Married After Kids

Finding friends can be one of the most challenging aspects of military life. And yet it’s also the key to unlock more happiness, especially when your spouse is away.

It’s no secret that friendships are important. They make our lives more enjoyable and also help carry us through difficult times. So when you experience friendship drama, backstabbing, or anything that just doesn't feel good, you may find it extremely hard to build new friendships and avoid letting people get to know you.

In this episode, we’re exploring:

• Why it’s vital to have friendships, especially with other military spouses

• What you can do to feel empowered instead of anxious in difficult friendships

• How to manage your own emotions and mood in toxic situations

• The #1 way to navigate all spouse drama

• Tips to deal with cliques (and who to seek out to build new friendships)

FREE CHALLENGE! How to get through deployment without dread, resentment or fights: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/july-2023-challenge

Check out my course, In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

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Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

Not to get too therapist-y on you here, BUT your past can have a significant impact on your marriage (and your self). 

The unique moments and roles you experienced in your childhood are still influencing your marriage today. However, you're not stuck playing the same roles forever. You get to decide if the roles are still serving you and if you want to continue them or not. 

Let's dive into the nitty-gritty of how exploring your past can shed light on your current relationship dynamics and help you understand your partner on a whole new level.

In this episode, get ready for:

• Unveiling how your past influences your current relationship patterns and triggers

• Empowering yourself to shift (or embrace!) the role you play in your marriage

• Juicy real-life examples and stories from my clients and my own marriage

• The #1 golden nugget to remember when digging into your past 

• One key question that can help improve your relationship with your spouse

• Plus, a little secret sauce to strengthen your marriage as you explore your past

More resources to strengthen your marriage:

In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

Are you craving better communication during your spouse's deployment or TDY? 

I'm breaking down the biggest mistakes people make when it comes to deployment communication, and providing actionable tips to improve communication that allow you to connect deeper with your spouse, even across different time zones and limited availability.

Deployments and TDYs bring unique communication challenges, but with the right mindset and strategies, you can maintain a healthy and meaningful connection with your partner. 

So don't just accept that deployment communication will not be great while they’re away. Join me in this episode as we explore:

• Four practical ways to improve communication during deployment

• How you can get what you need most when your spouse is away

• Ways to approach the conversation when there is something pressing you need answered or you have something bothering you

• An effective tool you can use anytime to improve communication

• How your mindset plays a crucial role in all of this

FREE CHALLENGE! How to get through deployment without dread, resentment or fights: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/july-2023-challenge

Check out my course for more support during deployment! In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

Ever have that sinking feeling when your spouse's promises start fizzling out?

We've all been there, wondering why they aren't following through after promising they’ll communicate at set times during deployment, or even pick up something they promised after work.

But here's the kicker: solving this problem doesn't have to lead to a fight! Join me as we dive into real-life scenarios, uncover the hidden negativity, and discover the secrets to rebuilding trust without causing a major meltdown in your relationship.

We’re exploring:

• Scenarios from my own marriage and my clients’ relationships (and how you can overcome and even grow stronger in the process)

• Why we try to make lack of follow-throughs mean something more than they really are

• How small things can chip away at the trust you have for your spouse and what you need to pay attention to for rebuilding that trust

• The best thing you can do to remain a solid team

• Five steps to successfully repair trust based on psychological research 

• Why it’s so difficult for our spouses to make a repair (and two ways we can make it easier for them to communicate about it)

Check out my course, In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

Do you ever find yourself longing to rediscover the person you are beyond the role of a military spouse?

Our identities, goals, and dreams outside of being a military spouse are essential to our well-being, yet they can feel so challenging and even beyond reach at times. However, not pursuing our desires can negatively impact our marriage, and lead to resentment and conflict. 

Molly Rose has found a way to help us as military spouses have everything we want AND stay married. This is something that will allow us to show up more for ourselves, our marriages, and our families.

Her mission is to support military spouses by creating remote work and rewarding careers. She is the creator of Virtual Assistant Academy, which provides trusted virtual assistance solutions and flawless tech execution services for busy entrepreneurs and business owners. 

If you find yourself thinking, “I just need something for me”, you want to step into an exciting role outside of being a military spouse, or you desire to add extra income each month that allows you to get support however you need it most, then this episode is for you.

We’re exploring:

• Molly’s transition from climbing the corporate ladder to training others how to become Virtual Assistants

• What a Virtual Assistant is (and the various aspects of working from home)

• The benefits of being a Virtual Assistant (especially as a military spouse)

• How having a flexible job impacts our marriages

• The skills you have as a military spouse that you can get paid for RIGHT NOW

Learn more about Molly Rose at virtualassistantacademy.com

Connect on Instagram: @mollyrosespeed

Get the needed support during your next deployment: In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

Maybe you have thought or even said out loud, “I can’t do this anymore”. We all know how challenging marriage can be, and trust me when I say I completely get it. Today I am sharing one of THE hardest moments in my marriage. The moment I felt the most uncertain. The moment I didn’t know if we were going to make it through.

In an effort to be more open and normalize the difficulties in marriage (yes - even as a marriage psychologist I still have difficulties in my marriage!), I am sharing my struggle that I’ve safely kept behind closed doors, until today. I will take you on my personal journey of how we overcame the “this isn’t working anymore” moment in our marriage.

We’re exploring:

• A vulnerable story of when I wanted out of our marriage

• Four steps we used (and still use today in difficult times!) to overcome the biggest challenge in our marriage we’ve ever had

• What you can do to make your spouse feel confident in how they are supporting you

• How to turn TO each other and work as a team when you’d rather figure things out on your own

• What you can say and do for each other so you both feel better, faster

Looking for support during deployment? Look no further! In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

Krista got the call. The one every single one of us dreads, the absolute worst-case scenario. Join us inside this courageous conversation where she shares her unimaginable tragedy and how she created something so beautiful from it. Together, we discuss the resources available to you in these situations, how to normalize moving through feelings of healing while reminding you to have the difficult planning conversations now so you can both be prepared for anything.

We’re exploring:

• How to give yourself grace when you feel the need to be strong all the time
• The ways the military community kept showing up for Krista when her direct connection to the military was gone
• Foundations and organizations every military spouse should be aware of for support on this journey
• Top questions to ask your spouse, so you both can have an extreme understanding should something happen to either one of you
• Resources to reach out to if you’re experiencing financial hardship 
• How to thrive in our role as a military spouse for ultimate preparation
• And so much more!

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The Unquiet Professional, making noise for those who serve: https://www.theunquietprofessional.org/

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Available now! In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/44943126970086

What do you do when you want out of the military, your marriage… or both? 

Reaching this breaking point is all too common in military spouse life. You feel broken down, it seems impossible you’ll ever get out, and you have no energy or emotion left to give. 

Take heart, you’re not alone.

When you find yourself at your breaking point (or to prepare for next time you want out), this episode walks you through how to get in the best possible place yourself in order to make these hard decisions.

We’re exploring:

• The first thing you can do when you are at your breaking point

• One difference-maker that will help you feel better and have more confidence you are making the best decision

• What you should NEVER do when you are in a dark emotional space

• When to have conversations with your spouse about wanting out (and how to prepare for it)

• How to keep yourself from saying or doing something you’ll regret (and also how to better understand and support each other)

• One tool anyone can use to help you gain clarity on the best decision for you 

Come along with me while my spouse is deployed and we can support each other! In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

Are you dealing with a spouse who refuses counseling? I’ve been in your shoes and understand just how frustrating it can be. You feel completely stuck and not sure what to do to move your relationship forward. 

In this episode, we dive into why your partner isn’t accepting help and what you can do about it. Spoiler alert: It’s not about convincing them. Listen in to get a better understanding of what your spouse may be thinking and arm yourself with tools to communicate what you need for a stronger marriage.

In this episode, you’ll hear:

• The reasons why your spouse may be against marriage counseling or coaching

• Why friends and family are not the people who can best support you

• How to bring up the topic of counseling without causing a fight

• What we need to do to have a more productive conversation

• One game-changing tool to help you understand your partner better

• How to communicate (not convince!) your reasons for wanting to get support and why it’s important to you

In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage! Access now: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

Are you struggling to maintain connection with your spouse, whether they are away or at home? 

I expect there to be dips in connection within every relationship, but it’s especially difficult in a military marriage. Figuring out how to feel more connected emotionally when you’re already feeling disconnected physically is HARD.

Good news! Military life does not have to impact the connection you have with your spouse if you are intentional about the five things I’m sharing in this episode. 

We’re exploring:

• What to do when you feel resentment towards the military for losing connection with your spouse

• One powerful decision that will change the way you show up for each other

• How your thoughts can work against what you really want in your relationship

• Two assumptions you can immediately put to rest to feel more connected to your spouse

• The danger of relying on other people to determine how you feel

• One key to making this lifestyle work for both of you

Join here for access to my new course, In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869