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THE VENT is back! Today we discuss one listener's dilemma with wanting another child, while her partner is on the fence.  We also discuss pregnancy shoots, sex during pregnancy & attraction level, couple's counselling (and our own experiences) and Jess's ANNOUNCEMENT! Enjoy Episode 37 and don't forget to sign up to our Mother, Unrefined mothers group here

 Episode breakdown:

·       Jess's announcement (Nicola had no idea!)

·       Postpartum identity loss 

·       Mother Unrefined moments 

·       THE VENT question & answer

·       Couple's counselling

·       Baby showers for the second pregnancy? An actual thing?

·       JOIN OUR MOTHER'S GROUP here 

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We are taking a little break from only talking kids today (although they do creep in) and chatting about some of our fav podcasts, rituals as well as some ‘what the f*$% moments’ from our past. We also discuss de-influencing and get into Nicola's DM's.  Enjoy Episode 36 and don't forget to sign up to our Mother, Unrefined mothers group here

 Episode breakdown:

·       Our stuff up last week

·       Vagina candles, Queefing and a sandwich 

Question time 

·       What little thing did you do for yourself this morning?

·       What’s your fav age so far?

·       Are you scared to have another baby?

·       What podcasts are you listening to right now?

·       What is a ‘what the f%&* was I thinking?’ moment from your past?

Peer pressure and parenting 

·       Mothers’ groups and social media and outsiders opinions 

·       Nicola’s dm’s 

De-influencing – we are here for it! We share ours as well as our love for a particular skincare brand! 

Back to the mothers group- join ours on facebook here 

The podcasts we love – Jess – Not Skinny but not Fat & Smartless Nic – Outspoken & Life Uncut & Australian Birth Stories 

Nicolas discount code for MCo Beauty - NICOLA20

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Bit of a jumbled and catch up episode this week . Jumping in with  our toddler diaries – what silly and hilarious things our 2 year olds have done this week! How our pregnancies are both going and what skincare is Nicola using at the moment .

 Episode breakdown:

·       Funny things that our kids have done 

·       Pregnancy catch up. 

·       Nicola is 27 weeks (third trimester) – where she is at and how she is going?

·       Family help and paternity leave 

·       Jess is 18 weeks and having a time 

·       What have we bought?

·       The shift in relationships during pregnancy

·       The compromise of pregnancy 

·       Botox, wrinkles and skincare

·       Nicola and her gua sha 

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Welcome to our first episode of our new segment, The Vent! You send in your questions (or uncomfortable situations) and we discuss it! 
Today's episode is all about moving in with in laws and when that comes with their style of parenting over yours! 

Episode breakdown:

·       Jess' little parenting insight thanks to Matt's sisters

·       Nicola's parking fail 

·       The Vent - today's question - Currently living with our in-laws and it's like cos we             live with them I can't parent how I want to parent. I brought this up with my           
         husband and he said we need to be grateful because we aren't paying rent we do 
         however pay for groceries and it is only temporary. I can give a few examples of 
        what is the problem 
       -giving unhealthy snacks throughout the day 
       -stern punishment
       -calling her a coddler

·       Nicola chats about her book about resentment 

·       The oldest woman in the world credits not having toxic people in her life as her reason for living so long 

·       Unsolicited advice from the boomers

·       How long are you staying? weighing up the options 

·       Nic's confrontation with a family member

·       Ripping the bandaid off  as it happens and picking your battles

·       Making a joke of it

If you have any juicy questions or situations you want us to discuss send it in to us via our dms or email [email protected] If you enjoyed this episode we would really appreciate if you could leave us a rating or review, it means so much to us and it really helps us to be seen (and obviously we will love you forever for it!) 

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So what actually is a Doula? Today we chat with Alice from @themodern.doula about all things birth, birth preparation and postpartum expectations. For anyone who is expecting, knows someone who is expecting or wants to think and reflect on their birth experience this episode is for you! Alice chats about her role as a doula and some ways in which she helps to empower women to make informed choices and have a positive birth experience. 

 Episode breakdown:

·       What is a Doula?

·       When should I look for a Doula?

·       What’s included? What happens during the birth?

·       The due date mind space 

·       What medical training does a Doula have/ what kind of support does a Doula offer?

·       Hypnobirthing and coping mechanisms for pain

·       Understanding and working with pain

·       Postpartum care, rest and recovery 

·       Postpartum meal service options and foods to prioritise in the postpartum period

·       How do Doulas work with healthcare providers?

·       Navigating difficult situations in birth

·       Working with families with different beliefs and cultures 

·       Talking homebirths! What happens, who is there and the costs involved

·       Alice’s journey to becoming a Doula and how she continues to educate herself 

You can find Alice at The Modern Doula or via her Instagram @themoderndoula

The postpartum meal delivery service we mentioned – The Golden Month & Meals4Mummas (Central Coast NSW) 

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Daycare is back on for the year! Thank God! And while we LOVE you daycare we are not ready for the never ending sickness that comes with it. Today we are discussing our adjustment back to daycare for 2023 and all that comes with it. And in what seems to be perfect (or not so perfect) timing for Nicola, she has been struck down with a case of daycare sickness to kick off the week! We are also sharing a few weird things that we have noticed in this pregnancy at the end of the episode.  

 Episode breakdown:

·       An interesting habit from Nicola 

·       Straight into daycare sickness chats and how we managed the adjustment of 
         starting daycare and getting outside help

·       Nic is very on top if hand sanitiser

·       Starting back at daycare after the holiday break – how our kids went

·       Nicola’s tip for hiding her phone and a tangent on kids and technology 

·       Starting daycare for the first time – what worked for us. A recap on this episode 
        that goes a bit more in depth. Our top tips that helped us

·       Bit of OCD and behavioural changes 

·       A few last mins chats on our pregnancy and symptoms

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Hello 2023! The holidays are over and we are so excited to be back! We have a few things to share today about how our year ahead will look…let’s just say it will be a busy one for both of us! We are also chatting about our Christmas break including some pregnancy anxiety, dealing with feeders and micro-resolutions.

 Episode breakdown:

·       Jess is pregnant! Her and matt are welcoming a little boy in July

·       The noticeable differences to her first pregnancy

·       Exhaustion life – lack of motivation and the fog

·       New year’s resolutions – micro resolutions starting with Nicola’s reading and getting accountable. Jess’ plans for little frank store and getting fit for birth

·       Miele is the MVP of vacuum cleaners! We won’t hear anything else

·       Catch up on Nic’s pregnancy and her honest chat on insta about different parenting styles with a heart-warming moment from Leo

·       The differences between Matilda and Leo at 2-2.5 years

·       The Google nest pest

·       Our kids struggled on this holiday and how we lose our cool as parents 

·       Getting triggered by family over the holidays 

·       Watching our kids grow and learn is the best

·       Toddler e-book from Nicola is sooooo close to being ready! Stay tuned

·       Why does our family want to feed our kids junk all the time?

·       Bush wee’s

·       Pregnancy boobs! 

·       The Vent is coming – tell us your secrets or questions and we will discuss it on the poddy

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Welcome to the final episode of the 2022! What a year it's been! Today's ep is a reflection of the year that was - we discuss our highlights, lowlights, what we are so appreciative of (spoiler alert - it's you guys and each other!) and a few little hints at what's to come next year! You can think of this episode as our Christmas party catch up so while we can't all be together, we hope you feel included as this would just not be possible without you! 

 Episode breakdown:

·       Mother, Unrefined moments- these toddlers just crack us up! 

·       Jess has a confession for Nicola about something from our first few episodes

·       Sharing our highlights of the year and one lowlight

·       Our last product review of the year
        Nicola Runway Scout code: 15nicola
        Jess Alison Roman, Nothing Fancy cook book

·       From the bottom of our heart we can't thank you enough to everyone who has     
        given us their time since our launch in July. Whether that be via listens and 
        downoads, ratings and reviews, our amazing guests or via instagram. It all means 
        the absolute world to us and we can't wait to keep going next year! 

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Today we are chatting with Dr Raelia Lew, a Gynaecologist, Obstetrician and CREI Fertility expert who is also the co-founder of Lovers. A brand new specialty lube on the market that will shake up our sex lives! We are chatting all things lube, sex and fertility. Grab a coffee and get ready to learn with this episode! 

Couldn't not share our mother, unrefined moments this week. We have both started potty training and it's safe to say it is not so smooth sailing so far...

• Lovers lube.  - what is it, how is it different and how did it start?
• How does lube assist fertility? What lubes should we steer clear of and how do we know which lube to choose?
• What are some of the best practices when looking after our vaginal health
• Discharge - the importance of it and how to know when it is a concern
• Sex after kids
• Prescription lube- learn all about it
• Preconception Screening - your recommendations for timings, costs and how specific can you get? 
• What happens if a genetic issue is identified?
• Seeking out a fertility specialist - when, why etc
• Gene testing on embryos for someone who is falling pregnant via assisted fertility but having miscarriages due to chromosomal abnormalities? What are the pros and cons of this?
•  How can we track our fertility? 
• At what point does a woman consider freezing her eggs? 
• the NIPT test is in pregnancy? What does it screen for and how accurate is it?

Check out Lovers products and info here

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Today we are chatting going back to work vs not going back to work. We have one of each perspective and we compare our experiences with each other but ultimately there is no right answer here and we just do what works best for our families. 

 Episode breakdown:

·       Father Unrefined moments- it's the husbands' turn. Maternity Wear and Battle Axes.

·       Nicola, working mum and Jess is a stay at home mum. 

·       Nicola discusses how she prefers being back at work part time and is more present with Leo

·       Jess talking being so grateful to be able to spend the day with Matilda vs her boredom and monotonous thoughts

·       Getting frustrated with our kids when its not at all their fault and realising our needs.

·       Nicolas transition back to work/ daycare/ routine change etc

·       Parental favouritism shift in Nicola's house

·       Finances - the reality and the thoughts we have on it. 

·       Career progression once having kids and the change we go through 

·       A cheeky little comparison of our training in retail to having kids 

·       Family FOMO

·       Prank calls to Nicola while she has quality family time 

·       Whatever you do we're all in this together and there is no right or wrong answer

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