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The fear of rejection, being too nice, and never making a move…

If you’ve ever overthought your way into loneliness, struggled with ghosting, or felt stuck in “nice guy syndrome”, this episode is for you.

Corey sits down with dating coach and author Chris Bates to break down modern dating for men: why masculine leadership matters, how to create intimacy without being manipulative, and why being radically yourself is the real dating superpower.

Whether you’re fresh out of a breakup or just done pretending to be who she wants, this conversation will shift the way you date forever.

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📍 Timestamps:
00:00 – Why men fail at modern dating
01:30 – Fear, analysis paralysis & vulnerability
03:00 – Creating non-negotiables vs outcome obsession
06:00 – Childhood wounds shaping attraction
08:20 – Hookup vs partnership mindset
10:45 – Dating horror story: when loneliness picks your dates
14:00 – Nervous system mismatch: why she felt off
16:00 – Signs you’re not confident or assertive
18:00 – Masculine leadership & Dom-ish polarity
20:00 – When leading creates tension (and when it doesn’t)
22:00 – Gamifying dating without being toxic
24:30 – Why adult play is the spice of life
27:00 – Dating as emotional gym reps
30:00 – Sh*t tests, authenticity & masculine frames
34:30 – Avoiding the friend zone through intimacy
37:00 – Emotional honesty vs emotional manipulation
42:00 – Corey’s story: attention, ego, and loss
45:00 – Chris’s story: depression, self-worth, and healing
47:30 – Post-divorce dating & leading with truth
52:00 – Radical transparency as a masculine edge
54:00 – No date is wasted — every one is a rep
56:00 – Feminine presence is healing, not validation
59:00 – The nice guy reframe: from pleasing to honest service
1:03:00 – Leadership, purpose & emotional safety in dating

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