Married After Kids

Are you solving the right problem in your marriage?

If your marriage isn’t getting any better, it’s common to think the problem is with your partner, or you two just aren’t right for each other - but I don’t want you to fall into this trap! If you want to improve your marriage and really see results, you have to solve the right problems. 

In today’s episode, I’m talking about why your marriage isn’t getting better, the MOST COMMON issues that I see getting in the way of having the marriage you desire, and the important work you can do to have the happy marriage & life you deserve! 

I’m exploring: 

• Military 101: Commissary & Exchange, and something you might not know that will change the game!
• Why your marriage may not be getting better - and what to do about it!
• One of the MOST common traps you can fall into if your marriage isn’t going the way you want it to (and how to avoid it)
• The 3 C’s of marriage problems
• Avoiding marriage comparison and shame around marriage issues
• The 1st thing I want you to do if you feel your marriage isn’t getting better
• And more

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

What happens when you get to your next duty station - and you just don’t like it?

In today’s episode, I want to talk about the ways you can navigate feeling unsettled or unhappy in a new duty station - because moves are hard enough, we shouldn’t have to worry about feeling at home too, right? Join me for my favorite PCS mindset tips and THREE important action steps that will greatly improve your experience in a location that you’re just not digging. 

I’m exploring:

• Military 101: Boot Camp, where the term came from
• Permanent change of stations (PCS) & the hardship it can have on military families
• Some real-life examples of military families who did not like their duty stations - and what they did about it!
• The 1st thing you should do if you really dislike your duty station & my BEST mindset tips to help you do it
• The 3 IMPORTANT actions you can take to start enjoying your new duty station
• And more

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

We know military life can sometimes be really hard and feel very serious. 

And that’s why this week, I’m challenging you to add more humor into your military life & marriage - because it really can do wonders. (Like how today’s guest literally got me through my postpartum experience with her hilarious reels!)

In today’s episode, I invite stand-up comedian and fellow military spouse, Ashley Gutermuth, to share her bright light and refreshing insights with our community as we discuss bringing humor to military life - and using it to strengthen our marriages. 

We’re exploring: 

• Military 101: JAG, why you should start here for any legal expertise you need
• Ashley’s life as a military spouse and how it impacts her work as a stand-up comedian
• How her hilarious reels helped me through my challenging postpartum
• Being chosen to win a contest by Jimmy Fallon & Jerry Seinfeld - and what opened up for Ashley because of it!
• How humor plays a role in her marriage (and why you should try it in yours)
• And more

Connect with Ashley: 

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ashgutermuth/

Website: https://www.ashleygutermuth.com/

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

I have a highly requested episode for you this week, Married to Military family!

Today, I’m bringing on a guest who literally made me Married to Military - active duty U.S. Navy pilot and my husband, Sean Cavanagh. We’re diving into all the tough topics as Sean answers questions submitted by you - my incredible audience! We discuss prepping for deployment and long separations, reintegrating into the family after time away, what it’s like being married to a psychologist and coach (I was really interested to hear this one!), and so much more. Wondering how Sean feels about airing our “dirty laundry” on the podcast? Join us for this one. 

We’re exploring:

• Military 101: QLE (I’ve had 5 of them in the last 12 months!)
• Sean’s military journey in the U.S. Navy 
• One of the BIGGEST changes we’ve had to make in our marriage because of the military
• How military members can better support their civilian spouses in acclimating to the military lifestyle
• Some of our favorite tips around communication when your spouse is away (for the good stuff & for when you’re struggling!)
• The MOST challenging part of coming home (from deployment and TDY’s)
• And so much more

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

Sometimes your marriage isn’t going to feel good.

BUT whether you feel like your relationship isn’t working, you’re simply in a rut, or things are going well, but you want them to be better - there is ONE important thing you can do to jumpstart your marriage. 

This week, I want to talk about why we tend to stop taking action in our marriages (even when we know it would help!) and why loving action is the quickest and MOST IMPORTANT tool to making a shift in your marriage. 

Let’s talk about the real, practical ways you can incorporate more loving actions into your daily life - and improve your marriage!

I’m exploring:

• Military 101: DOD & a helpful fact about government jobs and being a military spouse
• The fastest way to get out of a cycle of unsatisfaction in your relationship
• Why we STOP taking loving action
• Examples of how you can start actively communicating love to your spouse (even when you just aren’t feeling it!)
• Two military hurdles that could get in the way of this shift - and how to work through them
• Why I am prescribing THIS to you if you are having trouble taking consistent, loving action with your spouse
• And more

Come join my “Create a Happier Military Marriage NOW” challenge: http://lindsaycavanagh.com/marriage-challenge

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

Building community and connection when you’re starting over in a new place can be really tough. And it’s especially hard when you’re doing it every 2-3 years! So, what can we do to make starting over after a military move a little easier on ourselves? This week, military spouse & podcast host Alison joins me to share the good, the bad, and the ugly of “starting over” as a military spouse - and what she created to provide more support to our community during these times of transition. 

We’re exploring:

• How we can support each other as military spouses during (and after!) a move
• Thinking outside the box in military life
• How Alison is contributing to the military spouse network with her podcast, The Unspoken Life of the Military Wife
• Some of the BIGGEST struggles that can come up with frequent moves, and finding resources to help!
• Moving to a new duty place as an introvert
• One of the BEST pieces of advice Alison was given when she was put on her first ship
• And so much more!

Connect with Alison on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themilspousepodcast/

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

Get ready for a giant permission slip as we debunk some post-deployment myths! You’re not alone if you’ve experienced pressure to fill countless desires either before or after your spouse's deployment. Get ready to set some new boundaries! In today’s episode, we are discussing decorating for homecoming, hosting family and friends, sex, cooking ALL the meals and everything in between!

I’m exploring:

• Military 101: POV: What this stands for specifically as related to the Military
• How to NOT feel bad about your boundaries
• Top 5 Tips to navigate common requests in a way that feels good for both of you
• What to do if your spouse is using their return as an excuse to do ONLY the things they want to do
• Decorating for your spouse’s return and how to get signs made for free
• The psychology behind THIS does not lead to great things
• What you AREN’T responsible for when it comes to their demands
• And so much more! 

Grab the Deployment Survival Guide Here: http://lindsaycavanagh.com/deployment-survival-guide

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

It's easy to get caught in the magic of planning for homecoming, almost creating this fairy tale in our heads of how great it will be. I don't care how many deployments you have done, this adjustment period of reintegration can be COMPLICATED. There are not enough people talking about HOW to deepen your marriage with someone you haven’t seen or talked to in months and WHAT the appropriate preparation is. Let’s dive into this episode, where I’ll help you set realistic expectations so it can go smoothly for you.

I’m exploring:

• Military 101 - O.H.A - What this stands for and when you can use it
• Why you will have to learn how to live together again and my best tips for this
• How our expectations might not match the reality of what will happen
• The TOP questions you can start asking your spouse in the weeks leading up to their arrival
• The story of our first reintegration and how it was NOT what I expected at all
• My BEST tip that can help you avoid this type of fight altogether
• Ideas for reintegration with kids
• And so much more! 

Grab the Deployment Survival Guide Here: http://lindsaycavanagh.com/deployment-survival-guide

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

Being a Military spouse is not your ONLY identity, but it is a big part of it. This is something that other people might not understand because they aren’t exposed to this type of lifestyle. Joining me today are Kodie and Felicia, two Military spouses who built a deep and fast relationship because of this lifestyle and have created a safe space for you to come and feel inclusive while normalizing everything that’s going on. Through curveballs that are thrown your way during deployment, negative experiences you might be going through or finding your own support system, we will cover IT ALL to help you be prepared, find friendship and have fun!

We’re exploring: 

• Military 101: A.I.T: what it is and what it stands for
• How Kodie & Felicia became BFFs 
• Organic Friendship and Military challenges 
• How being a Military spouse impacted them professionally and personally
• Kofe Confessions and how it’s a space where comments can be demystified 
• Their TOP tips for deployment and how communication plays a key role
• How knowing the stages of deployment will help you
• And so much more!

Check out Kodie & Felicia: ​​​​https://msha.ke/kofeconfessions/#links

Connect with them on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kofeconfessions/

Grab the Deployment Survival Guide Here: http://lindsaycavanagh.com/deployment-survival-guide

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

Whether you’re prepping for your first deployment or you’ve been a part of the Military for 30 years, the gift behind what Becky & Joanna have created is something we ALL can benefit from! Join us as we discuss taking deployment from a season focused on counting down the days for your spouse to return into a season where you can be focused on making every day count! Whatever season you're in, we're going to make it easier for you.

We’re diving into:

• Military 101: The term ‘down range’ and what it means if you hear the phrase
• How Becky & Joanna started their businesses and blog 
• The story behind Military life bringing them to their dream career and how they had to take that first step
• An uplifting, encouraging and forward-looking space you can join (I’ll be there, too!)
• Their TOP 8 tips for getting through deployment
• Tons of free resources you can start using today
• And so much more!

Follow them on IG: https://www.instagram.com/pillardeploymentretreat/

Jo’s personal blog: https://jomygosh.com/

Get a deployment countdown box: https://bravecrates.com/

Sign up for the 2022 Retreat: https://pillardeploymentretreat.com/

Listen to workshops from 2020 & new episodes every month: https://pillardeploymentretreat.com/podcast 

Grab the Deployment Survival Guide Here: http://lindsaycavanagh.com/deployment-survival-guide

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869