Married After Kids

The holiday season presents many challenges when you’re Married to Military. From deployments to pressure from family to visit, there are so many decisions to make, and it can feel really overwhelming. Been there? In this episode, I’m sharing all of my tips and tricks to overcome any family frustrations, my FAVORITE ways to keep communication open between you & your spouse, and the TOP 5 ways you can bring joy into your holiday season!

I released this episode last December, and still believe it applies today and will support you through this holiday season, whether your spouse is home or deployed.

Tune in to hear:

• Married to Military 101: TSP (Thrift Savings Plan)
• How to manage BIG feelings that get magnified by the holidays
• Why THIS is one of the most common arguments during the holidays (and how to work through it!)
• My 3 BEST recommendations to help tackle feelings of frustration
• 7 things to try when you want to support someone whose spouse is deployed
• And much more!

Join my new course waitlist for big savings! In the Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

Today you are in for a treat! This is the FIRST time I am introducing one of my clients on the podcast to share her story and experience coaching with me. If you are curious to learn more about marriage coaching and how I work with others, be sure to listen to this episode!

Kassie is a military spouse, entrepreneur, photographer, and mama to two girls, and I commend her for sharing so openly and vulnerably with us about her journey and biggest lessons learned through coaching.

In this episode, you’ll hear:

• Military 101: Discharge Classifications
• How Kassie felt reaching out for marriage support
• Her experience through marriage coaching, specifically with me
• Kassie’s thoughts about our calls, communication, and length of the program
• How to make marriage coaching work with your hectic schedule (and other tips for military spouses thinking of getting support in their marriage!)
• The biggest takeaways and results of Kassie’s experience and how she is now, 6 months later

Don’t forget to show Kassie some love and tell her what you thought of the episode!

Check out her website: kassielayne.com

Join the waitlist for my NEW course In the Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

Do you ever wonder how it’s possible to have a strong marriage while your partner is deployed?

In this episode, I share the toughest parts of my husband’s current deployment, similarities and differences between past deployments, how I got through it all, and what I will change next time. 

Tune in to hear:

• Military 101: What is POM leave (Prior/Post Overseas Movement) and how it works
• What to do when you and your partner feel “against” each other when prioritizing different things (and how to get on the same page)
• The game-changer when it comes to making compromises and elevating your mindset
• A common challenge we all face as military spouses (even those of us who have worked on it for years, and continue to work on it today)
• How to make the most out of your (limited) calls together, especially when you are feeling frustrated or upset
• How to stay on the same team when your spouse is gone

Get through deployment stronger! Check out In the Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

The busyness of military life can make it that much harder to find extra time to take care of ourselves and prioritize our own wellness. But I truly believe that when we’re happier, feeling good, and well-cared for, everything else gets easier. So, finding a wellness strategy that works for YOUR unique body and life? It’s a game-changer. 

In today’s episode, Lauren Chante, wellness strategist specializing in military spouse health & wellness, shares her inspiring take on milspouse wellness, why she ditched traditional diet culture and diet damage (and why you should too!), and how she helps women find wellness with ease while focusing on the unique challenges in the military experience. 

A one size fits all approach to health and wellness just doesn’t work - especially for us, Married to Military™ family! Join us for some important tools to find a wellness strategy that works for YOU. 

We’re exploring:

• Military 101: BEQ & BOQ
• Lauren’s struggles with body image & an eating disorder
• Diet culture and the threat to women’s mental health
• How she makes getting started in your journey to wellness SUPER easy (you don’t want to miss her take on this!)
• Diet Damage - what it is, how to avoid it & ways to heal
• The gap that’s created between service members and their spouses around wellness & physical fitness (and how to deal with it!)
• And more

Connect with Lauren:

Website: https://laurenchante.com/

Podcast: https://laurenchante.com/index.php/category/wellness-podcast/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/laurenchanteofficial/

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

Does it feel like you’re always bickering with your spouse, or they’re always pointing out your mistakes (or they express that you always do this), or that you can’t catch a break and nothing is getting better?

Even though these ruts are totally normal, I know they just don’t feel very good. So, this week I want to give you the KEY to getting out of these ruts and avoiding falling into them as often.

In today’s episode of The Married to Military Podcast™, I’m sharing how to build a culture of appreciation in your marriage and why this is the antidote to divorce. Ready to learn more about why you might be falling into these rough patches and shift to establishing a foundation of appreciation and gratitude for your spouse (and them, for you) instead? Join me!

I’m exploring:

• Military 101: Military Childcare and access to the resources you need
• 4 steps to help you create a foundation of gratitude in your marriage
• The medicine & vitamin of gratitude and appreciation
• One of the BIGGEST causes of divorce - and my favorite way to avoid it
• And more

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

When you’re in the midst of an argument it can sometimes be really hard to see the end, right? Problem-solving can feel impossible (especially if you have a defensive partner) and distance can exacerbate these issues if you’re disagreeing during a deployment. 

But I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again - conflict is necessary for healthy relationships! We aren’t trying to eliminate the conflict, just the parts that are unhealthy and unhelpful. 

So, are you ready for the SECRET WEAPON you need for better arguments with your spouse? 

It’s an apology!! I know it can seem almost too simple, but stick with me - it’s actually A LOT more complicated than it seems. In today’s episode, I’m diving into the apology, how you could be doing them wrong (yes, there is a wrong way to do it!), and what you need to know to start using the apology as the surefire secret weapon to ending an argument and moving towards compromise in a real way. 

I’m exploring:

• Military 101: How many people are actually in each US branch and abroad?
• My surefire secret weapon for better arguments & less defensiveness with your spouse (and how to do it right!)
• How to know if you’re the under-apologizer or over-apologizer in your relationship
• Some examples to help you work through arguments & apologies with your spouse (to reduce damage to your connection and work towards resolution)
• TOP TIPS to make sure you are apologizing effectively - and the kind of apologies you should be avoiding
• The 5 Apology Languages and how these can help you avoid miscommunication with your spouse
• And more

Sign up for my FREE training to bring more ease into your holiday season while strengthening your marriage in the process (you’ll also get some free journal prompts as a special gift!)

Managing Holiday Stress: Military Marriage Edition: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/masterclass

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

Money tends to be one of the biggest things that couples struggle with - and TAXES can play a pretty big role in this (especially if you’re in the military and aren’t familiar with the tax code!)

In today’s episode, I invite military tax expert Judy Gilmer, EA, USTCP, to guide us through the MOST IMPORTANT things to know about the tax code as military members so we can avoid any potential tax problems, and maximize the benefits available to us. 

Ready to prepare yourself for this next tax season? She’s sharing some of the most common issues that come up with military tax returns and her biggest tips for avoiding them. You don’t want to miss this. 

We’re exploring:

• The 2 MOST common tax problems that come up for Judy’s clients (if you’re thinking about buying a home or renting out your home, this one’s for you!)
• What you need to know about tax protections & The Military Spouse Residency Relief Act
• Using free software vs. paying a professional to do your taxes - what really is the difference?
• Some of the BIGGEST errors Judy sees in military members’ tax filings (and how you can avoid them)
• Tax provisions for when you’re in a combat zone (extensions and suspensions)
• What you need to know about your taxes if you’re planning to get married to a military member
• And more! 

Connect with Judy:

Website: https://judydoesyourtaxes.com/

Email: [email protected]

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

Hello hello, Married to Military™ family! 

If you’ve been listening to the show, you know how passionate I am about helping military spouses feel good in the lives they are living. This includes making sure ALL parts of our identities are being taken care of. 

This week, Army military spouse, coach, and podcast host Jayla Rae Ardelean, shares her story of embracing the identity of a Late Career Army Milspouse, how she coped with being flung into the new military world (and motherhood!) later in life, and the challenges she faced in her life & marriage as a result. You don’t want to miss this unique military spouse perspective - come join us!

We’re exploring:

• Military 101: USS - a navy term
• The Late Career Milspouse identity and its unique challenges
• Why Jayla had to beg to do laundry (this is good!)
• The path to creating “The Heart of a Milspouse Podcast” and documenting the deployment journey
• Jayla’s BEST advice for other Late Career Milspouses
• And more

Connect with Jayla: 

Website: https://www.jaylarae.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mil.spouse/

Check out “The Heart of a Milspouse Podcast”: https://www.jaylarae.com/podcast

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

Let’s talk about sex! 

I know this can be an emotionally charged subject for a lot of us, but talking about sex is the KEY to increasing the satisfaction and sexual connection in your marriage. 

In today’s episode of The Married to Military™ Podcast, I’m sharing some of the MOST IMPORTANT factors to building a healthy sex life with your spouse and some powerful tips and tools you can use to have these important conversations with your partner so you can improve your sex & intimacy. 

I’m exploring:

• What the research has to say about building sex & intimacy in your marriage
• Why focusing on romantic feelings, technique, or even frequency ISN’T the best way to have better sex (and what is!)
• The BEST way to increase your sexual connection - and my TOP TIPS for doing it
• Keeping intimacy alive, even when you’re apart
• Some questions to ask yourself (and your spouse!) to help improve your sex life
• The biggest barriers in the way of deeper sex & intimacy in your marriage
• Why I encourage my clients to schedule sex (hint: spontaneous sex isn’t the only path to a fulfilling sex life)
• And more

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

As you know, military life requires us to wear a lot of hats. Wouldn’t it be a lot easier to juggle it all if we were working together to lift each other up? This is something that’s incredibly close to Monica Fullerton’s heart, today’s guest on The Married to Military® Podcast! 

Monica is an ambitious entrepreneur, twin mom, and Air Force spouse who created a business that is filling a giant need for us as military families - and she’s here to talk all about it! Join us to learn more about Spouse-ly, a unique platform designed to offer products and services created by military and first responder families. It’s an amazing creation that has landed her on the Forbe’s Next 1000 list and many other large platforms & publications. 

Ready to find out more about this trailblazing idea and how you can contribute (whether you’re a military family with a business/product or simply looking to support those who are)? Let’s go to the show!

We’re exploring:

• Military 101: The Salute and its historical context
• What is Spouse-ly? And why it’s so impactful for military families
• Monica’s take on the secret to military retention
• Collaboration over competitiveness (and how Spouse-ly does this so well)
• Growing a successful business as a parent and Air Force spouse
• The opportunities at Spouse-ly for vendors, customers & supporters (it’s a place for everyone!)
• And more

Start shopping on Spouse-ly! https://spouse-ly.com/

Follow Spouse-ly on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/spouse.ly/?hl=en

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869