In April 2011 in a small village in the Netherlands, Eddy Hekman got the worst news of his life. His daughter Renske had been killed by her boyfriend Alasam Samarie. But this didn't square with how Eddy knew Samarie - as a kind and gentle person. Eddy went on a quest for answers about Renske's death, and the results pushed the limits of his tolerance. He's stayed friends with Samarie, and they've even written a book together called Een Coupé Verder. Eddy tells Outlook's Neal Razzell why he considers Samarie to be part of his family. 

Image: Eddy Hekman's daughter Renske and her boyfriend who killed her
Credit: Eddy Hekman

In April 2011 in a small village in the Netherlands, Eddy Hekman got the worst news of his life. His daughter Renske had been killed by her boyfriend Alasam Samarie. But this didn't square with how Eddy knew Samarie - as a kind and gentle person. Eddy went on a quest for answers about Renske's death, and the results pushed the limits of his tolerance. He's stayed friends with Samarie, and they've even written a book together called Een Coupé Verder. Eddy tells Outlook's Neal Razzell why he considers Samarie to be part of his family. Image: Eddy Hekman's daughter Renske and her boyfriend who killed her Credit: Eddy Hekman

My daughter’s killer feels like ‘family’

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Lives Less Ordinary is a podcast from the BBC World Service that brings you the most incredible true stories from around the world. Step into someone else’s life and expect the unexpected. Each episode a guest shares their most dramatic, moving, personal story. Listen for unbelievable twists, mysteries uncovered, and inspiring journeys - spanning the entire human experience. Our guests come from every corner of the globe: from Burundi to Beverly Hills, New Zealand to North Korea, Rajasthan to Rio. And their stories can be about anything: tales of survival, humour, resilience and intrigue. From the mind-blowing account of the Japanese man trapped in his own reality TV show, to the Swedish women rescued from lions by a tin of spam. It’s life’s wild side, in stereo. Lives Less Ordinary is brought to you by the team behind Outlook, the home of true life storytelling on BBC World Service radio for nearly 60 years. Got a story to tell? Send an email to liveslessordinary@bbc.co.uk or message us via WhatsApp: 0044 330 678 2784 You can read our privacy notice here: https://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/articles/5YD3hBqmw26B8WMHt6GkQxG/lives-less-ordinary-privacy-notice

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