Mistress Wellbeing

I coined this term recently, it describes those of us who feel we must be able to do all the things, on our own, without support, to an incredibly high standard.

When it goes unchecked it can lead to a specific cocktail of emotions - feeling alone, disconnected, unsupported, isolated, prickly and angry.

Today we're exploring wonder woman syndrome and what we can do to side step it so that we can do all the things while also feeling supported, connected, stable and confident.

What's your inner talk like? Do you engage in the 'shame and blame game' and give yourself a hard time, or do you lovingly soothe and accept yourself?

I'm going to guess for most of us it's the shame and blame game, we have become experts at self abandonment and self annihilation.

Today I'm exploring the roots of our negativity towards ourselves and what effect it has on our mental health.

Spoiler alert - it's not good.

We then take a dive into the heart of self compassion, doing a complete 180 and learning a simple and effective tool for everyday - multiple times a day- use.

It's easy to get caught in shame, blame or anger about the past.

I've been there myself and I see it all the time with my clients.

A mark of wellbeing is the ability to let this emotions rise up, flow through and be released. Sometimes many times over before they have done the work they need to do.

Once a feeling of tender self compassion starts to arise around our past experiences we're on the super highway of healing.

In this episode I explore how we get stuck and how to get unstuck.

Amanda Ewin is a life coach who supports high achieving women to bounce out of bed in the morning.

We explore our common theme of using eclectic methodologies to create contentment, joy and ease in the high stress world of corporate women.

Along the way, Amanda shares her own journey of realisation and how she transformed her life after a series of difficult experiences.

The alchemy continues in this episode!

Find her at https://thelilaclounge.com

Have you had a difficult experience in life which exploded your sense of meaning, purpose and groundedness?

I have, and it's usually where I meet my clients.

This can be a hard time to navigate, and it is also a time of enormous potential for transformation when we learn how to work with it.

There is an alchemy which occurs here, where base metal really can be turned to gold!

Today I explore the many ways to work positively with this experience when it arises.

Having a supportive therapeutic relationship during this time can be invaluable so please reach out if this episode speaks to you.

Todays interview with Miranda Watkins from Evolve Psychology explores the difference between psychotherapy and psychology.

I enjoyed our wide ranging discussion about what to expect on the therapy journey and what often stands in the way of our seeking wholeness and wellbeing.

Miranda shares her own story of healing which brought her to becoming a psychologist, and how that played out for her.

Join us as we explore the healing nature of deep contact and the allowing of vulnerability required to achieve it.

I've had a very eventful 2021 and today I'm sharing with you how I've navigated some choppy waters in the past few months. There have been some really life changing events for me.

Difficult things happen to all of us and it's certainly been a year of walking my talk.

Here's the thing, I wouldn't ask anyone to do things I haven't tried and tested myself!

One of the cool things about being in the wellbeing space is learning new and powerful tools I can use myself when the going gets tough.

As one of my teachers said, "Psychotherapists are no different from anyone else, we're just more interested in it.'

Today I'm speaking with Kelly about her experiences of juggling a hectic work schedule as an attorney, with a young family.

This is a common issue for remarkable women who are high achievers in Law and we explore how this situation can evolve and what supports you might create for yourself.

It can be easy for the demands to become overwhelming and before burnout kicks in, making change can mean the difference between surviving and thriving.

I'm delighted to offer this interview with James Brown around his personal experience of burnout.

James is a clinical psychologist and university lecturer currently completing his PhD. He ran a busy group psychology practice in Brisbane for many years. He now lives in Toowoomba with his wife and four children.

We hear in the interview how overwork affected him both psychologically and physically, and how he made radical changes towards a way of life which has suited the whole family better.

James shares the symptoms of burnout, which I find valuable as many of us overlook these symptoms in a bid to keep on going.

I hope you find it helpful, let me know in the comments, Im always delighted to hear from you.

I'm talking with a long term client today about her journey from work induced illness to wellbeing.

This story has many features which as women lawyers you may recognise in yourself, people pleasing, perfectionism, the work hard ethic.

I'm grateful for the honesty of sharing in todays interview.

Let's find out what happens when a high achieving, brilliant, passionate, caring lawyer finds herself in a work environment which doesn't support her, and the wellbeing journey she subsequently took.