Married After Kids

If you're looking for the secret ingredient to overcome the challenges and loneliness of military life, this episode is for you. Building resiliency is key as a military spouse to identifying your needs, finding your community, and tapping into needed available resources. 

Joining me in this episode is Manda McVey, a resilience and wellness coach and community building expert. We share ways to feel more included and understood in your community, as well as what you can do when loneliness and unhappiness creep in (especially when moving somewhere new). Don’t miss out on hearing Manda’s inspiring stories as a military spouse and how she makes this lifestyle work for her when challenges arise. 

In this episode, you will hear:

• The difficulties of finding your community as a “late career” spouse

• Manda’s ultimate dream of sharing resources with other military spouses

• What she recommends for building community, no matter how long or little you are in any installation

• Our challenge to you if you feel like you already have enough friends and don’t need any more

• What to expect when moving somewhere new (and what can motivate you to get connected!)

Connect with Manda:

• Website: https://www.thehealitaryspouse.com/

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thehealitaryspouse

Join the waitlist for my new course, In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

Feeling a bit more like roommates rather than lovers these days? 

We’re bringing the heat and getting spicy in this episode! I’m sharing my version of what leads to long-term happiness and how to maximize the time you spend with your spouse, whether at home or away, regardless of how busy your schedules are. Step out of your regularly scheduled routine and breathe fresh air into your relationship, starting today. 

In this episode, I’m exploring:

• The key to bringing more fun into your relationship

• What a recent study shares in the correlation between chores and sex

• Two small yet effective things you can do physically to improve your relationship now

• One way to bring back those early lovey-dovey feelings in your relationship

• How to become a calm space for each other (and bond deeper as a team)

• Why planning for spicy moments is so important in long-lasting marriages

Join the waitlist for my new course, In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

Do you ever feel like family and friends just don’t understand what you are going through as a military spouse? They have their own ideas and thoughts about what it's like being married to military, but how can we get them to understand and support us during difficult times?

This episode will help you rise above the thoughts, feelings, and perceptions of others when it comes to the military and your role as a military spouse. Listen for a huge dose of encouragement in making the best of the situation you are in, and ways you can get support now and in the future. Whatever you are feeling and experiencing is right and true. Please don’t make yourself wrong for any of it.

In this episode, you will hear:

• Military 101: SGLI (Service Members Group Life Insurance)
• Five common perceptions that family and friends have about us as military spouses 
• How to gain support from friends, family, and your spouse when your spouse is away
• Tips to ride the emotional rollercoaster that is the military
• Permission to feel like you don’t need to be stronger than everyone else
• One phrase I hear so often that is wildly unhelpful when trying to be supportive
• Why you don’t need to completely sacrifice your life and dreams for the military and your spouse

Join the waitlist for my new course, In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

If you are feeling overwhelmed, insignificant and disconnected as a military spouse and instead want to feel empowered to live your best life confidently, this episode is for you! With the constant moving, starting new relationships, beginning new jobs, and growing a family, it’s no wonder we feel lost and even have a hard time identifying who we are and what we enjoy. 

Sherry Eifler joins us in today’s episode to talk about finding your passion and overcoming the overwhelm and loneliness we all are familiar with (yet don’t talk about often enough). After years of struggling through 8 deployments and moving over 17 times as a military spouse, Sherry believes “there’s always a way” to find your passion and feel truly fulfilled in life. 

In this episode, you’ll hear:

• Military 101: Taps
• How being a military spouse enriches Sherry’s life (and how this role led to a purposeful career) 
• Tips to get your needs met as a military spouse (especially when you often find yourself saying “I can’t”)
• The hurdles it took for Sherry to find her passion (these are so relatable!)
• What can help you identify who you are to bring more purpose to your life
• How to handle being rejected or burned in relationships
• The surprising impact that finding Sherry’s passion had on her marriage (and the key to overcoming relationship struggles)

Learn more about Sherry at her website https://sherryeifler.com and check out her free CORE assessment “Who am I?” at https://mailchi.mp/sherryeifler.com/where-are-you-core

Join the waitlist for my new course, In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

Want to know how you can make a big difference in your community? By getting involved!

There is no one better to share their insight and experience than 2022 Armed Forces Insurance Navy Spouse of the Year, Sergio Rodriguez. His perspective as a male military spouse (and also a veteran) who volunteers with multiple military-based organizations is SO inspiring. Whether you have a lot or very little availability, this episode is sure to motivate you to be a difference-maker as a military spouse in your community.

In this episode, you’ll hear:

• Military 101: Colors
• How the transition from active member to veteran impacted Sergio personally and professionally
• The challenges of being a male military spouse
• What prevents male military spouses from getting involved (and what we can do as female military spouses to break these barriers)
• What Sergio does and why (and how this affects his community)
• What the research says about altruism and helping others
• Sergio’s message to anyone who is curious about volunteering

Connect with Sergio:

Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/sergiomsoy2022/

Website https://www.sergio-rodriguez.com/

Connect with Lindsay:

Join the waitlist for my new course, In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

I’m betting reintegration is a challenge for you, too.

The adjustment period when you and your spouse come back together again after being apart for a length of time (no matter how long or little) can be really difficult.

My spouse, Sean, joins me in this episode to share our experience of previous reintegrations, what it’s like currently as we are in the thick of it, and so much more!

In this episode, you’ll hear:

• Military 101: Deployment
• How to best prepare for reintegration as a spouse to make the transition easier
• Tips for reintegrating with children
• The biggest challenges we experience during reintegration periods (and what you can be on the lookout for during this time)
• Permission to give ourselves so much grace in it all

Join the waitlist for my new course, In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

The #1 issue I hear my clients speak about as a Military Marriage Coach is that you want to improve communication with your spouse. Today I’m sharing five steps that will teach you how to go deeper on an emotional level, even if your spouse is completely uncomfortable with emotions. My aim is to equip you to build your spouse’s confidence in handling and talking about emotions AND have him actually want to do it more, too!

In today’s episode, you’ll hear:

• Military 101: Ditty Bopper
• How our past impacts the person we show up as in relationships
• The role the military plays in influencing emotions
• What is emotional safety (and what you need to do to create space for emotions)
• A personal share of how I began the process to create emotional safety in my own marriage
• The biggest obstacles facing military couples when creating emotional safety

Join the waitlist for my new course, In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

Are you experiencing the closeness you desire in your marriage? You may wonder how it’s even possible to feel close and connected to your spouse, whether they are away OR at home. In this episode, I am sharing three ways that will help you feel good, less alone, and more like your spouse truly cares about you. So, tune in to learn how to strengthen your marriage as we dive into developing more connection.

In this episode, you will hear:

• Military 101: Military Police
• Why even the best marriages need connection
• What you can do (starting today) to increase your connection with your spouse 
• The basis of connection and how to apply this in every negative scenario
• How to take conscious effort to bring you and your spouse together, even when you are busy and it’s hard to do
• Why you don’t need to wait until your spouse is on board or you have more free time to improve your marriage

Hop on the waitlist for my self-paced course, In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches 

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

How do you want to experience your marriage in 2023?

The new year is a great time to evaluate your marriage and figure out what you want to carry forward into the year ahead and what you want to change. If you want to feel more loved, more connected, and happier overall in your marriage, be sure to listen to this episode. I’m sharing my top three marriage resolutions that are easy to implement and will set your marriage up for success in 2023. 

I’m exploring:

• Military 101: COLA (Overseas Cost of Living Allowance)
• Why I have a love-hate relationship with resolutions
• The importance of having dedicated times throughout the year to assess what is working well and identify where we can grow personally and in our marriage
• How to apply goal setting principles to ANYTHING you want to improve (and how to create better habits in the new year)
• Three of the biggest difference makers that will have you feeling so good in your marriage, whether your spouse is home or away
• The key to setting marriage resolutions that you will actually want to work on all year

Join the course waitlist for big savings! In the Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

The holiday season presents many challenges when you’re Married to Military. From deployments to pressure from family to visit, there are so many decisions to make, and it can feel really overwhelming. Been there? In this episode, I’m sharing all of my tips and tricks to overcome any family frustrations, my FAVORITE ways to keep communication open between you & your spouse, and the TOP 5 ways you can bring joy into your holiday season!

I released this episode last December, and still believe it applies today and will support you through this holiday season, whether your spouse is home or deployed.

Tune in to hear:

• Married to Military 101: TSP (Thrift Savings Plan)
• How to manage BIG feelings that get magnified by the holidays
• Why THIS is one of the most common arguments during the holidays (and how to work through it!)
• My 3 BEST recommendations to help tackle feelings of frustration
• 7 things to try when you want to support someone whose spouse is deployed
• And much more!

Join my new course waitlist for big savings! In the Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869