In this episode, I share a personal story I have never told in detail before. It begins in my early 50s after separating from my husband of 25 years and rediscovering sex in a new relationship. My libido was strong, my excitement was back, but something unexpected started happening. I suddenly could not orgasm.

That experience sent me down a path that completely changed how I understand hormones, sexual health, and midlife sexuality. I talk about the appointment at a sexual medicine clinic that opened my eyes to the role of clitoral stimulation, vibrators, and something most women never hear about. Testosterone.

I explain how low testosterone affected my ability to orgasm, how doctors evaluate hormone therapy for women, and why testosterone treatment must be carefully monitored. I also share the surprising moment in a doctor’s office that changed my relationship with pleasure forever.

If your desire is still there but your body does not respond the way it used to, this episode explains why that can happen and what options exist.

In this episode:

00:00 Why I decided to share my testosterone story

01:02 Separating from my husband and rediscovering sex

02:12 When orgasms suddenly became difficult

03:15 The doctor visit that changed everything

04:28 What I learned about clitoral stimulation

05:20 Why women also have testosterone

06:23 How doctors test hormone levels

07:30 The vibrator moment that shocked me

08:36 How testosterone therapy works for women

09:33 Why some doctors avoid testosterone pellets

10:31 How I take testosterone today

11:25 The risks of taking too much testosterone

12:27 Why testosterone has been a game changer for me

13:00 My advice if you are struggling with sexual changes

Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: [email protected]

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: [email protected]

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Substack: https://karenbigman.substack.com

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