Narcissists in Divorce: The Narcissist Trap

In this episode,  Nicholas Anderson, a highly experienced barrister from 1KBW Chambers in London discusses the misunderstandings surrounding Narcissism among many barristers and judges, and how this can lead to judgements which fail to be in the children's best interests. He talks about the dangers of the charming and plausible presentation of the narcissist and the believable victim-playing of the closet narcissist - and how this can play out in court. 

Dr Supriya is an Amazon no 1 bestselling author in the subject of narcissism. Her most up-to-date books are: 

• Narcissists in Divorce: From Love-Locked to Leaving 
• Narcissists in Divorce: From Leaving to Liberty – The Truth, The Whole Truth and Nothing But The Truth and 
• The Narcissist Trap: The Mind-Bending Pull of the Great Pretenders  

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STOP PRESS: Dr Supriya's in-person conference "How to Divorce a Narcissist - a Conference for Survivors" will be taking place on 27th February 2027, at the IET, Austin Court, Birmingham, UK. Tickets are priced at just £45, thanks to a large philanthropic donation, and are available from EventBrite. For more information, please head to narcissistsindivorce.co.uk. Please book early to avoid disappointment, as delegate places are strictly limited to a total of 150. 

Narcissists in Divorce: The Co-Parenting Myth - How to Protect your Children and  Stamp Out Post Separation Abuse is Dr Supriya's latest book.

The second book in the Narcissists in Divorce series, From Leaving to Liberty – The Truth, The Whole Truth and Nothing But The Truth is also available now. An in depth, comprehensive, holistic guide, it exposes the inadequacies of worldwide family justice systems, and shows you how to stay afloat, how to take control of the narrative, how to protect your mental health and much, much more.

The first book of the series, Narcissists in Divorce: From Love-Locked to Leaving helps you determine whether you are dealing with a true narcissist, and if so, what you need to consider regarding leaving. The audiobook sample is  h...

In this episode Narcissism expert Dr Supriya McKenna explains 'gaslighting' - one the most used narcissistic tactics of psychological abuse. She explains how it leaves the victim feeling unable to trust themselves or their perceptions, and how the resulting confusion keeps them 'in play' as a source of narcissistic supply for the narcissist.

Dr Supriya is an Amazon no 1 bestselling author in the subject of narcissism, and the author of the new books Narcissists in Divorce: From Love-Locked to Leaving  and The Narcissist Trap :The Mind-Bending Pull of the Great Pretenders.  

Support the show

STOP PRESS: Dr Supriya's in-person conference "How to Divorce a Narcissist - a Conference for Survivors" will be taking place on 27th February 2027, at the IET, Austin Court, Birmingham, UK. Tickets are priced at just £45, thanks to a large philanthropic donation, and are available from EventBrite. For more information, please head to narcissistsindivorce.co.uk. Please book early to avoid disappointment, as delegate places are strictly limited to a total of 150. 

Narcissists in Divorce: The Co-Parenting Myth - How to Protect your Children and  Stamp Out Post Separation Abuse is Dr Supriya's latest book.

The second book in the Narcissists in Divorce series, From Leaving to Liberty – The Truth, The Whole Truth and Nothing But The Truth is also available now. An in depth, comprehensive, holistic guide, it exposes the inadequacies of worldwide family justice systems, and shows you how to stay afloat, how to take control of the narrative, how to protect your mental health and much, much more.

The first book of the series, Narcissists in Divorce: From Love-Locked to Leaving helps you determine whether you are dealing with a true narcissist, and if so, what you need to consider regarding leaving. The audiobook sample is  h...

In this episode Narcissism expert Dr Supriya McKenna, UK solicitor Karin Walker and Clinical psychologist Dr Daksha Hirani discuss how common Narcissistic Personality Disorder is in the population, and why it might be on the increase. They talk about whether Narcissism is more prevalent in certain cultures and whether Narcissists can be 'cured' of their NPD. Dr Hirani cautions how some narcissists use therapy as a means to learn how to change their behaviour in order to escape detection. Finally, they discuss the tricky concept of whether narcissists are able to experience love.

Dr Supriya is an Amazon no 1 bestselling author in the subject of narcissism, and the author of the new books Narcissists in Divorce: From Love-Locked to Leaving  and The Narcissist Trap :The Mind-Bending Pull of the Great Pretenders. 

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Supriya's new book, the second in the Narcissists in Divorce series, From Leaving to Liberty – The Truth, The Whole Truth and Nothing But The Truth is available now. An in depth, comprehensive, holistic guide, it exposes the inadequacies of worldwide family justice systems, and shows you how to stay afloat, how to take control of the narrative, how to protect your mental health and much, much more.

The first book of the series, Narcissists in Divorce: From Love-Locked to Leaving helps you determine whether you are dealing with a true narcissist, and if so, what you need to consider regarding leaving. The audiobook sample is here.

Find Dr Supriya on thelifedoctor.org, on DoctorSupriya.com, and on X, Instagram and LinkedIn. Her online courses can be found here.

In this episode Narcissism expert Dr Supriya McKenna and Dr Daksha Hirani discuss the ins and outs of  'complex PTSD' - a consequence of narcissistic abuse. Dr Hirani explains what treatments are available, including EMDR (eye movement desensitisation and reprogramming) and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy. They talk about how Mindfulness Meditation is an excellent way for the victims of narcissistic abuse to rewire their brains, and how it is scientifically validated. Dr Hirani also explains why it is that seeking therapy with a therapist who does not fully understand NPD may make things worse, and how it is that the narcissist has the potential to be your greatest teacher when it comes to healing your wounds to lead you towards personal growth and happiness. 

Dr Supriya is an Amazon no 1 bestselling author in the subject of narcissism. Her most up-to-date books are: 

• Narcissists in Divorce: From Love-Locked to Leaving 
• Narcissists in Divorce: From Leaving to Liberty – The Truth, The Whole Truth and Nothing But The Truth and 
• The Narcissist Trap: The Mind-Bending Pull of the Great Pretenders  

Support the show

STOP PRESS: Dr Supriya's in-person conference "How to Divorce a Narcissist - a Conference for Survivors" will be taking place on 27th February 2027, at the IET, Austin Court, Birmingham, UK. Tickets are priced at just £45, thanks to a large philanthropic donation, and are available from EventBrite. For more information, please head to narcissistsindivorce.co.uk. Please book early to avoid disappointment, as delegate places are strictly limited to a total of 150. 

Narcissists in Divorce: The Co-Parenting Myth - How to Protect your Children and  Stamp Out Post Separation Abuse is Dr Supriya's latest book.

The second book in the Narcissists in Divorce series, From Leaving to Liberty – The Truth, The Whole Truth and Nothing But The Truth is also available now. An in depth, comprehensive, holistic guide, it exposes the inadequacies of worldwide family justice systems, and shows you how to stay afloat, how to take control of the narrative, how to protect your mental health and much, much more.

The first book of the series, Narcissists in Divorce: From Love-Locked to Leaving helps you determine whether you are dealing with a true narcissist, and if so, what you need to consider regarding leaving. The audiobook sample is  h...

In this episode Clinical Psychologist Dr Daksha Hirani talks about why it is that NPD is not well recognised in the UK and why mental health professional and lawyers are not being trained in NPD. They talk about the  issue of the family members of narcissists 'diagnosing' the narcissists and why getting a formal diagnosis of narcissism is unlikely to be helpful. Dr Hirani explains why victims of narcissistic abuse should never 'name and shame' the narcissist in their lives, and why it is that a narcissist will attempt to annihilate their spouse in divorce. They discuss the cultural elements of narcissism and whether narcissists can love. 

Dr Supriya is an Amazon no 1 bestselling author in the subject of narcissism. Her most up-to-date books are: 

• Narcissists in Divorce: From Love-Locked to Leaving 
• Narcissists in Divorce: From Leaving to Liberty – The Truth, The Whole Truth and Nothing But The Truth and 
• The Narcissist Trap: The Mind-Bending Pull of the Great Pretenders  

Support the show

STOP PRESS: Dr Supriya's in-person conference "How to Divorce a Narcissist - a Conference for Survivors" will be taking place on 27th February 2027, at the IET, Austin Court, Birmingham, UK. Tickets are priced at just £45, thanks to a large philanthropic donation, and are available from EventBrite. For more information, please head to narcissistsindivorce.co.uk. Please book early to avoid disappointment, as delegate places are strictly limited to a total of 150. 

Narcissists in Divorce: The Co-Parenting Myth - How to Protect your Children and  Stamp Out Post Separation Abuse is Dr Supriya's latest book.

The second book in the Narcissists in Divorce series, From Leaving to Liberty – The Truth, The Whole Truth and Nothing But The Truth is also available now. An in depth, comprehensive, holistic guide, it exposes the inadequacies of worldwide family justice systems, and shows you how to stay afloat, how to take control of the narrative, how to protect your mental health and much, much more.

The first book of the series, Narcissists in Divorce: From Love-Locked to Leaving helps you determine whether you are dealing with a true narcissist, and if so, what you need to consider regarding leaving. The audiobook sample is  h...

In this episode Dr Supriya talks to UK Clinical Psychologist Dr Daksha Hirani, who explains why it's so important to be able to recognise (as a victim of a narcissistic relationship) your own telltale gut feelings and responses. They discuss how the narcissist is able to show you your own wounds, and how it is that narcissistic abuse is so infrequently recognised, even within the area of domestic abuse - and why that matters. 

Dr Supriya is an Amazon no 1 bestselling author in the subject of narcissism. Her most up-to-date books are: 

• Narcissists in Divorce: From Love-Locked to Leaving 
• Narcissists in Divorce: From Leaving to Liberty – The Truth, The Whole Truth and Nothing But The Truth and 
• The Narcissist Trap: The Mind-Bending Pull of the Great Pretenders  

Support the show

STOP PRESS: Dr Supriya's in-person conference "How to Divorce a Narcissist - a Conference for Survivors" will be taking place on 27th February 2027, at the IET, Austin Court, Birmingham, UK. Tickets are priced at just £45, thanks to a large philanthropic donation, and are available from EventBrite. For more information, please head to narcissistsindivorce.co.uk. Please book early to avoid disappointment, as delegate places are strictly limited to a total of 150. 

Narcissists in Divorce: The Co-Parenting Myth - How to Protect your Children and  Stamp Out Post Separation Abuse is Dr Supriya's latest book.

The second book in the Narcissists in Divorce series, From Leaving to Liberty – The Truth, The Whole Truth and Nothing But The Truth is also available now. An in depth, comprehensive, holistic guide, it exposes the inadequacies of worldwide family justice systems, and shows you how to stay afloat, how to take control of the narrative, how to protect your mental health and much, much more.

The first book of the series, Narcissists in Divorce: From Love-Locked to Leaving helps you determine whether you are dealing with a true narcissist, and if so, what you need to consider regarding leaving. The audiobook sample is  h...

In this episode Narcissism expert, Dr Supriya McKenna explains why couples therapy, or marriage guidance counselling, won't work if one of the couple is a narcissist. She explains how (even when the narcissistic individual seems keen to have therapy) this is a toxic dynamic of triangulation, playing the victim and blameshifting, and why a  narcissist won't seek to evolve or learn from couples therapy - but instead will see it as an opportunity to punish their spouse, and 'win' at it.

Dr Supriya is an Amazon no 1 bestselling author in the subject of narcissism. Her most up-to-date books are: 

• Narcissists in Divorce: From Love-Locked to Leaving 
• Narcissists in Divorce: From Leaving to Liberty – The Truth, The Whole Truth and Nothing But The Truth and 
• The Narcissist Trap: The Mind-Bending Pull of the Great Pretenders  

Support the show

STOP PRESS: Dr Supriya's in-person conference "How to Divorce a Narcissist - a Conference for Survivors" will be taking place on 27th February 2027, at the IET, Austin Court, Birmingham, UK. Tickets are priced at just £45, thanks to a large philanthropic donation, and are available from EventBrite. For more information, please head to narcissistsindivorce.co.uk. Please book early to avoid disappointment, as delegate places are strictly limited to a total of 150. 

Narcissists in Divorce: The Co-Parenting Myth - How to Protect your Children and  Stamp Out Post Separation Abuse is Dr Supriya's latest book.

The second book in the Narcissists in Divorce series, From Leaving to Liberty – The Truth, The Whole Truth and Nothing But The Truth is also available now. An in depth, comprehensive, holistic guide, it exposes the inadequacies of worldwide family justice systems, and shows you how to stay afloat, how to take control of the narrative, how to protect your mental health and much, much more.

The first book of the series, Narcissists in Divorce: From Love-Locked to Leaving helps you determine whether you are dealing with a true narcissist, and if so, what you need to consider regarding leaving. The audiobook sample is  h...

In this episode, Narcissism expert Dr Supriya McKenna discusses with  UK solicitor, Karin Walker, why people become narcissists. She outlines the main types of parenting that can cause a child to develop narcissistic defences, and, when a parent is narcissistic themselves, she highlights the role of the other parent (who might otherwise be an enabler of the abuse) in limiting the damage to the children.

Dr Supriya is an Amazon no 1 bestselling author in the subject of narcissism, and the author of the new books Narcissists in Divorce: From Love-Locked to Leaving  and The Narcissist Trap :The Mind-Bending Pull of the Great Pretenders.  

Support the show

STOP PRESS: Dr Supriya's in-person conference "How to Divorce a Narcissist - a Conference for Survivors" will be taking place on 27th February 2027, at the IET, Austin Court, Birmingham, UK. Tickets are priced at just £45, thanks to a large philanthropic donation, and are available from EventBrite. For more information, please head to narcissistsindivorce.co.uk. Please book early to avoid disappointment, as delegate places are strictly limited to a total of 150. 

Narcissists in Divorce: The Co-Parenting Myth - How to Protect your Children and  Stamp Out Post Separation Abuse is Dr Supriya's latest book.

The second book in the Narcissists in Divorce series, From Leaving to Liberty – The Truth, The Whole Truth and Nothing But The Truth is also available now. An in depth, comprehensive, holistic guide, it exposes the inadequacies of worldwide family justice systems, and shows you how to stay afloat, how to take control of the narrative, how to protect your mental health and much, much more.

The first book of the series, Narcissists in Divorce: From Love-Locked to Leaving helps you determine whether you are dealing with a true narcissist, and if so, what you need to consider regarding leaving. The audiobook sample is  h...

In this, the first episode of Season 2, Narcissism expert Dr Supriya McKenna and  UK solicitor Karin Walker discuss the concept of 'Shared Care',  in particular with regards to a narcissistic parent.

Dr Supriya is an Amazon no 1 bestselling author in the subject of narcissism, and the author of the new books Narcissists in Divorce: From Love-Locked to Leaving  and The Narcissist Trap :The Mind-Bending Pull of the Great Pretenders.  

Support the show

STOP PRESS: Dr Supriya's in-person conference "How to Divorce a Narcissist - a Conference for Survivors" will be taking place on 27th February 2027, at the IET, Austin Court, Birmingham, UK. Tickets are priced at just £45, thanks to a large philanthropic donation, and are available from EventBrite. For more information, please head to narcissistsindivorce.co.uk. Please book early to avoid disappointment, as delegate places are strictly limited to a total of 150. 

Narcissists in Divorce: The Co-Parenting Myth - How to Protect your Children and  Stamp Out Post Separation Abuse is Dr Supriya's latest book.

The second book in the Narcissists in Divorce series, From Leaving to Liberty – The Truth, The Whole Truth and Nothing But The Truth is also available now. An in depth, comprehensive, holistic guide, it exposes the inadequacies of worldwide family justice systems, and shows you how to stay afloat, how to take control of the narrative, how to protect your mental health and much, much more.

The first book of the series, Narcissists in Divorce: From Love-Locked to Leaving helps you determine whether you are dealing with a true narcissist, and if so, what you need to consider regarding leaving. The audiobook sample is  h...

In this episode, UK solicitor Karin Walker and Dr Supriya McKenna talk about the financial issues one needs to consider when cohabiting, whether you are currently cohabiting with a narcissist or whether you have left a narcissistic relationship and are looking to live with a new partner. They discuss the concept of 'common law', and how one might protect themselves when it comes to buying property with a cohabitee. 

Dr Supriya is an Amazon no 1 bestselling author in the subject of narcissism. Her most up-to-date books are: 

• Narcissists in Divorce: From Love-Locked to Leaving 
• Narcissists in Divorce: From Leaving to Liberty – The Truth, The Whole Truth and Nothing But The Truth and 
• The Narcissist Trap: The Mind-Bending Pull of the Great Pretenders  

Support the show

STOP PRESS: Dr Supriya's in-person conference "How to Divorce a Narcissist - a Conference for Survivors" will be taking place on 27th February 2027, at the IET, Austin Court, Birmingham, UK. Tickets are priced at just £45, thanks to a large philanthropic donation, and are available from EventBrite. For more information, please head to narcissistsindivorce.co.uk. Please book early to avoid disappointment, as delegate places are strictly limited to a total of 150. 

Narcissists in Divorce: The Co-Parenting Myth - How to Protect your Children and  Stamp Out Post Separation Abuse is Dr Supriya's latest book.

The second book in the Narcissists in Divorce series, From Leaving to Liberty – The Truth, The Whole Truth and Nothing But The Truth is also available now. An in depth, comprehensive, holistic guide, it exposes the inadequacies of worldwide family justice systems, and shows you how to stay afloat, how to take control of the narrative, how to protect your mental health and much, much more.

The first book of the series, Narcissists in Divorce: From Love-Locked to Leaving helps you determine whether you are dealing with a true narcissist, and if so, what you need to consider regarding leaving. The audiobook sample is  h...