In this episode of #mensexpleasure, I speak with Nikki Justice—award-winning comedian, mother, and OnlyFans creator—about turning pain into punchlines and reclaiming power through comedy, courage, and self-expression. After a divorce during the pandemic, Nikki stumbled into stand-up, transforming her unconventional life and past struggles into bold, unapologetic storytelling.

We explore the realities of being a woman in comedy and sex work, navigating online hate and societal judgment, and how humour can be both rebellion and release. Nikki also shares the inspiration behind her daring new show, The Naked Truth—a fully nude stand-up performance that celebrates vulnerability, body confidence, and freedom from shame.

A raw, funny, and fearless conversation about resilience, reinvention, and the radical act of owning your story—on and off the stage.

Key Points:

@ 3:48 Finding comedy after divorce

@ 7:53 Facing judgment and online backlash

@ 21:44 Creating The Naked Truth

@ 27:00 Balancing humour, healing, and authenticity

Relevant Links:

Nikki Justice Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nikkijusticecomedy/

Nikki Justice Website:

https://www.nikkijustice.com.au/

In this episode of #mensexpleasure, I speak with Annette Benedetti—Portland-based sex and intimacy coach, writer, and host of the acclaimed show Talk Sex With Annette—about reclaiming pleasure, power, and connection through curiosity and compassion. Ranked in the top 2.5% of podcasts globally, Annette’s work dives deep into taboo-breaking conversations around kink, trauma, and empowerment, informed by both her professional expertise and lived experience as a survivor.

We explore how cultural narratives and trauma shape our relationship with sexuality, the body, and intimacy—and how healing begins with awareness, consent, and curiosity. Annette shares practical insights on rebuilding trust and sensation after trauma, moving away from performance-based sex toward mutual exploration, and helping men appreciate their own bodies as worthy of pleasure and beauty.

A raw, empowering conversation about dismantling shame, embracing embodiment, and creating space for authentic healing and pleasure.

Key Points:
@ 0:52 Barriers to embracing feminine power
@ 4:39 Navigating trauma and its impacts
@ 9:43 Rebuilding trust and sensation after trauma
@ 16:31 Reframing goals and expectations around sex
@ 47:30 Appreciating the male form and body

Relevant Links:Annette Benedetti Instagram:

https://www.instagram.com/annettebenedetti/Annette Benedetti YouTube:

https://www.youtube.com/@talksexwithannette

In this episode of #mensexpleasure, I speak with Honey Brooks, a rural Australian mum, top OnlyFans creator, and bold voice redefining modern relationships—about navigating stigma, intimacy, and authenticity in the adult industry. From building a million-dollar business on her family farm to creating content with her husband, Honey shares her journey of creating content with her husband, including the importance of communication, trust, and respecting boundaries when sex and work intersect. We explore subscriber relationships, the responsibilities of adult creators, and the importance of fostering healthier conversations about sexuality. A candid and empowering dialogue on shame, connection, and writing your own rules.

Key Points:

@ 0:00 Introductions and background

@ 3:30 Navigating disclosure and stigma

@ 8:57 Creating content with a partner

@ 27:41 Audience and subscriber relationships

@ 42:39 Reflections on the adult industry

@ 48:43 Closing thoughts

Relevant links:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/honeyybrooks/

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@honeybrooks_

In this episode of #mensexpleasure, I speak again with Leah Carey—sex and relationship coach based in the US who specializes in supporting people recovering from high-control or narcissistic abuse backgrounds. This time, we explore how trauma impacts intimacy, consent, and sexual connection. She explains how constant stress and lack of autonomy in childhood wire the brain for hypervigilance and fear, reducing creative problem-solving and shaping long-term challenges in relationships. We discuss why common self-care practices like meditation or journaling can be triggering for survivors, and explore trauma-sensitive alternatives that feel safer and more accessible. Leah also unpacks the complexities of intimacy and consent for those with trauma histories, including people-pleasing tendencies, blurred boundaries, and strategies for cultivating safe, pleasurable experiences. A deeply compassionate dialogue on recovery, autonomy, and reclaiming intimacy after control.

Key Points

@ 4:36 Impact of trauma on brain development

@ 12:27 Challenges with common self-care practices

@ 18:37 Navigating intimacy and consent

@ 50:59 Recap and resources

Relevant Links

Leah Carey Website: www.leahcarey.com

Leah’s Substack: https://xoleahcarey.substack.com/

Leah Carey Instagram: @goodgirlstalk

In this episode of #mensexpleasure, I speak with Lex Nyree, Melbourne-based sexologist, educator, and advocate for destigmatizing sexual health about the importance of open, shame-free conversations around STIs. With a background in youth and social work and currently completing her Master of Sexology, Lex brings a unique perspective to reducing stigma and normalizing topics often considered taboo. We discuss her practical and compassionate approach to STI education, focusing on common infections, transmission, treatment, and the role of disclosure and consent in building healthy intimacy. Lex also shares how resources like Let Them Know and creative educational tools can support people in navigating these conversations. A powerful dialogue on sexual health, communication, and breaking down stigma to create more informed and connected experiences of sex.

Key Points:

@ 1:51 Importance of destigmatizing STIs

@ 6:16 Strategies for STI education and prevention

@ 26:58 Disclosure and consent around STIs

@ 36:40 Understanding STI transmission and risk factors

@ 47:26 Resources and reliable information

Relevant Links:

Lex Nyree Instagram: @sexwithlexmelb

In this episode of #mensexpleasure, I speak with Rob Kancler, men’s coach and facilitator drawing on Tantra, Taoism, and somatic practices about the developmental journey of male sexuality and intimacy. Rob shares how early experiences of isolation and confusion shape men’s long-term challenges with self-esteem, connection, and performance. We explore the role of the nervous system in intimacy, unpacking how fear-based responses like fight, flight, freeze, and fawn often disrupt presence and pleasure. Rob and I discuss reframing masculinity and responsibility in relationships, shifting away from rigid scripts toward curiosity, creativity, and authentic communication. A rich conversation on cultivating embodied intimacy, regulating the nervous system, and redefining what it means to lead with presence in sex and relationships.

Key Points:

@1:19 The development of male and intimacy

@4:29 Nervous system awareness and fear-based responses

@17:34 Reframing masculinity and responsibility in intimacy

@1:14:21 Closing reflections and resources

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I continue my conversation with Professor Alan McKee, who has spent decades studying pornography, pleasure, and sexual development. We dive into the legitimate problems with mainstream porn, including its narrow focus on penetration at the expense of female pleasure, its reinforcement of unrealistic beauty standards, and its lack of consent modeling. Alan and I also discuss how habitual porn use can create rigid “erotic pathways” that don’t always translate to real-life encounters, and why strategies for more mindful consumption are key. Together, we reflect on what it would take for sexual media to better represent diversity, consent, and connection, and how healthier pathways can support more positive experiences of sexuality.

Key Points:

2:10 Lack of variety in practices

15:38 Unrealistic beauty standards

23:27 Lack of consent modeling

36:16 Habitual and compulsive use

50:23 Recap and future directions

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I interview Professor Alan McKee, who has spent nearly three decades researching pornography and healthy sexual development. We discuss the need to include heterosexual men in sexual health conversations, debunk common myths about pornography, and emphasise the importance of open communication and sex education for healthy sexual attitudes. We also touch on the cultural shame surrounding sexuality and conclude with plans for a follow-up discussion on the real issues related to pornography.

Key points:

02:30 Research on Pornography and Sexual Health

06:17 Personal Stories of Shame and Sexuality

11:27 Misconceptions and Myths about Pornography

16:33 Youth and Exposure to Pornography

31:45 Debunking the Escalation Myth

41:57 Conclusion and Future Discussion

This episode of #mensexpleasure is a compilation of shorter videos I've posted on my social media over the last year about sex education. I delve into this contentious issue, addressing and debunking the talking points propagated by conservative commentators such as Candace Owens, Matt Walsh, and Ben Shapiro. I summarise the historical context of sex education, clarify misconceptions, and provide evidence against claims that sex education sexualises students, leads to increased sexual activity, or contributes to a rise in STIs. I also critique the rationale behind abstinence-only education and highlight the benefits of comprehensive sexuality education, including its role in reducing teen pregnancies and preventing sexual violence. Finally, this episode emphasises the importance of understanding the political and ethical motives driving opposition to sex ed and advocates for informed, reality-based discussions on the topic.

Key Points:

00:51 Historical Context of Sex Education in Schools

04:51 Conservative Critiques and Counterarguments

18:42 The Role of Parents in Sex Education

20:34 Conservative Push to Abolish Sex Education

24:55 Conservative Views on Teenage Pregnancy

26:45 Debunking Pornographic Sex Ed Allegations

30:45 Condom Relay Races and Misinformation

32:56 Sexuality Education in Europe and Misconceptions

38:10 Consent Education and Its Challenges

43:40 Choking During Sex: A Dangerous Trend

51:02 Conservative Rhetoric and the Value of Pleasure in Sex

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Shay Doran, a men’s coach who helps guys overcome performance anxiety and erection challenges. Shay shares his personal journey of leaving a corporate career after realizing how deeply these struggles were shaping his relationships and confidence, and why addressing them became his life’s work.

We discuss how performance anxiety often stems from childhood messages about worth and masculinity, and how those beliefs create cycles of pressure, shame, and disconnection in the bedroom. Shay explains why shifting the focus from performance to pleasure, presence, and communication can transform intimacy, and how reframing natural breaks—like moving rooms or reaching for a condom—can ease anxiety rather than trigger it.

Shay also offers practical advice and resources for men navigating these challenges, reminding us that healthy sexuality isn’t about flawless performance, but about connection, patience, and trust.

Key Points:

Shay's background and motivation

Shay shares his personal journey of overcoming performance anxiety and erection challenges, which led him to leave his corporate career and dedicate himself to helping other men with similar struggles. He describes how his father's passing and a realization about the impact of these issues on his life and relationships were the catalysts for change.

The root causes of performance anxiety

Shay and Cam discuss how performance anxiety often stems from early life experiences and messages around the need to perform and be a certain way to receive love and acceptance. They explore how these deep-seated beliefs and insecurities manifest in the bedroom and create a vicious cycle of anxiety and shame.

Reframing the approach to intimacy

Cam shares his approach of shifting the focus from performance to pleasure, connection, and enjoyment. He emphasizes the importance of slowing down, being present, and communicating openly with partners to create positive experiences, rather than getting caught up in the pressure to maintain erections or last a certain amount of time.

Navigating breaks in intimacy

Shay and Cam discuss how the transitions and breaks in physical intimacy, such as moving from the couch to the bedroom or reaching for a condom, can trigger anxiety and the belief that one should maintain an erection at all times. They highlight the importance of normalizing these natural fluctuations and reframing them as opportunities for connection.

Advice and resources for men struggling with performance issues

Shay and Cam encourage men struggling with performance anxiety to seek support, be patient with themselves, and have faith that it is possible to overcome these challenges. They recommend Shay's performance anxiety quiz as a starting point for self-assessment and provide information on where to find Shay's website and YouTube channel for further resources.

Relevant links:

Shay Doran's Website: https://shay-doran.com/Shay Doran's YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@shay-doran