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Today's episode is sponsored by...George. Haha but in all seriousness we are sorry about the additional background noise today from the little man. Mum life is what we're all about though so why mot show it all! Today we are having a catch up and chatting about a kid free weekend away, food poisoning and a wardrobe refresh. We wanted to keep going but were really cut short so will get back to this topic at a later date and in the meantime will continue to do some shopping...are we joking or not ;)

We hope youse enjoy xx

 Episode breakdown: 

·     too many tabs open, silly buggers and youse 

·    Gastro poo to the nose and a taste of Pal

·    Remembering ourselves and booking things in for us! 

·    A cliche but how looking after yourselves helps you to look after others

·    If you could go back in time and change something what would you do?

-    Sushi turned food poisoning and Leo's tummy guards 

-    Style rut and re configuring the wardrobe with the 15 rule

-    Getting cut off by George 

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Today's episode is a special one - we are chatting to none other than Jess' YOUNGER sister Ash about her journey to motherhood. Ash opens up about how she became a mum at 25 and shortly after left  her partner. After moving back in with mum and dad she worked hard to get back on her feet and today has set up a beautiful life for her and her daughter Taylor (who is the most fabulous little girl out there - not biased at all!). We hope you enjoy this episode and thank you so much Ash for letting us hear your story. We love you and are so proud of everything you have achieved!

 Episode breakdown: 

·     Hello to Ash, Jess' more mature sister 

·    The break up from Taylor's dad, loss of identity, friendships and learning how to parent together but separately  

·    Taylor's birth and Ashley's postpartum depletion (learn about postpartum depletion in our episode here)

·    Nicolas  obsession with Taylor 

·    The isolation of being a single parent and how Ash overcame feeling secluded and make new friends that understand her situation

-    Parenting with Autoimmune disease 

-    The relationship breakdown. Going through a break up with an eight month old and moving back in with mum and dad and two siblings

-    The juggle of parenting and different parenting styles when you live with your parents. 

-    The everyday struggles of not having a partner to share the load and mourn the future she thought was hers 

-   Organising the split of custody with Taylor's dad 

-   Meeting and introducing someone new to Taylor who also has a child. The ups and downs of blending families

-   A career change and What's next for Ash! 

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God old daycare sickness is back in full swing

 Episode breakdown: 

·     Sickness and solo parenting 

·    mother, unrefined and Leo calling out Nicola's constipation and a kind gesture from a stranger 

·    Letting go of the to-do list and giving in. The two versions of ourselves - it's a form of self care 

·    prioritising your health - mind fuel by waxx movement essential oil
 
·    doing the tv reset again and chatting digital dementia and the perils of Peppa pig 

-    independent play and getting stuff done 

Product recommendations:
Nicola - terra tonics, she's joined the movement! If you want to give it a try use our code motherunrefined12 for 12% off your first purchase 
Fish oil tablets 

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This episode is another chit chat with US, and only us. Today we delve deep into parental preference and how we navigate the highs and lows not being a toddler's "favourite".

 Episode breakdown: 

·     Welcome back to our world of flat footed toddlers, "mature" or old people and a lucky dip of sleep OR sleepless nights

·    Bad parenting - is it bad if you let your toddler swear?

·    Parental preference - when the other parent is the preference for play. The science behind play and nurture, toddler one-on-one play dates. We also share a snippet of Dr Anna Machin's reasoning for parental preference. Click here to watch the ted talk 

·    Our favourite quotes right now!
 
·    Book recommendation - how to talk so toddler's listen by Adele Faber

Product recommendations:
Nicola - Nutraorganics Greens and Reds powder linked here
Jess - Kmart sensory mat here

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OK so we are officially kicking off our mum chat series with our girl crush - Karis from @the.chaos.creation
The account we love (are addicted) to following. We like the lists/ prep/ grocery hauls and cleaning vids but we also love how honest she is when she can't get it all done. She keeps it real  and has even got Jess writing lists!!! 
We were pumped to chat to her this week about her experience of motherhood and  the changes she's seen in herself since becoming a mum. She's an absolute gem and we hope you guys love her as much as we do

Episode breakdown 

• Shag, Marry Kill? - Hugh Jackman, Karl Stefanvic and Margot Robbie?

• What’s giving you your #mummojo right now? (think fav products, recipes, exercise - anything that is making you feel like a supermum?)

• Tell us a bit about yourself and why you created The Chaos Curation?

• Do you have any cleaning or mumspo accounts you follow?

• Favourite cleaning hack?

•  Favourite EASY family friendly dinner recipe?

• We see you pack lunchboxes for your children - what’s a healthy snack your toddler/baby has been loving?

• Let’s talk about real mum life! What do you find difficult about motherhood? Have you been able to improve your mindset surrounding this? If so, how?

• How do you pick yourself up if you’re having a bad day?

• What do you love about motherhood?

• Tell us how you stay organised as a busy mum who also works (and has a husband who works long hours!). Do you use a calendar system, are you a list writer? Tell us your secrets!

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If you enjoyed this episode we would really appreciate if you could leave us a rating or review, it means so much to us and it really helps us to be seen (and obviously we will love you forever for it!) 

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Welcome to 2024...where we thought things would be different and we wouldn't go off track but we're back to our old 2023 selves! On a serious note, it's great to be back in your ears and we can't wait to share what's in store for this year...

 Episode breakdown: 

·     Holiday recap - is it really a holiday if you have children? Only if you have other people to parent with....

·     A haircut is as good as a holiday... and we AGREE! 

·    Mum style - we're getting it back and we can't wait to share what styles make us feel like the most stylish/comfortable mums out there 

·    Product reviews are back! Jess talks simplifying skincare (again). Nicola's favourite salad right now - get the recipe HERE. Explore Jess's skincare HERE

·    Mother, Unrefined moments (have a great day Jenny!)

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If you enjoyed this episode we would really appreciate if you could leave us a rating or review, it means so much to us and it really helps us to be seen (and obviously we will love you forever for it!) 

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Well you'd never actually know that we tried to record this episode with a bit of a plan...it definitely went off topic a fair bit (as always). Anyway, it's Christmas, we're all doing a million things and getting off track is part of the game at this time of the year so we hope you enjoy our chat about dinner, reminiscing on Granola, baby routines, present ideas and after a few weeks off we have another product reco for you! Enjoy x

 Episode breakdown:

·     What's for dinner?

·     Quick re-cap on the baby routine

·    Unrefined Granola blast from the past

·     Christmas pressies for teachers and toddlers

·    Product reviews are back! Jess talks simplifying skincare and Nicola has a question for Jess on a current trend

Just a reminder to join our mothers group on facebook here 

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A few weeks ago we put a question box up on our stories for some things to discuss on the pod. We got a some great suggestions for episodes but really wanted to delve in and discuss these more specific questions so we've popped them all in one ep for you (and us)! Are any of these questions yours? Are you going through anything similar? And what do you think of these listener question eps, should we keep them coming? Happy listening and we look forward to hearing your thoughts x

  Episode breakdown:

·     Mother, Unrefined moments - wrong names ans some snakes 

·     Need some advice - my husband’s mum has been living with us for the past 18 months and my husband and her have just had a huge relationship breakdown. We have three kids (one newborn) and were set to move to acreage in the new year (with his mum). She is no longer coming with us and I am freaking out about the year ahead. How am I going to manage 3 kids, our mortgage in this new economy and have no family living nearby for support. Can you provide any tips on doing things alone (grocery shopping - do you do grocery shopping once per week and meal plan? 

·    My three year old has recently had a massive change in his personality. He used to be the sweetest little boy but over the past few weeks has completely changed. Huge tantrums, running away from us in public, biting us and now hitting. Have you experienced this with your children?

·     My husband and I are in a really bad place right now. We have constant arguments and feel as if we’re headed for divorce. All i can think about is the damage i’m going to do to my children. Then I also wonder whether our fighting is normal and whether counselling could help. Do you have any tips for relationships with kids? Do you see a counselor or ever think about leaving your partner?

·    I need help finding my libido. Any tips? Mine was much higher than my partner’s in the early days and even last trimester of pregnancy but now I cringe at the thought of it! My partner is fine, he doesn’t pressure me at all but I can see he sometimes takes it personally.

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Ahhh mum rage, we talk about it all the time but it's been a bit extra lately. Moving states, new daycare and messed up sleep coupled with the hormonal shift at that 4-5 month postpartum mark are a few of the reasons that the rage has hit the roof for Jess lately. Luckily for her Nicola went through this about 6-8 weeks ago and shares not only her experiences but also a few tips to help cope with it all when it feels a bit overwhelming.  Recording this episode was cathartic for us and we hope it lightens things for you a bit too . Looking forward to hearing your thoughts on this one x

  Episode breakdown:

·      Dusted noses and Panadol tablets 

·       Mum rage and the iceberg 

·      Are you getting time for yourself?

·      Unpacking the outbursts - our experiences with our recent outbursts and personal 
        conflicts with not being able to do as much as you used to

·       No TV & mindful TV and the overwhelm of keeping a toddler entertained 

·       Exploding at 4-5 months postpartum phase - the hormone dump

·       Journaling - the mum dump - ticking it off and thinking about your ideal life 

·         Sensory reset and controlling your environment when you're in a funk 

·         A problem shared is a problem halved

·          Nicolas rage to Mitch 

·          Doing chores you don't want to do to get some alone time 

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We're back! We had to take a few weeks there to move house, get over the daycare sickness and...sleep...lol. We know sleep is a bit of a sexy word out there to all of us parents with small kids but we thought we should get Claire from Eat, Play, Sleep on to chat about newborn sleep, wake windows, routines and to help us get back on track with the little sleep that's happening in both homes at the moment. We received so many questions from you guys too so have dedicated the second half of this episode to those. We hope you can take a few bits from this episode even if it's just to know you aren't alone! Enjoy

  Episode breakdown:

·      How Nic knows Claire

·       When to introduce a routine

·      Dummies 

·      4 Month regression - is it real?

·       Sleep environment and sleep associations 

·       Wake windows vs routines

·       The Snoo

·      Listener questions covering frequent wakes, transitioning to one nap, night waking in toddlers, sleeping through,, contact napping, co-sleeping, early wake ups in toddlers and napping on the go.

Please check out Claire at https://www.epsleep.com.au/ or via her Instagram here and get in touch if you have any specific sleep questions for her. You can also check out the Eat, Play, Sleep podcast here where her and her Alannah chat mum life as well!

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If you enjoyed this episode we would really appreciate if you could leave us a rating or review, it means so much to us and it really helps us to be seen (and obviously we will love you forever for it!) 

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