Mormon Marriages

"Seldom are we broken. There’s just something we haven’t yet learned that would allow us to be more free. The courage to pursue a truer view is rewarded with the joy of living in greater truth." - Jennifer Finlayson-Fife

"I felt like the Lord was telling me, ‘I created you the way you are for a reason. You have these gifts and these desires and these skills because I put them there in you. It’s not wrong to follow those. In fact, it’s fulfilling the measure of your creation.’

I do believe that it is a parent’s (both a father’s and a mother’s) primary responsibility for the nurture of their children, and a huge part of that is finding nurturing opportunities for them. I’m the facilitator of the nurturing and the education that happens in my children’s life. I do not have to be the only one doing the nurturing."

— Rachel Nielson

"An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure" - Benjamin Franklin

"Why isn’t this something that more people do? They think they don’t need it. They say, 'Oh, we don’t have any problems.' It’s the stigma and mindset that counseling is only something you do when you’re screwed up.

You don’t need to have problems to go to premarital counseling any more than you need to be stupid to go to college. A prevention mindset says 'Hey, I’d like to know what it is I don’t know.'" - Jonathan Sherman, LMFT

"Buried in your humanity is a jewel - a gift from God. It is the strongest force in your life. There is no stronger force that you could use for good in your life then this:

Your human nature has one single motive - to fight for what it deems as normal.

It will fight to a degree that you cannot win. So, what do you do?

Simple.

Redefine what’s normal.

All of a sudden, your human nature will work FOR you, instead of against you. This idea of controlling and creating what is normal is everything." -Seth Ellsworth

“We often think of Christ’s life as the ultimate sacrifice - which it is - but we overlook that He practiced self care. He took time alone, He napped, He ate, He would be with people and then would take time away.

We have to balance that.

If we don’t invest time in developing our sense of self, we can’t be ‘self-less.’ We wouldn’t have anything to offer.”

- Dr. Julie Hanks

“Resilience, in my mind, is found in eight simple words; Search inward, turn outward, look upward, press forward.” -Dave Schramm

"I had to learn to allow myself to simultaneously feel the gratitude, hope, and excitement of being pregnant and becoming a mom, while at the same time allowing myself to say, ‘This vomiting sucks,’ or, ‘I’m exhausted,’ or, ‘My body doesn’t feel like mine right now.’ It seems like it should be one or the other, but it’s totally okay to give space to both sides of the emotions at the same time." - Angilyn Bagley

"Here’s what I wish someone would have told us before we got pregnant.

I wish they would have to me to wake up every morning and say out loud, ‘You’re wife is pregnant, she has tons of hormones in her body, and she’s growing a baby. Be patient with her, and remind her that her only job is to eat food that will stay in her stomach and rest.’

I wish they would have told you that it’s okay if pregnancy does’t look like what you thought it would. You might not be miserable, but you might be miserable.... You might not get nauseous, but you might get nauseous... Don’t go into it expecting everything to be perfect." - Nate Bagley

"Some people long for a life that is simple and planned

Tied with a ribbon

Some people won't sail the sea 'cause they're safer on land

To follow what's written

But I'd follow you to the great unknown

Off to a world we call our own

Hand in my hand and we promised to never let go

We're walking the tightrope high in the sky

We can see the whole world down below

We're walking the tightrope

Never sure, never know how far we could fall

But it's all an adventure

That comes with a breathtaking view

Walking the tightrope with you"

- Tightrope, Michelle Williams

"The people that are most happily married have figured out a way to have enough security in their marriage to feel a sense of safety and trust, but allow it to continue growing. It’s a marriage that stops being validation based and allows growth within the context of the relationship. It’s willing to be honest enough with each other that the marriage stays alive and vital. Those are the most happily married people.

A lot of marriages do this split where the couple makes it predictable and safe, yet stay validation based and not bring up or deal with hard things. It feels predictable, but dead. This is when they're more vulnerable to looking for life outside of the marriage, because they're afraid of bringing life into the marriage." - Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife

"Viewing pornography is an emotional concern - NOT a sexual problem." - Dr. Cameron Staley