Married After Kids

Resentment – we've all felt it at some point, but what exactly is it? In this eye-opening episode, we dive into all things resentment, how it can creep into your life, wreak havoc on your marriage, and, most importantly, what you can do to overcome it. Resentment tends to be a catalyst for a slew of other negative emotions and thoughts about your spouse, military life, and more. It can stem from various situations like jealousy, betrayal, shame, or feeling like your needs aren't being met.

In this final episode of the deployment 2.0 series, we’re breaking down:

• The common triggers of resentment in military spouses

• How the feeling of unmet needs can lead to resentment

• Recognizing the signs of resentment

• Effective strategies for working through and managing resentment

• A powerful tool that can be applied in any situation to improve your marriage

• The importance of open communication with your spouse, choosing the right time for these discussions, and focusing on solutions

For more support during deployment, check out In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

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Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

Let's peel back the curtain on a topic that often remains hidden in the shadows. It's something we seldom discuss openly, yet many of us face often. The challenges we experience in our marriages during deployments are more common and normal than we think. The problem lies in our reluctance to talk about it openly with others.

While working with my clients, I've listened to them express emotions of shame, resentment, and frustration, often believing that their unique problems have no viable solutions. You're not alone feeling like this. It's time to shed light on what leads to the most unhappiness during deployments.

We’re exploring:

• How we unintentionally inflict hurt and pain on ourselves, making marriage and deployment way more challenging than necessary
• Research findings on the tendency to internalize problems and negative experiences
• What pulls couples apart, particularly during deployment (and the destructive nature of this pattern)
• The ripple effect of staying in “defense mechanism mode” 
• Our brain's role and the misinformation it can feed us
• What to focus on when you’re struggling in your relationship that will change everything

The perfect resource to thrive during your next deployment, In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

Communication during deployment is always so challenging. Despite having access to phone calls, texts, and video chats, it still doesn’t get easier. Having worked with countless military spouses over my 15 years as a marriage therapist, I know firsthand that the desire for deeper connection always remains. 

In this episode, we’re on a mission to transform communication from not just bearable but enjoyable during deployment. Are you ready to thrive in this aspect of military life?

Here’s how you can make it happen:

Step one: Tune into this episode.

Step two: Prioritize communication that enhances your connection and allows you to discover new aspects about each other.

In doing so, you'll not only improve your communication during deployment but also experience a deeper bond with your spouse.

We’re also diving into:

• Different types of communication (and why the best marriages include a balance of all of them)

• Setting a primary goal before engaging in conversations with your deployed spouse

• My number one piece of advice (a true game-changer) to elevate your communication during deployment

• Thought-provoking questions that reveal how well you really know your spouse

• Tips to maximize communication so you have fun, feel more connected, and learn more about each another

For more support during deployment, check out my new course, In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

Whether this is your first deployment or tenth, I want you to be as supported as possible and ready to face anything that comes your way. This episode breaks down what you can expect during each stage of deployment, and provides practical tips to manage and prepare for them so it’s easier and more enjoyable for you. 

We’re exploring:

• How to thrive during deployment 

• The BEST questions to ask yourself to figure out your REAL expectations

• The five stages of deployment and how to prepare for each

• Common challenges that may come up and how to navigate them

• Ways to keep yourself busy but NOT burnt out while your spouse is away

• Reintegrating once they are back home and the top challenges you can prepare for

For more support during deployment, check out my new course, In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

Feeling overwhelmed, defeated, and hopeless while your spouse is deployed? You’re not alone.

Too often I hear from struggling spouses that they can’t take one more day of deployment. It’s just. too. much. They feel helpless because getting through another day seems impossible, and they just don’t know what their next step should be to make it better. 

Feeling this way about deployment while your spouse is gone AND having difficulties in your marriage is HARD. You may feel unsupported, underappreciated, and not valued by your spouse. This makes all the sacrificing and everything you’re responsible for back at home very challenging. 

In this episode, we’re breaking down what you can do when you’re at the end of your rope with deployment (or your marriage).

We’re exploring:

• How to make the biggest difference in your life and marriage

• The one simple thing that will literally change EVERYTHING for your marriage (and the science to back it up)

• How our thoughts and expectations can impact our relationships during deployment

• The slippery slope of deciding you can’t do this anymore

• The “right” support you need throughout deployment that is crucial for spouses

For more support during deployment, check out my new course, In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

Sure, deployments create physical distance from your spouse, but that doesn’t mean you have to be emotionally detached as well. In this episode, we uncover the hacks to maintaining an unbreakable connection with your spouse throughout deployment. This is your guide to intentionally nurture your relationship during this challenging period.

Let this empower you with actionable strategies to strengthen your relationship, making deployment a time to maintain connection in new and unexpected ways!

We’re exploring:

• How feeling disconnected from your partner impacts your mental and emotional well-being

• Why prioritizing intentional connection during deployment is a game-changer and how to make it a reality

• Strategies to break free from negative thought spirals that sabotage your connection

• What I classify as “deployment mode” (and knowing what you need and how to modify it for connection during this time)

• A simple way to measure the strength of your connection and decide if any adjustments are needed

For more support during deployment, check out my new course, In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

Do you know why I typically sign off with “I hope you are taking care of yourself” at the end of each episode? Well, it’s not just a well-meaning gesture, but a powerful not-so-secret secret that holds the key for all military spouses - especially during those challenging times of separation.

Taking care of yourself is hard to do in the best of times, and deployment makes it that much more difficult because you're juggling not only your own responsibilities but also those of your spouse. But here’s the truth: Neglecting self care can have serious repercussions on both your health and your marriage.

In this episode, we uncover what it really means to take care of yourself, even when it feels like you have zero time or energy left in your day. But if you truly want to increase your happiness, strengthen your relationship with your spouse, and improve deployments, THIS is the way. 

Tune in to this powerful episode as we explore:

• Five signs that you are on your way to burnout (and how burnout can impact your health and marriage)

• The pivotal role of self care in fueling your ability to manage your daily demands and responsibilities

• Discovering what self care is (and how to incorporate it even with limited time and capacity)

• Why relying on your spouse for the same support during deployments may lead to disappointment and arguments

• How taking charge of your own happiness can lead to a stronger, happier you and a healthier, more resilient marriage

For more support during deployment, check out In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

In this episode, we’re diving deep into the often-overlooked phase known as the fourth trimester - the postpartum period.

In this eye-opening conversation, Dr. Kristal Lau, a physician, postpartum wellness consultant, and author of Postpartum 30, shares personal stories from her own postpartum, sheds light on why this time can be uniquely challenging for military families, and educates us on the unmatched expectations couples often have when entering this significant phase. 

Tune in to discover how the postpartum period impacts mothers and their marriages, whether you have children, are planning to have them, or simply wish to better support and understand mothers during this transformative time.

We’re exploring:

• What you need to know about the postpartum period (and what “normal” and “abnormal” things to expect)
• Real talk on postpartum depression
• The fascinating changes that occur in a mother's brain during this phase
• One powerful way to decrease resentment in your marriage after having kids
• What most people don’t talk about when it comes to the postpartum period
• Preparing and planning for your postpartum period 

More resources for the postpartum period:

• 3 Essential Postpartum Changes That No One Really Talks About And What To Do About Them: www.mamaswingwoman.com/pplist1
• Dad University: https://www.daduniversity.com/
• Military Birth Resource Network & Postpartum Coalition: https://www.militarybirthresourcenetwork.org/
• Postpartum Wellness Consultant and Owner of Mama's Wing Woman
• Author of Postpartum 30
• Host of 'The Postpartum Wellness Show' on YouTube and Podcasts

For more support during deployment, check out my new course, In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

Good news! You can raise incredible kids AND nurture a strong marriage within this extraordinary world of military life. However, let's be real - challenges are part of the package, too. But fear not, because this episode will empower you with strategies and insights to conquer those challenges and create a fulfilling military marriage as parents.

Discover how the joys and demands of parenting impact your relationship, uncover effective strategies for navigating deployments with children, and dive into a conversation on managing different parenting styles. 

We are also exploring:

• The impact of having children on your marriage and the challenges it presents

• Essential daily actions and tools to enhance your role as a spouse and parent

• Maintaining effective relationships without spending excessive time

• Nurturing your connection with your spouse amidst the demands of parenthood

• Prioritizing your marriage and finding time for each other, even when your schedule is packed

In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage course: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

Marriage is hard. Add in military life and children, and we get an “extra, extra” marriage. 

Join Elizabeth Newcamp and me as we dive into the complexities of military marriage, parenting challenges, and the unique hardships that arise in military life. Elizabeth shares invaluable insights on navigating disagreements, deployments, and difficult situations as a military spouse, offering practical ideas to foster a stronger marriage and family.

We’re exploring:

• Managing different parenting styles in a military family

• A solid framework for resolving disagreements in marriage

• Establishing guidelines for emotionally charged situations

• The transition period when your military spouse returns home

• One surprising way to help strengthen your military marriage

• How to have a successful marriage despite differences

Connect with Elizabeth:

• Mom and Dad are Fighting podcast: https://slate.com/podcasts/mom-and-dad-are-fighting

• Dutch Dutch Goose family travel blog: https://www.dutchdutchgoose.com/

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ejdn/

For more support during deployment, check out In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869