resentment can sneak into ANY marriage, and it often shows up in military relationships, sometimes even more frequently. In this episode, I dive into the core reasons behind resentment in military marriages and provide actionable solutions to dissolve it. However, it's important to recognize that feelings of resentment are quite common in many aspects of military life. What truly matters is knowing how to address it effectively, and more importantly, how to tackle it together as a team with your partner.

Tune in as we explore:

• The dynamics of division in marriages, especially in military marriages

• The roles of “default” and non-default” in every relationship

• Hidden sacrifices made by military spouses

• The profound importance of creating a culture of appreciation

• Tips to have a productive conversation with your spouse about resentment

• Shifting your mindset to embrace love and care, especially in challenging times

For support during your next or current deployment, check out my course! In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

Want to fight less? 🙋‍♀️🙋‍♀️🙋‍♀️

If you’re tired of constant conflict in your military marriage, don’t miss out on this episode.

We're unveiling a powerful conflict resolution hack that can reduce arguments, boost your happiness, and transform those disagreements into productive discussions filled with love and respect.

Are you ready to discover this game-changing conflict hack? Tune in as we explore:

• Unsolvable problems in your marriage (and how to manage them)
• The essential qualities to bring to your next argument
• Strategies for showing love and respect outwardly during an argument
• Practical examples to implement this conflict hack
• How to cultivate the mindset to have productive conversations with your spouse, turning conflicts into opportunities for connection and growth

For support during your next or current deployment, check out my course! In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

Want to know how feelings of isolation can become your source of connection and empowerment?

Meet our inspiring guest, Sarah Curtis, who doesn’t shy away from the challenging topics of military life. In this episode, we share aspects that are less commonly discussed within the military community, like the feelings of loneliness and the rollercoaster of emotions that can impact not only you but also your marriage.

Why is this conversation so crucial? Because it reminds you that you are not alone in your experiences. It's a reminder that your feelings of isolation can be shared by others, and together we can find strength and connection.

We’re exploring:

• Maintaining a strong marriage whether your spouse is home or away

• Embracing and normalizing uncontrollable timelines

• How Sarah navigated the questions “who am I?” and “what impact do I want to have on the world?”

• The importance of choosing compassion over comparison

• Addressing feelings of loneliness and isolation

• The duality of military life

Connect with Sarah:

• Website: https://amilitarywifeslife.com/

• Book: Sitting in the Unknown: A Collection of Poems for Military Loved Ones

For support during your next or current deployment, check out my course! In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

Have you reached the point where you don’t think you can continue in your marriage anymore?

No shame or judgement here. Many of my clients experience these moments, filled with emptiness and exhaustion, where it seems like repetitive conversations yield no progress.

Maybe you’re in a similar position, where your spouse isn’t able or willing to do what you need them to do to have a fulfilling relationship. Or maybe this military life feels like it’s too much. Whatever situation you’re in, feeling like you want to give up on your marriage can happen to ANY one of us.

The last thing we need is to judge ourselves or others. Instead of judging, let’s normalize these emotions. In this episode, I’m sharing five actionable steps to help rekindle your relationship before considering the option of giving up.

We’re exploring:

• Reasons you may be pulling back from your spouse (and what to do about it!) 

• Your #1 responsibility before communicating with your spouse what you need

• How to have a more productive conversation (instead of having the same conversations over and over again without anything changing) 

• What I mean by “spreading the love” instead of trying to get it all from your spouse

• Why talking to a professional is different than talking to a friend about the relationship with your spouse

For more support during your current or next deployment, check out my course In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

Let's face it, having kids can be so hard on your marriage. In this episode, I share what you can do to have a stronger marriage after having kids. And here’s the twist - even if you don’t have kids yet, let this episode give you a helpful preview of what’s ahead. It’s never too early (or late!) to improve your relationship with your spouse!

We’re exploring:

• How my own marriage was impacted after having children

• Surprising statistics about the “marriage crisis” after children

• The importance of confronting this reality, especially for military spouses

• Three pivotal factors to navigate any life storm

• What to do if you are unsatisfied in your marriage after kids (and how to prepare your marriage before having kids)

• What to do TODAY to improve your marriage

For support in ALL the hardest parts of deployment, check out my course, In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

There are people like you all over the world who just “get it”. We can have completely different backgrounds and be in completely different locations, yet have very similar experiences in military life. 

Friends and family can do their best to support you, but the truth is sometimes you need another military spouse who truly understands the hardships and loneliness of deployment, the struggles of keeping everything together when their spouse is gone, and the uncertainty of not knowing where you’ll live in the next few years. 

You’re never alone in this journey and we’re here to support you, no matter what your address is.

In this episode, I introduce you to Suzie (my amazing Virtual Assistant that keeps Married to Military running so smoothly!), who shares her personal experience as an international military spouse. We explore:

• How Suzie’s career was derailed due to being a military spouse

• The key distinctions between US and UK military spouse life

• Suzie's perspective on the different phases of deployment

• Insights into her virtual work and the flexibility it offers

• Valuable advice for all spouses when it comes to asking for support

• How military life can enrich your life

Join us for an engaging discussion on the challenges and opportunities faced by military spouses worldwide.

Connect with Suzie:

• suziestanier.co.uk

• instagram.com/suziestanier/

Bring more ease into your current or next deployment! In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

The reality is we will always encounter triggers, even when we put in the work to eliminate them. That’s why this conversation is so important because we discuss how to manage triggers without negatively affecting our marriages. In this episode, we will discover how you can use triggers to strengthen your bond with your spouse and navigate them more effectively.

Tune in as we explore:

• How the military (and our spouses) can trigger us

• What it means to be triggered (and recognize our emotional and physical responses) 

• Examples of negative reactions to triggers and the brain's role in justifying behavior

• When to engage in a productive conversation with your spouse and prevent further damage from triggered responses

• Three actionable steps to take when you encounter triggers, starting today

Check out my course to support you and your marriage during your next deployment! In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

Having a healthy marriage requires an investment from both you and your spouse. There’s no denying that putting in time and energy every day maintains a strong bond. But we aren’t exactly taught how to have a good relationship or what we need to do (and not do) to maintain that connection. 

I want you to have the best marriage possible, regardless of the time and money you currently have. So, tune into this episode because it might just shift the way you think about investing in your marriage.

We’re exploring:

• The stigma of receiving support and why investing in your marriage is the best-kept secret

• Hidden costs and consequences of not investing time, effort and money into your relationship

• Why a thriving marriage enhances your health and overall well-being compared to the negative emotional and financial impacts linked to divorce

• Three fresh viewpoints on why investing in your marriage will change everything for you and your spouse

For support during your current or next deployment, check out In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869