Episode 139 (Tim is based in Beverly Hills. CA)

In this conversation with Tim Hart we explore:

• The challenge of negative self talk

About Tim Hart:

As founder and President of Leading CEO, the the past 20 years, Tim has trained thousands of executives in presentation skills.

Previously, he was CEO of two major US advertising agencies. He produced advertising for seven automobile brands comprised of American, Japanese, German and Korean car companies.

He is co-author of "Out Loud - How Public Speaking can Change Your Life and the World".

Learn more about Tim Hart and his programs at

https://www.leadingceo.com/

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Excerpts from this conversation with Tim Hart

I have a client who is CEO of one of the biggest companies in the world. And the thing with what happened with that, and the story about that is this, he wanted no one to know that he's working with me.

So this became this top secret thing. And they kind of snuck me into the building. And yet with him, I probably had the best time because we opened up in the very beginning to talk about stories.

I told him a story that I've never told anyone. And he told me the same thing story that he had never told anyone from that point on, we were bonded.

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06:56

And I suppose it's helpful to examine oneself, with some self thought, but it's destructive to be constantly flogging oneself. I'm bad, I'm bad.

07:10

Absolutely, I'll tell you one of the key things that I do. And this is kind of if there's a secret sauce in terms of what I do. Anytime I do any training, I ask everybody to give the person who's speaking feedback.

But ask them to tell them what they liked about it. I never asked them to criticize anybody. And so you're getting positive feedback from everybody in the room, which is great.

If I see something that I want to change, I'll just go in and change it. And it's very different. So they get the positive feedback. And then the way I handle it is, can we first thing I say to all kind of work with you on this, I have to get their permission.

And then they say yes, no one's ever said no to me, by the way. And so they say yes. And then I'll go in there and work with them on specific things that I think they need to learn and change.

And they do. It's fast how people change when you have that kind of one on one exchange. So no change right in front of everybody.

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Tell me a story and I will connect with you. That's how it works.

And that's why I encourage people here and I'll give everybody that's watching this an assignment I do with all my clients. Sit down and write out plenty stories of your own

We've all got 20, at least. Write down 20 meaningful stories and go through them and make sure that you understand each one of them. And then after you've done that, throw it away.

And they're all in your head. And what happens is that when you're giving a presentation, you can grab one of those stories and tell it if it's if it's relevant to what you're talking about.

Because the the thing about stories is they should be relevant to your conversation.

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